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I think you should find out the reason why they don't like you in that family and e can take it up from there.

@ poster,
Even if you dey LAUTECH,nobody go ask you about chicks abi you don do any course about how to ask ladies out.

Anyway just kidding,the fact that she said that she can't you guys doesn't mean she can't date you,if you have proved yourself to be real,approach her like a man if you've got feelings for her and you never can tell,things might work out.There's no crime in trying!

if you movetoo close to her and she starts to see you as a big bro,then i can sense trouble.
What i think you should do is to be yourself,like someone suggested,try to ip eye contacts with her but in the right places though,give her space so that she can miss you,be observant and see if she really misses you but don't neglect or ignore her.Observe her likes and dislikes and you should be able to know what will sweep her off her feet.
One more thing,make your intenetion known to he as early as possible before someone else outsmarts you.
All the best and in case she falls for you,don't break her heart

Its not about you been real or not,its about tolerating others, and not saying shits to them since you don't know much about them

What i will just advise you to do is to exercise patience,talk to him about it,try and be as open-minded as possible and see if he come to trust you.
But if you see no changes,i think its worth running.
I think if he aint got money and he is acting this way,when he becomes rich,its only going to be worse.

I think its better to move,if you have started another relationship he moment  she left you,probably you would have met another reasonable gurl.
May be she just doesn't believe in going back to an e or she has found someone else or for some other reasons,but either way,you need to move on.Time is money.

@ 4gottenheroes,
I should be the one advising you to be friendly,i don't come here to yab people and i always respect other posters opinion,you can go through my posts but the way you reacted to my first post was very rude and so uncouth cuz i see no reason why the fact that i said that some nigerian men turn them into their bank should be such a big issue to you cause i haven't generalised and i haven't quoted you,it was just a statement contributing to the post based on my personal opinion and you shouldn't take it to be personal.

You don't have to buy me nothing because I am pretty comfortable and i never came around begging you to do stuffs for me,besides you have no idea of the stage i am in my life.I am not sure if this is the typical you but if it is,i guess its not the best.Courtesy demands you respect other and you just don't open your mouth to say stuffs to other people you hardly know nothing about.

And you the wet looking nonentity should haves specified the type of people's post you want.
If its is not known to you at this point that this is a public forum and people have got equal rights.
Anyway I can't be surprised because its obvious you are one of those young guys out there born into a very poor family and been the only semi-successful person in hs family thinks himself of something else
If you have been oppressed while you were hustling,you don't have to bring it on others here,its your probs.

If you aint no golddigger,why can't you just ignore my post and move on, as i wasn't referring to no one in particular and come to  think of it,why must a girls class become such a big issueif you have not been hanging around with low class people and meeting an upper class girl seems like your biggest breakthrough so far this year.

_{I really don't know why we've got loads of haters and saddist on this forum that fails to read and see reasons with others but go around attacking them.shallow thinkers.}

One of the stupid games that guys play
Why toiling with someone's emotion and say its a game.

When moving into relationships,bear it in mind that your partner s human,most people go into a relationship just for slfish reasons and you shouldn't expect a lot form them.

Always be the first person to break up if you see that something is going wrong in a relationship.

toyinrayo:
What's the point of adding "A Virgin"?
so non virgins no get temper?

I wonder oo
Anyway maybe thats the reason why he is still in the relationship.Doesn't sound like he actually loves her.

Funny enough,an average nigerian guy will complain that the girl is choking him
She is an attention seeker
And worse still,some turn them into their bank.

It could be due to all this ritual stuffs,
and sometimes it might just be one of those personal things,for someone like me,i wouldn't move into a car with someone have just met,its safr,looks can be decieving.

like i have said earlier,just try and be a casual friend for now,and please be your self she might have her eyes on you.I won't advice you to neglect hr totally though.
After few weeks, i think you should try again.

Though i think she's taking too long(If you think she aint worth it,then you can move on)

Looks like something is not right but someties things are not what they seems to be.
And from what I have seen among my 9ja pala,money goes a long way.
Anyway,i suggest you exercise patience before you do something stupid.

@ poster,was she like that before you started dating her?
Then am afraid,its might be a bit difficult to change her.

Sorry to stick into your relationship,the fact that she hasn't bother to call for 8 days is funny,
i would expect a lady thats keeping a serious relationship to ring her hubby if he refuses to,knowing fully well that she's at fault.

I really do think that you have other issues to look into in that relationship.

you don't have to lock your line,just make sure you are not the one to call her,pick her calls and act nice,if you have to call her,don't go into long conversations as before,read through the lines and observe her reactions.
Then you can then go back to the old story.I thik she has been hearthbroken before and its just difficult for her to see that you are real.

From the post,i will think the gurl in question luvs you but she's moraly upright,she's not ready to take the relatonship to that level.
I understand the way you fel as a guy but if you truly luv her as you have claimed,i think you should give her some time.Dating a guy for 4moths is not enought to open your legs for him.She is just trying to guide towards her emotion.
I have been a similar situation before while am all ovr the guy and i still don't feel save opening my legs to him because guyz are not to be trusted.Have been in the relationship for 3years now and am kinda lucky because the guy has accepted me for whom i am and have seen reasons with him.It doesn't make me think of him as a dumb guy though.

If you think its worth stayig in the relationship without sx,its cool,wait,bu if you really think you can't cope,you don't have to force her to do whats against her will,just leave her and find another gurl thats willing to give it to you.

May be she said yes because you were disturbing her a lot and she just wanted to get rid of yound she didn't really mean the yes.
The fact that she has a boyfriendmight be another reason to get rid of you.
Sometimes,guys can be irritating.
And if the lady is quite young,she might have said yes and then after careful thouht its ot what she really wanted.

Anyway,i thinkyou should give her some break,and if you really want her,just be yourself and try to be nice and let her realise that you mean our words through your actions.After a while,make your intention knw toher agai.I hope its going to work.

It actucally depends on the type of girl you are trying to impress,
FOr some,be honest,be yoiurself,do't break promises,don't make one if you can't keep it and all those god guy stuffs,you should know now
For some,buy them stffs,take them out,be on a very goo salary so you can have excess to spare.

The answer to this question is not just one or two things,but some of this things are very obvious,
Women are becoming more independent nowadays,however this doesn't mean they are not well-behaved or have got personality issues or that they are not willing to settle down,its just that quite a lot of men out there nowadays are scared of committment,they are kind of egoistic and can't seems to cope with the women's success.
Check some families in nigeria and you will see that the men do maltreat the women but no women is ready to go through all those stuffs all in the name of staying in marriage.
Looking at it,women are becoming more involved in todays society compared to the previous years and as a result,certain things that favours men then no longer favours them,however,men have failed to realise this and they still want to live the way their forefathers have lived and ruled their homes ignring the fact that things have changed.
Nigeria men wnt to marry a mordern lady,treat her using the old methods used several years ago.
The fact ladies are always very happy during their wedding ceremonyis a normal thing,ladies tend to be more interested in ceremoies compared to men.
There are other factors contributing to this issue of women not getting married,but the above listed are definitey part of tem.

mystikalb2:
guy's letz be serious about this issue because in normally sense we really have to enjoy our younth stage, datz d stuff u girlz hv to put in your sense of dissense

what about the adults,i mean married men,what is their own excuse,

Does anybody lives in Bristol or study their.I just want to know what UWE is like,i learnt its really a crap Uni most especially if you are studying at the Frenchway Campus.

Sounds like you are not willing to let go,however it seems difficult holding on,i think you guys have done really well and the only thing i will see as an issue right now is this tribe of a thing.Parents can be very funny at times .
Its worth thinking this through and see if you really haven't got any other thing against this guy and see if your dad is willing to bend.If that the case,then its worth tieing the knot.

It depends on so many factors
How old is the girl?
Are you age or class mates?,
Is she working now?
This are the things we need,it takes endurance to go through some things in life,There is limit to human endurance,you got know that,two years is a lot my dear brother and the point is not too many ladies would wait for that long nowadays.
I wish you good luck.

The point is not really in waiting but the question is will the guy change when he's out of jail.Such business brings fast money and i am not sure if leaving it will be that easy,how did he find himself in such situations.This is not about staying with him when things are bad but about thinking twice and see if you really know this guy.It seems your girlfriend doesn't know who the guy is.Its obvious from your post that there are so many things she's just getting to know and i wonder how many informations of that nature are still unknown to her.Tell her to think twice.

A big thanks to you all
During my A-level studies,i haven't got any problem with calculus,differential equations and stuffs,the programming bit,i know nothing about,i found most of the modules to be alright but the statistics bit seems a little bit complicated(may be because i wasn't enough attention and i wasn't really practicing it.
But the point is i filled my UCAS form and to my surprise,my Mathematics teacher told me Mathematics seems to be a really difficult aspect and he won't advice me to go for it.
I wouldn't like a situation where i will go in there,spend a year doing statistics and opt.
Please is there any body here that considers his or herself as an average student and was able to make it through with good grades because i don't want to spend 3years in the Uni and come out with 2;2 or 3rd class?

I am considering statistics as an option but i have been advised by loads of people that it is a very demanding course and i might end up with no life on campus.
If you are a graduate of statistics or an undergraduate,please tell me your opinion concerning this course,do you consider it to be a very difficult,challenging and demanding course,do you think its more of men's course.
Do you think it takes more than ordinary passion for mathematics to suceed?

I took the pain to watch Nigerian match for once and i was dissapointed big time,on getting to college today,my Ghanian friends were mocking me.Too bad.What a shame!
I really love the name "super fowl"

Anyway lets thank God we had a penalty offer from the referee,else it would have been a different story.