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This story we are reading is one major reason so many men are poor in Nigeria - they carry financial burden that is more than their income!


You will see a struggling poor single guy earning meagre income go and marry one unemployed, jobless single lady who has no job, no hand work, no business and they will be forming we love each other....and they will be hoping that as soon as they marry, manner will fall from heaven and they will end up rich like Tinubu, hahahahaha


Listen young guys reading, marry with wisdom. The world has changed so so much today. Love is never enough reason to marry.


If you are not earning at least 300k as a single guy in Nigeria, don't marry any unemployed lady with no job, no handwork, no business doing, don't do it if you don't want to enter the poverty rat race many Nigerian men have been racing for decades.


Stop that nonsense talk that you don't like career ladies, you better love them now oh!!

Go to Europe, go to US, go to Canada, even China, just name it......husband and wife work! They pull their resources together to run the family and execute family projects.

It is only in Nigeria that women stay idle in the name of marriage and Nigerian men glorify it! it is bad for Nigeria's economy, every woman should find work or business or trade and do to earn income, it is a must today!


Single ladies reading, please go and get yourself something to earn steady income if not, na yeye husband you go marry oh because correct guys with future dreams and goals cannot marry you as a jobless lady with no income, no matter how rich he is, he would love you to be financially productive, it is classier!!

Mosminic:
I tell you. This is the most annoying twitter post I've come across. The guy is really in trouble. Divorce should be an option for him o. Because this lady is obviously deranged.

He doesn't need official divorce, he should just plan and abscond because this kind wife and her family no go allow the divorce happen oh cos they see the hubby as a maga.....a poor maga, na kill them go kill him finally

Mosminic:
This definitely looks like a made up story. Because I believe no one can be so insensitive and irresponsible. How do you expect someone to contribute to what doesn't concern him at all. Is the person getting married disabled? Or is the wife retarted?

It is not oh.....I have heard almost similar story from someone before.....some ladies no get sense oh.....


This woman should be worried about the future of her marriage, the future of her kids with that meagre income her husband is earning, but she is there worried about sending money that they don't have to her parents and also helping her brother who is not man enough to marry for himself to carry another bigger responsibility called wife, na wa oh!


Must her brother marry when he cannot afford the marriage requirements How does the brother intend to feed his wife and the kids that will come if he is waiting for family contribution to get married

Honestly, poor single guys should never marry poor, unemployed, jobless ladies.....it is a suicide mission, stay single if you are a broke, struggling single guy that cannot find a working class lady earning some money to assist you, if not, you will die untimely oh!!

DominusPrime:
Before I say anything when your husband wanted to get married which of your own brothers contributed to the wedding? Now your own brother, a full grown man like your husband wants to get married and they want to bill him another 120k? A man who is managing 70k salary? Anyway I blame your husband. You are earning 70k per month and you went to marry from a poor family. Their demands will definitely be higher than you can afford. Like I always say poverty dey kill love!!! It is better to cut your coat according to your cloth than deceive yourself to marry with poverty hugging you because you are in love. Sheybe the love dey help una fit una bills nah? Even if the wife gets a job things will never be the same. Even if the man gets a higher well paid job they will either hate him for the previous way he treated them or milk him more as money don come...

My brother eh......kai, poverty is really bad, and an entitled poor family makes things worst.


The wife comes from a very lazy, entitled, shameless poor family who don't even know that the future of their daughter and husband is at stake with 70k salary, they are still demanding from the guy as if he is working under Buhari's 2nd Wife's Ministry of Disaster and Humanitarian Affairs


Single guys una de read am so Open your eyes oh!! LOVE is not enough reason to marry anybody in 2020 and beyond!! LOVE does not put food on the table oh!


If you are single guy struggling financially, don't complicate your life issues to avoid untimely death....don't marry from a poor family....don't dare.....in fact, it is safer you remain single until things improve financially!


Marriage brings luck, marriage brings fortune, na so your poor papa, uncle and uncle uncle believed and married your mama, your aunt and today they are still poor oh! Use your head oh, no be all marriages de bring financial luck and fortune if not we for no get poor married people/families that make up 85% of Nigeria's population today

In this life, use your head oh or else Ogun State ritualist go use am for you

MetaPhysical:
OP,
You have three Colonels in US Army but python overpowers your homeland. How do they benefit you?
Beside, they are Americans, not Nigerians.

This is like people spend fmoney and time on games perfecting how to be bad and rugged with guns, with bombs and all sorts of ammo to target and destroy cities and populations but get weak when they see SARS. Their money and time and skills on internet has no application in real life.

Shut up!


Two of them I know personally, they always come home. They built mansions in their home towns and their families visit home a lot.

Igbos are like Jews, no matter where they go, they never forget their hometown, if u doubt me, visit Anambra, Imo, Abia, Enugu, Ebonyi during Christmas period and see timbres and calibres returning from all parts of the world to their respective villages in Igbo land, its a culture and a way of life for the Igbos.


For your info, my own cousin is also rising fast in US Navy, currently in Japan since 3 years now for training, and from there he maybe heading to South Korea, etc.


We talk everyday. He tells me how he misses home just as I do too.


We Igbos don't forget our root. Even if you make us President of America, an Igbo man must find his way back to his village to pay homage.

Mbaise, another great community in Nigeria after Nnewi; these two communities are six much and reason people fear and tag them names, just because they are too talented and smart

GuestLog:
Please kindly remove your photo before you seek help on Nairaland. I don't know if your photo is recent or someone else but it's on necessary on this platform.

Also, I wish your marriage well and hope things get back on track.

so you don't know the op is a psychiatric patient, and you are taking her usual mills & boom stories serious, wonders

BuhariNaWah:
I wonder how Bianca will be feeling now

She will be feeling like Hanty Remi Tinubu, Uncle Deno Melaye's ex concubine


She may also be feeling like Madam Aisha Bubu, Uncle Bello's Ex Lover in school

BafanaBafana:
Despite not seeing any sense in your comment, I will reply you.
Black Americans are American citizens, the USA is their country, they are not Africans. I cant relate what you are saying about Nigerian police though but you should know that the only original Americans are the red Indians. Everybody else comes from somewhere else. In your opinion, they should shut up while they are being racially abused in their own country.
Well done

Yes Black Americans or African Americans are American citizens just like White and Asian Americans.


But what the person you quoted is saying is this; Nigeria is the heartland of black race, and if Nigeria was doing very well as a nation like other nations in Europe, Asia, etc......whites and every other race will respect blacks wherever they see blacks.


Europe the heartland of White people is as developed as US, same with almost all white land......Asian lands are also getting massively developed, even Arab lands......leaving black land; West Africa behind.....so knowing that the origin of black race is dark and backward, do you think other race will respect the black race anywhere in the world NO!


African Americans and all Blacks all over the world should always join hands with Nigerians to find a way to get Nigeria and West Africa working so that other race will start respecting blacks.



West Africa's backwardness is the bane of the black race all over the world!

litigator:
Wow! That's on the extreme low side. If it's not up to six years, keep tracking him.

He will come into funds. I still have a judgement I am executing 4 years after. Twice a year I cast my net in execution.

Caught 300k once and another 1.8m at another time. Still have 2.2 left. I am sure those were not his personal funds.

But what's is my own?

Civil judgment does not expire. But a case becomes statute barred if you don't do anything after 6years.

One of the bank ex-staff didn't get a job in like 4-5years. While we were sympathetic to his condition, we had our judgment.

In 2018, he got a job and we ran an execution. He came begging cos he is a family man. So we take 40% of his net salary every month.

My point is, police is good in cases as this that sometimes becomes an unfortunate situation. But civil suits are way better.

You just keep judgment and wait for him to rise again, since one does not stay down forever. His sun will shine again and I will be collecting my piece.

Shits happens in life. I quite sympathize with your condition. 10.6m gross nor be beans.

Some banks will litigate till Supreme Court for that sum.

There is one I am sending to jail on behalf of GTbank. I am still getting a judgement in civil court. Sum is about 36.4m.

I will be waiting for when they share his late dad's estate to swoop on him. He has practically nothing, and I almost agreed with him until I discovered he was lying.

He had long term secret investment that will mature in 2021 November. Bulk of the funds went into that.

The pattern seems to have become tailored to that of our politicians. Steal, go to jail, come back and become a bigger boy when the dust settles.

Once again, I empathize with you.

Wonderful information.....a great eye opener

litigator:
Do not mislead people bro. There is alot you can do. Someone took somebody's money for bitcoin and disappeared.

We got his account opening file from the bank and traced him to his house. Only to discover the address the account holder have the bank is a fake address and the bank didn't do proper KYC.

You certainly don't wanna know how many persons have lost their job in that bank. We have imposed an industry wide search on the scam artist.

Blocked any account running on that BVN. Because there is a limit to what you can do bank wise if no BVN or peeper address verification right?

So the bank kinda compromised and we have sued the bank together with the scammers.

The bank and the scammers will pay in the civil suit, while the scammer will go to jail in the criminal suit. The bank is also pressing charges against him.

We have been unable to get him, but we have traced his properties to his village on the I.D card submitted in an account tied to his BVN. He is putting up a property in his village and we have taking temporary possession of that property by court order and the aged parents were made to watch over the property.

If you know what to do, you will always succeed. His lawyer and the bank are in talks with us for an out of court settlement. .

Another 4.4 m +350 damages will be recovered soon. And it's that simple.

I feel your pain. You should not waste 9m just like that. Put an APB on him and trace his properties. Commence a civil suit against him and lay ambush.

Also take over the properties you know. Must of these guys have mansions around, but will be doing as if they don't have a dime. I presently work with financial houses as professional Debt Recovery Agents with over 7 years experience and we have seen quite alot.

Don't give up. Help is always closer than you think.

Shalom.

Thanks for this great information.


My case the dealer was arrested after spending so much to track him down via Police.

He didn't deny his offense, he said he was duped and that we should give him time to pay back. His wife left him cos of too many issues arising from too many people he also sold their cars and didn't remit their money like mine.


We did everything and realized he is truly broke and was squatting with a young lady now acting as his new wife. He had no single car again, no longer drives when we caught him.


IPO handling the case advised we move the case to court cos he can't continue to be under Police detention without any good news coming from him on how to pay back, so we moved the case to court at Lagos Island Obalende side.

Took like 2 years before he was finally convicted and he pleaded guilty. Was asked how he wants to repay, he said he will be paying 200k monthly till he finishes it. Did he keep to it No!

He paid only 2 times in 6 months. We went back to court, remember all these while he was at Ikoyi prison where he comes to court.


At the end, he was given jail term of 5 months I guess and my money gone cos he couldn't pay back after several agreement to pay as mandated by court.

We went to his village he doesn't have any meaningful house, only a small bungalow in one bush, I don't need that. His parents are late. Your case you guys seem lucky the culprit have visible properties you can lay hands on.

My point is, going to court or Police to recover money in Nigeria hardly yield positive fruit if the scammer maintains he's broke with no trace.


It's not about arresting the scammer, its about recovering your money after arresting him.


But thanks for the wonderful info shared

It's their tradition, nothing new

Azmanaty:
Aisha should catch that boy and do a DNA on him. He is Buhari's son. I am 100% sure of this

why should Aisha Buhari worry about Buhari that has joined his ancestors since


Aisha is enjoying Buhari's legacy; she is now the first unofficial Female President of Nigeria after the death of Late President Abba Kyari the first President to die of coronavirus in the world, followed by Burundi President, may their corrupt souls continue to rest in peace

Hell Rufai aka El Rufai - The Devil's best hand tool

Gbola Hameed Tifnubu aka Bola Tinubu - The Corrupt Thieving Dreamer!

Hadams Onyeoshi-Olee aka Adams Oshiomhole - Devils Bestman

Cockroaches Okoroawusa aka Rochas Okorocha - The Conman cum Political Leader!

Haji Uzii Kamalu aka Orji Uzo Kalu - The Foolish Thief!

Alhj Liar Mohammed aka Lai Mohammed - The Greatest Liar of our time!


Until these rogues and corrupt criminals calling themselves politicians and leaders end up in jail for life or go 6ft under, Nigeria will never be good

JONNYSPUTE:
... Ok Bros. Was looking at a tokumbo truck for haulage. Like 8 tyres covered body.

No I don't have now

Some years later, Nigerians will start to respect Igbos and they will realize that Nnamdi Kanu was right that Buhari is not the one at Aso Rock fronting as Nigeria's President...that was why Abba Kyari was so powerful, he was the one ruling Nigeria after Buhari's saga in London.


Remember, when Buhari's was flown back to Nigeria from London, the lights at the Abuja airport where turned off to hide some secrets.

And then the issue of rat eating everything at Aso Rock office came to give them time to change the finger print and bring in the Buhari front.

Aisha Buhari was screaming but nobody listened, Igbos screamed everybody shut them up!

Abba Kyari died.....they needed to change the finger print of Abba Kyari being used for Aso Rock office.....and they brought in presumed Chinese doctors whom the Minister of Health later denied and said they were Technicians.....of course they are Chinese Technicians who came to change the finger print again and install new one.


Now Aisha Buhari wants to take full control of the Presidency and reason for the battle between her and the Presidency of recent; Buhari is no more.

Nigerians have you dull citizens ever asked why Buhari your so called President cannot do a live broadcast; why must all his nation address now be pre-recorded, why not live broadcast, why why why

Do you think if Buhari is there, so called Bandits will be destroying his own home state of Katsina and community like they are doing

To keep all these secrets, they don't want to reshuffle cabinet or change key insiders who know the truth to avoid leakage.....COAS, etc cannot be changed so they won't go singing the truth.


Everybody maintains and keeps his or her appointment whether functioning or not to keep the top secret at the Nigeria's Presidency!!!


Nigerians are too dull!!!

LBS is a wonderful school but their tuition

But I thought Edo state is a Yoruba state that also share same Oba

This nonsense of one man controlling the affairs of a whole state from his bedroom can only happen in Yoruba land, which Edo state is one.


Edo people should prove me wrong that Edo state is not a typical Yoruba state where one eyed drug baron and corrupt ex governor holds a whole state and entire Yoruba region under his boxers, by making sure Obaseki wins Edo governorship election

fid4fid:
Bro, the people just no dey use brain. And na them full most government offices in Nigeria. They deliberately kill any idea wey them no go benefit from.

Shebi there is a waterway leading to Lokoja. Is it not possible for barges to haul these container to Lokoja, reducing the distance they need to travel by road? They can build a holding terminal for all shipment heading north at Lokoja or any location with deep waterway for barges.

Shipments heading to Tradefair/Mile 2 / Alaba, can be moved by barges to these locations. Just building the logistics for waterway transport will create jobs.

Lagos has extensive waterways which they can use to move cargo. And there are companies willing to take up the opportunity. Julius Berger is really helping with their tug boats to move barges around Mile2/Apapa axis, not sure of other locations.

Along the waterway from Ojo to Apapa, Petrol and Gas Tank farms next to residential building. One day when one go explode, many homes will be burnt. Why the environmental planners give them permit to build homes there when they'd planned to use the coastal lands as an industrial zone?

Cant the govt call in the brains, and sit them down to think out a solution to this nightmare along apapa road. It's like they all waiting on our lord JESUS.

They know all these things you are saying, they do.


But you know, Hausa-Fulanis love holding on to power to survive cos that's all they have....and to hold on to this power in Nigeria, they need alliance from the Southern region. So what they do is divide the south between Yoruba and Igbo so they will never agree. And they know Yorubas are their best bait, so they throw lots of opportunities for Yoruba Lagos and maybe Ibadan, making Yorubas feel satisfield since Lagos is their land. So they make sure every federal government policy is to favor Lagos development in order to pacify Yorubas and keep them shut from aligning with Igbos to challenge their stupid federal policies holding Nigeria back.


So once they have settled or bribed Yorubas through policies that favor Lagos, the Yorubas can then keep quiet while Igbos alone wail to their chagrin

JONNYSPUTE:
....Hi.Are you into the sell of trucks? If yes let's talk

Yes, but right now we don't have any tokunbo truck, only brand new. But my cousin and office neighbor sell tokunbo trucks in case that's what you want.


I sell Shacman trucks; brand new.

I also have Dangote's sales right to sell his own Dangote Assembled brand new Howo Tractors and Dump Trucks (tipper).

GidiWoodsMan:
While every other thing you typed there is true, it's impossible to dredge the Niger to the extent it functions like a deep sea port. All you can put on it is shallow draught barges, not ocean going vessels

You are right, but an in-law who runs a dredging company said it can be dredged to take some kind of big vessels but that it will cost so much that only a government without any other seaport option will embark on the project.


They can start with making it a shallow seaport that can accommodate light vessels at least, if Nigeria was run with fairness and equity

AnthonyVal:
It's wrong, absolutely wrong to allow importers & manufacturers to be clustering around the wharf for their containers. Every Zone should have a dry Port which should serve as the final destination for goods coming into the country. Only containers clearly destined for South West should be cleared in Lagos. There should be Zone Railway Lines that should link the Zonal Dry Ports with the Sea Port. This is my own opinion.

Omoluabis will not like this suggestion because it will reduce the privilege their Lagos enjoys currently and reason Lagos became a top city where they now threaten non Yorubas to leave Lagos for them after Lagos was developed and built by non Yorubas.


They will give you one million reasons why dry ports should only be in Ogun, Ondo and Oyo, wait and see

Lovelyn451:
Me Ive not been to Lagos but when I look at my map, I see not only Lagos but Akwaibom, rivers, and calabar are linked to the sea, infact rivers looks like its outside d map, its on the sea gan gan, so why are we using only Lagos port

Because after the Biafra-Nigeria civil war ended in 1970, Igbos who used to control Nigerian government policies and economy were kind of conquered by the joint Hausa-Fulanis+Yoruba+other tribes, so they used that opportunity from 1970 to date to clip the wings of old Eastern region economy as a way of cutting down Igbo power and dominance to ensure they don't rise again to challenge them.


So the military governments that existed from 1970 to 1999 headed by mostly Northerners and Yoruba made sure all Nigerian policies were against the development of Eastern Nigeria (Southeast and Southsouth).


They ensured Southern seaports are made dormant and none functional!


They made sure the plans to dredge and expand River Niger to accommodate large vessels and turn it to a seaport never happens!


And they used years of bad governance, looting to destroy Nigerian cargo railway operation that Oyimbo designed to be used for carrying large cargoes from Lagos seaport to various parts of Nigeria which will also save Nigerian roads....but because after the war, Hausa-Fulanis took over power and also took over trucking and haulage business, they don't want rail cargo to function since they own so many trucks on the road.


Should railway cargo function well, many Hausa-Fulani owned trucking companies will fold up, our roads won't be spoiling every now and then which is a good source of looting for the government controlled by the north.


That is why

ursullalinda:
Yeah I have a clue because I heard how lucrative the business was and made a enquiries but my husband feels I'm too fragile to manage it........ I had to back out.

oh I see lolz


There are women haulers, and even those into heavy duty equipment leasing and construction in Nigeria.


My sister runs a heavy duty (bulldozer, payloader, escavators, cranes, etc) company, and she also has some trucks, its like a semi construction company.


I also know some ladies in Nigeria who run haulage and dump truck leasing business, one bought truck from me last year.


Maybe you act too sempe sempe lol that makes your hubby see you as fragile to handle heavy equipment business, maybe

ursullalinda:
Heard the head is about 5million then you can buy tyres and be borrowing body or buy the body too. So give and take it's around 7 million

this chick seems enlightened lol.



It depends on the truck lol


Tokunbo Howo tractor (the head) goes for like 6 - 10 million

Man, Daf, Volvo, Benz, Mack tractors are costlier.

The trailer (body) around 3 - 5million now.


Brand new ones are costlier

Greenvaiper:

It will never be well with buhari and mannabbq grills. thats my final comment on the matter.
Insult me and die today

Hahahaha Hahahaha hillarious

Enugupikin:
Lol..the thing was just so funny

me self that wrote it, honestly I didn't think about it, Nairaland won't kill someone

Enugupikin:
Lol..how would someone he has murdered work free again

hahahahaha, they do in Nollywood films oh

pocohantas:
Yes, it is very possible to freeze his account. However, no one just freezes an account. A court order and police report would be required. They are the ones to establish a case of fraud, then the bank would act on the order.

The problem in cases like this is always the NPF. They would wanna milk him. I don’t know OP’s relationship with his banker, but a good number of RMs and branch heads have good relationships with the police. So, they can guide him, though most wouldn’t want to.

from my personal experience not hearsay, it is a waste of time and resources going through those routes.


The surest way to recover your money from a scammer or debtor who refuses to pay in Nigeria is through traditional method of consulting a very strong Nigerian shrine.

Nigerian Police nor court does not help recover scammed money. Worst comes to worst, the guy will be jailed for few months after years of going to court, and court will ask him how long he can pay up, and if he can't, attracts few months jail.


I just pity these scammers cos some people are diabolical, they don't have time to go to Police or any court, they will go traditional and years later when the scammer have forgotten he scammed some people, the repercussions will start pouring into his life and family members, scamming Nigerians is a very dangerous game for anybody to play

bluefilm:
Don't use the police again.

You have to go traditional.

Just warn his family of your intention so as to give them some days of grace for them to pay up.

Then if they don't act up like I already know they won't, don't bother them again

Just go and consult a well know tough idol.

Dasal.

This is the only way to recover your money from a scammer or debtor in Nigeria, it works, very potent.


His parents, family, children, siblings will pay dearly.


But if you are a Christian, please don't go this route