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I keep saying this. As a woman, marriage is not your design.

Getting married is not within your power.

You can sleep with anyone you like and that's OK.

You can club for as long as you want and that's OK.

But when it comes to getting married, you have almost zero control.

Most girls fail to understand this and allow themselves to be carried away by the attention they get from multiple partners.

No be every toaster wan marry you. No be every man go like put you for house o.

I came across this Facebook post this evening and it reminded me of my ex.

In her words she wanted to get married before this year runs out.

I tried everything to make her see reasons why this would not be possible for me and how long it might take.

But everything fell on deaf ears.

She has already made up her mind and I started noticing signs almost immediately.

Suddenly everything turns to arguments. Suddenly every bounderies turns into "military zone" or I'm trying to control her.

Suddenly she's breaking up over every little argument.

She wanted out. 4 years relationship gone down the drain all because she became desperate to get married within the time line she set.

She started talking with multiple guys trying to get one to marry her.

I knew of 2 at Abuja then. One or two in my location.

She eventually started sleeping with the one in my location.

I couldn't take the disrespect anymore and had to break up with her.

Painful but Mehn. It was a decision I had to make.

Most girls think about marriage like they do sex.

They think the same power they have to control sex (who to sleep with or not to sleep with) is the same power they will have over when to get married.

Or when the man will propose.

Till today she's not yet married.

Till today my heart is still broken not like I care anymore.

I'll rather my heart remain broken forever than make any effort to reconnect especially after that cheating episode.

She tried apologising recently but god knows I'd rather just remain on my own now.

Now here's another deluded one thinking she can just switch and become a Mrs by her own efforts

And the website is down at the moment of advertising.

What a good start

Click my link in signature . Pastors don't click o

Anguldi:
Choir master go begin ride this Benz

we know as e dey be na.

Or na even one married man. It's always another married man once they leave marriage.

It's a funny cycle to watch

Yankiss:
This is sad. Many Nollywood actors go through stuff unbeknown to the public. They need serious financial advise on how to manage their earnings and other issues incluidng health.

they don't earn that much.

It's not an issue of mismanagement.

We are seeing lots of changes lately and honestly it's beautiful.

1. New and better buttons

Now share, like, and the page numbers are buttons instead of mere brackets ().

It's beautiful.

2. Better nairaland logo

Just this morning I was in class scrolling through nairaland and wondering why the logo is a poor image with background.

But surprisingly the logo has been redesigned and now without the background.

Sweet.

3. Light/dark mode button

At the top, close to the logo, you'll see a new button which can toggle between light and dark mode.

This is really necessary.

I however wish the texts on the homepage in dark mode be white instead of the green color which doesn't stand out.

4. Separators now replaced with dots

This is a good change and less confusing.

Suggested changes I'll still like to see

1. The function buttons (e.g bold, italics, quote etc) in the area where we create threads are still images and not real buttons.

In the dark mode we can see their outline and honestly they look ugly. Either turn them into actual buttons or remove the backgrounds from the images.

2. Link redirect

Please make all links open in new pages. This has been a big issue and we have complained tire.

If we click links they should open in a new tab to the other website and not take us away from nairaland.

3. Add a dislike button

The need a way to easily show that we actually don't agree with certain things without being rude.

What's the west obsession with putting women everywhere?

They are easy to influence and control.

Kwara bandits terrorists

Don't attempt to post censored words by misspelling them.

Whobedatte:
That is a war zone and Israel is ten times ahead of you guys.
Drop the aid at Ashdod ports you refused .
What if there are weapons hidden in so called aid you claim to bring ?
You are bringing aid and Palestinian flags are all over your ships and boats
Why not red cross flags?
You think say you dey wise ?

another brainwashed zombie.

Is the aid from redcross?

In every war zone foods are dropped to citizens all the time.

Even deep on the Congo, foods are constantly dropped for civilians because everyone understands that starvation is inhuman.

At least us who are still humans understand this.

In Nigeria, when people get displaced due to conflict, people make donations to help prevent starvation.

If Isreal searched the boat and there is no bad intentions you let them carry the foods in. Even the heartless terrorists in Somalia allows US government to constantly drop foods for their citizens.

In the Rwanda massacre, even though the call them cockroaches they still allow them to be fed.

Genocide that Isreal is perpetrating is unprecedented. Hitler is probably a child play compared to this evil currently going on.

Baxilexi:
War: a state of armed conflict between different countries or different groups within a country.

Genocide: the deliberate and systematic killing or persecution of a large number of people from a particular national or ethnic group with the aim of destroying that nation or group.

Are there Palestinians living in Israel? Yes
Has Israel used sarin gas as Assad did against the people of Syria? No.
Has Israel done what China did to the uyghur? No.
Does Hamas want to war to end without their demands met? No.
Is Hamas armed? Yes

Can someone define genocide for me using the Hamas dictionary?

we didn't know Hitler had gas chambers until he was caught.

Then it's always too late.

We know civilians are being killed including children by these animals called Israeli.

It's not a matter of gas chambers. It's a matter of non military personnels being killed systematically to take something in this case their lands.

The Fulanis tried a similar approach in benue state.

Genocide is genocide regardless of the number.

HelloWorld80011:
Let's look at it from an open mind perspective.
Those people are not using their personal funds to ferry those aids over there. So who are the donors funding the aid?

Obviously, Hamas and it's sympathisers.

I am not in support of IDF or Hamas since they both are soldiers with weapons. It's just the western media that try to label some terrorist and the other a soldier. It's a lie

May the best man win.

let's assume it's hamas funding this.

Is it a crime to float food to starving people. Everywhere Isreal say they are not attacking civilians but getting foods to them is always a problem.

Hunger and starvation is worst than any weapon and Isreal is using that to kill innocent people.

You are not as unbiased as you think

So what are we supposed to do with this wonderful revelation from above?

Please check the link in my signature pastor's if you click na ur problem o

Lolz.

So it's better for a man to be blinded forever than finding out the truth?

How is God against seeking truth?

This is wrong to think about.

Na why we dey sin . Check my signature for link. Pastors and imans don't click

If you're good, it doesn't matter where you are, you'll shine. Light cannot be hidden.

Check the link in my signature . Pastors keep off

BrightStudent96:
So happy for her. She should hold her partner tight

she no need you to tell her this one


Visit link in my signature. Pastor's keep off

Morenikeji090:
lol childish comment you are talking as if among men we don’t have the fools who don’t wanna take responsibility among men… we men should start to blame women for everything..

did she say some men? She said men. Stop being a pick me.

There are billions of men, yet she slept with the irresponsible one. It's a problem with her decision making not the men.

bummyla:
My Dad is 85 years old, he was a very active man, until he had an accident that now confine in within our house, he plays a lot of games with his old handset, always sends prayers to us!

Once in a while send pictures to us.

His old phone is spoilt and can not be repaired again

Please which handset should I buy for him, that will not attract attention to him in public, that will be strong and durable, that will not have a screen issues when it falls from his hands?

Thank You!

redmi 13c. Rugged phone especially if you add one of those screen protector that don't Break.

Great battery but would be nice if you add a 20,000 mah powerbank.

He'll be set for 4-5 days of the week without power supply.

I'm suggesting this because I've used tecno and infinix devices and I'm someone that's kinda careless with devices.

They keep falling from my hand, or I'm falling asleep on them.

Many develop faults soon but not this redmi device I'm currently using. Very durable stuff that I've even forgotten how to worry.

Na the same pounding wey dey give some iPhone naim give her the restaurant

People saying she's underage forget that 18 years adulthood is more of constitution and not biology.

Constitution varies from country to country.

Biological age for sex is 13+ years for girls. That's when puberty hit and shows they are ready for child birth.

What's with the spam bot banning people nowadays?

My uncles only shared their lands when they were all retired home and began farming all of them except my dad who was the youngest.

Even at that they didn't want to share it because it was dividing the family. The thing is they viewed each other's family as their own.

But the eldest was getting too greedy and taking more and more lands each farming season.

So they resorted to dividing it.

25 minutes faster than before really? I'm not impressed at all.

Imagine if na man throw food on woman on live TV.

You go hear domestic violence. Woman beater and the rest.

Orlandoo:
It seems it is only America that still supports Israel. I think Israel has every right to defend herself from enemies.

your right to defend yourself should not involve killing another person.

You have a right to live. Not a right to kill others to live.

FatherCHRISTMAS:
Have you ever felt like running away. Like just run away to where nobody or family can reach you.
It doesn't mean you don't care, but things can get overwhelming

lolz.

It get overwhelming for everyone once in a while.

You love inspite of it. If everybody abandons everybody, it won't be funny

favour32:
The Mohbad case is a popular example.

this is really sad and to think how she dragged his name in the mud. That nigga has been deleted from the human race forever

favour32:
The paternity fraud has been on for decades.

seriously o.

If you think about it, no crime should be worse than this for any man.

To kee a man is one thing but to keep a man slaving all his life in deception for something that's not his and then leaving everything he has for that same thing.

All while smiling thinking he's leaving a legacy behind. Not knowing everything is a lie. Mehnn. God abeg

AndroBlaze:
The last paragraph at the top gives it up as a fake writeup.

No woman thinks like that.

minister of women affairs, we thank you for your judgement