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essenceplus:
Smh vigorously. You need to be frivolously fvkced to return to base

essenceplus:
You're posturing. When you're more neutral I'll respond. For now no. We don't worship marriage nor vagina but cherish healthy marital relations

essenceplus:
Babe you need to be here and see the trending rates of divorce. We K ow what we're saying trust me. I listen to talk shows on radio on a daily and guess what, on one occasion almost 3 OAPs talked about this same issues that looking back the reasons they divorced were flimsy and if they could undo their action they would. Western action brings an expectation that many times folks here don't match against the intensity of an event, at the flip of a coin it's straight divorce. It's sickening. These days they even divorce without bringing issues to their pattern which suggests divorce based on assumptions, faulty logic, assumed perceptions, misconceptions and what nots.although they had their own crisis I admire the relationship BTW will Smith and jada. I watched them from the get go and loved the way they exuded we were going to give our marriage the best we can even if we hit a. Rock and guess what when the storms comes its often a test of resolve. These storms reveals what's Innate. Its what was first ideolized that becomes practical during those times. These are the stuffs we're saying. The ability to have as much staying power and choice power so not throw at a divorce at the flip of an hat. It's sickening

essenceplus:
I'll roast those men on stakes. I swear it


Anyway we don't seem to imply enduring abusive marriages. Not in anyway. My position on marriage is clear. Be while before going into it. Especially to my male folks who have a mandate to lead and protect. No woman should endure an abusive marriage. We have enough deaths on our hands. We don't want more blood. What I mean and the OP to some extent mean is the ability to sit down as a couple and put energy and will to build sustainable relations not jumping out without second thought over more or less flimsy reasons.



Any abusive husband needs help.

Cc ibkayee

essenceplus:
You're sure you don't have unique ideas to add. I mean I've never seen a plan before

Ilamina:
1sharon

Missraine69
Ibkayee

essenceplus:
More oil. Aptly put


Ibkayee where are you o

uuzba:
You guys are just funny
Is the man not a human being? Is he not expect to react in anyway to a naked woman?
Will the sister be exposing nyash and breast 24/7 in his house and he will do nothing about it?
Portiphar's wife did similar thing to Joseph and Joseph ran out of the room
So should this man run out of his own house?
Surely we should encourage him to send the girl out of his presence and insist she cover herself, or leave the house
Infact, she should now leave the house and never return for putting such thought in his head

ornicus:
Kai ibk, you sound like a Nigerian.what about chemistry?
Do you guys have the same interests?

I think that should be number one. You can both talk doom, cosplay, religion, whatever it is that you both
enjoy.

Earning potential always a popular choice, but that is is relative in the sense that things can get weird if there is a significant difference in your earnings. One person's decisions may look wasteful while the others will look overly conservative

INDUSTRIALFAN:
we aren't suffering... Lol... It is what it is. We are easily moved by what we see that is what most times, no matter how pretty a woman is or was, if after marriage she doesn't keep up with appearances like she used to while courting, she risks sharing her man with someone who is more in vogue. Not making excuses Nd not saying no man can control his stupid feelings but its genetic wiring. That you fell in love and married one don't mean your mind won't think dirty every once in a while.

Mstick:
Please nobody wakes up and decides to divorce, there must have been series of events that led to that. Divorce isn't cheap and easy, staying together when things ain't working is. My mom left my dad after 30 years and we (my siblings and I) wished it had happened earlier. Their marriage was a battlefield and the whole church and family meetings didn't make it easier because no matter what my dad does heck even if he broke my mum's head she still had to beg even when its glaring that she wasn't at fault. My parents divorce was the BEST solution to their wars because now we can relate with them individually unlike before. My point is this; sometimes staying together for the sake of the kids isn't really always what's best for the kids.

essenceplus:
Healthy marriage must be intentional. Now I've got couchy to eat. Bye

essenceplus:
Smh. Too much nollywood is affecting you?

essenceplus:
Repetitive negative behaviour needs psychiatric attention.

INDUSTRIALFAN:
he has had the opportunity twice and he didn't. Women should understand that we men are moved by what we see. Men are visual being while you women re moved by what you hear mostly. He is in a difficult situation and trust me... He has tried to not sleep with her on both occasions he was alone with her. I hope he doesn't fall before it is resolved.

essenceplus:
Whoever said I was toxic.

You missed the OP's position. If ladies don't separate from root families even during heated times. Why not resolve issues in a marriage. Why is exit the default approach to fixing issues


Oh and for the books, I'm clean, suave, posh, polished, refined. I'm your dream man

essenceplus:
I'll live with you na

Bossjakande:
if u say a man cheat more Dan once before u gjvr up u should be talking of forgiveness and stronger marriage not divorce.u are a Christain.if hubby cheat on u find out why if d fault is with u.go for cancelling. If not den u still go for cancelling. And if he keep cheating den u know he is stupid.u can seprate for a while. A man is a cheater today dosnt mean he cant change tomorrow.

Acidosis:
What about the option to pick sensible partners since we all have the freedom the generation craves for?

essenceplus:
Work on your staying power. Focusing on positives increases this. Staying away from mentally disturbed people would avert all forms of abuses to an extent. People ought to know how to communicate effectively without any form of manipulative strategies or abuse in a marriage

essenceplus:
it's sad really. I was about asking this chick out to be my wife and had a premonition. My heart sank so this thread draws close to home. Too bad I had to shank her after it. I can't kill myself. Surrogacy all the way

Bossjakande:
guwop give me 5 reason u can divorce ur hubby

essenceplus:
Yes. I'm all over the place o. I'm even in your room now. I won't allow you be saving for divorce for a fight that hasn't happened from what I give to you never. You either stop working and manage the home or forget about this marriage ( Meanwhile you're 39 with no more suitors besides me) Manipulation rocks baby

essenceplus:
That's the problem. Containment. The ability to be successful yet be grounded emotionally not to have a default flight approach to issues but a fix it approach. You know I was thinking about this deeply tonight and I have a partial solution. Ibkayee you must stop working and depend on me Nothing from me, you can't survive. This way you'll sit upj

essenceplus:



See why I say you can't handle success. What's your career about again. Taking wrongly parked car numbers . And you find this better than building a home for your kids.

Very soon we'll be booking ladies. Ibkayee I book you for my nephew once you break up with King