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You are who you are!

name callers and judgemental know-it-alls have no life,

they are spinless wimps who secretly wish they have the nerve to live out in the open and express their innermost thoughts

we all think about sex, we all enjoy it, we all have fantasies,  we all secretly wish we could talk about it openly

to be able to talk freely makes u unique, a strong and independent person

you know who you are and embrace it, thats more than I can say for many people

[quote author=Emeka 7. link=topic=135658.msg2290624#msg2290624 date=1211553056]pointed buttox[/quote]

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Go on and have a good cry. . . . . cry until you let go of all the anger because no guy is worth that much pain

when you're done crying pick yourself up and move on

learn to appreciate how special you are, just because he didnt see it doesnt mean it isnt there

don't wait on validation from anybody, learn to love yourself and a guy who loves you as much will come along

I'm very intuitive when it comes to my partners and I have never had a bad review

On a serious note tho,
I am a sexual person and I'm very open about my sexuality,
Establishing the fact that I'm open to new ideas from the unset basically makes it easier for him to open up,
I'm happy to take the lead when he has doubts and I always make him feel comfortable enough t o express himself. women don't take the lead enough, always waiting for the guy to make the first move, men respond very well to this kind of attention and more women need to treat their men once in a while

Men are somewhat simple creatures but dealing with them is anything but. . . . . lets just say I'm very talented in this area 

Shinatu:
Hi Ladies,

I shall be in Manchester soon, please can the ladies who live there kindly give me names of shops I can visit to get many of the products mentioned here, i.e Clarins, AHa products etc. The only store I visit for Cosmetics is Boots!

A neighboor of mine in Nigeria refused to tell me where she gets cheaper perfumes in Manchester, she told me I would 'spoil her market'. please let me know if you have an idea of where she may be getting them from

Clarins have a concession stand at Debenhams or you could check out their website
Dont live in manchester but theres a perfume shop called the Fragrance shop, they usually have sales and special prices and thats where i get all my perfumes. i expect they shd have outlets in major shopping malls. you could also shop online, there are ususally special online prices for most things, save u a few quid

@ elsie2

I wouldn't advise it, especially if you have sensitive skin
chemical peels make you more vulnerable to sunburns so u need to have a standard regimen in place to maintain and prevent darkening from reoccurring. i only go for peels once in 3 months as i have no scars as well.

exfoliate; something that also detoxifies will help and include a toner in your beauty regimen, a good beauty regimen can achieve the same results
use a cream with AHA (its is also used for peels so will be effective)
use sunscreen,

9cent:
@hr.hotness,

sorry! but im not going to comment on thAT!

didnt expect u to

and what did she have to say about this or did she get no say?

PLAYER Slang. One who actively seeks out sexual partners and carries on a number of sexual affairs at the same time.

vivaladiva:
nairaland is,
u want to talk about play boys but not play girls

In that case the girls u descibed here arent play girls, just low life cunts

play girls generally keep a string of boyfriends, but not particularly commited to anyone
a playgirl is the exact reverse of a playboy, they go with a man for whatever they can get and nothing else

4 Him:
Sure it happens all the time but my take is this, if you're a lady please respect yourself and find your own man . . . as a guy you have no excuse, if a woman snatches you then it means you werent really as committed as you pretended to be but was too much of a coward to say so.

My sentiment exactly  

4 Him:
viva . . . were you trying to describe yourself too here?
Thot you were almost going to sleep with another woman's boyfriend until you realised he had a small peewee.

Ahh Nigerian girls are such backstabbers . . . i certainly agree.

Sweetheart
where hav u been?
missed u

the world is definatley not in equilibrium,
but just becos something is widley accepted as true doesnt make it so
we all are masters of our won destiny
we shape our lives based on our decisons, make a wrong choice u reap d repercautions
when i make a mistake, i fix it and move on, i dont settle or accept anything less
thats my world
i dont live by the norm,
I live for me and me alone

vivaladiva:
we are all animal albeit of a higher intelligence
we must put up with some shit at some point
we all make compromise
we all play games
that is the reality of the world we live in

thats is what setting standards is all about
u decide what u can or cannot put up with
sorry i dont play games, dont hav d patience for that, i spk my mind and say what i want and expect the same from people
the differnce with me is I shape my own life, i wont put up with shit becos its the way of the world, if sumthins unaccpetable then its just that,
who makes up the world and reality if not people and I wont let people decide for me how i live my life, been there done that, didnt like it
I choose now

I'm being real,
i don't have the patience
I don't play games
I can't stand sh*t
anything that gets on my nerves I kick out
any man that hasnt evolved passed animal behaviour has no place in my life
I don't settle
I don't compromise on my standards
Like I said, we are who we hang out with and choose to hav no dealings with animals

Any man that allows himself to be snatched is a dog!
Any girl that thinks she is woman enough to snatch my man isn't worth my time!

I have no Patience for rubbish and both parties will get the boot

No man is worth loosing sleep over and i will not worry my pretty head if some disillusioned female has it in her head that she deserves my man.
You are who you hang out with and I pick my friends very carefully.
i cant stand classless people and I particularly cant stand females with issues, who think they are in competition with me or who are just plain shady.
I wont even consider dating a man who can be swayed by a flash of skin to begun with, my man has substance and will thunk with his head and not his dick.

I'm a strong believer that we all set ourselves up for whatever situations we find ourselves in and that situation is definitely not for me!

liquid7:
something like ex lovers i would say yes if you are serious with this person .
Reason is you plan to make this guy or girl your final stop and its best to come clean to avoid any future mishaps.
Lets face it over the years you 2 will be partners there is a chance a jealous ex lover will try to cause trouble and if you came clean then it makes life much easier.
Here is an example that actually did happen .Day of some big wedding reception some drunk guy comes over to groom and starts saying how they dated so so years and what her best sex position was and what sounds she makes and when.And this was accurate ,so the groom went into a frenzy and a fight there.The wedding reception was halted as the groom's people were outraged .
Turned out she did indeed invite this guy and according to her ,the guy was her ex 4 years ago but has become a "friend" with her and actually advised her a lot.This part may also be very true .But because the groom never knew about the history and only knew him as a guy who occasionally phones her to chat,he was in serious doubt and it took ages to mend the problem.

that is a ridiculous reason to call off a wedding, the guy obviously didn't trust her and d wedding probably wasnt meant to be. . . . . i say good riddance

I have used contact lenses for over 5yrs now, my eye sight is terrible and i had to start wearing glasses from the age of 7

there are many myths about contact lenses

1. it takes alot of effort to get an eye infection; all u have to do is keep your lenses clean, keep the case clean and never handle the lenses with dirty hands. always change the fluid, theres no point uses contacts if you cant afford to have them clean

2. dry eyes needn't stop you, some all in one solutions can be used as comfort drops or buy comfort drops and carry around

3. using ridiculous colours is pointless, black people dont have blue or green eyes and i personally think they look stupid.If you have to wear colored contacts, pick one that goes with your skin tone. I use ivory grey because I can never see my clear ones especially when they drop and I'm light skinned so i can pull it off.

4. your contacts should only take you a couple of seconds to put on, if it takes any longer, your are handling it too much and need to clean it before wear.

5. your contact lenses should not sting or move around, if it does your haven't worn it properly. you shdnt feel it and NO, BLOOD VESSELS DONT GROW OVER THEM. yes your eyes need to get oxygen and if u wear ur contacts too long, protein will build up on it and it will eventually fall out of your eyes. (happened to me)

6. there many kinds, daily disposable, monthly disposable, and extended wear. dailies are perfect for people who cant be bothered about hygiene. i favour extended wear myself. you shd never use your contact lenses longer than necessary.

judymiller:
Last night he told me that he's glad im happy, i told him what do u mean.Because he said it with a frown.I asked him did i force him to marry me. He said im nothing but a pig for taking him from his family. At that moment i gathered all his clothes and the little that he did have. All the long him cursing me and calling me names. I stayed calm because i was seeing another person within myself i think i could of really killed him. I asked him to leave and he laughs and shuts the door saying i love him to much to just walk out his life.I opened the door and told him to leave and i never want to see his face ever again.

You shdnt let any man talk to you that way
Leave him and dont look back, it'll be hard, it will hurt but women are born survivors, you'll be ok
If you have any self worth you'd leave him now. . . . . ,
forcing or coercing a man into marriage is not worth it, you wont be happy
move on

the problem is everyone is trying to make her decision for her,
you shd let her be and support her in her decision,
the poor girl is happy about getting such a glamorous job and the only thing she heres from people i show uncomfortable they are with it,
did you congratulate her? the screening process is quite vigorous and you shd be proud that she made it through
be happy for her first and worry about her later!

Sheeesh!!!! https://us.i1.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/29.gif

Yeah,

chemical peels are best for people with scaring and discolourations
my skin is almost blemish free and i only get a mild peel once in a while to brighten my complexion
I also recommend its done professionally,, i hav seen it go wrong 

A chemical peel is a facial treatment used to improve and smooth the texture of the facial skin using a chemical solution that speeds up the cell renewal process. It is best done professionally but there are a number of DIY products out there.

omega25red:
What is so hard to understand

It's not you it's me = I'm sick and tired of listening to you complain and being a bi%ch so i have decided to pack up and go

I need space= i need space you over bearing impetuous person you i need space gosh i can't breath

i can't continue this relationship because i don't believe in long distance relationships= I'm going to move as far away from you as possible so i don't have to see or hear from you

if you have anymore excuses you need a translation to let me know

LOL

i usually just say d relationshp isnt working for me and leave, if that makes me a bitch, then too bad
I'm too impatient to go through long stories

I'm not surprised,
you went about the whole thing in a tactless manner, absolutely no finesse https://us.i1.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/29.gif

Its easier for girls to differentate between Platonic friendships and a relationship so much harder to cross the line
You need to slowly change the pace of your friendship
change your body language; rather than hold her hand, put ur hand on her lower back to guide her, it subconsciously induces a feeling of being protected,
go out on more intimate outings,
call her more often and at times when she's relaxed for instance just before she goes to bed,
change the tone of voice, try to be soothing, sound like you really care
and rather than talk about everyday stuff talk about personal issues; talk about how she feels,
always remember personal details, maybe her dreams or something she wants to buy or do, ask her about these in a later conversation, it shows u listen and u care.
finally look into her eyes when you talk to her, it allows her to see how u really feel

Under no circumstances shd you jump her, you have to be subtle
it will take time but its worth the wait, a romantic relationship between friends is a relationship destined to last

~ a cheeky smile and a twinkle in his eye
~ smells good
~ his diction and s brain, he has to be hold his end of a conversation
~ his carriage, theres sumthin about d way a confident guy carries himself
~ his hands and feet, a guy who cares for his hands and feet cares about what what impressions he gives off

if she is even considering being with someone that doesn't show her respect, then she deserves whatever she gets. its obvious she doesn't have any self worth.