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Music/RadioRe: What Music Are You Listening To Right Now? by ibkayee(f): 11:51am On May 14, 2020
andrewtosin:
oya answer my question..
Didn't even realise you were asking me anything, repeat the question please
Music/RadioRe: What Music Are You Listening To Right Now? by ibkayee(f): 11:46am On May 14, 2020
andrewtosin:
Two things are involved... It is either you are "omo get inside" or "tokunbo"? cheesy

By the way it means "make belle just full" in pidgin
Ooh, thanks for the translation
BusinessRe: Why Don’t Nigerians Leave Reviews? by ibkayee(f): 11:45am On May 14, 2020
Maybe there isn't much motivation to bother, the ones who leave reviews usually either disliked the product/service or were super passionate about it for whatever reason. I think most people are in the middle... not indifferent per se, just...not 'impacted' enough (whether positively or negatively) to be bothered

Also, the customer service experience in Nigeria leaves much to be desired, maybe an additional factor is that people are of the opinion that nothing is likely to come of the review, so leaving one is more effort than it's worth
Music/RadioRe: What Music Are You Listening To Right Now? by ibkayee(f): 11:34am On May 14, 2020
andrewtosin:
abi... Kínú sha ti kún
I understand Yoruba more when it's being spoken to me (orally), so, unfortunately, my brain isn't computing this one well. What does it mean? cheesy
Music/RadioRe: What Music Are You Listening To Right Now? by ibkayee(f): 11:22am On May 14, 2020
andrewtosin:
I know some people that hate food oh. In fact to some people "I was very sad when they told me food is ready" cheesy grin
Lol you're right, I was exaggerating. I know someone who only eats to fuel his body, not for pleasure
Music/RadioRe: What Music Are You Listening To Right Now? by ibkayee(f): 11:18am On May 14, 2020
andrewtosin:
wehdone madam... I like foodies jare
Lol nice, who doesn't like food tongue
Music/RadioRe: What Music Are You Listening To Right Now? by ibkayee(f): 11:12am On May 14, 2020
andrewtosin:
yeah
Yeah sort of
Music/RadioRe: What Music Are You Listening To Right Now? by ibkayee(f): 11:06am On May 14, 2020
andrewtosin:
alright...thanks dear. By the way am I right wit what I think about you? cheesy
What do you think about me? That I'm a foodie?
Music/RadioRe: What Music Are You Listening To Right Now? by ibkayee(f): 10:56am On May 14, 2020
andrewtosin:
IBK good morning. The way you comment on food section makes me think you are a foodie, lol. Joking oh.
Plz is it true that semovita isn't good for someone's health? Or is it the excess of it?
Plz revert
Lol, I have no idea dear. I don't want to give you the wrong answer, maybe ask in the health section or you can even ask in the food thread
Music/RadioRe: What Music Are You Listening To Right Now? by ibkayee(f): 10:48am On May 14, 2020
meeky007:
pls let me know when u ve sent it
Sent dear
FamilyRe: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by ibkayee(f): 10:02am On May 14, 2020
crackland:
Madam, I do not care about anyone answering me...although you just did since you can't help yourself cheesy

As long as my comments are being read, the ministry is moving.
Lol I don't think you quoted yourself and asked someone to answer it just for emphasis for some reason lipsrsealed
FamilyRe: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by ibkayee(f): 9:33am On May 14, 2020
pocohantas:
Exactly!! You don’t talk much, so it was kinda tricky fitting you in a subset.
Haha fair enough cheesy
FamilyRe: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by ibkayee(f): 9:33am On May 14, 2020
Biglittlelois:
He thinks he's important cheesy
cheesy
RomanceRe: What Do You Bring To The Table? by ibkayee(f): 9:32am On May 14, 2020
emmaodet:
But the patriarchy as you call it, is no more there.
You people are no more inside the cage of the so called oppressors and are free to do whatever you like.
You can go to school, look for job, stay alone, buy your own land and build your house, own your own business etc. With all these, we can now technically brokeshame you if you don't perform because you have all the necessary tools to make it. You aren't different from men now my sister.
The patriarchy is improving, gradually, but it's a bit unrealistic to think it's 'no more there' and that such a fundamental change in the way people think has and can be undone that simply.

Both genders are still valued by those standards
FamilyRe: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by ibkayee(f): 9:29am On May 14, 2020
pocohantas:
You are being more obvious and direct in your views recently. Less of a wife material.

No NL horseband for you. None of their brothers will marry you too. grin grin grin
Lool I've never been 'wife material', where are they getting these awful ideas from? Maybe I need to talk more then cheesy
FamilyRe: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by ibkayee(f): 9:26am On May 14, 2020
pocohantas:
Because she hasn’t been agreeing with you lately? I noticed that is the bane of every fancy tag on NL. grin grin
Lol I don't think I agree with him on things often in the first place, particularly in the family section
FamilyRe: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by ibkayee(f): 9:23am On May 14, 2020
Acidosis:
You've been disappointing me lately, lol
Lol that sounds like a you problem
FamilyRe: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by ibkayee(f): 8:53am On May 14, 2020
CHoccolaTE:
Narrow thinking that has kept Africa backwards for ages but some people stick to it because it favours them
Lmao it's concerning
FamilyRe: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by ibkayee(f): 8:47am On May 14, 2020
Acidosis:
A family is a set of people who share common ancestors. You can't have a family if all you do is hook-up with strangers to have a child with the hope of becoming a grandmother. You don't have a family if you can't draw a common linkage with your ancestors.
Family is a broad topic and can range from people sharing DNA, to adoption, to a unit of close friends etc. You people should broaden your outlook, yeesh. The world is too big a place and has too many different people to think so narrowly.

You don't have to compromise on whatever principles you have in order to just acknowledge certain things about the way the world works.
FamilyRe: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by ibkayee(f): 8:41am On May 14, 2020
Acidosis:
So how would people know what works for them without people like OP?

To say marriage is not for everyone while still spending most of your time on family section, for me, is cra.zy. If marriage is not for everyone, then the so called everyone shouldn't be here in the first place. It's like saying WEALTH is not for everyone on an investment thread. That's a stup!d idea.

Some of you are just bitter, it's very obvious seeing how you folks descended on the personality behind the post. You people have called her old school and all sorts without even realizing the fact that no sane man wants to spend his life with a problematic modern and overly exposed man-woman. There's something about her you lots hate so bitterly.
'Family' is broader than just marriage.

Even if this was a sub-board dedicated to marriage alone, are you saying everyone who has any type of opinion on something conforms to the specific thing's ideology? huh

The investment example isn't clicking either. Too many assumptions and unconnected 'links'.
Music/RadioRe: What Music Are You Listening To Right Now? by ibkayee(f): 3:35am On May 14, 2020
meeky007:
yes
Give me your email
FamilyRe: My Wife Is Too Insecure by ibkayee(f): 2:19am On May 14, 2020
Donald3d:
The emboldened part of your write up, is what many people fail to understand .
As you have rightly said, there are various "degrees of introvercy"
Some are more extreme than others .

I believe she is one, its evident in her approach and the timeline of events from the very first day OP met her till now. She hasn't changed or loosened up to anyone except her husband (to an extent) .

If you take note, he also said she doesn't take pictures with her family(the people she has spent most of her life with !!), this sets off multiple introvert detector alarms grin .
Some insecurities start from young o and can progress for many years, but you may be right smiley
RomanceRe: The Revenge cheating Mentality Of Ladies. by ibkayee(f):
What exactly does a ‘natural ability to forgive’ her man mean? Are you saying we are biologically predisposed to forgiving a man for cheating than a man? huh

Women do not naturally feel any less hurt or naturally forgive any ‘easier’ than a man would. They do it because they’ve been raised to accept it, that’s all.

Lol Toks why are you always trying to convince women to accept trash behaviour? You are the type to specifically look for a partner with low self-esteem

You know how emotionally/psychologically traumatic it can be to get cheated on, but you want to use one lazy myth to justify why women can handle what you can’t.

Anywho, it’s not like Nigerian women don’t cheat, na today? They just don’t shamelessly act like it’s their birthright and are more coded wink

May ‘refurbished’ virgins, ‘under-reported’ body counts and uncertain paternities continue to fall on all of you grin
FamilyRe: My Wife Is Too Insecure by ibkayee(f): 1:18am On May 14, 2020
Donald3d:
Finally, another witness grin grin.
Thanks for sharing your experience.
I'm not totally convinced she's necessarily an introvert sha, she could be, I just don't think there's enough nformation to come to this conclusion.

Introverts can be shy and quiet, but not all people who are shy and quiet are necessarily introverts if that makes any sense.

She could be shy and quiet because she's scared of interacting with people and conscious of how they'll view her, but perhaps she wishes this wasn't the case, then add her insecurities to the equation. I don't know if this automatically makes her an introvert. She could just be insecure about the way she looks, causing her to shy away from as much 'scrutiny' as she can, whilst wishing she was confident enough to do the things she's shying away from

An introvert's desire for alone time is not necessarily always because they're shy or even afraid, they also don't necessarily completely dislike socializing. They just prefer a certain amount of social engagement with certain types and amounts (personal preference) of people. Introverts and extroverts differences aside, I believe there's also a wide variety of personalities within the introvert spectrum alone itself smiley

Anywho she may very well be an introvert, she then there's also the possibility that she isn;t
RomanceRe: White People Don't Have Swag? by ibkayee(f): 12:31am On May 14, 2020
Ilamina:
Then why do we study abroad?

White people also have swag
Lmao what's the correlation my dear?
FamilyRe: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by ibkayee(f): 11:41pm On May 13, 2020
CHoccolaTE:
Lol

I noticed it too

They dismiss men and fight women cheesy
Lol we know their types tongue
FamilyRe: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by ibkayee(f): 10:46pm On May 13, 2020
bukatyne:
Ok.

So what were you saying?
Let's rest here
FamilyRe: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by ibkayee(f): 10:30pm On May 13, 2020
bukatyne:
You think a God created a human being just to work till death?

Sad.

Humans are made for more.

And the more is not even marriage.
Putting words in my mouth...strawman fallacy cheesy
FamilyRe: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by ibkayee(f): 10:25pm On May 13, 2020
bukatyne:
At bold, I differentiated between work and purpose.

So how can I say marriage is a better purpose than work?

Purpose is the reason a thing is created; how can someone be created for marriage?

Read to understand, not to respond.

Took me a while to learn however, I can read an Islamic Cleric's post on Polygamy and learn something about marriage (good or bad).

The above applies to the marital rape thread.

I am not willing to go into that tonight.
You literally said 'discover your purpose...but not work because it doesn't give you satisfaction (and by saying this, even though I did not explicitly say it can't be your purpose, I am implying that work cannot be your purpose because it doesn't give you satisfaction) especially compared to having a family'

Lol make your topics clearer and I will do my part to understand yeah
FamilyRe: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by ibkayee(f): 10:15pm On May 13, 2020
OchoL:
Haha, IKR! She's definitely an amazonian frog-resembling menopausal git grin cheesy
This is so...lame lol

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