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Since this is your first relationship, you can not assume that is how all relationships are, you won't always expect to marry your first love, its unfortunate that you have made a lot of promises to the lady but then, its not enough reason to stick with her and be unhappy, you will end up not treating her right in the long run if you do decide to stay because of the promises you have made.
What I will suggest you do is to sit down,analyse the relationship and identify what has actually gone wrong, however, if you do have to walk out of the relationship, do let the lady know that its not her fault and be more careful before going into another relationship.

To be on the safer side my dear.Atleast, if it is not working, you can always regain your freedom.

Your friend does not have to give any money to his girl, she is not her responsibility and giving her monthly allowance is not a way to show love to her.
Am not saying you should be stingy or something, you can always help her out when you can and when you are opportuned, you can always give her a good treat when you can but you don't have to give her any monthly allowance.

I think first bank is calling people now, I have a friend who got an email from them about two days ago saying the details of the venue will be sent to him on his mobile.

@ poster,you do have a point but think about it what does the housegirl becomes in later life.
That is life for you anyway,even the so-called business men still have to run errands to make ends meet,politicians still have to do some thing before they get the money,nothing will bring you money by mere sitting down, but its better to be able to get what you want and provide for those near you than to be sitting down and spending time with them with no money because they won't appreciate it.

The problem is not with him having a son but with him keeping it a way from you.
He wants you to find out when you are married to him or what is he up to?

Like others have said,she's innocent until proven guilty
There's no crime in having loads of boyfriends but i really think its wrong for her to walk away from you when she wants to pick them calls if she claims they are just friends.^{That is disrespectful.She's probably taking you for granted.}
It might be worth talking to her about it and see her reactions,if possible keep away from her for a while and see if she really wants you or something, but don't do some crazy things like trying to keep numerous girlfriends because before you know it she might be gone and besides i believe you are not playing chess n calling it a relationship.
But after talking to her and possibly keeping away from her for a while,she seems not to care,it might be time to move on with your life bro.

Marriage is a big commitment and trust me even though beauty is very important,it goes beyond this.Though beauty will fade they say but what happens before it does

Have you looked into these ladies background,do you see a future with them,do you think they feel thesame way about you and are they willing to walk to the altar with you,remember it takes two tango and this is a mutual thing. And if it seems none of the 4 girls meet your criteria,it might be a good idea for you to search somewhere else.

whitelexi:
God bless u

Amen.Thanks

I'd go with whitelexi on this;
Considering Nigeria's culture ,the family members do have some say on who you marry and its alwayz good for one's partner to have a good relationship with one's family members.
You can't always be right and sometimes when you are in love,you make funny decisions.

He is 7yrs older.

Distance have always been a barrier and will always be,but if you truly love each other,it should work.
TO be candid,it depends on the type of visa he has secured,if he is going to work in order to pay his fees,feed himself and do every other things,its going to be difficult for him to keep in touch.
I wish you all the best.

Talking of love and happiness,will she still love the guy when he eventually runs into problem or if his money eventually goes into the drain,
Its obvious she's very comfortable wih the way her guy is making his money but i really think a little bit of idependence is good for her.
Chances are she will regret it in later life.

ugg boots needs t go,too ugly for my liking
Men in tight trousers,its not the best thing

Must you know his reason before you answer his question?

Will knowing when the business was liquidated be of any help to you?

Must you know the number of people involved in this?

@ Sam milla,
The fact that i didn't get pregnant @ 15 doesn't only boil down to the fact that i am fortunate and if you've taken the pain to read through my post carefully,i never said i was intelligent @ 15 .
Unwanted pregnancy or Teenage pregnancy is a very common mistake nowadays,though mistake cannot be totally avoided,this shouldn't be this common again considering the level of awareness,if you can't abstain,you can alwayz make use of CD and pills.
And besides been in relationship doesn't mean having sex but i guss it have a different meaning to everybody
The fact that people act to be innocent and go about saying i can't start a relationhip now is not what we need,you can go into a relationship provided you know what it entails and you are ready to bear the burden,
According to the poster ,the girl in question is 17 and in Jss3 which means by the time she was 15,she was in JSS1,come to think of it,There are certain things that a 15yr old gurl in ss3 will be more famliar with that she won't and vice versa.
Though luck might have a role to play in this situation,other things are also involve and needs to be considered before jumping into conclusion.

The truth is maturity does not necessarily come with age,what matters is for this gurls to know what they are doing and be sure of the fact that they are ready for what they are stepping into because they bear most of the burdens of the unfortunate situations.
Adolescence is a eriod of storm and stress where most people around you don't seems to understand what you are going though and your peer group tends to have more effect on you than any other person.
However,this unwnted pregnancy issue also happens among university student.
Its not about not going into a relationship beforea certain age,you never knw when you are ging to meet your partner,i had my 1st bf @ the age of 15(though i was in SS3) then,i had to breakup after a few months because it wasn't what i wanted.I moved into another relationship when i was 16 and i can't wish for something beter in a guy and we are about taking the relationship to the next level,its not a matter of age.

Why is that a problem to you?

What makes you think thats what he is trying to say?

Why won't I ask you?

what does it look like?

PA.B:
hi hot chic send me your e-mail please, because i want to send you a mail.thanks

How do i do that cuz i avn't got ur email addy.

lonelypal:
@ poster
it all depends on the kind of girl your dealin with, some girls would give u room to proove to them ow serious u are- i mean u have to go xtramile to proove to her your better than her boyfriend. This is d only option for u if your bent on havin her, Give her a reason to leave her man for u there must be somethin in u which her boyfriend doesnt have. Let her xplore and feel that unique trait in u

Na true talk but remembe there are certain things that her boyfriend have that the guy in question doesn't.

Its simple,leave her alone

even if she doesn't have one,the fact that she said she has one means she doesn't want yu

And of what use is what i think is to you?

Are you directing that question at me.

Is that meant to be a question?