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Mom007:
My biggest tip is that one should be happy as a single person. Enjoy your own company, not every time hang out, hang out. If you are happy single, you will he happier married because you won't be too needy and clingy when your spouse is not around.
Spend your own money on yourself! Not every time beggi beggi. It will help you appreciate the value of money and appreciate gifts if someone is kind enough to give you any.
Take yourself out. I learnt that from my big sis. Do nice things for yourself. That 2k u will spend on sharwama or pepper chicken and icecream for yourself will not kill you.
Have at least 3 days in the month where you just switch off your phone and toss it under your pillow and just go about your day! It may seem like the world will end if you do but its a lie. You will not miss anything and nobody will miss you. It helps us know that rush rush life is not it. Nothing is that important.
Finally, seek God and have a personal relationship with Him when you are still single! Its easier to maintain a relationship you have already started than starting one when you are married as too many distractions! You see some people, they become born again after marriage, its because marriage is not a bed of roses o... You really need the grace of God and the spirit of wisdom and understanding to be successful in marriage but its hard to find the time to commit to God, read your bible, pray etc when you are married and having so many added responsibilities but when you have started it since your single years, its easier to manage.

Wow. A truckload of wise sayings

Mom007:
Nothing really. I lived my single years... Was a bit of a workaholic but it was fulfilling. Now I'm married and I have nothing I think I missed out on.

Awesome happy for you
Perhaps there are some survival (day to day) tips you can share then

sekundosekundo:
There are two things that sustains marriage especially here in Africa.
1 Money
2 Children.

Though some have it enough and still the marriage didn't work.

True about money.
But honestly, there were certain key values that stood out for each of us when we were entering the relationship. The lack thereof indicated that we were not compatible each other. So our values had to align first before other things, that is, values before money/children.

Mariangeles:
You’re going to need advice from the experts on how to prevent that, since you’re both novices in that department.
From what I’ve noticed, if care is not taken, they’d come back to back before you know what’s up.

Na una type dey born twins as first sef.

Hehehe lol
So I'm open to learning. How do I go about it

faithfull18:
What is good for the goose is equally good for the gander.

By all means.
Let's stop segregating society

Whynow:
Certifcate, diploma ni
Brother I beg you in the name of Obinigwe, please speak for yourself...

Incidentally, not all relationships /partners are shams. Need to learn to look on the bright side.
Besides, like begets like, so the only reason you get wrong partners is because you're wrong yourself. Try reorienting to being the right person you're expecting and see wonders.

So... I have nothing to be afraid of.

bluefilm:
I am not even married.

So why and where will I be projecting my own poor marriage experience from?

But the reality is that when you look around you, you keep on seeing more and more reasons why getting married is actually a very terrible decision, most especially if you are a guy.

True that, bluefilm.

However, with every failed marriage, there are at least 10 other marriages that are working, and working well.
Just depends on which direction you're looking at.
Thus, I think we need to be deliberate about the things we expose ourselves to. If you keep seeing failed marriages everyday, You'd think that's the only thing that exists, and thus it'll form your own idiosyncracy.
I have decided to expose myself to, and focus on marriages that work, and believe me, there are a lot of them. Just that you don't see them in the news everyday, as people tend to prefer bad news to good news.

Ninisun:
Marry a woman that has a prospect, mature in understanding, humble, intelligent and respectful.
In all these, go for working class cus love is not the koko in marriage...na money and food for table.

True talk there

biggestmanhood:
1 wish I Bleep over 500 women before I got married. Though I only fuucked 57 women before getting married one of the women nickname me my moniker (biggest manhood)

Thinking back, what gains has this brought to you?

sekundosekundo:
Do you have steady income?
Are you ready to tolerate nonsense?
Do you have enough clothes and shoes?
Is your wife working or have something meaningful she's doing?

Marriage comes with a lot burdens and when you're not prepared for those financial burdens, it is catastrophic.
If you have money build house in your village where you'll be staying if you go home.

I feel you bro.

But why don't we consider first and foremost that marriage has a lot of positives, the companionship, mutualness, shared burdens etc.

If anything, we should focus more on the positives than on the negatives as we tend to be what we constantly look at, or don't you think?

Of course, I'm not negating what you first said. We need to take stock first, and be sure we have enough to embark on the 'forever' journey.

Mitsurugi:
Satisfying sex life indeed

Believe it or not, Doug, its true.

PastorMIsBack:
Some of my friends made sure they travelled the world before they settled down. You can still do this after marriage but it may be costly (if you're going with spouse and children) and you'd also have to book your holidays around the school holidays as you can't take your kids out of school during term time.

Right. Incidentally, one of the things my fiancee and I agreed on earlier is to not have children in our first year. So we can have time to do a few 'things'...

Anfieldboss:
Buy a car. I seriously regret not buying a car before getting married. Now I earn more but family expenses is making it difficult for me to save. I have always loved Ride Hailing, and I would have conveniently be doing it as a side hustle.

My advice to young men, if you earn average say between 150-250k per month, ensure you buy a car before you get married, else it will be more difficult for you when you are married.

I feel you Anfieldboss.

Nevertheless, I still think getting items like that is not all about calculation.
There is a favour dimension that a good woman should bring into your life that will multiply what you have several times, and even bring you into unexpected financial breakthrough.

N.B. He who finds a wife, finds a good thing, and obtains 'favour'...

bluefilm:
Don't marry.

I repeat, Don't you ever get married.

You will live to regret it.

I kinda get how you feel dude.

But don't you think you're projecting your own poor 'experiences' of marriage on those who'd rather be married?

DonroxyII:
On this Note, You wanna go Premium with me, You will pay me o !

I don't mind o bros

DonroxyII:
Women Own Sex not Men.

What Men Own is The Honour She gives You after You gave Her Orgasm. A right man doesn't cum before her woman.

If you don't do your job on the bed very well, give her $1bn and You will still be disrespected ! But No matter the girl or the session, guys cum easily. But women don't Cum easily, it involves alot and mostly Pyschological.

So if you make her cum, Be Rest Assured you are walking your two feet on her Brain and anything you say is Ho-Ha even if you don't have One Kobo, she will raise You till God enrich you even if it is Never ... but the Orgasm must be kept intact!

O boi
These are gems o
So how do you 'delay' until she cums

DonroxyII:
Just take your wife as a Friend And Respect her Womanhood: The Journey will direct itself and no matter the bends, hills and slopes, as far as the Friendship is there both of you will sail through time.

Also Pregnancy, marriage, sex, Period change a woman's mood so be ready to be a Man(Mature Gender) all through.

See everything she does as a means of building a Great Man in You whether You Disagree or Agree with Her. Study her Moods and learn how to speak in her voice (Most People like their own Voice not possibly yours) thus communicate to her in such a way that drives her understanding and both of you will agree more than disagree, Listen to her objection and acknowledge her submissions.

Between me and You(Leave Nairaland):
If you request for a favour and she no gree: Give her Sex to Orgasm and on the bed after she is spent, ask again cooly, she should oblige... I call it: Sex for Favour:

Be Her Son: Thus she should be free to send you on Errand and You should be free to request for Breast Milk or Fried Meat: Like "Say it to Her Ears, Mummy, Can I get to Suck Breast before you leave for Office this Morning.." Make Her feel the Motherhood and You Children will never Disrespect Her because they will take the Cue from You and You already ingrained Motherhood in Her: Do House Chores Bro. Yeah, If she cooks, You sweep. If she is washing the toilets, Do Laundry!

Dad: You should have that father figure and charisma to send her on errands and Commands that Honour of being Obliged without Force. Play time is Over Here and This is where You exudes Your Manliness.

Elder Brother: She should be able to approach you for any Brotherly advice and cat fights: Beef.. Just be the Big Elder Brother:

Friend: Most Women like Tatafo and Be Ready to be Her Chat Mate trust me, She will drop that phone and face You. The next House that will be Bombed in Ukraine Na her mouth you go hear am also Those Pillow plays and Hide and Seek

Husband: Let Her name you "My Husband" by Herself and that comes with all the Favour and Flavour of Womanhood Almighty God endowed her with: This is where Your Reward for all Your efforts lies

Lastly: Be Committed and Dedicated to Make your Home Work and Never-Ever joke with God If you are a Believer, nothing helps against Gravity(Fluctuations) than God and makes everything easier.

Hint:
If you wants your way and she blocks it without concrete reason:
Organise sex for favour and after the pre-intimacy or after the act: Re-Submit your tender and Approval should be granted before her orgasmic brain closes ... Once it closes that session is closed. You wait for next Session .....

Happy Marriage is not a huge Work but a Commitment and Dedication just like Playing FifA or PES: It's just a Game that comes with it's Up and Down but in the Long-run it's all about "Fun" !!

Btw, this sex for favour thingy is hardcore. I thought it worked for men only

bukatyne:
Your marriage is what you & your wife make of it.

While your principles might not change, your tastes and wants might change in line with your pocket and/or association.

If in 10 years time, you want to try bungee jumping, how would you turn back the hands of time to your singlehood to do it?

Or correct money touch your hand and suddenly you can only eat goats caught on Mount Everest, how do you rewind to today?

Or twenty years in, you feel the need to go back to school to read Law, how do you time travel?

Just ensure that the principles of you & your intended doesn't change, you are both teachable/coachable, you both have mutual respect for yourselves as a human being/person, you both put your family& marriage first and you are both willing to compromise.

Good luck.

Hmm a lot of insight and foresight to be had.
Thanks a great deal bukatyne.

DonroxyII:
Just take your wife as a Friend And Respect her Womanhood: The Journey will direct itself and no matter the bends, hills and slopes, as far as the Friendship is there both of you will sail through time.

Also Pregnancy, marriage, sex, Period change a woman's mood so be ready to be a Man(Mature Gender) all through.

See everything she does as a means of building a Great Man in You whether You Disagree or Agree with Her. Study her Moods and learn how to speak in her voice (Most People like their own Voice not possibly yours) thus communicate to her in such a way that drives her understanding and both of you will agree more than disagree, Listen to her objection and acknowledge her submissions.

Between me and You(Leave Nairaland):
If you request for a favour and she no gree: Give her Sex to Orgasm and on the bed after she is spent, ask again cooly, she should oblige... I call it: Sex for Favour:

Be Her Son: Thus she should be free to send you on Errand and You should be free to request for Breast Milk or Fried Meat: Like "Say it to Her Ears, Mummy, Can I get to Suck Breast before you leave for Office this Morning.." Make Her feel the Motherhood and You Children will never Disrespect Her because they will take the Cue from You and You already ingrained Motherhood in Her: Do House Chores Bro. Yeah, If she cooks, You sweep. If she is washing the toilets, Do Laundry!

Dad: You should have that father figure and charisma to send her on errands and Commands that Honour of being Obliged without Force. Play time is Over Here and This is where You exudes Your Manliness.

Elder Brother: She should be able to approach you for any Brotherly advice and cat fights: Beef.. Just be the Big Elder Brother:

Friend: Most Women like Tatafo and Be Ready to be Her Chat Mate trust me, She will drop that phone and face You. The next House that will be Bombed in Ukraine Na her mouth you go hear am also Those Pillow plays and Hide and Seek

Husband: Let Her name you "My Husband" by Herself and that comes with all the Favour and Flavour of Womanhood Almighty God endowed her with: This is where Your Reward for all Your efforts lies

Lastly: Be Committed and Dedicated to Make your Home Work and Never-Ever joke with God If you are a Believer, nothing helps against Gravity(Fluctuations) than God and makes everything easier.

Hint:
If you wants your way and she blocks it without concrete reason:
Organise sex for favour and after the pre-intimacy or after the act: Re-Submit your tender and Approval should be granted before her orgasmic brain closes ... Once it closes that session is closed. You wait for next Session .....

Happy Marriage is not a huge Work but a Commitment and Dedication just like Playing FifA or PES: It's just a Game that comes with it's Up and Down but in the Long-run it's all about "Fun" !!

Hear! hear!
Thanks so much DonroxyII
You really took your time on this one. And I'm so glad because you made so much sense. Unfortunately, we don't get to hear this again because times have 'seemingly' changed.

Mariangeles:
Some of you people just hate it when some men are not promiscuous as you expect them to be.
Do you think everyone regard sex the same way?

By certified, I mean we each are sure that the other is a virgin, unlike in many relationships where guys are not sure about their fiancee's status and vice versa.

Munzy14:
Their is no way I can insist on what I want in almost every situation...But some things are not negotiable...

Things like religion, beliefs because we must be on same page for the spiritual direction of the family...

But some other critical decision, we put heads together for ideas..Even though an alpha, I don't like dominating/forcing my woman...I have realized you enjoy some ladies most when you guarantee them a little freedom and a mind of their own..

More like you sit back, and position her for the moves atimes...Some of them are go getters...Just like in a game of chess.

Wow. I'm happy there are still men like you.
Other men believe you should do either of the above.
I believe that one should assess what makes his wife tick, and let her have it.

Munzy14:
Satisfying you say For two novice? Super story.


Anyways to your question..They said marriage is an Institution you will never graduate from...Just prepare your mindset and have good understanding, develope ability to listen more than you talk.

Pray for wisdom to make critical decisions and lead the home as the man with equity and fairness.

Speaking of leading the home as a man, do you insist on what you want? Or you confer together and come to a consensus?

Munzy14:
Satisfying you say For two novice? Super story.


Anyways to your question..They said marriage is an Institution you will never graduate from...Just prepare your mindset and have good understanding, develope ability to listen more than you talk.

Pray for wisdom to make critical decisions and lead the home as the man with equity and fairness.

Indeed, I have several live examples around me of those who got married as virgins and have a good sex life
Good advice too

centilad:
Did I hear you say #security?

"Whomever is the saint should be the first to throw stone"

Fbk, Twtr, Inst, Snap, Telegr.. social apps you use aren't safe either. If you also watched "Ron's gone Wrong" 2021 animation movie, you'd understand better.

Rembr I also wrote earlier, that with an external device you have the power to pull the plug. That's security.

Even if you break the Android Box to find out if there's a spycam embedded, the cost no fit tear pocket compared with breaking open your Smart TV looking for spycam. That's security too

Hmm you got a good point tho. We're never know some of these things...

Mariangeles:
What counsel do you seek? Ahithophel’s counsel?

Hehehe. I get your point. But they say experience is the best teacher. Better to learn from those who've gone ahead than go through it myself...

Zonefree:
Get a babymama...marriage is overrated, especially with a Nigerian girl.

Lol. Thanks tho but I don't believe in that. My fiancee & I are 'certified' virgins and looking forward to a satisfying sex life.

socialmediaman:
It’s not like you’re going into Priesthood or enrolling to go and fight in a war. You still have your life ahead of you, married or not

If you want to further your education or still pursuing your career, ensure you plan that with your wife before you get married so you know when to start having kids.

Also make sure you both are on the same page with what you want in life, you don’t want to get married then suddenly remember you want to travel abroad for a Master’s degree and expect her to understand

Wow. Really makes sense.
Funny thing tho is I'd like to travel out to further my education but my fiancee is not keen. We're still trying to reconcile that. But any further tips are welcome.

dawnomike:
You can never be prepared enough... Just oray mid life crisis does not strike you after marriage. I wish you a happy married life in advance

Wow thanks.
But midlife crisis? I thought that thing happened around age 40. I'm just clocking 30.

I'm looking forward to getting married in a year or so, and I'm looking for counsel which can help me and those who are in my shoes.

Are there certain exercises, experiences, plans, or actions which you regret having not taken before you got married?

Married folks, come in please.

Perhaps you have experience with either of the above, please share to help local man make a wise decision

centilad:
You've said it already -

You have more power over what goes into your TV. Can freely pull the plug when not needed.

Only that you'd be consuming more power_socket as well as HDMI ports + have extra remote control

Sounds good @centilad

But are we sure TV boxes do not compromise on digital security, given that most of them are made by '3rd party' manufacturers?

Guys, I'm having a dilemma. I've heard a lot about smart TV and their coolness, but lately I'm hearing that plugging in an Android TV box to a led TV is even cooler.

So which do you think is better?
A smart Android TV? Or the combination of a LED TV + Android TV box?