₦airaland Forum

Mujtahida:
My people, wonders shall never end. IDENNA you see what bias can do to a person? I don't want to mention it yet I can't resist saying it. So you know Aribo plays in lowly Scottish league, Iwobi struggling in mid table premiership club, Ajayi championship but where does your beloved Nwakali play? Haba haba
I simply don't trust your judgment in these matters just as I don't trust komekn's. Both of you are opposite sides of the same coin minted out strong, almost irrational bias.

It is a case where u point a finger at someone and the other 4 fingers are pointing back at u

IDENNAA:
Keep quiet , Rohr bedmate! Me and you dey drag America ? American is not the end of the world, so , stop getting pained.

Left for you Rohr would still be our coach coaching nonsense.....if you wan enter Yankee abeg enter...nobi paradise , just to warn you.

Old man u should be the one to keep quiet

Appear a racist and some other time u appear a hater and bitter towards innocent kids

You need to wake up and know that there is no difference between those whites you accuse of racism and you.... You're even worse off .

Oasis001:



Ooooops...... thanks for the Correction.

Arguing with him is waste of time because he will repeat samething again tomorrow

See him talking on blacks marginalization in the US while in the same US a Nigerian stand a better chance to get his dream job, achieve his dreams and live the best life he has ever desire and even become an elected official unlike in Nigeria where dreams are killed, bandits and terrorism kidnappers are at sway and lives are lost to armed groups and security agencies every minute.
No place is a safe haven except Paradise

andrewbaba44:
He might be living there for sure ,but he didn’t grow up there maybe

There are some bush people you can’t change .

That's a terrible mindset

Always picking on this guys simply because they were born abroad

IDENNAA:
This is not a matter of passion , because you cant be more Nigeria than a Nigerian. We have a culture and a style and that must be upheld. Your white man almost ruined our football culture and passion. I was so frustrated with your white coach I nearly gave up on watching SE play. Thats what a foreigner will do to your legacies , though , not all.

If Rohr was in charge Onyekuru , Nwakali , Olayinka will never be invited but these are the people who are flying Nigeria's flag and will marry a Nigerian woman to continue our culture. There are issues tied into these than you could see.

I am not saying don't invite foreign born but why must it be the leftovers and not the best. Are we INFERIOR to England ? I am very confident England doesn't have more talents than us, they are just better organized.

And , you are wrong about foreign born dominating the Nigerian team , because we all our big guns are Naija born and these foreign borns are just spectators that will never displace the main players. Secondly , no top flying English player will ever agree to lace booth for Nigeria.

Iwobi is struggling to stamp his presence in a mid table club.

Aribo's plays in lowly rated Scottish

Ajayi Championship.

Maduka a disaster waiting to happen.

Ekong is benefiting more from Nigeria; very easily replaceable.


Aside Ebuehi and Aina both who could be easily replaced Nigeria has the full potential to groom a pool of talent that could rule the world....England can only dream of these. So , I am proud of the talent that exist in our system and I don't think we need any foreigners to help us play better, unless if you want to help some rejected English players of Nigerian descent.

Just imagine and the painful thing about u is that you're proud in your ignorance and not teachable

I have always said it.... you don't live in the US as u claim you can keep deceiving the gullible here

Your mentality of always picking on this lads born and groomed abroad is sickening and for someone of your age it is out of hand

Oasis001:


That Dude is living in Sierra Leone not US. You know both country's Flags look alike.

No Liberia

timay1:
To be fair, I can count on one hand up to 3 to 5 local coaches better than Rohr and those substandard foreign coaches we usually hire. Their problem is that they always lack sufficient backing from the NFF,as well as the fact that they sometimes work against themselves by calling up low quality players ahead of better ones because of peanuts they'll get from players agents, thereby hampering themselves in the process. I don't know if it's village people dey cause am.

if these guys can give themselves brains and reduce their corruption small, we won't need to hire any washed up white coach for the next decade.

You've said it all

olaszydaruma:
I'm having this same thought lately as I'm in a lot of mess

Bro.....I understand
But suicide is never an option

No problem or difficult times last forever

lbrichman2:
Honestly, Sadiq didn't play badly for me
His knack for falling could be useful in getting Pks as we go deeper
I saw her earlier post about him being given 30 mins
I just passed
No need to argue wetin I see with my own eyes

Abeg which kind of football is not one

How can that help u when u need a goal badly?
We need try other players in that 9 role as subs for awoniyi

Onyekuru, Olayinka etc

Sportilitica:
How good is Onyekuru though?

He has been impressive in training so far

Danielnino00:
Ndidi balled hard again today...
Aribo was also amazing, regardless of the few heavy touches that let him down.
Aina, aside the penalty was flawless today..
Nwakali and Iwobi balled well in the second half...
Simon has been free from Rohr's choke! We can now enjoy him..
Ekonh and Omeruo solid as usual..

Apart from Sadiq, everybody on the pitch today had a great game..

The funny thing is that I don't think we played to our full strength today..At times we were too slow ..
I expect Eguavon to start a fresh team against Guinea Bissau on Tuesday...

The coach is been rigid

He ought to understand that it is a not must he play Sadiq. Henry Onyekuru would have been a good sub for Taiwo

safarigirl:
There is a Jorginho playing for Guinea Bissau

Guinea Bissau,Angola,Mozambique,Cape Verde I think are the few 4 countries in africa that lusophone (speak Portuguese) it is okay to find them bear Portuguese names

Danielnino00:
Ighalo in his prime player for Udinese in the seria A and Granada in the segunda division..How many goals did he score there?

This komekn talks spoil sometimes sha

Hathor5:
The Antidotes to the Four Horsemen
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The Antidote to Criticism: Gentle Start-Up
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To put it simply, think of these two things to formulate your soft start-up: What do I feel? What do I need?

Criticism: “You always talk about yourself. Why are you always so selfish?”

Antidote: “I’m feeling left out of our talk tonight and I need to vent. Can we please talk about my day?”

Notice that the antidote starts with “I feel,” leads into “I need,” and then respectfully asks to fulfill that need. There’s no blame or criticism, which prevents the discussion from escalating into an argument.

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Contempt: “You forgot to load the dishwasher again? Ugh. You are so incredibly lazy.” (Rolls eyes.)

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The Antidote to Defensiveness: Take Responsibility
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Defensiveness: “It’s not my fault that we’re going to be late. It’s your fault since you always get dressed at the last second.”

Antidote: “I don’t like being late, but you’re right. We don’t always have to leave so early. I can be a little more flexible.”

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The Antidote to Stonewalling: Physiological Self-Soothing
Stonewalling is when someone completely withdraws from a conflict discussion and no longer responds to their partner. It usually happens when you’re feeling flooded or emotionally overwhelmed, so your reaction is to shut down, stop talking, and disengage. And when couples stonewall, they’re under a lot of emotional pressure, which increases heart rates, releases stress hormones into the bloodstream, and can even trigger a fight-or-flight response.

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Therefore, the antidote to stonewalling is to practice physiological self-soothing, and the first step of self-soothing is to stop the conflict discussion and call a timeout:

“Look, we’ve been through this over and over again. I’m tired of reminding you—”

“Honey, I’m sorry to interrupt you, but I’m feeling overwhelmed and I need to take a break. Can you give me twenty minutes and then we can talk?”

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So, when you take a break, it should last at least twenty minutes because it will take that long before your body physiologically calms down. It’s crucial that during this time you avoid thoughts of righteous indignation (“I don’t have to take this anymore”) and innocent victimhood (“Why is he always picking on me?”). Spend your time doing something soothing and distracting, like listening to music, reading, or exercising. It doesn’t really matter what you do, as long as it helps you to calm down.

You’ve got the skills. Use them!
Now that you know what the Four Horsemen are and how to counteract them with their proven antidotes, you’ve got the essential tools to manage conflict in a healthy way. As soon as you see criticism or contempt galloping in, remember their antidotes. Be vigilant. The more you can keep the Four Horsemen at bay, the more likely you are to have a stable and happy relationship.

https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-the-antidotes/

Thanks for this. It is insightful

DrKlever:
Thanks Prof �

Happy birthday Dear Brother

I celebrate u

Happy Birthday also Brother Do4luv
Sorry it came late

andrewbaba44:
Wow ,he shed tears ?

Omo dude is to determined to play for naija abeg

And one Indenna will come here and be rubbishing this boys simply because they were not born and bred in Nigeria..
For someone grooming his kids abroad .
Smell the hypocrisy

TheSuperNerd:
Shows the interesting depth of quality in the squad. It's a good thing. Team Green practically defeated the side that beat Egypt on Tuesday.

Think it is high time
The coach come to terms and understanding that Onyekuru,Olayinka,Nacho can all function as a 9 if need be so he shouldn't be stucked with replacing Awoniyi with Sadiq if the team tactics and flow does not suit the change

Acecube:
Lol... I don port common from hesgoal teytey.

I use livetv.sx or the mobile version m.livetv.sx na supersport with English commentary Dem take dey show Afcon.

Thanks bro

Reality3080:
what was atiku contribution?

We know u igbos will queue behind atiku so we ain't surprised.

U have umahi, Anyim to promote but u don't care,your only ambition come 2023 is to stop tinubu

Oga stop looking for ways to deceive the Ibos

U know deeply no ibo will be allowed or even elected up north as it is now for presidency

So their best shoot at the presidency is by first becoming a VP and that what Atiku offers the South East

So you know deeply that Tinubu stand no ch ance against atiku but you just wanna divide the Ibos and make them support Umahi and co will never win the presidential election at the moment

Can anyone help me with link to watch afcon match
Please I don't want Hesgoal

TheSuperNerd:
I know we will. I just wanna STAT-PAD against them. WIN BIG. WIN WELL. Chikena.

Noted

TheSuperNerd:
In a nutshell, if we don't OWN Sudan, a team Guinea Bissau created 5 big chances against and squandered all due to their poor quality in the final third, then I don't know what else we are doing at this Afcon.

Just take a look at Cameroun vs Ethiopia now... 1-1. Under 10mins. Abeg, we don't need that on Saturday. I don't want any excuses.

We'll win Sudan

We just have to play safe in a way at the back not to concede Maduka needs that confidence to go into the Second Round

kellycute:
you can not change a wining team!.

You can but not in this case

Maybe if we get to win Sudan

He can rotate the squad against G. Bisau at least to rest the first 11 players

EgusiShankly:
You can as well achieve that without changing personnels. Our players are good ball playing footballers.

However I think you envisage too much to see this team play like prime Barca. The above highlighted are insignificant. High pressing isn't sustainable on the long run as players tend to burn out quickly which can jeopardize our chance. Some of this players don't even play pressing games in their clubs and can't do it playing every 4 days on that kind of pitch and weather in Cameroon.

Also don't forget that this is a cup tournament where you are expected to beat the opposing team with less difficulty and move to the next round till you clinch the trophy.

The plan is to get the job done against Sudan and then rest the boys against G. Bisau

Well you don't expect them to press Sudan all round the clock.... top pressing in the first 35 mins should birth us 2 goals and there after we play our game

TheSuperNerd:
Exactly why I want a few changes to the lineup we put out on Tuesday for our game vs Sudan in order to further cement our tactical dominance and further expand our tactical approaches to opponents.

We have to understand that the team that started on Tuesday was to curtail Salah, turn up the high press on the Egyptian team and see us have possession of the ball enough to create our own chances.

Each opponent don't carry the same level of threats or tactics. We gotta be flexible while keeping the tactical discipline.


Egypt out-passed us in every facet of that game but we dominated in the others stats: Chance creation, crosses, carries into final third, shots overall, shots on target, big chances created and missed, corners won, saves drawn... etc.

The only other stats we fell short was in duels but this is understandable because we mega-pressed almost throughout that game.

Against Sudan, I want to see Control, Smooth build up plays (not rushed like against Egypt), top pressing, mad possession, incredible amount of chances creation and conversion (Goals), and more. We can do it. And it's bloody Sudan... I mean, come on, if we don't stat pad against these guys who got outplayed by Guinea Bissau then what the hell are we doing at this Afcon? Lol

I support what you wrote and when we attack we must be weary of counter from the Sudanese

I noticed they like play long balls for their top 9 the man with dread

So Ekong and whoever pairs him need to be at alert and stay at their position and allow Ndidi press when we attack. Aribo and Nacho should be pushed further and allow to shot... their goal keeper is not too good. More so it will take Sudan by surprise that we don't just attack from the wings only

That match is something we should be able to win with not less than 2 unreplied goals

andrewbaba44:
You mean you missed victor
Moses

Yes ooo I nor go lie

SerVik:
Someone that has been telling whoever cares to listen that eagle's pattern rely heavily on wing play.

The coach need shut his mouth up
He just won Egypt and not the cup

Me don tire for all this talk as if we won Brazil

do4luv14:
Am telling you, those runs Simon had, would had been a goal/assist, from Vicmo,

that side netting, Vicmo would had dived for a Pk, by cutting back,

that Ejuke last moment, issa sure goal/assist from Vicmo,

anywell it is well, we muuuvvvve

I nor go lie we miss that guy

If he was in this team trophy sure like stew

Imagine we have both players playing against Egypt

TheSuperNerd:
I like the lad and rate him but everything you have pointed out is true.

I mean, it was damn frustrating. The most annoying was the one he squandered after being neatly put through by Nwakali who took his time to carefully combine with him and orchestrate that beautiful counter attacking transition... Oya Ejuke, thanks for driving forward with your insane speed to the box... now fool the keeper and square it to any of Iwobi and Sadiq... Ejuke said Mbanu!! I MUST SCORE MY FIRST SE GOAL! I never score since my debut!

He needs to learn team work comes before Personal Glory Hunting. A real talent he is but he won't go far with such selfish on-field attitude. This is why I like Simon despite some bad times... Baba still works for the team. It's always Team first for Simon.

Anyways, I believe Ejuke will learn. He will come good. He still has time.

I love your objective assessment
It was well said

jihday:
he’s the opposition scout. Please give them benefit of doubt, no be every time egunje

With the way he manage the under20 he proves he knows nothing about coaching at all