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RadioMOUTH:
I have been dating a girl over a year now, she has been so nice to me over this one year, I was in another relationship before I met her... she was so nice to me that I had to dump the other girl which I dated from 2014 till early (2020... about 6 years)

Right now, I don't know what to comment on my relationship anymore.... she helped me stop crack and other hard drugs which I was taking...(I appreciate that from her)


Before I met her she has a 6year old daughter which is now 7... ever since I met her.. I've been doing my best, I Normally spend my money in hotels and clubs but now it ends in the house... I love her daughter like she's mine, and she knows that... I pay her fees..


BUT HERE IS THE PROBLEM



I'm a hot tempered person, words annoy me rather than action... I destroy things when I'm angry... I'm just 27 years old and she's 28... a programmer by profession..m I own a land and a personal car today...


She's respectful and does what a woman will do to satisfy every man, but most times when I'm broke, there's always trouble in the house... and I feel loved when I have money...


I have never hit a woman my whole life till I met her, now I'm used to beating and shouting... now she's even telling me I talk too much when I'm complaining..

This was never my life...


Please I need options..m what do I do, I've just few hours ago hit her, because I saw her texting someone and she rescued to open her phone... causing damage on her left eye .... please what do I do....


I don't want to kill someone because I now feel I'm obsessed about her... I'm confused


Modified:

My old relationship was worst... I found love and care in this lady...

If I tell you to stop hitting her, would you?
Work on your temper bro. It's better to walk away when provoked than say or do something you will regret later.

Women are known to always run their mouth. When that happens, do not exchange words with her, otherwise you may not control your anger and end up beating her again.

Learn to always ignore and walk away. Mastering this two things will help you greatly now and in the future.

NairalandProf:
Women are not above the law when it comes to assaulting a man. If there is ample evidence that you acted in self-defense, you are not likely to be arrested in such a scenario.

As a man, you are not allowed to act in self-defense against a woman, regardless of the level of assault from her, otherwise you will be termed a woman beater.
I believe that's the whole point of this write-up.

NairalandProf:
In fact, if a woman is the aggressor and physically attacks you, not only are you legally justified in responding with an appropriate amount of force, but moreover, you can have her arrested, at least in theory.

It's not about being legally justified to retaliate, It's about ↓

They cry fowl and play the victim when the man resist or fight back knowing they will get sympathizers.

NairalandProf:
I say at least in theory because sadly, many police officers might be hesitant to effectuate such an arrest unless of course you have sustained undeniable injuries.

Exactly.
But if reverse should be the case, the police needs no further proof to put the man behind bars even if the lady sustains NO injury. All the police need is a false claim by the lady and the man is done for.

The law highly favour the female gender, yet they always claim to be oppressed.

AutoChick4U:
Lies. There are people who give me money that I haven't seen or intend seeing. Na orientation sha.

You reason like a typical Nigerian girl.
What do u know

ianq:
Good man...
And he hasn't even thanked you for taking the time

I don't mind bro

Gambit23:
Wrong men nko

The ladies can create a thread on that.
That's what they do best, apparently.

Ogamysamo:
guy write am na make people like me benefit. i take God beg you.

can't wait to read

Don't worry, I gat u.

A lady took her sick husband to a doctor for checkup. The doctor, after examining the man's condition, told the lady what and how to take very good care of her sick husband to make him recover:

Doctor: Your husband is suffering from a very severe stress disorder. If you don't do the following he will surely die.
Each morning fix him a healthy breakfast. Be
pleasant at all times. For lunch make him a nutritious meal. For dinner prepare an especially nice meal No chores.
No nagging. Oh yes, and make love
several times a week. Do this for the next year and he'll regain his health
completely.

On their way home, the man (her husband) asked the lady (his wife) what the doctor said, and she replied:

Wife: You are going to die.

That's it bro. Don't make me do this again
Go buy a smartphone

Pick the wrong lady for marriage, and your case will be as, or worse than the meme below. No jokes

I'm not trynna scare you guys, I'm just being brutally honest

iExplore:
A lady took her sick husband to a doctor for checkup. The doctor, after examining the man's condition, told the lady what and how to take very good care of her sick husband to make him recover:

Doctor: Your husband is suffering from a very severe stress disorder. If you don't do the following he will surely die.
Each morning fix him a healthy breakfast. Be
pleasant at all times. For lunch make him a nutritious meal. For dinner prepare an especially nice meal No chores.
No nagging. Oh yes, and make love
several times a week. Do this for the next year and he'll regain his health
completely.

On their way home, the man (her husband) asked the lady (his wife) what the doctor said, and she replied:

Wife: You are going to die.

That's it bro. Don't make me do this again
Go buy a smartphone

Everyone needs to have a smartphone with a good camera. That's the only evidence this days. This man may be old but very smart and current. He's well aware of our today's world.

Thank God for social media

BTW, Love has nothing to do with this. Better take that outta ya mind, silly

donbachi:
Op,Some men are Just blind.

Choices.

Some men only care about the lady being able to birth their children, and they get into it only to realize that there's more to marriage than just bearing children.

Some of this men wouldn't even out their as$es out of it, even after realizing at an early stage. They would wanna fix it until it becomes late.

When I say a high-value man, I don't mean just any man. I mean someone who is very respected and valued amongst his social groups, family and friends. Someone who is always looking good, well doing (Not necessarily rich, but comfortable) and responsible.

This type of high-value men do not tolerate some sort of irresponsible behavior from anyone, not even women. They control almost everything around them, and acts in-charge. They are more of leaders than followers.

Ladies finds this type of men very attractive.
In fact, there are ladies who wouldn't compromise for just any man. So, if you're that type of lady, read on...

A regular man wouldn't mind dating or getting married to just any woman. They don't tend to have a specific characteristics. This types of (regular) men wouldn't mind if their parent marries for them from the village, and well-bill their wife to them in the city. Like I said, they don't mind. But not a high-value man.

High-value men are strict when it comes to choosing a woman to date or possibly marry. They don't tolerate women with certain lifestyle and attitudes. They want their women to be more of feminine than feminists: Obedient, Submissive and Loyal.

Below are the complete characteristics a high-value man seeks from or of a woman.

Uncompromised:
• Obedience
• Submissive
• Responsible
• Fashionista
• Intellect
• Loyal

Additionally:
•Great cook
•Gymnastically active

Just like a high-value man, the above characteristics are the features of a high-value woman. While a regular woman would want to be with a high-value man, a high-value man wants to be with a high-value woman. That's just how it works.

Do you check all the boxes of the Uncompromised characteristics a high-value man seeks? If not, work on yourself, or otherwise settle for a regular man.

sapphiere:
Did you know that without feminism, we wouldn't have gotten people like Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, Kamala Harris, Angela Merkel etc? Feminisms open doors for equality and women empowerment. I spits on any women who rejects the movement.

You know absolutely nothing about feminism, yet no day goes by without you spewing trash, trying to defend it.

Imagine the rubbish you wrote up there.
SMH...

BigBills:
https://www.tiznaija.com

Bokoharam terrorists have once again surprised Nigeria with the emergence of their new Leader in a video calling for revenge over the killing of the former leader, Abubakar Shekau

@ The bolded...
If a sachet of water could go from N5 to N20, then nothing surprises me anymore in this country.

I wonder what this country will look like come 2023; That's if we survived to see it.

OyigboUpdate:
Emmanuel Kanu raped a girl in Ubakala. Ijelespeaks is willing to go to court to prove this

Speak this out loud and hear how stupid you sound.

The stupidity of some Nairalanders will leave you shocked.

Take a close look at the said bank manager..
You could tell she's a Jezebel. Very irresponsible joyless psychopath, who is on the path to destruction.

Educated illiterate

DEMZEE:
Simp is someone who doesn't know his worth and value, is someone who wud self degenerate himself and his value to please the other gender. Simp is someone who pedestalizes the other gender for the aim of being recognized and loved ie negotiating genuine desire.

A simp is a low valued beta male period!

Good boy.
Firstly, I'm not in the business of pleasing any gender, if you've seen my other threads, you would know. You can't use my personal opinion on a particular topic to judge my entire personality.

In your mind, you think you are an Alpha Male? . Come lemme teach you how to game.

I could see you dancing to your phone each time I replied your mention.
I will not dignify you with another reply.

DEMZEE:
I didn't say it guarantees respect. All I'm saying is if u accept a woman hyphenating ur surname with hers or allow her to disregard it surname entirely it shows u are beta male simp and u are low valued period!

Define simp?

DEMZEE:
Any woman who doesn't want to bear ur surname but wud rather prefer hyphenating hers with urs or just bears hers alone shouldn't even b considered a wife material period.

By her doing all that shows she doesnt respect u, women can't love men they don't respect but they can tolerate men they don't respect for a while.

It also shows she sees ur SPERM and ur genes are invaluable and useless infact she will want a baby rather than want ur baby. Ur genealogy is useless and disgusting to her also.

Having just your surname doesn't guarantee respect, neither does it prove she's a wife material. Her personality cannot be concluded based on her decision to carry-on her family name.

Besides, any lady that cannot respect me whether as a boyfriend or husband will not be tolerated. I value my respect more than anything.

If she can't treat me like a king, she's leaving. My kids stays with me. If she does treat me like a king, I treat her like a queen.

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If I have only one girl child, and she's getting married, I wouldn't want her to completely give up her surname for obvious reasons

Theboy21:
Op, have you eaten ??

No, man. You can take me out though, and give me some treats.

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Calm down boss

Catfishing:
you ended up saying NOTHING...maybe you need that job the more

Hahaha.
I can feed you for the rest of your life bro.
I will not dignify you with another reply

javaguru:
ha, ur opinion tire me o, ur Daughters love is in the heart not with the name , the women will lose more if they go with ur opinion.
her pride
husband property incase of dispute
she'll not even get anything with her father name if there's a son.
Na loss o

Don't get me wrong bro.
I never said she will not have her husband's name. She'll definitely have it.

Here's an example: Jessica Parker Lawrence . Where Jessica Parker is her maiden name and Lawrence her husband surname

chatinent:
But would you want your supposed wife give up her father's Smith to bear your Ndufreke?

It's a matter of choice, and only her can decide that. She can decide to totally give up her father's name and have mine or she can keep both. But she's definitely having my surname; that's non-negotiable.

Palmerbarry:
I've always wanted to ask the above question. I am a very quiet person, an introvert, but in my head, I talk every seconds like a real talkative. From reasoning to prediction to past events, it keeps rotating.

Does this happen to you too, or its just me.
If it's just me, how bad is it to my health?

Please I need answers

It's not just you bro. I'm an introvert too. I think it's a thing for people like us

Traditionally, women are to give up their maiden name after marriage, and subsequently carry on their husband's surname.

This is good, as it changes a lady's title from Miss to Mrs. Therefore indicating the lady is married to her spouse. It also lets the society know they are no longer Boyfriend & Girlfriend, but married couple.

However, in my opinion, I think a lady giving up her maiden name (surname) is like giving up her identity. This is why the demand for male child, children was high, because fathers wants a child that will carry on the family name and identity.

In conclusion:
Married Ladies should legally have their name as; Example: Jessica Parker Lawrence . Where Jessica Parker is her maiden name and Lawrence her husband surname.

As a guy, I would wanna get married someday if fate permits. I wouldn't want my daughter totally giving up her family name.

Modified.
By identity, I meant the identity of the family she's born into. She'll be starting a new home/family with the husband, and creating a new identity altogether. I just feel that the family name of where she comes from should not totally be forgotten because she's married.

Catfishing:
Cry me a river.....she is an evening newspaper, argue with your keyboard

Accord some ladies (especially those you don't know in person ) some respect. Not everyone is as you think.

This Evening Newspaper sh!t is never funny. It only shows how stupid, irresponsible you could be.

Grow up and have something doing with your time.

OyigboUpdate:
We are patiently waiting for they are innocent crew

Your hatred for Igbos will be the end of you!

Did you have a face-to-face conversation with the said girl?
How about a video call?
If not, how are you sure you have the real picture of the scammer?

I don't pray you become a victim of Identity Theft, where a fraudster would use your personally-identifying information to carry out fraudulent activities.

No sane, smart scammer would use his or her real profile picture when scamming their victim.

Don't rush into defamation, without being 100% right. We're talking about someone reputation here.

sapphiere:
If my people "Nigerians" would humble themselves and vote in a woman as the president of the Federal Republic of Nigeria in the next general election, I will take away their sorrow.

I don't think a female can handle the affairs of this country. Especially at a time like this.

You can take the lead, nonetheless.

Mikecold:
Meanwhile the shirt and cap they gave them is more than 1k

Tomorrow you see them wearing the stuff as sign board not knowing it is the only thing they have

Lol

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