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theButterfly:
Lunch

Coconut milk Salmon soup

chasers:
C4_KITCHEN

Testing.......

MJBOLT:

so Ishilove and Octopusssy are the same person

MJBOLT:

are you a feminist?

crackhaus:
No point here.

The woman in question lives in a place where the culture is different from where you are, yet you've been all over trying to do what exactly?

crackhaus:
Linear thinking, which is what you dropped again in the first paragraph.
Don't worry, you won't see it

Snowflakes in a blizzard.

crackhaus:
It seems like I'm talking to a rock.

The moment you make a choice to do something, you take full responsibility for it.
Whatever happened before that point becomes irrelevant to the situation.

LuciferTruth:
Gladly...

pocohantas / AntiBrutus, Safiaa / Saffi / Safitu, czarina, Preshy561, UyaiIncomparabl, funmisticqueen2, shugavee, SweetBuns, ibkayee, delishpot, XhosaNostra
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crackhaus:
Suddenly abortion is not easy anymore (ibkayee said it's dangerous), yet y'all are the same ones clamoring for abortion rights around the world.

See I'm allergic to linear thinking, it's not my fault, but my mental development allows me to make deductions & conclusions using multiple data at every given moment.

If you wantu vex, vex very well.
Tenkyu.

crackhaus:
I applaud your going back & forth with these people, but you honestly shouldn't be bothered.
There's a saying that the quickest way to appeal to another person is through emotion, not reason.

How can anyone (ibkayee in focus) be quoting me to tell me choices have consequences, then in the same comment they're defending the woman who made a choice alone to have a baby for a man who explicitly said he doesn't want it, yet suddenly choices don't have consequences anymore and she shouldn't face the consequence of having to raise the child alone.

And their defence for this twisted logic is that the man already made the choice to have sex without protection (which was actually a joint decision), and as such, he has relinquished any rights to have further choices after the fact.

Do these people even read why they're typing?

Mehn I can't oo, way too many people view the world with preconceived notions, emotions, and feelings, and I refuse to be one of such basic people.
Nature blessed me with at least 1million brain neurons to use in just one lifetime before I return to dust, and I intend to activate more than half of them before my time is done. One way to do this is to view everything as dispassionately as possible.

Even if this lady were my own blood, I would tell her every single thing I have typed here word for word.
I do not suffer foóls, not even my own blood.

ikhileomotayo:
Ibk baby. First time I am seeing you write paragraphs, a distant cry from your usual lol,hahaha

Nice

Mynd44:
Its time women start marrying more than one man so some men wont be single and miserable.

It is also time for men to stop shakara as there are not enough women, they must now realize it is time to beg else they will end up in Shiloh 2045 still looking for a mate

ornicus:
Unprotected sex does not translate into automatic parenthood.

There are multiple decision gates that were taken by the woman

Both of them made a mutual decision to have unprotected sex

However the woman alone took the decision not to use birth control after

She also took the unilateral decision not to have an abortion

It is not right to then say that the consequences of unprotected sex is a baby when only one person made that decision.

Maybe we should flowchart all the decisions taken here

crackhaus:
Lmao.. You probably didn't realize the question I asked you has no right answer. Either way you answer it (and I'm pretty sure you thought hard before typing your response), it still reveals the inherent flaw in the psyche of women who demand the right to have choices, but are not ready to handle the outcomes of those choices.
You guys will remain your own worst enemies if you don't look for a way to accept responsibility for the outcomes of the choices and rights you fight for.


Let me break down your response for you:
1. You met a man unknown to you he was married...you became enthralled, he said the right words, turned on your spirit animal and lied his way into your pants - up until the point you took off your undies, you made all the choices. We should also note that lying isn't a convictable offense. Even you will lie sometimes in your day to day life. The man who successfully got into you by lying about his marital status outwitted you. your choice again to allow yourself to be outwitted.

2. Man invites you over to his place or you invite him over to your place - either way, you made your choice to be alone with him.

3. Man starts all those tested & trusted sweet moves that nature made sure will always work on women once the punaní starts throbbing, then sex happened - another choice you made.

4. In the heat of the moment, man didn't use protection and you didn't ask for one, or maybe you did but of course the punaní is throbbing hard and doing most of your thinking, so you couldn't be bothered...after all, you can take the pills or so you thought IF you had no ulterior motives- you have made choices again.

5. One month later, you discover you're carrying. You inform sweet-talking married expert game player and he tells you, hey I don't want a baby, we have to get rid of it. You tell him NO WAY, I'm keeping it - you have made this choice on your own, forgetting that this G after becoming a part of the unborn child's life when he didn't use a condom (according to your comment), he also became part of the joint decision to be a parent...but of course ONLY you can now decide this for him.


SUMMARY:
Your choices brought you here, his choices also brought him here, both towards the same outcome up to that point.
However, immediately one made the choice to be a parent and the other made the choice to NOT be a parent, how do you begin to rationalize the importance of one choice over the other without seeming like a completely entitled person?
Isn't the progressive movement all about respecting people's (male & female) choices anymore? Why the double standards? Why the hypocrisy?

Isn't the idea of freedom to choose hedged on the stone of responsibility?
Why should anyone be taking responsibility for the decision of someone else?

Same way the man couldn't make the decision to terminate a pregnancy carried by you because you have no interest in that, is the exact same way you can't make the decision to have him open his heart & pocket towards a pregnancy he has no interest in.
Isn't this what fairness is supposed to be about?
What exactly are people fighting for in this world if the simple concept of equal choices & equal outcomes cannot be followed through?

Ibkayee, I rest.

ornicus:
how does a man take part in the responsibility of birth control beyond condoms? am i to follow my one night stand around demanding oya, have you taken your morning after pill? with the risk of pregnancy, and the fact that [as is the case here] the bulk of issues lie with the woman, shouldn't any woman, no matter the case , insist on condoms? if i recall women are more at risk as far as contracting stds is concerned.

i am all for female emancipation etal, and that means taking responsibility for your business

as a woman, there are some guys you will get it on with - no one will tell you to use morning after pill if there was no protection - you will just look at the guy and know that you do not want to spend the rest of your life tied to this guy in that way.

isn't the whole abortion \birth control debate about women's ownership and control of their bodies?

are we thus ceding control of women's bodies back to men?

the issue i keep seeing, unfortunately is women do not always want the responsibility that comes with emancipation. in the end we are fully responsible for our own lives and our own choices. if this fellow in this case is hit by a bus tomorrow, what happens?

crackhaus:
Cool.

So as part of it, when he then says "babe I don't want this baby, you've got to terminate it"... What happens?

ornicus:
for better or worse, we are not in the stone ages. a decision to have sex/shagg/fkkk is not a decision to bring a life into the world
that decision was taken solely by the mother. why should the man bear the consequences of her decision? that honestly feels like gross irresponsibility - one of the areas where western law skews unfairly towards women

this is not the case of a guy stringing a woman along with promises of marriage

we were joking about it in the office the other day, that in the end, the decision to have a child rests with the wife. that if madam decides she will have another pikin, there is nothing you can do, even if you will be saddled with responsibilities you did not plan for

LarryBee1k:
It's better to move on and be depressed over what you can't have. I don't blame them. When 80 percent of girls want only top 20 percent of men. Ain't that a biitch?

ornicus:
It takes two to make one, but was the man's decision considered in all this?

This same thing happened to eddie murphy and Mel b. They had a one night stand, she got pregnant, carri2e the baby to term, and then eddie murphy was stuck with child support ( she took him to court).

She had multiple opportunities to terminate the pregnancy, from morning after pill to abortions but she chose to go all the way without the Father's agreement. Now a man who had no interest in being a father is in the first place is being tagged as a deadbeat.

We can call the guy deadbeat etal, but did he take any part in the decision to have the baby?

Our having mutually enjoyable sex does not count as a decision to bring a life that resources are not available for into this world

kemicalreaction:

sassysure:
Do u mind people that are busy hailing him online.
Nigerian govt that's looking for who to frustrate.
The guy has giving them long rope to crucify him.

U dodge them any way u can.

I hope they will carry placards for the guy when it starts.

lilmax:
easy

invite every blood related in your life to your house, that's all

MJBOLT:

i know you are guilty of at least 11 of the things op listed

starbuck:
My favourite

Niyoda:
Earlier today

cococandy:
Egusi with fufu
Jollof rice
Hawaiian rice
Fried chicken
Fried fish and fried plantains with pepper sauce
Goat and shaki peppersoup
Puff puff
Coleslaw
Meat pies

Etc
All my guests had enough to eat and take home with them.
I just like to cook sha and I use parties as my excuse but you only live once and food is life. Soooo....

To be continued next party season.