Romance › Re: ''stop Depending On A Man's Money'' - Lady Blasts Her Fellow Ladies by ibkayee(f): 12:46pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Womenareape: [s]will you shut up there 
If your father exploit your mother for sex just to bring you up doesn't mean others do so!
Stop thinking with your vagina and start thinking with your brain[/s] Shhh |
Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Need A Lesbian Partner In Port Harcourt by ibkayee(f): 12:37pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
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Romance › Re: ''stop Depending On A Man's Money'' - Lady Blasts Her Fellow Ladies by ibkayee(f): 12:26pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
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Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Need A Lesbian Partner In Port Harcourt by ibkayee(f): 12:15pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Bossjakande: ibkayee is ur friend on nairaland do u have white friends. She isn’t on nairaland, yes I have white friends lol |
Romance › Re: ''stop Depending On A Man's Money'' - Lady Blasts Her Fellow Ladies by ibkayee(f): 12:07pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
killsmith: what's the difference between you and a prostitute? Lol we’ve already accepted our post since All you need to do is breathe a little too hard and you’re an olosho so why not make real money  |
Romance › Re: ''stop Depending On A Man's Money'' - Lady Blasts Her Fellow Ladies by ibkayee(f): 11:51am On Jun 07, 2019 |
As long as men continue to exploit women for sex, baby gehl continue taking his money
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Romance › Re: “ I Want To Be Your Friend” by ibkayee(f): 11:45am On Jun 07, 2019 |
Just asked my friend who is not even Nigerian herself 
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Romance › Re: After Having Sex And The Person Says " I Have HIV " ? by ibkayee(f): 11:43am On Jun 07, 2019 |
Lmao |
Romance › Re: “ I Want To Be Your Friend” by ibkayee(f): 11:40am On Jun 07, 2019 |
sod09:
 This lady, I give up  |
Romance › Re: “ I Want To Be Your Friend” by ibkayee(f): 11:36am On Jun 07, 2019 |
Bossjakande: at my age I wont be commenting on dis kind post by teenage girls wey Neva grow breast finish. look and pass Abi o |
Romance › Re: “ I Want To Be Your Friend” by ibkayee(f): 11:36am On Jun 07, 2019 |
sod09: okay let's start again, can we be friends ibukun? Lol the context matters, since you’re only saying it to prove a point it doesn’t count |
Romance › Re: “ I Want To Be Your Friend” by ibkayee(f): 11:29am On Jun 07, 2019 |
sod09: you should judge those you have met and not concluding over all. Not cool Ok ‘not all’, but enough to see a pattern |
Romance › Re: “ I Want To Be Your Friend” by ibkayee(f): 11:26am On Jun 07, 2019 |
sod09: I'm always suprise how to are quick to come to conclusion with Nigeria men. Is London the new Lagos You sounded like you have met all Nigeria men I’ve met enough offline and online to reach this conclusion  |
Romance › Re: “ I Want To Be Your Friend” by ibkayee(f): 11:21am On Jun 07, 2019 |
Not every guy that is being friendly towards you is attracted to you or wants to date you sha. But ‘I want to be you friend’, especially coming from Nigerian guys usually means they want to try their luck at developing a relationship with you that could potentially become romantic, being friends will just be the starting point. When people just want to be friends with you they don’t normally approach/say it like that lol It’s not a bad thing, but 9/10 times he doesn’t just want to be ‘friends’. Friend ko  |
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Family › Re: What Exactly Is The Importance Of HUMILITY? by ibkayee(f): 10:20pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
pocohantas: My woman crush... People with that name tend to be great |
Family › Re: What Exactly Is The Importance Of HUMILITY? by ibkayee(f): 10:00pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
The Nigerian version is when Ibukun Awosika said she still kneels down to serve her husband despite her success lol |
Family › Re: What Exactly Is The Importance Of HUMILITY? by ibkayee(f): 9:52pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
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Literature › Re: How Do You Date A Creative Artist? by ibkayee(f): 9:46pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
firestar: My bestie!  How are you Love? You alright? I miss ya loads! 
I mean in all ways: meet-ups, actual dating, married to one... Doing well dear, you know I’ve missed you too!  I can definitely see you with a creative artist, you come across as very artsy yourself  Urm meet ups? Maybe go to museums, art galleries? As for dating, I don’t know, I don’t think ever dated an artsy guy before  1 Like |
Family › Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by ibkayee(f): 8:34pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
twhy111: and the marriage would be govern by what teachings?? Unless you got married to a white and stay clear of African men. Tell me a tribe here in Nigeria that has deem it fit for a husband and wife to be at par when it comes to decisions making, right and responsibilities. To RESPECT your spouse is one thing to be SUBMISSIVE is another thing. The way you guys cherry pick biblical teachings to suit yourselves is hilarious lol. All of a sudden the marriage ‘must be governed by biblical teachings!’, I’m convinced they sell men a version of the bible that excludes the bits about fornication and adultery. Thank God my dating pool can go beyond non progressive Nigerian men lol |
Family › Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by ibkayee(f): 8:03pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
twhy111: Then your resolution does not align with getting married. Of course as an adult nobody has the right to tell you how to live your life. But should in case you decide to get married then you need to give the term 'submission' a thought. You don’t need to agree to ‘submit’ to get married. Not everyone’s marriage/life is governed by the biblical teachings like that. |
Romance › Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by ibkayee(f): 7:20pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Ocon: He who has an Ear, Let him hear...
I can't shout!!  Lmao |
Romance › Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by ibkayee(f): 6:55pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
ornicus: You have accurately described it. They are both gaming each other. We can not say how it will end. He is taking advantage of her poverty to get himself a future trophy wife, and she is taking advantage of his lust to set herself up for a better future.
If during the time she is in school, the guy polishes himself, they may still be able to roll. If not the girl will be ashamed of the raz , smelly trader as her own levels or her perception of her levels ( great expectations tins) have changed. I actually cackled  |
Literature › Re: How Do You Date A Creative Artist? by ibkayee(f): 5:26pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Firestar, my one and only!  What do you mean exactly? As per how do you find one? How do you relate with one? 1 Like 1 Share |
Romance › Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by ibkayee(f): 5:20pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Mcslize: 18 years old girl na madam o. Forget about the age and look atbit from the body stature aspect, you will be shocked how matured they look in figure and posture. I once saw a girl of 19 years. First, I thought she would be around 25 to 27. But I was shocked when she said she was 19.
I opened my mouth for like 60 seconds I no grrre close am due to how surprised I was. From that day, I never judge a girl by her figure. I’m talking about her mental maturity, not her body lol and this is the problem. She’s technically an adult but she still has a lot of mental development and experiences to go through compared to a 30 year old. Anyway, shebi I said they should flourish lol |
Family › Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by ibkayee(f): 4:56pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
doitforyou: I agree. Women are not that complicated, you don't even need to command it out of her. She will love and respect you completely. Exactly. Too many dusty Nigerian men wanting it by default |
Romance › Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by ibkayee(f): 4:54pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Mcslize: Not every one loves marrying their age mates. I am one of them like the Op. Women age faster than men. I have noticed that most of the ladies I am older than even with 2 to 3 years always look way older than I am. Yes they look way older in appearance.
An instance was when one nairalands shared his prewedding pics, instead of wishing the guy happy marrisge life, majority of persons were asking if the lady was her aunty cuz she looks older and the guy appeared younger in facial appearance.
We are not talking about Regina and Ned here. A guy of 30 wanting to settle down with a lady of 18 approaching 19, I see nothing wrong in that. Mind you, the girl is aging every minute that passes by. The way she looks today won't be how she will look next year, don't forget. Lol a 30 year old trying to get with an 18 year old is creepy to me. Periodt |
Family › Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by ibkayee(f): 4:39pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
liberalchick: Who is this one?
This internet make people delusional. What my dead mother-in-law accomplished while she was alive, you will never reach a speck of it in your lifetime. You better put respect on that name, what has my poor dead mother-in-law got to do with this thread If you don’t agree, state why and keep it moving like a matured logical human being instead of involving a dead woman you don’t even know. Don’t let her ghost haunt you o I heard she was a feisty woman when she was alive.
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Family › Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by ibkayee(f): 4:09pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
doitforyou: What you just typed is NOT submission. You just typed you don't believe in the real definition of submission. You don't want to be against the word 'submission' because Nigerian society has conflated submission and respect. Those mean two different things. So you think if you say I wont submit then it must mean I wont respect my husband, which is not true. Submit is submit, meaning you have to YEILD to a higher authority. Ok fair point, respect isn’t the word I should’ve used since you can respect your husband without having to take on the ‘assistant’ role lol. I should’ve just said if he plays his part well, you don’t need to tell her submit twice, given that’s what she wants to do. I’ll change it |
Family › Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by ibkayee(f): 3:53pm On Jun 06, 2019*. Modified: 4:21pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Biblically, the man is in charge of his home and the woman is his helpmate/‘support system’/whatever lol.
Problem is a lot people ignorantly, deviously and sometimes innocently mistake this to mean complete control and a lack of say on her part.
To me, it does not mean she is supposed to simply agree with everything he says and/or he make unilateral decisions without communicating them with her, he is meant to take her opinions into consideration whilst representing as the head. She is not supposed to follow blindly or completely lose her independence, her role is to guide him on his path of leadership. If you subscribe to that, cool no problem. I personally don’t see any problem with it if she’s doing it WILLINGLY and he actually deserves it.
Deserves it as per playing his part well by loving her ‘sacrificially’, providing, protecting, being understanding etc. The wife is supposed to submit under these circumstances. Problem is most guys demanding this aren’t playing their part, that’s how you will see one useless man demanding ‘submission’ by default when he hasn’t done sh*t to earn it. When a woman is being treated well you won’t even need to tell her twice before she plays the submissive role (given she wants to do so)
There are couples who aren’t into this dynamic and their marriages are faring well. It depends on the individuals. If both husband and wife are into it, cool, if both husband and wife prefer another approach, also cool, problem is when it’s being forced on someone or being manipulated to suit selfish interests |
Family › Re: I’m Tired Of My Husband - Wife Tells Court by ibkayee(f): 1:38pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
LuciferMessiah: Speaking of cheats... your sidekick, pocohantas...  Pocohantas got you pregnant at the same time as her lover too? Explains the raging hormones  |
Family › Re: I’m Tired Of My Husband - Wife Tells Court by ibkayee(f): 1:08pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Davash222: [s]A 39-year old ‘housewife’ claiming the husband does not provide upkeep and education of their children?? Who then is providing for the family since the woman is a housewife 
Women and their manipulations!! [/s] Quoted from the website ”The embattled woman, Mrs. Anthonia, told the Court that she was the one paying their house rent yet her husband, Ikechukwu, will not give her peace due to constant beatings to the extent that the owner of their house had to chase them away” |