₦airaland Forum

SenecaTheYonger:
Lol, the neighbours daughter will not marry him lol. She's still in her hoe phase and will not settle. It's more thrilling to sleep with people's husband than marry them.

Don't tell me fools like you think your side chicks want to be main? And that if you had the chance you would marry your side chick. You will see shege beyond imagination. Imagine marrying someone that you're cheating with. Very low IQ males we have today.

I know the neighbor's daughter will not marry was joking with that, but still look at the world today its just annoying you see girls doing hookup every where even sleeping with married men and this girls tomorrow will still marry tomorrow and they will expect their husband to be faithful to their sagged bodies.

It goes to guys too, they use all forms of drugs on their bodies to have sex when they are young and at the end marry a good girl @ 45 when the effect start kicking in through erectile disfunction they blame their wives for going outside.

Abeg let all of them carry their cross and stop forming holier than thou and disturbing us here.

Versitee:
I do not like bringing my private life public. Looking back now, I don't even think bringing my husband's error public was the best decision. That does not mean I don't appreciate all who commented and tried to provide a remedy for the situation. Believe me, some of the great minds are here on nl. Thanks everyone

That being said. Whatever has been said cannot be unsaid. I have done wrong by bringing my husband to a public forum to be called all sorts of names by people who themselves are not perfect. (Not that I support his actions).

An igbo proverb says "now that we have arrived the river, why don't we fetch water. There is no need returning with an empty calabash"
So now that you all know what happened, you should also know the sequel.

I am going to be updating in bits cos it's kinda long. Just follow the thread for updates and do well not to comment till I'm done. This will ensure you don't break the flow for another reader.

Before all this many explanation did you get married to your husband a Virgin or was he the one that disvirgined you, if not did you sleep with more than 10 guys before marriage. If so abeg leave him alone to augument u with something fresh.

If you like leave him, that your neighbors daughter he will marry her and heaven will not fall.

IgboSomalia:
Things are not smooth financially for this woman, she is taking extra jobs cleaning houses for people and the best way her husband can pay her back is to beautiful sleeping's with the or neighbour's daughter.

That guys is a pure fool.

Things are not smooth for anyone, did the woman get married a Virgin, after sleeping with multiple men, body don slack finish, they look for one man to dump it all on and expect the man not to cheat,

If not for let them not call my children basted what is t he use of marriage in this generation.

skj1377:
But how does a normal girl call herself Vicky hookup? So she is running street while in her parents house! Besides, what if her family and friends call her on that number? This story sounds strange.

True caller shows what majority of people use in saving your number, so the girl na better olosho

Mindlog:
From the video he said he is a Consultant Psychiatrist, same professional whose colleagues earn over £100 per hour here in the UK?

Let him be cleared first as a medical doctor and he starts earning he will sing a new song

Fibonacci88:
Do the civil servants have official email? How many civil servants in Edo state are computer literate. Does the state have the a tech team to manage Thier web mails? All this questions need to be answered before releasing any circular. This is just a knee jerk decision just like the one Baba blu made at eagle square that has sent millions of Nigerians into untold hardship.

Edo state has a free ict center by the state government that has been running for up to seven years now, in which you can learn any computer skill from basic desktop publishing to programming. People from other state even attend.

It's just for any civil servant departmental head to put a call across and their staff are usually incorporated in any of the batches for the program they want to learn.

So no excuse for any staff who is in the Civil service and not computer literate.

Moneyyman:
If you want to teach, you can do a PGDE at National Open University (NOUN), any recognized college of education, ABU and Unibadan distance learning, any university close to you, etc.

If you want to study MSc in any physics field, you'll need to do M.Phill first before going back for M.Sc.

M.Phill is like a pre-MSc program for third class graduates. You can also do it in NOUN or any university close to you.

Meanwhile, evaluate your options well before doing anything.

You can also pivot to any close field, for example, you can do a PGD in IT and then do M.Sc in IT with a focus on cybersecurity or networking

Keep grinding!

It's pgd or pgde, MPhil is for those who have done MSc but did not make 60percent PhD grade

The case should be thrown out, she has freedom of expression and she never went to court in pants or smoking anyway.

addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.

She needs a therapist, something is wrong somewhere, maybe rape in childhood or rough sex when disvirgined, only a therapist can unlock this path and advice appropriately.

brain54:
I suspect your wife is going through some sort of childhood trauma…


Maybe rape.


Counseling might help.

Since she gave you the okay to have sex outside… maybe you should take it up.

Something in your wife’s childhood/growing up really messed her up.

But you should have noticed before marriage too.

You dated 2 years before marriage.

Follow her timetable patiently or cheat!

Your head is there exactly my thought, everything he was just saying was pointing towards it.

ideatoprince18:
May How Soon Does Lab Test Detect HIV Infection After Being Exposed favor me and my family

You don. Crase bro 😆🤣

RoyalBlu:
This picture should be investigated.

Too much boldness from the man and the player too, held on to him. 🤔

Maybe it's just football 'madness'

*A very well deserved win for the Spaniards.

It is just their culture there e no mean anything, but if na any African country dem go sack that FA president. E just be like to wear pant and bra for beach abroad no body go look you, but try am for Nigeria.

GodWrites:
People like you deserve suffering. You have no tangible job, yet you rushed to get married. That zeal for marriage, if you had used it to look for a job, you would have been in a better place. My mates are getting married let me join them. As if life is a competition. I only pity the poor kid. Give up the child for adoption. That innocent baby doesn't deserve to suffer hardship due to your mistakes.

Have you heard of the saying 2 heads is better than one, if see a good woman that is willing to struggle with you marry oh, it does not stop the struggling, I made this mistake. The truth is the best time to get a loyal girl is when you are broke and struggling

thugluvfem:
I'm graduated from imo state university in 2008 with a B. SC in Psychology. And Im a member of Charterd Institute of personnel management. I just feel I've invested more in myself to be a cleaner or more so going back to teaching. The Highest a teacher gets in my area is 30,000naira which is even lower compared to the cleaning job I'm doing

From 2008 is 15 years ago oga. But work on yourself now, you cannot get good entry level jobs again except by God's grace. I advice you to learn business or a trade, open it and from the proceeds start a masters degree or you can learn other skills. I too am a graduate from 2009, I have not gotten any conventional job in my life. I self taught myself web design, graphics, copywriting, data science and a bunch of other skills, opened a small office and I have been getting clients. Now I have workers under me doing the job while I pursue my MSc. And PhD which I would be completing this year by God's grace, if God touches my supervisors heart.

But I am still single sha oh, that is the downside, if you choose to go through this route please gather money and open a biz for your wife first, else sakpa go hold you oh and you know women can sing when there is hunger.

Johnnynash:
Hello nairalanders, I need candid opinion on how to deal with this relationship. There is this lady I am dating she is 26 while I am 46. We started in December 2022 with good vibes, love, care and romance. She was very helpful in helping me settle down again after the demise of my wife and I have her all the attention, care and love I can. I honestly wanted to marry her but she said the age limit is too much, even if she agrees, her siblings and parents will not. Ok fast forward to May 2023 she just started with attitude and eventually said she is not interested again.
I tried to persuade her but it all fell on her deaf ears. We still remain friends and still vibe well but no more relationship.

Before the relationship started I noticed there is this guy that calls her almost everyday but she keep saying they are just friends from nysc.

Immediately she broke up with me she paid the guy a visit somewhere in Osun State, I got to know all these when my phone had issues and I had to collect the phone I bought for her when her own had issues too.

When I reinstall the WhatsApp on the phone hmmm all I saw was that she had been keeping this same guy all these years and when she eventually visited him they had sex that she even contacted urinary tract disease from the guys toilet. Till now she dies not know I had seen all their chat history.

What is really baffling me with this lady is that before we started the relationship there's another guy in her office she confessed to me that they had a quickie and I said I will not judge her with this let her take it as a mistake and move on.

Right now as we speak, she is still claiming she is not dating anyone considering the fact that she had gone to visit the other guy, even did masturbation and nude video with him.

There is another guy again I saw on her chat history she confessed to him she had a crush on him and they are working in the same office with the one she had quickie with.

Summary of the whole story is that this lady is on the verge of sleeping with three guys working in the same office within the space of one year she started working there (this including me but I have since resigned from the establishment). And she already slept with the other guy in Osun State and still claiming they are not dating.

Meanwhile she still has numerous guys approaching her for either relationship or sex including her ex (s).

Now to the issue, how exactly do I deal with this kind of lady because I know she really need help not castigating.

Though I know she has been fooling me all along but this time I refused to be fooled. I want to end it all with her but not without making her realise all she had done in the past while I was dating her and how this would surely affect her marital future.

She is also a type of person that doesn't mind talking to her ex. Though very useful domestically.

Pls forgive my long write up I need candid opinion. Thanks

Look for a good single mother or lady close to 32 to 37, anybody less than 30 will cheat on you, it will only take the grace of God.

AllenSpencer:
A failure is a failure!

You cannot redesign it!

Obaseki is not really a failure per say sha, I understand that Oshiomole did very well in terms of roads and some structures but Obaseki is doing well in terms of human capital development.

But this kind bdsm go sweet sha, as e dey flog the man e go just dey enter

Jewessgratitud3:
Guys, marriage is not chere wereh. Be financially prepared when planning a wedding and stop making the woman feel bad at the end of the day like she caused your downfall.

You are the one who went for her hand in marriage so you should be very ready on all levels to go through with it and provide all that is required in the list and for the ceremony. This why I said some time ago that a guy earning 100k can not get married and many came for me. You will end up borrowing at one point or the other.


Why he's ignoring the lady in the new marriage now is what I don't get. Dem force am? Biko kwa. Make una dey hold enough before talking about marriage and wedding ceremony.

Wet in dey make him very, upon all the money wey dem collect, no be virgin dem give am, maybe na indomitable and egg dem even take collect am. NAI DEM DEY BILL AM PUT

IconicR:
She's just a kid, only perverts will sexualize her.

That is the thing, there are so many perverts in our society today, so it's the job of parents to protect their children.

Smitaro100:
Power of big black gbola

You understand it's all about the gbola, nai naija girls dey form for us here

Houseontherock1:
No one will say Ekweremadu didn't do wrong; but I'm still not convinced that "that guy" wasn't aware of the reason he was taken to UK. I believe he had it all planned out; he even knew to lie about his age to get police attention. He's a liar and a crook, not in any way better than the Ekweremadus!

Why don't you donate your kidney or that of your family member for 270,000naira

Have u heard of the statement canny man die, canny man bury am, Kidney that goes for close to 40k dollars upward in black market, you want to pay 4.5million naira for it about 7000dollars and you are saying the guy was wicked

If the daughter was worth it he would have offered close to 70k dollars and be explicit with what he wanted rather than trying to scam somebody.

Sucre6:
Kante looks simple and easy going but he also looks like someone that has low self esteem

How can an alpha male go for an evenininf newspapers where better babes full ground?

Guy 16 years na 1 to 2 weeks newspaper

tommy589:
Charles may be right to an extent with this write up.

But let's say Charles married a woman who had no means before the marriage. He established her in the marriage to have a business that became thriving and she's now successful. Is he still going to split his assets in half if she wants divorce?

or rather in a case where she is now more successful than charles, would she be willing to split half her properties with charles in case of a divorce

Astra101:
Drop out from the above mentioned institutions is way better than the first class graduate bragging up and down here

Our graduates still dey try, my course mate who graduated with first class was sponsored by Goodluck Jonathan govt to Oxford university, buhari canceled their scholarship I think because no northerner, the guy had to finish with his own money and was retained by the school upon graduation.

Saao:
and the deputy will take over

Deputy cannot take over, this will be like what happened in bayelsa state

Brandiebird:
I guess that calls for a DNA test 😐

Exactly my thought, you just took the words from my mind

christejames:
Why and how was admission offered to such person in the first place?

It depends on the course of study, I have met people especially yorubas with funny way of speaking but when it comes to their math skills it's top notch.

Just tell one of them to spread her legs, u want to see the colour of her pant, na you go faint by the time they finish with u

Mindlog:
In the course of work, I have gotten to know some Nigerian families involved in such lifestyle and some who go further to openly masturbate in the presence of other members of the family.

This can be true, when I was younger there was a friend of mine that the entire family, father, mother and children would be watching porn in the parlour.

Let him be training at least 3 children in secondary school first with their feeding and housing then we can compare.

You sell gift card once buy car u begin compare raise shoulder for money wey go soon finish.