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chamotex:
hahahahahaha!!!1

them don ban u again

ota po ju enemy lo ooooooo

u guyz no go kill me with laughter for nairaland.

I hate people sticking their eyes in my business and i personally won't like to do thesame.
However,in this case,i will just talk to him and try to see what the problem is and how i can help provided he wants my help.I won't go about chasing his/her partners away cuz they might not be the problem.

I think you should talk t your man about it before he begins to think its something else.
Aftr which he might decide to speak to the man and tell him off
You can also change your no bt he might get the new no somehow sometimes.

@poster,
its not advisable to rush into marriage when you are not ready.You have to be ready and wlling to take your relationship to that level.
Concerning the age bit,i have seen a case where the wife is about 3yrs older than the husband and they have a very lovely home,they are proud to tell people about it now because it has worked for them.Though they claimed they kept it to themselves before now.
If you two are cool with it,then go for it,but don't let the whole world knw that she's older than you oooooo

Have been with my babie for 3 years now and the love is still growin stronger.

dot2002:
i don't have a one and only not at my age, too young for such boring stuff i swim in women.

How old are you wey you dey talk sey u too young.

For those of you that have celebrated 5yrs and above,hmmn,kudos to you guyz.I can't wait till my relationship reaches that age.

Cockpitboy:
I don't understand the correlation between a good heart + maturity and smoking or drinking!!!

Haba, how can anyone be so childish. Its only a date afterall. You may even point out the dangers of his habits to him and help him quit. as things get heated up between u two.

but for real, if u end up tagging guys bad because they smoke or drink, you seriously have a lotta growin up to do.

_{You sound like you do all this stuffs.Anyway don't mind me just kidding.}

As a matter of fact,its not a good idea and people shouldn't get in these habits at first because its unhealthy and i believe we all know its not the best,but i think its just one of those issues you have to help your man get through if necessary.

Imagine if you are a lady and you are approached by 2 men who have thesame qualities but one of them smoke and drinks,i think you will prefer the one who doesn't smoke and drink considering the fact that they have thesame qualities

jay bee:
why not as long as it doesn't upgrade to marriage

What happens if you later decide to walk to the altar?

I get along well with most of them but not all.

Yes provided he's willing to stop.
Sometimes,you are not always aware of the act that he smokes untill you are inth relatonship.

I can't

9ja guyz don come again,if they concentrate on business,u go complain sey den no dey pay attention to dem,if den no concentrate on business,den go complain sey we be parasites.Na only baba God fit deliver us.

@ poster,this applies to girls as well.
In secondary school,we are probably under parents watch and quite a lot of us pays little or no attention to our body.Tertiary institution is a diff world anyway and besides most of us have grown up fully and left the puberty stage.

Wot about the people that turn to be more ugly after secondary school?

kokoye:
Absence makes the heart grow fonder abi? keep on increasing the distance. more power to you.

You got me rolling on the floor with laughter.

abideck:
i really appreciate your posts we both got admission into babcock university but ther was change of plans so i don't get to go again he goes while i pursue unilag looking at it its not really far. i believe it can work between us because i know he loves me n i love him too but i am hoping for the best

For me,Unilag n Babcock aint really long distance,you can't be with him all the time .
Its  pretty difficult though and it depends on loads of stuffs.
How long have you been dating each other,do you really think its what you want,do you trust him enough because thats basically what the relationship will be based on since you won't be seeing each other.Are you sure you really want him because am a lady and i know things changes when we move to campus,thesame thing goes with the guy,he is moving into a whole new world and are you sure you will still be what he wants.
Do you think you have enouh patience to see you through  the relationship,i really can't say it all but its worth thinking through it very well before you move into it.

The girl seems to be out of the relationsip before that issue came up and has used the issue as an excuse.Long distance relationship can lead to issues like this and you both need to trust yourself very well before you can keep a successful LDR which is obviusly absent in your relationship.

You should have kept your promise and stop smoking,the fact that you have sometimes denied it and you know she's far away from you can renforce the habit,hence that could be the reason why she just couldn't trust you.

Anyway,there's no point crying when the head is off.It will be good idea if you can pick yourself up and move on.

bennygee:
guy,
make u buy five Alive then inject Valium five inside.
when she takes it,she will sleep off then u can do what u want with her.
if she wakes up and finds out,
tender your unreserved apologies.
simple

Thats not so good and you guyz will come here and tell us that she doesn't eat or drink in your place.
Guyz,you never can trust them.
But 4 real,its better to walk away than to do that.

@amaikama & oyato,
|Are you guyz actually saying whats on your mind,if yes,thumbs up ooo

I'd go with searching by OJB

Irrespective of culture or something,i still don't think its right or a lady to address her husband using the word "my lord".
Anyway sha,provide the woman is alright with the woman,then no probs.

I think its enough reason for you to dump his ass,why would you want to stick to a guy that already beating ou just after a year of dating him,my dea a year is not a lot,the earlier you leave and pick up your life agian the better it is for you.Don't stick to a guy that beats you up all in the name of love.

I didn't generalise though,obviously,all of them won't be like that.
I have a few of them as friends and a few of them in my family.I don't mind them being friends but i really don't think I will like one of them as my hubby,you neva know sha oo may be if I see one and get butterflies in my stomac_{(my bf must not read this),} lol

@ Redhotchic,
I don't hate doctors,its just that i wouldn't like to spend the rest of my life with one,i think most of them are flirts,knows a lot about the women biological life which they tend to use against them and some of them who have been involved with issues of abortions and stuffs tend to look down on you and compare to you to those girls.
Some them have little or no respect for you and they find it kind of hard to trust ladies.

@Negro Nts,
You've got a really nice write up there,but it doesn't matter whether a man's got a white collar job to me or not,I personally went to learn hairdressing after my secondary school education before moving on to the university.And i hope to practice it sometimes in my life
So I really wouldn't mind if a man is a tailor,but when talking about tailors,we have different classes,we have loads of successful tailors out there,even far more successful than some people doing white collar jobs.
My dad normally says education doesn't guarantee you a good job.it only gives you a better life,you see things in a different way and it will help your reasoning.
Any literate tailor or whatever will do provided he's got the qualities am looking or.

I guess we are diffeent from each other,personally,I wouldn't like to get involved with a politician,a lawyer,a policeman or a medical doctor for any reason.

Been a housewife nowadayz is a no  no,
I don't think any woman will want to spend several yrs in uni only to waste her BSc,MSc,BA,MA or whatever at home,I wouldn't do something of such and wouldn't advice anybody to do that.
The same guy will start shouting very soon that she's making excessive demands,even for nairaland,you know the number of threads on women been golddiggers and now you have the one that wants to be independent and you are calling her a selfish woman.
She's not going to ruin her entire life because of kids and has your friend considered how difficult it will be for her to pick up a job after staying at home for several years.

I think she might consider going part-time and the husband should also help when he's free or better use the monthly allowance he intend to give  her to pay the child bearers

my dear ,no dull yourself
17 no too young to dey perform actions,na only matured guyz dey think dat way,dose young guyz no care.

Anyway,if she don dey c 2 guyz for now,then i no know ooo,but thats not gonna help her,apart from the issues that can arise from the relationship,i think its a lot to put on your mind at that age.
If you talk toher and you observe her responses very well,as a big bros wey don pass thru all those levels before,you fit draw conclusion from them.

@studio43

Its really good to learn from other people's mistake but this issue don't always work that way.

Everybody just want to build there personal experience and peer pressre is not that easy to cope with.And trust me,you can't stop them from doing what the want to do,you will stress yourself a lot and still wouldn't achieve what you wanted to achieve,the best you can do is to let them know the danger involved and how to take care of themselves.
And if you are close to her,she will come for you for advice and then you can put her through,if you chase him away,she will try her best to keep such issues away from you.
_{You now how you guys be now abi you don forget the things you did to careless girls hen you were at that age
And you never can tell when and where she's going to meet her man}

I really don't think 16-17 years old is too young nowadays.
At 17,some people are already in 200 level.
I think maturity is whats more important here.
I got into a relationship few months after leaving secondary,I was 15 then though the guy was a lot more matured,i have counted several years in the relationship and we are about moving on to the next level and i am still enjoying every bit of it.
Its just a matter of realising what you want and make this known to your partner provided you have thesame aim.
What i consider a child's play is a 16yr old girl dating 16 yr old guy,i'd see that as a wste of time.

The fact that she's 17 doesn't really matter,provided she is matured and can take care of herself.
Sometimes a 17 year old girl can handle herself better than a 20 year old girl when it comes to relationship isues.
I don't know how close you are to her but you can always talk to her and let her know the dangers involved.

Provided she knows the type of game she's playing and can play her cards very well.She will be fine.

It seems to be a lot of money but the fact is we all know how 9ja be,when tenants don't pay their rent in advance,you will find it difficicult to collect monthly payments from them,they will come up with stories.Tenants look at their ladlords and landladies and think despite how blessed your are,should this money matter to you but it really doesn't work that way

Even the ones that pay in advance will refuse to pay when the next one is due and no matter how you go about it,the landlord is likely to loose out,if they take it to court, by the time the case is finished,the tenant would have lived in the house for several months without paying.

And besides,bulk money is a lot easier for the landlord to make use of,collecting 10-20k per month won't do the landlord much good.

I really think the tenants are the one making life difficult for themselves cause they re not trustworthy and they really don't take their rents seriously,thinking our landlord or landlady is nice and would understand.

@hot/chic


i like your spirit. don't worry sha, i have a project comming up and i go need your service as a public relation officer.[b][/b]

When you are set,let me know,i am more than willinto hlep.

@ studio43,
Na fast track course you dey run?

@ poster,you don't have to get yourself all worked up because you came from a broken home.The fact that you have decided not to thread that part is quite good.
But for real,some people raised in broken homes have funny attitudes as they never experienced certain things that those brought up by both parents did.
However, when considering this issue,we need to consider why the parent's marriage failed and the individual's view about this.

But obviously,if i see a guy who is proud and sees the fact that he's parents are separated as a good thing,i will flee.