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Family › Re: Woman Throws Away Old Photos Of Her Husband And His Late Wife Out Of Jealousy by ibkayee(op): 8:22pm On Jun 04, 2019

nwanneni:
hi ibk,how are you.
Please I need to talk to you now,just 5mins Ok?
I wanna ask you something please

Yeah sure, do you remember my email? You can send a message there

Family › Re: My Husband Is Cheating On Me With Our Neighbor! Hurting Real Bad by ibkayee(f): 7:21pm On Jun 04, 2019

czarina:
Wow! Well-done

Penisinpenisout:
Thanks.

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Family › Re: You Think You're Better Right? by ibkayee(f): 5:41pm On Jun 04, 2019

Raalsalghul:
Hmmm! What changed.
Saw you as the timid type.

Lol I don’t know, you tell me

Politics › Re: British Court seized Abacha loot worth £211m by ibkayee(f): 3:56pm On Jun 04, 2019

Frankiss44:
No matter how much they recover from us, we can never be as poor as dangote - Gamsu Abacha

This statement is beginning to make sense now isn't it?

Lmao this is exactly what came to mind when I saw the news

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Sports › Re: Mohamed Salah Avoids Kiss From A Female Reporter (Photos) by ibkayee(f): 3:46pm On Jun 04, 2019

You can tell who didn’t actually watch the video

She didn’t try to kiss him, looks she leant in so he could hear her better. But I don’t blame him for inching backwards in that split second

Family › Re: My Husband Is Cheating On Me With Our Neighbor! Hurting Real Bad by ibkayee(f): 3:19pm On Jun 04, 2019

Don’t waste any useless prayer on him. Cheating is one thing, his lack of remorse and arrogance has sealed the deal. He has also given the girl he cheated with wings to address you anyhow.

I’d pack out if I were you personally and get a divorce. But then again, I’m not privy to your financial situation and don’t know if you’d have the means to make such drastic decisions, especially with a 4 month old baby.

It’s up to you, you’re better positioned to make the most practical decision since you’re the one in the situation. Are you a full time housewife? Do you have your own money?

I’m reluctant to advise you seek the help of your family because we know how that usually goes for a woman. But if you have understanding family members that you can stay with, go to them for the time being if you want to be in a different environment and can’t afford to do so alone.

Most important thing is to ~~leave him~~ make the best and safest decision for yourself and the baby.

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Foreign Affairs › Re: Trump Advocates For Gay Rights! by ibkayee(f): 2:03pm On Jun 04, 2019*

sod09:
that Man is not stable

He’s stable, just lacks integrity and panders to whatever side will benefit him. But it’s politics sha, you play the cards you’re given I suppose

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Foreign Affairs › Re: Trump Advocates For Gay Rights! by ibkayee(f): 1:43pm On Jun 04, 2019

Same guy that banned transgenders from the military. Removed pages on LGBTQ rights from government websites within hours of being sworn in and does not want the 2020 census to include questions about sexual orientation, just to name a few completely contradictory actions to his words of support.

This is just a photo op.

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Foreign Affairs › Re: Donald Trump Mocked In United Kingdom (Photos) by ibkayee(f): 1:22pm On Jun 04, 2019

Lool

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Music/Radio › Re: VIDEO: Olamide – Oil And Gas by ibkayee(f): 1:17pm On Jun 04, 2019

Video is better than the song

Family › Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by ibkayee(f): 10:45am On Jun 04, 2019

bukatyne:
You have not explained how this works in marriage.

Imagine every situation I’ve written in my reply, but the person going through it is married and the perpetrator is their spouse.

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Family › Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by ibkayee(f): 10:35am On Jun 04, 2019

bukatyne:
The previous OP would have helped you understand.

Rape via threat, emotional manipulation and verbal abuse.

If someone says you should put your hand inside fire else he would slap you, would you put it? This is my understanding of a threat.

I would like examples of your second paragraph.

There is a spectrum of sexual assault, it isn’t just physical abuse.

If a person I knew could inflict some sort of harm
on me told me to put my hand in fire else he would slap me, there’s a chance the pressure/fear would force me into doing it. Or if they were in a position of power to threaten my livelihood for example, spread rumours about me etc, essentially holding me back in an area of life in one way or another. Threatening a family member/friend, threatening my child etc.

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Family › Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by ibkayee(f): 10:05am On Jun 04, 2019

bukatyne:
Forceful sex without physical abuse?

How does that work?

We keep veering off on tangents, dunno why we’re focusing on the topic of physical abuse despite what I’ve said.

Rape can happen via threats, emotional manipulation, verbal abuse and any other way you can coerce someone into doing something they don’t want to do without inflicting physical injuries.

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Family › Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by ibkayee(f): 8:51am On Jun 04, 2019

bukatyne:
You needed to read the other thread to get the link.

I read the thread.

You say marital rape is sex without consent in marriage.

I say marriage gives consent therefore, there can be no rape in marriage.

And I said what’s not illegal isn’t always ethical. I also pointed out how far back these laws were written, it is important to consider the era. You can rape your spouse, you just can’t be prosecuted for it, but that does not mean it is not wrong.

However, during the act, a spouse can be assaulted and should seek redress for physical abuse or attempted murder in severe cases.

I saw what you said about physical abuse in the thread, it just hasn’t got much to do with what I’m saying. The rape that can be committed without physical abuse is the one I’m talking about since you already addressed the ‘severe case’ conditions concerning physical abuse.

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Family › Re: Talented But Not Ambitious. Help Me!!! by ibkayee(f): 8:28am On Jun 04, 2019

Bossjakande:
baby girl why dis.

You are a funny man uncle Jak

Family › Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by ibkayee(f): 8:26am On Jun 04, 2019

bukatyne:
If you read the thread, you would understand the link between what you call marital rape and physical abuse.

I did not mention anything about advocacy of physical abuse in my comment, you brought it up and are essentially countering a point I did not make.

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Family › Re: Talented But Not Ambitious. Help Me!!! by ibkayee(f): 8:10am On Jun 04, 2019

Bossjakande:
uyi pls dont chat much in family rooms. dose married women will teach u wrongly and decieved u why dey are happily married

Screams

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Romance › Re: Name A Nairalander You Can Marry Blindly Even Without Seeing His Or Her Photo by ibkayee(f): 7:25am On Jun 04, 2019

Bossjakan.de

Family › Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by ibkayee(f): 11:09pm On Jun 03, 2019

crackhaus:
It's obvious you didn't see my comments on the deleted thread.

I didn’t, I was focused on the one you made in this one

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Family › Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by ibkayee(f): 10:44pm On Jun 03, 2019

crackhaus:
Are we talking about rape or marital rape here?
If you're going to try your hand at sarcasm, at least start off on the right footing.

And yes, marital rape is still a deeply polarizing subject regardless of being made illegal in most countries.

Your comment about ‘offensive being the word of the day’ would’ve been distasteful no matter what ‘class’ of rape I was referring to though.

I’m talking about someone forcing themselves on another person sexually in any capacity. Whatever sub group you want to put it in lol.

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Family › Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by ibkayee(f): 10:42pm On Jun 03, 2019

bukatyne:
Is there any thread apart from the Islamic section not open for discussion?

Anyone who read the read well would not see advocacy for physical abuse during sex.

I didn’t say anything about places it couldn’t or couldn’t be discussed. My point was that the premise of the thread was not framed around talking about how messed up the ‘laws’ were.

I didn’t mention anything about physical abuse either. Whatever the marital rape you were talking about in the thread constitutes is what I’m talking about.

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Family › Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by ibkayee(f): 9:37pm On Jun 03, 2019

crackhaus:
Lmao.. Deeply polarizing subject.

'Offensive' is Nairaland's word of the day.

Lol rape is a ‘deeply polarising’ subject? Lol yeah sometimes...

Phones › Re: Facebook Launch Avatars Bitmoji,for Messenger by ibkayee(f): 7:49pm On Jun 03, 2019

When is Nairaland going to change its emojis

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Celebrities › Re: Is Teni A Lesbian? - Speed Darlington Questions Teniola Apata's Sexuality by ibkayee(f): 7:00pm On Jun 03, 2019

sod09:
you know

Men that fvck goats, when did you guys start having ‘standards’? cheesy

I don’t even think she’s ‘ugly’, anyway these things are subjective I guess lol

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Family › Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by ibkayee(f): 6:58pm On Jun 03, 2019*

What I got from the thread was that the concept of marital rape is not recognised in the Nigerian constitution, the Bible and the Quran so it is acceptable if you got married under the Nigerian court or practice any of these religions, since it isn’t seen as rape even though it technically is.

Sounded like indirect advocacy to me to be honest. My main qualm with the thread was the fact that impressionable and insincere minds may take it and run with it. Plus the way it was framed did not sound like it was meant to open discourse for ways it can be criminalised for example, it sounded like ‘this is how it is and that’s that’ because so and so (insert some sort of ‘sovereign’ law here) said so.

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