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hi nairalanders i think i am the shyest guy on earth can any girl fall in love with me

Definately

Some girls have a thing for shy guys, as long as u're not a freak, u shd be fine

Everyone needs to keep some secrets, it helps mainatain our individuality. . . . .  if your partner truely loves you they'd understand u had a past as did they and will trust you as you are now, the past shd not even matter and any guy who makes a big deal about a girls past is only displaying his lack of self confidence and quite frankly is a whimp!

Only tell what is rlevent, when its relevant, when asked and if u are positive they can handle it
there are somethings in my past I would never mention unless it is important to the relationship
randomly confessing is a no no, u are just looking for trouble.

elsie2:
HR.Hotness,
thanks for the secret oil tip. I have just ordered some form my cousin in Nigeria but will check Peckham later on to see if they have it.
@ all,
Nice Thread, please lets keep it going,
Personally i have settled on Loreal's Peel and Demabrasion products, after a lot of trial and error. They work OK, are not too expensive and do not Irritate my sensitive skin.

hey u're welcome
let me knw if u find it in peckham, i'll be interested in gettin some myself

marriage is a personal decision (shd be anyways)
age has nothin to do with it, you shd only get married when you are ready no matter what anyone says

this whole idea of fresh and fading is just mindless rubbish!

sheniqua:
not necessarily true

Its either he comes on Nairaland to just cause controversy, lying through his teeth or he's sayin how he really feels and supressing his opinions with his wife to avoid arguments, either way he's not being genuine.

a guy who is confident enough to join in the conversation and take control of the situation

If you cannot be proud and stand by your posts on nairaland, then you are either not genuine here or in your home, . . . , .

"Those who are afraid of a commitment are those who know what a big deal it is"
a very wise person

Pataki:
She needs to stay motivated! With a specialization in Environmental Health, her best bet is in consultancy outfits or international organizations. Or at most she channels her energy into research work if she is motivated into that.

At the same time, she has the option to spread her tentacles into other countries. I know Australia are seeking for UK graduates to be employed into their work force.

However if she is bent on staying in the UK, then she should probably think of extending her schooling. Possibly going into research development with her University.

Just my own candid opinion here.

We were discussing australia, . . . I'd miss her tho

Thanks for your replies, research might be something to look into

Well with the current problems she's had becos of her visa and permit, Its hard to keep her motivated

What other options does she have

She studied environmental health, obviously that limits organisations she can work with.

I heard organisations usually dont renew permits any longer, the individuals hav to do it for themselves. . . .

Oh ok, I think its d IGS thing she has

She's gotten loads of jobs but in getting her paper work sorted d license thing always comes up,
now its the visa thing

It just isnt fair, so much ill luck for one person. . .  personally I think it would be a waste if she goes abck to nigeria after all she's been through

She graduated last year  and I think as an international student you get a years work permit when you graduate 

about the  IGS thing, don't know anything about that but she insists she has looked into all her options and is resigned that nothing can be done. her drivers license is sorted now but its knda too late. like i said no one will hire her because she has just 8months left

mamaput:
I
who said this to who when and were
talking about mothers

WE WEREN'T TALKING ABOUT MOTHERS and that was the point I was trying to pass across!

NubianQ
Question what were you doing in bed with a man you do not know and that is not your boy friend.
what were you doing with the wrong crowd.
i come from a culture and tradition of powerful women.
The women in my family are known to be strong.and they know how to treat a man.
a man can never beat me i will never bring myself in that situation.
my daughters can also never bring themselves in that situation.
they do not talk to people anyhow
a situation to insult a man or a situation to find themselves in a strangers bed.
my big daughter is 19 today her boyfriend is a gentleman she knows that she cannot bring an anyhow wrong crowd man home because i will fight it to the bitter end.
be4 that she had had a date that told her "in joke" that if she dances with another guy he will beat her" that was an expensive joke because she never gave him a Chance to even explain it.

i can Scan up my daughters results and awards here her average is a 1,6 and she is going for  A levels. in biz administration
yes she has a boyfriend  . .
boyfriend is with respect she knows his parents they know me we all know each other.
they come to our occasions we attend their. and she is going with his parents to Spain for a wedding  this month,
what ever happens they cannot say they do not know us.
even sex is with respect.


Quote from: HR.hotness on May 13, 2008, 12:06 AM
thats a new one,,, there is nothing u wont hear on nairaland

please Nubi has apologised why r u insisting on fighting
d girl has said she knew she was wrong why e still dey pain u,,,,,  abi na because she dey talk her own and u no fit talk your own?
please everyone has sex,,, i don't understand what your problem is,,, she is living her life with no apologies abeg let us hear word with your daughter and her results, what has that got to do with anything

bring out one insult  that i have given her or you.
are you the one that stepped into the shit
do you know what my whole family passed through with my mothers sickness.
some people should think before they make a comment.
the poster is getting wilder and wilder and in court she will get just as wild and distrue what her fellow women have fought and died for.

I stand by what I said and I have nothing to apologise for
I did not spit on your mothers grave, Once again you are blowing things out of proportion. Read the thread in question properly and its pretty obvious it wasn’t meant to be malicious. Its either you are refusing to see this fact or you just have a problem with the English language.
The original post was about the assault on NubianQ and for some reason you decided to act as judge and jury and telling us about your daughters results. Granted, we all draw from experience when advising or sharing our opinions but your bringing in your daughters results was just ridiculous. . . . 

I object strongly to having my character attacked by mindless insinuations, I'm intelligent enough to express my opinions without resorting to cheap insults so I wont return the favour, I just want to make a couple of things clear

You talk about my pity party, from your posts it would appear pity is all you seek.
If you want to tell your mothers story by all means do so, i will probably sympathise with you because thats the kind of person I am and I can definately relate. I  strongly advise that you do so actaully because it would seem you hav alot of unresolved issues. Taking it out on me wont do you any good

I didn’t invite you to pity me, in fact I object to the very idea, read my post properly. I shared my story to help someone else. I am a strong woman who has triumphed over depression and self loathing, i don’t seek pity, I am very proud of everything I’ve been through and I don’t need validation from the likes of you

Hey people,

I've got this problem and I'm hoping for ideas on what I can do. . . . . . .

A very good friend of mine from Nigeria just graduated with an MSc in a professional from a UK University, she's had many job offers since then but due to problems with her drivers license hasn't been able to keep any of these jobs.

The problem is that she has 8months left on her visa and everywhere she applies to keeps wanting proof that her visa can be extended. I dont know much about visa and immigration laws but I gather she has earn up to £30000 or so by the time it expires, or it wont be extended.

Can anyone explain how this works and any alternative legal solution to our problem.
My friend has had a really hard time and shes such a wonderful person, I feel so helpless that i cant be of any help

Well, like other people said tell her. she has a past as well, except u married her as a virgin. but if u think ur wife might dwell on it then forget about it.

so what if her cousin tells her? left to me i wont even tell. what happens in the past stays in the past.

Closing time. . . . . Yippeeeeeeee

Wasnt very productive but the gist was well worth comin in today

4 Him:
HR where do you work? Praps i shld try my luck too. Except i'll be the one to go on holiday and return with a new car.

Swthrt,
even me sef i need to start shinning my eye
this office never ceases to amaze me

theres more  

~ someone overheard her talking to some guy from upper level management in the canteen, she apparently whispered to him that she wasn't wearing any undies, and then she winked at the girl who overheard her (i know this is now bordering on heresay but its not far fetched from what we've gathered so far)

~ also, we had been told that there would be an inspection by some members of the board so we were to be on our best behaviour, the guy from canteen was asked to join the group at the last minute and when she heard she screamed and said she had to rush home. she came back wearing very clingy suit with enough cleavage on show to distract a monk. (we've only just confirmed that someone tipped her off that management guy was coming along for the inspection). I know they were locked away in her office for a while after everyone else was gone. . . .  the new victim perhaps?

I can't believe all this has been going on around me and i didn't notice,  

4 Him:
Call a spade a spade, several things are against Judy here:
- she's white (many Nigerian families arent comfortable with this)
- She's American (same reason as above)
- She's FAT (That is probably the biggest problem he is not telling you, if he's met a nice little Nigerian girl then its over for you).

Swthrt, I don't want to jeopardise our new found love but what do u have against fat people, they do get married too u know?


@ post

Honey, why are u killing yourself over a man that doesnt want you anymore? Sorry if I sound harsh but start thinkin of the possibility that he never wanted to marry you in the first place and is placing d blame on his family and culture. marriage is an individual thing and its ultimately his decision. You also might want to think about the possibility that he met someone new, whatever the reasons get over it and move on

Even if it was a tradition in Nigeria, what can or will you do about it?
The guy has said he can't marry you, for me thats enough of a reason to get the hell out of there. . . .  who cares what his reasons are.
Visiting Nigeria wont make a difference, if the guy doesnt want you why r u forcing the issue, move on!

So are we boycotting Oprah too? 

JaneNwaham:
All i require from a guy isn't much_he should be reasonably good looking,a christian,eduated and ambitious but not necessarily rich and most importantly,faithfulness.I'm i asking for too much?

well it would seem we all want that but at the end its the other things that get to us,
I think i can relate to what u're going through, there are some character traits I really can't stand (like a man who chews with his mouth open. . . .  lol)

seriously tho, u have to focus on the things u knw u can't live with, like he might not be as educated as u might like but he can make up for it in intelligence and the drive to succeed,
or

he may not have the kind of money u'd expect him  to have but if he's hardworking u knw he'll get there

and

some guys just need the right environment for them to be faithful, if u treat him right and show him u appreciate trust him u may get a faithful man (the Key word here is may as there are jerks out there whole break your heart anyway, u just have to learn to let go and be willing to take the leap)

Basically, try to be more flexible in your choices, stop trying to find the perfect man. If u pick the most important characteristics, for me its a sense of humour. . . .  in other words, I will give anyone with a sense of humour a chance and work with that, you might find there other things that you actually like. ( be ready to kiss quite a few toads  )

Ok so it Saturday and theres just 3 of us in, we hav loads of work to do but hey its saturday. . . . . Ideal atmosphere for gossip

I dont hav access to msngr or face book and I'm dying to tell someone

~ My manger, a woman, just turned 28

~ She is dating the IT consultant attached to the company,

~ they met when he came to design a new software for our department

~ he was happily married then and that was a yr ago

~ she seduced him at the office Christmas party (i hate myself now for not going), she was drunk and was hanging around him, stroking his hair and kept rubbing up against him (everyone that attended the party saw this plain as day)

~ they allegedly had sex in the car park and a number of people did confirm this

~ she starts askin for rides home and wanting favours from him at work, any excuse to be with him ( i noticed this aswell but i didnt actually think it would work)

~ it has been confirmed now that they are living together (the guy has filed for a divorce)

~ it turns out, she had broken 2 marriages previously at our manchester branch and there was a big row over it, and that was when she got transfered to this office.

~ in both instances, she moved in with the men, went on holidays and bought a new car

~ she just got back from Cuba with this guy, so we expect her to show up with a new car any day now

I'm just so shocked, its like sumthin out of a movie