tpia@:
well, they're not going anywhere anytime soon, is all i know.

Did I say I wanted them to go anywhere? I said we need NEW talent -- that is all. This is how the entertainment industry evolves. Plain and Simple!

tpia@:
just let them keep doing their thing, awon ni gbogbo e ye.

I'm not stopping them from doing anything. I'm just saying, if we want our entertainment industry to evolve we need NEW talent. That's the problem with us Africans, we are afraid of change but want to evolve. In order to move forward change MUST take place.

Honestly, aren't you tired of seeing the same old celebrities over and over again?

We need fresh, new and young talent.

Where are the Justin Bieber, Chris Brown, Rihanna, Jennifer Lawrence, Selena Gomez, Jayden Smith, Drake (insert more young celebs here) of Africa?

Why aren't we seeking new talent and new faces? I'm tired of seeing 30 and over people singing & acting like children to remain relevant!

Even Nollywood needs new talent. It's the same actors over and over again. That's why they have 35 year olds playing the role high school students. They need to start holding auditions to attract fresh/new talent.

I'm tired of seeing Omotola, Genevieve and company in every movie. They are old birds now. Just losing interest.

great job!!

Toni Braxton, who is divorced, recently said if she could it all over again she would marry for money not love. I don't agree with her statement, but it sure is good to have both love and money.

Would you marry for love or money? For those who are already married, did you marry for love or money?

No hypocrites allowed in this thread. Be 100% honest. For example, if Oprah came and asked one of you male nairalanders' hand in marriage, I'm certain you won't say no. As for the females, if Bill Gates came for your hand, you would do the same!

My opinion:
I don't think I can marry for money. I can't pretend to love someone & can't imagine waking up to someone I don't love. But, I would like to have both love and money. As for Bill Gates asking for my hand, I can't say I would say No. LOL. Just being REAL!

OP your post should have said "How long should people stay engaged?" Your current title is extremely misleading. Anyways to answer your question, I think these days 1-2 years is reasonable. The divorce rate is high, 52% of marriages end in divorce. You need to make sure you KNOW the person well enough.

In the good old days, engagements could last 2-6 months, BUT back then people actually took marriage seriously. People understood what marriage is, a lifetime commitment. That's not the case anymore.

Take your time and make sure you know enough about your partner.

Ivynwa:

Hey! We are of the same opinion. You didn't read my posts.

I am glad we are in the same boat.

biolabee: She did not read anybody's posts instead she jumped in criticising those of us in africa

Please go and solve america's gun problem
What do they say
This is how we do it and our guns are an expression of who we are and our speech I.e. Culture

Not everyone from africa is daft... duh

What does America's gun problem have to do with anything? BTW, in case you haven't realized, let me help you understand -- NO CULTURE IS PERFECT. We all have our pros and cons. The key is to learn from one another by taking what is good and leaving what is bad. We can learn a thing or two from the West and they can learn from us also. Don't act like we are better than them.

Your low blow comment towards America's gun problem is simply pathetic. Take a look at the issues we have in Africa. If the world was to list all our problems, it would take them months, even years to complete.

Before you start pointing fingers at others take a GOOD look at yourself. The simple TRUTH is some of our traditions are USELESS and STUPID! If you can`t handle the truth that is YOUR problem!

Ivynwa:

Girl, an African country recently banned that after realizing that it does more bad than good. I think that the country is Uganda.

So does marrying your late brother's wife, when you are already married. I don't care what you say, wrong is wrong. Your wrong is not better than myu wrong & vice versa. Thanks to morality, I can recognize when something is wrong.

biolabee: Hisrib if you mean western culture as it is now you are right

This practice predates Africa and is not widespread nowadays due to the advent of modernism though some people still practice it

Are u aware some states in the US practice polygamy

YES I am aware that some states in the US practice polygamy. BUT, what's your point? As I stated above, we should take what is good and leave what is bad.

I hate the fact that Africans hold on to traditions that don't even make sense. Let's filter -- and remove what is keeping us from moving forward.

Can you imagine the type of trouble man marrying his late brother's wife, while he's already MARRIED can bring to a family? Does he not care about his own wife and children?

A man's wife & children come FIRST. Their well being should be his number one concern.

By all means, he should HELP his late brother's wife but marrying her is out of question.

Presidential dinner my butt. Looking more like broke central. Everything about this party -- from the guests to the location screams GHETTO! You think Obama's presidential dinner would look like this?

seunajia: "hates the African culture"? Is the practice indigenous to Africa?

"In the west" Are we in the west? Don't we have our own peculiar circumstances? Must the west always be the benchmark?

If that is the case, why not rubber-stamp homosexuality too? And we can all be gaylords.

Demdem never see retardeen o, abi na ratardiness

Kids on NL

Marrying your late brother's wife, when you are already married is just as wrong. It's NOT any better than homosexuality.

I love how you are speaking as though Africans haven't adapted anything from the West. Anyways, there is not wrong with learning from other as long as it is good. I hate some things about the African culture, just like I hate some things about the Western culture.

Please stop with the nonsense. This man should tell his late brother's wife to move on. He can still help her financially BUT she needs to go find a man elsewhere. The fact that some of you even think it's okay for him to marry her is DISGUSTING.

olawole oladipo: Dear Colleagues,

Unfortunately, I lost my senior brother (the same mother the same father) three years ago at age of 50, my brother left one wife with five children. My brother's wife still young (thirty years) plus. She so interest on me after the burial/outing service or some months later, she always calling me on the phone that I abandoned her. In fact, I try my best for her by sending money to her through bank account to take herself because I'm leaving at Ajah, My brother did not complete his house project before his untimely death, myself with support of family member complete the building and she is living there at Ogijo Ikorodu. Also her first son (19 years old)stay with me and caring for him. There was a day she told me on the phone that "Did i think she will marry another person after 5 children to my brother" and everything is not money, she want to see me, Infact I feel somehow that day.

In conclusion, as a christian I don't want to cheat my own "housewife" or look like I'm commiting adultery or fornication. What Can I do? to marry her, OR to tell her to leave my brother's house to go and marry another person with five children.

Please I need your Help.

From Safejourney, Ajah, Lagos

You can't marry her. If you are a Christian as you stated above, you should know that you are to only have one wife. If she was a good woman she wouldn't even consider taking you as a husband, considering you being married to someone else. For all the people saying this is a "tough call," are YOU serious? This is NOT a tough call -- it's as easy as ABC. You can't marry her. This is what I hate about the African culture. In the WEST an idea like that would NEVER live to see a day! African men are SO stupid, talking about I want to marry my late brother's wife. NONSENSE! Tchewwww!

The African Film Development Foundation will be hosting an award show in Tanzania. Apparently Morgan Freeman & Kerry Washington will be HOSTING the show. That's BIG! Africa is on the right track!!!!!!

Source: http://afri-culture.com/adff-presents-african-films-development-awards-2013/

yellowpawpaw: Don't they no what is presidential dinner? Abi dey think dey r on set?enof color riot.na waa o!. D make up on some faces na die.one even wear one hand with enof slit at d front.she wouldn't hv bn admitted in d first place.nollywood still have a long way to go.a very long way to go

I agree

f18spitfire: You wear engagement ring for five years, wetin self you be lord of the rings....

Here in America, women wear engagement rings on top of their wedding bands. Both are worn till death do you apart.

slimming: who is a jobless by the way?

A person without a job. In other words, an individual without an income.

alutacontinua: I will wait till he gets a job!

And for those saying what if he loses the job, well, that would be a different case entirely, wouldn't it
That would just be like one of the things life brings and we wld definitely deal with it then.

I agree with you 100%!

andyanders: I can understand OP your reason for this post. If na you dey that picture, why would you have consideration who to marry. Even if the guy get no job and no money, he is a blessing to you because I no know who fit marry you.Marry him with or without job

Excuse me? What does looks/appearance have to do with marrying a jobless man?

Hello Ladies,

Would any of you marry a jobless man? Yes or No? Please give an explanation for your response.

I personally would never take it into consideration. But in life you never know. Never say never. :-)

obowunmi: Fake call - this person has never been to the Nigerian embassy....the embassy in D.C. and NYC lack customer service, workers are extremely RUDE... they would have hung up a long time ago.... Nice script though.

In the youtube comments he said it was areal call. He also mentions that he tried the NYC one for about an 1 hour and no one was answering the phones.

Hilarious


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oOhsELYx1IA

1) A boy was at a carnival and went to a booth where a man said to the boy, "If I write your exact weight on this piece of paper then you have to give me $50, but if I cannot, I will pay you $50."

The boy looked around and saw no scale so he agrees, thinking no matter what the carny writes he'll just say he weighs more or less.

In the end the boy ended up paying the man $50. How did the man win the bet?

2)You feed it, it lives, you give it something to drink, it dies.

What is it?

3)A boy was driving in the car with his dad, while driving they got into a grave accident. An ambulance was called and they were both taken to the hospital. Upon their arrival at the hospital, two doctors came to meet them. The father was taken into the operation room by one doctor and when the other doctor arrived, she look at boy and said I can't operate on him. He's my son. Who's the doctor?

adconline: Why do some women want their men to spend 3-month salary on a ring? Why expect a guy to spend $10k to $15k on a ring while you have not in your life treated yourself to a $5k gift? It seems some women are looking for men who can pay for the lives/luxury their parents could not afford for them!
Don't be high maintenance when dudes are picking up the tab, but resort to ur penny and coupon pinching lifestyle when dudes are gone. It's sheer greed and gold digging!
On average, 23-yr olds do not make 6-figure salary, so there is no way you can afford the lifestyle you are craving for, unless it's underwritten by ur " parents" . I'd like to know your stance when you completely work and fend for urself without any form of assistance .

I have a good job, and on top of that I own a boutique & a salon. Yes I started my businesses with the money I receive from my parents. What's wrong with that? At least I didn't waste it on foolish things!

ekenedegreat: Uumm young woman, I think u shld start saving d money urself den he will add something 2 make it up 4 u.. I can see u dnt knw d value of money dats why u re hoping on such amount just 4 an engagement ring. How can u even think of dat? May be u re a lazy type dat can't hustle... Wat will such man gain 4rm u? Is it mere punny?

Clearly you have not been reading my posts. I have a job, don't need a man to take care of me. This discussion was ONLY about engagement rings.

I know better than to take advoce from random people on some forum. I know who I am and those who know me LOVE me. The ONLY reason I talked about my own money was because you people claimed I am a gold digger. I had to defend myself. Now you are mad 'cause I said I have money. LOL. I just can't win with you people.

Dyt: ^ u don dey like dis gyel
Talk true

Of course Kirinwa doesn't like me. I'm a broke negro's nightmare.

Kirinwa:

No fex.I told you am the village headmaster. Now you're talking about league. Is it La liga, Bundesliga,or Premier league?

None of the above. Step your game up son. You're looking really salty. :-)

Kirinwa:

Otuocha.I mean ouch!I can't spend that much on someone like you because I have already weighed you and found you wanting.That's why I made that statement.See where I said I didn't mind buying a diamond ring for someone.It's all about how I perceive you not a function of what you tell me.As a matter of fact you have no business telling a guy the kind of ring to get for you even before proposal.Proposal is meant to be a SURPRISE!

As for the dude you say is interested in you. You better leave this thread and RUSH him before he changes his mind about you.

LOL! I don't know what village you come from but here women can pick their own rings & stated why earlier. As for my dude he's not just "interested" in me. He's MY man. As for getting me the ring, I didn't have to ask -- my man is a REAL man. He knows what I deserve. A man like you could NEVER be with a woman such as myself. We are not in the same league.

ajekpaks: So Funny, How a guy might sacrifice even his last cash to provide for his girlfriend and here you are asking if it is right for a guy to ask their girlfriends for money, what is wrong with buying a shoe for your boyfriend she na the boys be mumu ni? they take their girlfriends shopping, buy shoes, clothes, phones, etc, just a blooody shoe y'all are screaming foul!

You know you're a broke negro when... (Fill in the blanks)

Ijogz K: A typical example of a Naija babe who believes that the guy should do everything, F*king Stingy Gold digger

I think it's fine for a girl to spoil her man but he must be willing to do the same. I miss the old school men. The ones like our dads. The ones that understand it's an honor to take care of your woman & not a burden. Men these days are not up to their tasks! It's a damn shame!

tatiana009: My dear don't let anyone make you feel bad. We all place value on different things and there is nothing wrong with wanting what you want. The good part is you are upfront about your expectations. As for me I think a months salary should be spent on the engagement ring. As you pointed out its something most women will wear forever. For someone like myself who wears very little jewelry, an engagement ring makes you feel instantly dressed up.

A Month's salary is definitely fine also. Thanks for your comment. :-)