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Cant stand tighty whiteys,,, they r hiarious

boxers it is, they ar more comforatble too

[quote author=frank 3.16 link=topic=134248.msg2266140#msg2266140 date=1210941216]Happy birthday, baby girl hostess[/quote]

morenike09:
@post
Happy Birthday darling

Uby40:
i guess it aint too late for me to drop in ma msg
happy birthday hotness.
astalavista

ztyle:
@ Hot its not fair oh u didn't celebrate it No RSVP

Thanks guys, I really appreciate it

@ ztyle
celebration was postponed, don't worry I'll keep u updated 

@ outlaws

Blah blah blah . . . . bitch . . . . blah blah blah . . . . . prostitute . . . blah blah blah. . .

broken record

you really shd come up with sumthin new

Dont push it, the thing with relationships is they work best when it all comes naturally.

I guess you have high standards for yourself, nothin wrong with that.

You probably have a long list of requirements,,,,, that list needs to be shortened to the most important things. You just need to decide what u absolutely cant stand and what u are can make a compromise on (u def will have to make compromises on some things).

With a shorter list u'd find that ur relationships will last longer,,,,
G'luck

Raimond:
I am not a registered nairaland member but permit me to use his space and add what i also heard that Raymond did not mention, because i was there too.
The guy said after the incident he tried reaching the girl that was his real girlfriend, of the two.She refused to take his calls anymore, failed to reply to his SMSs and their mai guard would not let him in, when he wanted her to explained what that whole scenerio meant.He said that was when it dawned on him that the girls were `female players`(Words mine).----Dafesman

So?

LOL,,,

so who's spreading the gist?
How many people did he tell?

Raimond:
Maybe i`m not putting it out as well as we were told (He actually told 3 of us)

Ok if you insist 

In that case then he should put up or shut up, guys play games with girls all the time, so whats new 

ROTFLMBBAO

First of all, I seriously doubt the authencity of this tale,,,,

On the other hand, if it were true then,,,, ROTFLMAO

outlaws:


To: Hr. Hotness=stupid bitch=prostitute:
I am not here to ruin your ruined day. I am just trying to help you and other prostitute bitches out there know that there are better jobs out there than selling your body. If White people are mistreating you bitch ladies over there in London, Nigerian have a lot of good jobs you know.

Also, I don’t need your bitch thank you. You better be specific when you spread your shitty thank you around, bitch fucker.

Get a life dude!
You're beginning to sound like a broken record. https://us.i1.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/37.gif

I suppose think going around calling people bitches and prostitues ^{(i've seen many of your posts, u sure have inferiority issues)} makes you some kind of big person,,,, I have news for u tho, it doesnt.

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Ajebota:
yeah yday may 15 was my bday, got exams 2day tho

Hey heres a belated Happy BirthdaY!!!
Didnt realise earlier

I know d feeling, I've got my final design crit next week and I had to be at a stupid workshop all day yesterday.

I've decided to hav my birthday postponed, I'll do it all again next month

Thank you every one,,, I'm chuffed

outlaws:


Hr.Hotness is a prostitute. She doesn't deserve all the bullshit going on in this thread

I'm not going to ruin my day for the likes of you, Its obvious u are dealing with impotence and other inadequacies, i suggest u see a therapist to deal with Ur deep sited psychological issues

oh and BTW ur mum really is a prostitute

found some interesting articles on abuse, there are many more and its a problem that has no simple of defined solution,,,,
a large part of abuse is psychological and that makes it difficult for an outsider to intervain

Why do women tolerate abuse what a difficult question to answer? The question assumes that all women are the same and their reasons for staying with an abusive partner will always be the same. The question assumes that abuse takes the same form, always. How does one answer a question that cannot be properly formulated because of all the variations of the human condition? How does one begin to answer this broad question with a single response that might make sense? Although the question as posed is why women tolerate abuse from the men in their lives, it should be noted that men can be and are abused.

Women who are victims of abuse internalize, they self-blame, and they are ashamed of their inability to control their situation and thus are unable to seek the assistance they need. All too often victims of abuse become depressed and experience all the symptoms of clinical depression forcing them into even more dependent roles with their abuser. The feelings of worthlessness and helplessness translating into further negative self- image.

Generally, women who are abused have a difficult time expressing anger, the one emotion that might permit them to fight back from the abyss. Abused women dampen down their anger and without and external target will often turn their anger inwards. The expressions of anger can often take the form of self-abuse including cutting and burning. These acts, naturally lead to further feelings of shame and isolation for the woman caught in the abuse relationship

4 Play:
No woman who is mildly intelligent will put up with physical abuse for 6 years while living in the West.I will be surprised if she put up with even a one-off physical abuse,never mind 6 years of abuse.

Thats the thing!!!

It does happen!!!

4 Him:
no more fight, you can speak your mind.

It sounds cold but its the reality, i would have given her the benefit of the doubt if this were in Nigeria where the law is of no use but in the UK??
What prevented her from calling the police? Is it fear?
Until we begin to educate women that its not enough to merely sit down and sob about spousal abuse they'll never learn to stand up for themselves. What if tboy hadnt been keen on knowing what was really going on she'll still be in the UK today suffering in silence.

the vast majority of women would rather sit there hoping the guy will change someday until it is too late.

I understand where you are coming from but even here in the UK there are many people suffering in silence with abuse from their spouses

It annoys me as well because God knows I wouldnt stand for it but the truth is that some people feel emotionally trapped, or are in denial for shame or whatever reasons.

Its definitely easier to see everything in black and white but there are many grey areas in reality,,,,

I was in an abusive relationship a long time ago, I can see how she probably couldnt leave, there is alot of emotional blackmail and mind games in an abusive relationship, its never what it seems. I left the relationship before it got too far but I know how easy it would have been to stay.

The problem also boils down to culture in Nigeria, it used to be a forbidden thing for a wife to walk out of a marriage or to speak against her husband no matter what was going on. Even now, i know people in my age group who have those kinds of values,,,, its just a recipe for an abusive marriage.

Even confident, intelligent and successful women have been known to be trapped in abusive marriages so its not something as easy as walking out. You're a guy so it might be difficult to understand

Ajebota:
@HR Hotness u say that blemishes are from improper cleansing. This is true but not always the case. I'm sure u're aware of this but @ Tohloo, you need to exfoliate regularly as well. Chemically (mild peel e.g Dermalogica mild exfoliator) and physically ( mild grainy scrub e.g St Ives facial scrub). i can recommend products for you too as my skin is far better than it was 2 years ago when I had scars and spots all over my face. Where are you based?

Ofcourse how cld I forget to mention that 
Thats why I'm such a big fan of Clarins foam wash, it cleanses, exfoliates and detoxifies. Like I said earlier, I have sensitive skin so i can't use scrubs like everyone else, I usually get a peel but I have to get it done professionally 

Izon:
Ajebota,
I must commend you on the useful tips and info you've given thus far. Well work girl. I'm convinced you're beautiful and you know just what to use. You said your skin isn't the way it used to be two years back. Now I would love to send you a pix of mine so you could recommend something for my face. All my life I've had mild blesmish and spotting expect some months(one or two) in a year that I enjoy almost smooth face. Please reply me on vickyuti79@yahoo.com. In the meantime, I would go look for the following. Secret oil, black Opal blemish control, Clarins foam wash, toner. Meanwhile, I've used Neutrogena range of product for a year plus now. The cream (Emulsion & Moisturizer - mix with bio-oil - but since it became too greasy, had to stop totally) face scrub, wash, cleaner, sunscreen, hand and foot cream. Like others, I 45% content with the result as I am not black or fair. I now use Mary Kay Perfection range of body cream, body wash and perfume.

The ultimate question now is, because the Mary Kay cream I am currently using is light, which I like. Can I mix it with the secret oil?

u can get secret oil and black opal blemish control in the market. there is a clarins outlet at the palms, lekki. I don't know if there are any other distributors. Bio Oil will get quite greasy if you are going to mix it, it was meant to be used on its own. Secret oil is not greasy and it absorbs easily so its safe to mix into anything.


@ tohloo and Virtuous A

You're welcome
I know how hard it is deciding on the perfect product for your skin,
Keep me posted on how Secret Oil works for you

4 Him:
Maim the guy why?

Have no fear, most of those who yell loudly about protecting their sisters may end up being worse to their own wives. Its not by virtue of what you post. I would never hit my wife, i still wont support getting soldiers to maim a wife beater either.
Tboy's sister had ample chance to report to the police, she chose to bear the abuse in silence for 6yrs, its no one's fault but hers.

I'm not looking for a fight cuz I'm still in a good mood

But thats a very cold  thing to say

ibkaye:
Good to Hear

Roflmao, eggs, beans, toast and pen1s

lol, yeah,,,, summin like that

ibkaye:
Very sorry to hear that HR, hope you doing and feeling much better now

thanks girl but t'was a long time ago, I was young and in a bad place,,,

Its all good now, let me see the man that want to hit me now, i'll serve him is willy for breakfast  

Nigerian government needs to get their priorities straight

smoking is least of the nations problems

I once had a boyfriend who used to hit me,,,

I noticed he never espressed his anger, always kept everything locked inside,  I'd say thats a sure sign. any guy who can express anger verbally, would also be able resolve issues verbally.

By verbal expression, i don't mean insults and abuse because thats also unacceptable,,,, these days I shy away from men ^{(people in general too)}who keep things in and can't express themselves without getting insultive, I learnt the hard way  

@ 4Him

a very special thank you

thanks y'all

4 Him:
I actually agreed with HR??

hey its my birthday, i'm in too good a mood to fight,,,, even with u babes  

and for the record, i do love my nigerian men, warts and all ^{even if they drive me up the wall sumtimes}

ztyle:
Can i come in ,. . . . knock,knock ?

not without presents,,,

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Oh Nubs, You remembered

Thanks girls 

@ Post

Welcome to the club