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Some guyz tend to have low self esteem and are intimidated by successful ladies,however if you are not successful,they tend to see you as gold diggers and tell you that you are after their money.But for long lasting relationships,you got to be very careful and very humble.

This seems very complicated but your friend shoukkd always bear it in mind that talking about travelling,it gets more complicated than you'd ever think.
And if you'd take your time and looka at it carefully,you will realise that nobody will offer you 6000pounds for nothing.She has her selfish interest,its just like you guyz lavishing money on a lady just because you want to get down on her.
This girl has travelled for a long time and you really don't know much about her any longer,his present girl will also be bittered.


I really don't know what advice to give but am just laying down some points that need to be considered.All the best.

Lola4eva:
ive only got one question for the poster, please what do u do for a living and how were u able to change your fortunes so quickly, the way u kept mentioning jobs and jobs and u hit it bigggggg, omo u sound like one of them yahoooooooooo peeps.

hahahahahahaha,can't stop laughing,people will alwayz get what they bargain for,

I used to think i am kinda strong and hard hearted but for some reasons,i can't keep malice with my guy for over 24hours,its a long distance relationship though,but am sure if we are together,it will definitely be for about 2 hours and somehow we make, sometimes he breaks the jinx,sometimes i do but the good thing about it is that we're still able to sustain the relationship over years which is more important than the number of times you quarell.

ghengis:
Wow, another sick thread from a sick poster! Its interesting to discover the wide range of psychiatric states we get 4 naija! The poster looks like he missed a few hugs at childhood and seeks to find some relevance himself on nairaland . Seun, please this gets my vote for the stupidest thread of recent times, please remove it.

lol

At first,when i read the post,i thought the poster was like he doesn't know what the lady meant by her action,but along the line i realised he knew,can't really see the reason for posting the thread.


One more thing that actually surprised me is that people now list their achievements on nairaland,well,haven't got any problem with that ^{but an empty barrell makes the greatest noise},whatever position you are,there are others aiming to get there and others have passed through that particular stage,but in life,you got to thread safely.

If its a serious relationship,i think the girl should be at the front,to avoid conflict,let your friend drive and go sit down for back with your gurl.

_{I hope the guyz won't crucify me for this}

its obvious that most nigerian guys don't know whatthey want, if the lady works hard, they say she aint got time for them, she places her career above them.
if She earns more money, they start to feel insecure,
And talking about western world, how many years have youSpent out there, when comparing Nigerian ladies with others, do you consider other factors, do you even compare your self with the guys out there

From what I have seen, guys in England can voice out If Nigerian girls are as demanding 95 their counter parts from Zimbabwe.
Some of the Nigerian guys out. here are also pests.

At poster, hang out with the hardworking, focused and dilligent young girls out there, not all ladies depend on guys.
1 have not done before and I will never do it because you guys will always come out to tongue-lash ladies for every penny you spend on them, That's why I have always been focused 50 I can cater for myself and my Kids. So 1 will be able to standup for myself, in case any guy tries to tongue- lash me.

BUNDLE of rubbish

the truth is you can't be so sure of this but attest you can Three yourself the heart ache by taking your time to understand him and trying to Know him better.
Papers or no-papers, 4 months, is too small for courtship[s] _{worst bit with A Nigerian guy}[/s] they're quite smart, take your time see what happens in about A years time, even for an average relationship the love will still be hot within 4 months, just be careful All the best. too

i think guyz dat lives in Lagos all av naughty chics arnd dem,why don't utry gurls 4rm oda states brfore you generalise,
there're a few gurls out dea dat wil stand by there guy thru thick n thin but have you asked yourself if u're actually worthy of a good girl.

Its not the best thing to drop your present job,the thing is you have to weigh the pros and cons,foreign countries aint what you think they are,have you gotten a visa,do you how much it costs to study a masters degree abroad,how easy is it to work and study,my brother its not the best thing to do,just check this link https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-93847.0.html and see what i am saying.

Its obvious your girl is feeling insecure with your relationship with the corper, so i suggest you reduce the intimacy,at least for the sake of your gurl.
Besides,you think there is no strings attached to the relationship right now,but you never can tell what the corper's intention is .So be careful.

@ poster
Keep us informed now,have you cheated on your wife and what is the outcome,

I don't think we need to advice you over here
Its pretty clear that you need to pull yourself together and leave the man,am sure you don't want to share your man with another woman when you get married,so why are you doing this to another woman.

Besides its obvious that the relationship is heading nowhere,if he wanted you so badly,he should have left the other gurl and get married to you since you've been with him before his marriage,get your head together and look for you own man.
leave him for his wife.

There was this guy i met about about 28months ago,he was bit older than me actually and i learnt he has been a player all his life,but he did so many stuffs that i never believed a Nigerian guy could go through on top one chic,he was after me for a couple of months and i really didn't know how i was tricked into the relationship but that doesn't really matter to me now because i am enjoying every bit of it.
Its been over 2 years now and am still all over the guy.Everything about him still turns me on.Its pretty good to be in love.

Gurl,you've got to be wise,for 9ja,if you ask a guy out,then kinda c you like a cheap thing,
So pull yourself together and try to be straight,be yourself and don't act funny around him,if need be,avoid him,if he really likes you and feel thesame way about you,he should voice.
_{Those that asked you out themselves act funny not to talk of those that gave themselves to them guyz.}

Just be wise and ride on.good luck.

Blatant:
All these women should go and marry Ghanaian men or even go marry oyinbo sef.
If na so we bad, make you people go and marry other men. But make you no come back after everything scatter scatter because we sef no want 'ajeku' women.

Na fight,take am easy on dem gurls now!

@ poster

You knew she doesn't belong to your class and you went down on her.

|Do you realise that you are the major cause of this gurl's problem,if you didn't impregnate her,am sure she wouldn't drop out of school

And now you want her to learn everything,you refer to her as a burden to you now.

Either way,am sure this aint the first tym you'd b hearing the word karma is a bitch,your sisters and daughters will definitely share from this if you don't get your head together,make use of your brain and treat her like a lady and not as a dog.

may not be as bad as people has portrayed it,have been in it for almost two years now and its been fine and some were there for about 5 years before they get married,it all depends on what you want from each other,_{obviously it won't work for a guy who needs a lady to warm his bed}

But it can only work when the two parties are committed to it,with good communication,you will be alright.^{Though its tough} ,its worth going into it,it makes you appreciate your partner and shows some of your weaknesses.

@Sabmack,i undesrtand how you feel but trust me you will be doing the lady a favour by leaving her now

For now,you claim you can't leave without her but i can see you going back to this issue everytime she does something wrong years after your marriage,the truth is you can't forget about it.
Every little suspicion in later life brings back this issue, thats the way guys are
If i were the girl,i will prefer to face the consequences now than in later life,you only think you can cope with this now but after marriage when all these feelings aint new,you try to recollect the good times you have had so as to keep the relationship going and you are definitely going to remember this incidence.

How will she relate with your so-called younger brother.

my dear,i suggest to stick with your caring boyfriend,the truth is because you have been with him,you have identified his weakness,when you start to date your so called friend and realise his own weakness,you will want to opt for another guy

Please and please stick to your guy,learn to love and appreciate him and don't be afraid to open up to him if there is anything you want to discuss with him,don't loose it up to your friend and don't be too close to him that when yuou pick up a lil quarell with your guy,you will fall for him

And you can introduce him to other nice gurls so that he can be hooked and back off.

krazied:
@ d- thing
got to say you gat a loud mouth am sure you'll be among these new generation women always claiming female rights who'll always end up as old mean spinsters "hey no be prayer" i understand what u saying but things are not always what they seem imagine you entering your married bro's house and seeing him cooking in the kitchen while the wife watches TV u go shout bloody murder cause that's our tradition even those so called american men also won't do that 4 any lady "except u give am love portion .
don't generalise that's what am tryin 2 say

I understand what you are trying to say but its quite funny,nigerian guys want to get married and want to spice up their marriage,when we talk about spicing up marriage,all ya talk about is the woman's dressing,body and stuffs but here are the little things that will make your wife cherish you and want to keep you all to herself for as long as she can

Though am not saying she should sit down and watch tv while the man cooks,you can help her while she's doing the cooking,once in a while,prepare her meal,carry her stuffs for her (but most of you guys won't even go shopping with her) and see how much she will turn out to appreciate this.

But most ladies can turn this into a routine and or something.

@ Kinzy,am not hoy chic am hot chic
anyway,nice to know that we share thesame birth day

@Ricoman,just kiddin,am quite sure am your lil sis.

Any other person born on the 9th of May,

what made u think that the relationship is bendable?

Hey Ricoman,We share thesame birth date ,i was born on the 9th of may[i][/i] as well but am sure am your big sister,

I am a shy person and i never saw my self doing it until last yearwhile i was separated from my guy for a couple of months and the moment i saw him,i just couldn't help but run into his arms and kissed him deeply.
Since that time ,i don't care,i do it all the timenow and i don't care what others think,even in naija

But for naija,if your parents don't know about the relationship,before you get home,den for don knw.So beware.

I fit kiss my guy anywhere and anytime.

It hardly works,but you never can tell,sometimes its better when you too have been into something serious before and have been together for a while,but yours might be an exception

Mr man,u are not likely to end up building a home with that girl,right now,she is young and inexperienced,her feelings towards you might change later on,she's got a long way to go and i can't see you waiting for her,so abeg,just leave the gurl make she waka,
And if you think you really like,just hold on for a while cause i really think she is a bit young and besides,is the girl willing to do it?

hbrednic:
in any average naija famly
who works all day?                           the husband
who takes the kids to school?          the driver
who makes the food ?                        the cook  (ikaete)
who  takes care of kids?                       the maide
who  pays all the bills?                        the husband
who gossips all day on the phone and put on the latest wears   the wife
now tell me who is the lazy one?

HABA!
Dat was then,nowadayz,women work just as hard as their partner,either for one reason or the other.


@ Poster
I understand what you are trying to say but you are only lookin at it that way probably because you are out of the country
But its not part of the average nigerian culture to do stuffs like that, though things are beginning to change.

Besides,an average nigerian guy will come up and tell you,after doing this and that,you still expect them to carry your stuffs,family and neighbours are gonna be like you've turned him to a slave or sumthing.

Asmuch asi like my man to do this stuffs,i still got face truth of the matter which is the fact that we can't compare 9ja and this countries side by side,i don't know what happens in other places, but in most cases,the wife works as hard as the men do to to make ends meet abroad, thus the men over there have learnt to do this little stuffs that means a lot to we women.

With an average nigerian man,its gonna be like that,only those who have travelled,learnt those stuffs and are willing to put them into practise.