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Johnlegacy57:
let Hollywood not deceive you. America value decency

On paper ,they do,but the reality out there is that they don't.
Like the saying goes, don't take people's word serious on their value,their actions is a better gauge to their culture & value system.

janetakan:
You have no idea how uncomfortable wearing clothes with pregnancy can be. You really don't!

Don't justify rubbish,please.

There are clothes that are not necessarily clinging to the body a pregnant woman can wear,and feel very comfortable in them.
You can't be pregnant,and be wearing leggings & other clothes that clings to the body,and expect to be comfortable.

4teenblaq:
There is this thing most times, we won't find anything wrong with things most celebrities do. But when a random person does the same thing, we all plead for crucifixion of the person.

It's an open secret that an average human is a bloody hypocrite.
And also, it's an open secret that rules & people's reaction is highly influenced by people's perceived status,fame & power in the society.

Ok.

VOsimhen144:
Most ladies of her age would have 1 or 2 reasons why she is not married. Tho.. I'm not being emotional but no one is perfect bro.

She's a serious minded lady, she never did prostitution to survive.

You still don't get the picture.

I can't deal with some of this baggage & crazy past [ abortions in this case ] of this ladies,so,I won't even try to.
I understand no one is perfect, but there are imperfections I can't mentally & emotionally come to term with.

Many guys out there can,but I can't,so I will gladly walk away,so guys that can handle such issues should do their stuff.

I suppose, that's the right thing to do ,for me.

"She was 3 weeks pregnant when the man ran away with her life savings (#4M), Life was a living hell for her that period. She had to do abortion, she explained lots of things to me "

I don't know for any other guys out there,but for me,one thing is certain when it comes to intersexual relationship,and that is ;

I won't be the guy that have to be an emotional tampon to any woman out there, especially when it comes to your past .
You honestly will save yourself story that touches the heart by not telling me any of your bs past, because I won't be that guy to bare the consequences of your past life.

"I was raped ,and then got pregnant,but since I can't cater for the kid,I aborted it ".

I see stuffs like this as manipulation ,and I'm not changing my mind anytime soon on such stance.
Many other guys out there are willing and manly enough to deal with some crazy past of some ladies,I can't.

timota:
The unfortunate Chris land sex scandal is leaving many unanswered questions and one of such question is where are the boys,the girl is the only one whose identity is known but we all know that she could be guilty of everything except being guilty of recording the sex scene,who recorded the sex scene why was it recorded, was the girl drugged, are the boys suspended as well.

These are questions in my mind that begs for answer

Just look at the girl you all are suggesting that she was probably drugged & raped .

Stupid girl that's busy posting erotic dance video on TikTok with the handle bhadgirl4k [ bad girl f*ck ].
Search that name on TikTok and see the girl some are claiming is not yet exposed to sexual stuffs .
Her sexcapades started right from home,under her parents guidance.
She's actually the person that must have asked those boys for sexual intercourse,and probably the video taping as well.
Damn !


She's a spoilt kid right from home.

baralatie:
You are happy to share the sex molestation video of a 10 year old girl and you are happy

What do you mean by "sex molestation video"
I hate when people just throw words around.
There was no sexual molestation in that video.
It's a case of child pornography,and it ends there.

Zooposki:
Did I say it was illegal? I said it is immoral. Those type of adult men are perverts who can not find willing partners their own own age so they resort to exploiting young, naive girls. Leave the young girls for the young men, and go find women your age. Stop the exploitation.

Lol.

okay,now, it's exploitation ,and no longer a case of rape as you earlier asserted ?
You're just being emotional,I must admit.

Quick one.
Do you consider an older woman having consensual affair with a boy not below the age of 18 exploitative ?

Zooposki:
If you don’t see that as an abuse of power, I don’t know what to tell you. The girl was not emotionally mature to make such a decision and the guy took advantage of her, hence the scream of rape. Stay there and be fooling yourself. The guy is lucky he’s not abroad, he would have been put away for life.

Drop me links where an older man is charged for rape for having consensual affair with a girl not below 18.

Drop as much links as you can,I'm ready to review the whole case(s),and give you feedbacks.
Don't disappoint, please.

One more question,zoo.

Do you consider an older woman having consensual affair with a boy not below the the age of 18 rape ?

In today's society,cases of domestic violence are on the rise.
Barely a day goes by,without one reading or witnessing cases of domestic violence.
And for some reasons ,whenever cases of domestic is mentioned,we always associate it with physical abuse.

Physical abuse have become the most recognized form of domestic violence,even when in reality , it's not the most perpetuated.
This is because it impact(s) is usually visible,and most times,it causes physical pains.
In a functional society,it [ physical abuse ] should be condemned,and so do all other forms of domestic violence,but that is not the case.
And that's why we need to talk about another form of domestic violence that's as lethal as physical abuse,and may even have a more lasting psychological effects than physical abuse,and that's verbal abuse.

Verbal abuse,also recognized as a form of emotional abuse,is when someone uses their words to assault , dominate, ridicule, manipulate and or degrade another person & negatively impacts this persons psychological health.

It commonly occurs in romantic relationships,family relationships,working place etc.
Most times,verbal abuse leads to physical abuse,but that's not always the case.
That's more reasons we should be treating verbal abuse with the same energy or even more than we treat physical abuse.

The effects of verbal abuse can just be as damaging ,or even more damaging than physical abuse.

It's our duty as a society to not only wage war against physical abuse,but also against verbal abuse,and generally against any form of domestic violence.
Parents should also teach their wards to not only speak up against physical abuse,but also verbal abuse.

If you consider verbal abuse less damaging than physical abuse,then it means you have no idea the psycological effects verbal abuse can inflict on it victims.

-- SAY NO TO VERBAL ABUSE .

-- SAY NO TO PHYSICAL ABUSE.


Mynd44, laLasticlala

Zooposki:
Keep deceiving yourself. What do you as an old man have in common with a young girl?

So, that's your substantial argument why an older man having a consensual affair with a girl not below 18 is considered a rape ?

You're a joke !

Have a lovely day.

timota:
The unfortunate Chris land sex scandal is leaving many unanswered questions and one of such question is where are the boys,the girl is the only one whose identity is known but we all know that she could be guilty of everything except being guilty of recording the sex scene,who recorded the sex scene why was it recorded, was the girl drugged, are the boys suspended as well.

These are questions in my mind that begs for answer

Did you just ask if she was drugged
You guys should just drop this childish narrative.

So, basically,those kids were able to evade the security units in Nigeria airport before leaving,and were still able to evade the security units of whatever airport they landed in Dubia with drugs ?
Or, you're trying to tell us those kids got a drug supplier the moment they arrived at Dubia ?

You guys should stop taking us for fools !

The drugged narrative is dead on arrival.

The girl & the boys knew exactly what they were doing,and was purely a consensual act.
The girl is a wayward girl,so are the boys.
They all should be held accountable.

Zooposki:
Older men should leave young girls alone, and yes it is rape. Date your age mates.

You should be disappointed in your level of reasoning.

Older men who is having an affair with girls that's not below 18,and it's consensual, it's not a case of rape.
It's only a case of rape [ statutory rape in this case ] when the said lady is below 18,even if it's consensual or not.

That's why men are advised to stay away from a girl below 18,the world out there is like a raging wolves ,seeking great people [ men in this case ] to destroy.

schoolboymatt:
all this long epistle on top rape?

With due respect, you're an idiot!
Have a lovely day.

Feminism.

Feminism is the major influencing factor for the whole moral decadence,sexual liberation nonsense & woke craziness we are experiencing in today's society.
If you don't see how feminism is the big problem,you just have to take a step back & think deep.

ivolt:
You are not just a rape apologist but a rapist defender.

Nobody has been arrested or even charged with rape but you are busy spamming
every thread to preemptively defend those who might be involved.

Something must be seriously wrong somewhere.

I have watched that video on Twitter, that's not a case of rape.
It's a case of bad parenting & negligence on the part of the school.
The parents of the children & school should be held responsible.
That's child pornography,and not even a case of statutory rape because the persons involved are minors.

dacblogger:
Please DNT marry...
Your type can't handle marriage. You're too immature for it.

But you have openly acknowledged verbally abusing your husband as a "coping mechanism".
Aren't you also very immature for marriage,or you still don't see anything wrong with verbally abusing your husband ?

You lots are quick to play the maturity card when you're no different or even worse than the person you're accusing of immaturity.

donleo92:
Everybody is hung up on domestic abuse by men against women. Nobody spares a moment to find solutions to the equally devastating verbal abuse men suffer in the hands of their wives. It is worse because men can't discuss what their wives do to them for fear of scorn and derision. They suffer in silence. Timebomb.

Unfortunately, the Nigerian society has little or no support systems for this kind of situation. Little or no counselling services. It's been mostly left to the church to deal with. What happens when the man doesn't go to church? What happens when the woman doesn't believe in spiritual intervention? These women are raising daughters. Their daughters are hearing and seeing how they speak to and treat their husband. What kind of wives will they grow up to become? Those that treat their husbands as kings or those that believe husbands are nothing but verbal punching bags?

We've all agreed and rightfully so that a man has no business hitting his wife. So how then do you stop a wife raining verbal missiles at you? Leave the house? Okay. But you'll return and it will continue. What next? Leave again? For how long?

Recently, I visited a senior friend, an important man in the society and while we were downstairs gisting, the voice of his wife could be heard upstairs. She was spewing unimaginable bile against the man. She called him all sorts of unprintable names. Impotent, wretched fool, miserable man that was nothing when she married him, etc. This is a well respected man. A father of 4 children. She tore at his very core and mocked everything society respected him for. She said he'd soon crash and she'll be there to laugh at him.

I was so uncomfortable as I beheld the man. He was shrunken before me. He was deflated. He tried to gamefully continue the gist to distract me but it was not working. The woman's vitriol was a ceaseless torrent. Uncomfortable silence ensued. I excused myself and left his house.

I was really sad.

You want to know the truth? This is what most men go through in their houses. They labour and toil and build respect but when they return home, the one who ought to speak to the king in them tears them to shreds and tries to deflate their self-esteem. When they are outside, they try to act cheerful and happy but back home, they are shrivelled because the person they live with makes it a point of duty to verbally assault them.

A sad story comes to mind. There was recently a Nigerian Ambassador who was recalled because his wife released a story to the press that he beat her. She also released pictures showing fresh injuries on her body ostensibly inflicted by the man.

In a dramatic twist, their children came out to debunk the stories and said their mother faked the injuries to embarrass their dad. Grown up children.

A particular sentence by the 1st son saddened me. He said it was as if their mum woke up every morning with one mission in life: how to make their dad miserable. They said they were witnesses to how their mum constantly harassed and abused their dad and wanted the whole world to know that their dad was not who their mum was painting him to be.

Yes, opinion shifted on the scandal but the damage had been done. The Ambassador was recalled and nobody heard from him again.

A family is currently at odds with the widow of their son and brother. The wife was constantly verbally assaulting him. Nobody wanted to visit them because each time they were around, it was always quarrel and the wife would call him unprintable names. Even in their presence. When they try to interfere, she will give them their own. The man died recently of heart-attack caused by high blood pressure. He was in his late 40s. The family insists his wife sent him to his early grave with her verbal torments.

Our bars are filled with men who are afraid to go home to their wives for fear of what verbal torment they will go through. Men are finding every excuse to travel because they'll rather be anywhere than in their own homes.

Everybody is focusing on men as culprits in domestic abuse. Who is talking to the women?

Great write up.

Daniel7543:
Never you judge by your emotions. One need to hear from both sides.

There was a thread a man was declared wanted for beating his wife... The wife said so many ill things about her husband.

My comment was like "we need to hear from her husband's side of the story before we judge"

You need to see the way fummicoconuts, Kobojunkie, Jennyclay and Mariangeles dragged me like I fvck them for a night and refused to pay them.

Folks, stop judging by your emotions. That gender who bleeds in between their legs are dangerous.

Women have started "weaponizing" social media because they know many will believe them without hesitation, especially when the message is storied around a man treating them bad.
Guys just need to be careful out there,because the other gender is not nice & pure as we were indoctrinated to think.

Lightorder:
you are right . But if any woman hits you , just hit back and move on. Every life matters

She's not right !
Please,you people should learn to tell this women the truth .
You can't control people's reaction,and it's advisable you don't go around infuriating people and ,always expect them to always walk away or put up with such bad behaviours because you're a woman,or you have been misled to shout "men should always walk away no matter what " in the internet.

The reality out there is that some day you're going to get your ass kicked real good if you go around infuriating people or causing troubles.
People won't always walk away or continue to put up with your bs because you think that's what they should be doing because you're a woman and they are men.

Yewandequeen:
i dont support the curse but the dude uttered total rubbish. No amount of flaw the woman has must make a man to hit her. What happened to him walking away? Some men are just animals pls.

This very mentality is the reason some of you are going to get into more troubles.
I'm not even talking about domestic violence here,but this mentality of expecting a man to always put up with bad behaviours from you lots,and always expecting him to always walk away.
For you own good, don't go around infuriating & causing troubles because you're a woman, especially against men,and always expect them to always put up with you bs or walk away.
You're just setting yourself up to be harmed or get your ass kicked, that's the reality.

Use your head .

Women's love don't do anything for me.
I don't need it, and I'm not in the look out for it.
A woman that unapologetically embraces her femininity & respect me is going to always be a better choice for me over a woman that claims to love me.

Magnoliaa:
Surprise, surprise, I wonder together with you as well.

He is one of you o - the OP. Just on a different divide and I find the topic highly offensive. So who are the "they", biko?

Yes, I am looking for trouble, so come blazing at me with a clapback, you hear? I have prepared and done rituals down.

Sorry,I don't engage in pointless back & forth with "Unburnable witch(es)" !.
Have a lovely day.

Ok.

Camelot65:
"Only a brave man can marry her". What's that supposed to mean?

The caption got me thinking when marrying a woman over 40years old becomes a show of bravery.
They keep misappropriating words just to suit their narrative.

300whitewolves:
If you saw your sisters or mothers in one of those skits, shaking their bumbum to nothingness guess u would all feel proud

They didn't put gun on their head before or while they were making the skits.
They [ the female folks allowing themselves to be used as sexual tools ] did it of their own accord,and they should be the ones to be held accountable for their choice,and not a random guy who decide to play along.

You remember the "my body ,my choice" phrase they throw around ? Good !
Her body her choice ,and men should not be blamed for whatever she chooses to use her body for.
And lastly,you lot have to grow up,and stop all this emotional blackmail.