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have you guys met before he/she travelled or you just met on line?

Thanks,

Has anyone evr gone through this process or is going through it at the moment.
At present,I am doing my A2 and needs to apply to the uni through ucas and i found some questions a bit difficult and the admission tutors in my college aint very helpful,i will be glad if anyone knows what i need to put in the column which says "activities in preparing for higher education" and who has been to Hertfordshire University,what is it like,

Not all Nigerian gurls in the Uk are snobbish and not all of them dey form,

But the way you approach people determines how they attend to you,Nigerian guyz can sometimes be funny

great job,can you guyz send this to my number, _lol

Have you bothered asking him the reason why he is not with the mother of the baby,

At poster,
I think it is advisable for you to move on as most people in the house has advised because I don't think things can work out between you two after 18 months. Although feel your pain and from your post, I will think the girl was very young when you guys started the relationship and adolescence stage has always been a difficult stage to manage by everyone and i think you find it a little bit difficult to understand her @ that stage, which is normal, I would think a little bit of patience would have helped then. I cannot put all the blame on the girl even though she's got her fault but am Sure you have your own contribution to the break up.
ANYWAY , please move on

It actually depends on the way you approach them,

I can't see any big deal in kneeling down for your gurl but its not the kneeling down that matters but the remorse that you show.

But kneeling down for your gurl doesn't mean she won't respect you any longer,Nigerians and our ways of thinkin.May God help us,

If you are indeed talking about all those stuffs (etiquette),am afraid i can't see any Nigerian guy doing all those,they might do a few but not all.Shikena,

MoOdYLaDy:
That is a damn lie , where are you getting your facts from , come one their are ladies that will stand by the guy, no matter how hard it is .

I support the fact that some ladies will still stand by their man in times of trouble but this will definitely raise issues in later life because no woman will be willing to suffer for her man's mistake when she knew he could avoid it, it would have been better if this happened before they met each other,sometimes,we do some stuffs all in the name of love nad sometimes not actually love but in the name of 'where will i start from'.
Ask those that has been there and they will tell you what it looks like

tEsLim:
@Gamers.

There are lots of crazy people on the internet. Some of these people ain't what talking shit about some other people's situation but for the freedom they get here they just post without thinking. A lotta people around here have never been in tough situations. Imagine what the internet anonymousity has given several physcho's and under-age kids to give advices at times on forums.

This si not the best way to accuse people on a public froum like this,

tEsLim:
@Gamers.


1. Cancel that notion that your girlfriend as forgiven you. She'll never forget about and whenever she gets a chance to hit you back she'll

2. Dont marry that woman (baby mama) if you don't love her.

I rally support those two points,

Its a pity the innocent child will definitely suffer for this but try to minimise this,

@derecho
can you just list it

OMG,i think the guy is growing old,@ 32

And i am not very positive about that relationship,even though thye say age is nothing but number,Is he so sure that the girl won't wake up one day and change her mind thinking he's to old for her and is she matured enough and her taste won't change in the nearest future,

And besides,i think @ HND 1,she should be able to own up to her parents,even though they won't tie the knot know,but @ least they can know that something serious is coming up there and besides @ 21,

@ Whitelexi,i really don't support your first post

I am not saying women don't cheat or something but i still can't see the sense in cheating because your wife doesn't satisfy you or something,it do happens,some women do chase their husband out but the point is lot of men are never contended with what they have and they end up pokenosing and searching for whats not lost,

I am quite happy that people have pointed it out that what you did was wrong and you are quite aware of that now,kudos to your girl,because i can't see myself forgiving a guy for this,its quite a common mistake and i wouldn't expect him to repeat thesame mistake,this topic has once again left me curious with the question that why do guys cheat on a girl they claimed to love,

Amyway,@ Gamers
Its not always advisable to marry a girl because you impregnated her but iits complicated and sincerely,i don't know how to go about that.
But another thing i'd like you to consider is that do you really think your girlfriend has actually forgiven you and you think this won't pop up later in your marriage,won't she bring it up every time you have an argument or she makes mistakes,please consider all these and other necessary things before you make your decisions.

A lady's heart is very flexible and one more thing,you can never forget such a thing,think about it yourself,

All the best though,

@ Osisi,

Wot do you mean by i should rephrase those sentences,its the bitter truth and i have never denied the fact that some ladies are golddiggers but i have included it in my post that ,there can be some reasonable guys, are you among the few reasonable ones or why are you so bothered,

Abeg,my bro or sis,go get your glasses and go over my post,

No!
He doesn't need you,if cannot leave that girl for you.

If you actually think your actions then were bad,then you should give it a second though and be very careful,

The issue is its not all about engagement ring,its about your heart,its got to do with your feelings,if you actually want him and not those friends,then you can without the ring in your hand and besides are you sure that you are not dating this guy because you are a member of thesame church

Anyway back to the main point,if you think you really want a ring in your hand,get one for camouflage,don't ask your guy and don't be so assured that he will be sending you one,

I don't think i will want to do that

I don't really think taking her back will be a good decision ,

But if you think you're alright with you,then cool,

Career and Family have alway been a big issue,people have given you pieces of advice but the long lasting solution to your problem is to advise your man to invest in some other things so that he can quit the job as soon as possible and settle for something that givs for time for the family,

All the best,

$$Rhino:
hotchic, i do agree with you on a lot, however, i disagree with your friends not helping matter, nice to have friends, but u gotta be grown enough to let them know that, when it comes to your love life, it is your cup of kenyan coffee and you want to drink alone, advice is nice, but u decide what is best for you.

I really understand you and personally,i don't discuss my love affair or relationship with anybody,its my problem and all decision i take based on my personal opinion but its quite common,ladies tend to do it and guys does thesame thing and people compare their relationship with other people's relationship,

$$Rhino:
slazyyy, sometimes we tend to compare death and sleeping, u can't compare the handywork in da western world with da one in nija, we all know that handiwork in western world is real money and they make good money, so no comparison, be real, salzzy, you have spent all your hard earn money on your daughter and now she is a medical doctor, i nija oh, and she now come home and say, Mom, here is the man that God has blessed me with, Dad asked the Mr. man, what kind of work do you do, i am a carpentar, i am sure you will tell the daughter of yours, darling, i beg, go and pray more, because i am sure you havent heard well from God, it is a natural thing, don't get me wrong, i have no prob with handiwork, however, tehre needs to be improvement to how they are treated in nija and how they do their work.
That being said, if you ave the means to make the carpenter become a furniture designer and get him a nice office at Lekki where he can sell one chair for good money, please go ahead, but then, how do u know that when he see money, he wont start speading his wings with "small girl seling rice' because you could take bath a pig, but sometimes, they do go bath to take a bath in da mud

I know oo my brother,people who does handiwork in Nigeria are treated with little or no respect and usually most of them don't act as if they want one,i think that is one of the thing that really needs to change in that country,hopefully,over years,our perspective will change,

I think your best friend now catches my attention


The feelings are no longer there,

Thats a really pathetic stiry but my dear,you have to move on,thats the only thing i think you can do now

We ladies can be funny at times bacause i cannot understand why she has chosen to wait till now before carrying out such an action

And have you taken a good look at your realationship,probably she's been cheating all this while aand you never got to know because i really think something is just not right

Another possible reason could be that she was never into you or she probably doesn't like somethings about you and she thinks she cannot cope with them but she decided to hang on because of the financial benefits,

And probably she was too young and doesn't really know what she wants when you asked her out and later,after she has gained admission and seen life from a different perspective,she realised you are not are type but because of the financial benefits,

Anyway,just forget about it and move on.All the best,

I have alwayz known Nigerian guyz to be insecure and here they are displaying their insecurity and low self esteem.
But nevertheless,there might be a few of them that aint insecure,

@ topic,
Its quite obvious that relationships nowadays are funny and not a lot of people actually know what they want from their partners,
Its pretty difficult to cope with an unemployed partner,most especially if u're a lady and you've got a job,because it takes lots of patience and the grace of God to cope with this because all the casual things that you normally say or do becomes big issues and all your partner will ever say is that you've changed and no longer respects him because he is jobless and would have forgotten the fact that they are normal stuffs that goes on in the relationship

Another sad thing is that your friemd will never help matter,if you're a gurl,they keep tellin you about what their guy has done for them and if you are guy,they complain about the way your guy treats you.

But we all have got to realise taht its never possible to be in a relationship without trials of faith,its just sad that after making all this sacrifices,your partner still do silly stuffs,

It actually depends on so many factors,but it depends on your so called friend,to some its the best relationship they have ever had,while to others its the complete opposite.

Sometimes,when you ask your close frnds out,they think it is an indecent proposal,they think you lot have been too close and they never expected that from you.

What i suggest you do is that you study the so called friend,because he/she can have thesame feelings towards you and may not know how to express their feelings.

This is kinda complicated but we've got to look at it from different angles,

I understand the guy and the reason why he still want to listen to the gurl form the states,its simply because the feelings is still there,he seems to love the girl truly,

But I can't understand why the gurl didn't inform you the moment she knew she will be travelling,she shouldn't be telling you that @ the last minute and besides why has she been quiet for about 2years but for real life in the states can be complicated and she might have gone thru so many things but i still think she shouldn't kip quiet for such a long time,2 years is a lot,

But for your new girl,she's gonna find it difficult to cope if you choose to leave her now

What i suggest you do is that you wait for the gurl from the states and listen to what she's got to sya and make sure you examine her explanation carefully,am sure you can't luv the two gurls in exactly thesame level,you can then decide.I am wishing him the best.

@ poster,

I will advise you to inform you new guy about this and i will expect him to allow you to go but will only tell you to be careful

You can never be too sure that you can handle him,you might think you can and get there to find him irresistible.

But nevertheless,it might be worth goin there to listen to whatever he's got to say but make sure you keep your new guy informed.

No i don't speak English Language


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