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Looks good. . . If there would be NO processing/ file fees.

Goodluck to all applicants.

Oh really? @OP.

Is this boss the owner of the business or the manager, a fellow employer?

The best and diplomatic way to go about it is to go with 2 of her referees to her boss and ask for her money or its equivalent.

~mans wickedness to man~

What reason did the boss give for the non payment of the salary?

Have she "asked" for the money?I know she's not supposed to but at this point, she has no option than to ask.

She can start job hunting now. Depending on what reply the boss gives her for not paying her, she can go with 2 of her referees and demand for her money or its equivalent(goods in the store)

No reason is good enough to withhold anyones 'full' salary. No matter how bad business is, the employee should pay atleast part of her salary if not for anything, for her feeding and taxi fare.

MBJ even if you don't care about your wife's tears as she's a cry baby with an itchy tear ducts, seeing your child wailing and the fact that you were minding the child before you dozed off won't arouse even a curiosity in you ?

You would just roll over and continue your sleep because mother and child are irrelevant ?

Na real wao.

MBJ, so let's even throw away the scenario here(wife was getting your dinner and you were minding the baby) and say you suddenly woke from sleep to see your wife crying and your baby wailing, your (reflex) reaction would be "hiss and go back to sleep" ? Wonderful!

CC, the next and only step now is the solely lying on the wife's shoulders. She's the one married and living with the man, she's the one on the receiving end of the slaps and kisses so whatever she decides, she would live with it. We've all made beautiful contributions, btw.

2 things I would never deny my husband in the face of an argument/misunderstanding while we are both still living under same roof, food and seex.
That's a childish, unhealthy and outdated tantrum. My husband go chop you, chop your food then table "matters arising" lol

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CC,do we select threads where we wait for other side of the story,more information from the OP before passing judgement giving our own little advice?

Most of the points you raised are all fair except the "inform your pastor" part.We all honestly know how that is going to end?The wife would go home with all the blames for pushing the husband to sin.

Acoording to the OP,he came home,was waiting for his dinner and minding the baby while at it before the baby dropped etal.How could he have dozed off ,was preparing to have dinner too when he's was angry. One would have expected him to just go to bed or hit the gym and punch away his stress as opposed to coming home to sleep and punch the wife. So he was angry and yet have mouth to eat?A sane man would have told the wife the moment he walks in that he had a bad day,yes?

Anyhoo,I find this thread amusing and fake to say the least.An educated lady in Jand does not know how to effectively handle a husband that drops their child and panel beats her cos the Queen peed in his tea at the office? BS

how many more times would he transfer his aggression on her before she'll do something?

chaircover: OK we have slept over it and tempers are now a little dampened, so what is the way forward?

This is what I think based on the 2 issues raised; the existing wifey and the beating

Existing wifey; which I am going to talk about first since this seems to be the wahala (although poster the sequence of events you narrated concerning the phone and the baby doenst seem to have anything to do with the other wife.)

1. The man needs to go back to Nigeria (if he has papers) and close that chapter. He needs to get his family to go to the girls family and apologize to them and sort things out. What he did to that girl was unacceptable and only if the girl knew that she was banned from the UK for 10 years and didn't tell him that his conscience free. If he knew that the girl was having existing issues with the embassy and he still married her traditionally, then he owes it to her to see her though. If he knows that he cant wait, which he hasn't as he has now married someone else, then they need to go and beg that girl and her family and if possible give her a token with the apology.

This is Nigeria and not all families take this kind of thing with kid gloves and his strange behavior now may be as a result of the girls family pushing buttons. I wont say more than that. People that understand what I am getting at know what I mean.

2. The man needs to call his UK wife and open up and tell her EVERYTHING including the details that he thinks are not important, so that he and his wife can move on. He needs to ask for his wifes forgiveness and he needs to also apologize and explain to the wifes immediate family what happened.

The Beating;
Its happened and we cant turn back the hands of time and although he has escaped the police this time. I will still report him to his church pastor and other elders that he respects in the church that he attends. He is a church worker and so they shouldnt take it lightly.
I will also report him to my family and the men in my family will get up and give him a severe warning. I will also report him to his own parents so that they can warn him never to do this again. At least he cant say that he doesn't know what to expect the next time he tries something like this. Let him know in no uncertain terms that if he lays the smallest finger on you, the police will be at your door in no time.

Once you have done all this, and he is truly remorseful, then go back to your home but I beg you please please please keep that baby safe from sny pounding or falling down. If you know that you are not ready to have or care for a baby as responsible parents, then please give that baby up to Social services.
I am sure both husband and wife know that had social services been informed about what happened to that baby, the baby would have been taken away from you both and you are both just very lucky.

Now to everyone else . . . . It helps one not to jump up when one hears one side or the first half of the story but to keep a listening ear for part 2 or the other side of the story. It also helps to read between the lines of what people say.

A lot of people were implying that this woman was always being abused and was probably too scared to call the police, even though oyarose clearly said "the unthinkable happened" which suggests that it is a one off incident and out of character. I also looked at the fact that this lady was in the choir, so she had a ready made family in the church and unless the pastor and all the elders in the church all beat their wives too, she would have had a lot of people she could have gone to report the matter to if she was too scared to call the police.

Just 2 weeks ago someone came crying to us that her boyfriend slapped her. We called the boyfriend and asked him what happened, only for him to say that they were having a verbal argument and he went to make himself a cup of tea but before he knew it, she in anger threw the hot tea at him. He jumped back but some of the tea burnt him. He showed us the burns and in his anger he slapped her once. What do you say to that? I am not saying that the poster provoked her husband, but I am just iterating the fact that many times there is more to the story.

Jenny, lmao.

I think the only real person on nld is born2fuck.

@topic, most of the stories here are fake. They are most times culled from papers, blogs that are desperately looking for traffic.

The few real ones are re-cooked and so photoshopped to achieve "wow" effect.

Visit a regular local court, illiterate women are divorcing their husbands for reasons bordering on battering, irresponsibility etc.

There are still lots and lots of good marriages in Naija but good news hardly sell so . . .

Argh, argh

Good old days. Mgbe ara kwu oto,Adam na Eve gboo oto,apple gbara kasa.

Uwa Oma

Oluchiva,wrong thread.

I googled Illific consulting and NO,you guys have no website but a blog.
Every reputable and serious consulting firm has a solid(not 1 page,quassi) website.

@OP,be very careful and wise.

First,which sort of Visa did your friend say he got you?I know it's almost impossible for a first timer to get a Dubai work permit and visa.Besides,it's expensive too,costs nothing less than 4000usd.Did your friend do all that for you or he got you the regular 2 weeks tourist visa?

Which company did he claim employ you?get that information from him or her,google the company and if you get leads,ask questions.

Generally speaking,there are NOT many jobs in Dubai now especially for non Emirates citizens,even in Abu Dhabi.Most of the Niaja boys in Dubai are just hanging by Deira park waiting for ladies that come shopping to help shop,package and ship their goods back to Naija for a couple of dirhams.

Accomodation in Dubai is expensive too.

And oh,a Dubai return ticket with Rwanda airlines is around 135,000 while Ethiopian and Kenyan airlines hangs around 148,000.Emirates and Qatar air goes for 190,000 and above.

PS:the exact air fare depends on your travel date.

Miss Ope please don't take offence,your intial post wasn't clear enough.

They might still call you.have you asked your friends that were called how it went?
Goodluck to you

btw,is chat the new word for interviews?
I won't employ anyone who in the course of an interview tells me s/he has been to company XYZ for a chat as opposed to an interview.We should be mindful of our language when job hunting,geninue and real companies are considering not just your degrees but also your language.

A marketing firm,Aggy.

You are quite honest.me likey.

Goodluck to all applicants.
Btw,hope there won't be processing,file,biro fees

How does liking a FBK page generate funds for a jobless man

If ever this works and is of any importance,you posted on the wrong section.

http://www.google.com/gwt/x?hl=en&u=http://www.shipsandports.org/Anews/FG_bans_NATFORCE.php%3Fid%3D1&client=ms-rim&q=Natforce+Nigeria&sa=X&ei=mZdFUKyIBoeo0QXQlIGwDQ&ved=0CB8QFjAC

Which Natforce ?

The one that has been banned by the federal government?Guy,go relax abeg.

Take a deep long breath. What are you trying to say dear?

Miss Ope: Gudevening guys,,pls i dont know if there's anyone who dis his /her chat on Monday 27th of August 2012 and hasn't gotten a call please let me know ooo...cos all my friends got a call but I have not..please let me know....Goodluck to those who have been called..

Enough said.

Scam!!!

Illific consulting doesn't have a website ?

Any file, pen and processing fees to be paid ?

What's "dynamic" ?name of company, place or thing?

What's your physical address?

What can you do or what skills do you have?

Where are you based?

@OP,is there another man?ask your friend.

Seems your friend is confusing love with sexual appeal?

Why, how did the husband suddenly become unappealing to her?identifying that would help her in finding solution.

Banana island
Some parts of abuja.
VGC, ikoyi, chevron, lagos some parts of Port harcourt. Opebi, Allen lagos.
Some parts of yenagoa

How are the previous winners doing?

How does one apply?hope it's taken to the grassroots level?I know alot of hardworking women with bright ideas and solid business plans but handicapped by funds,wanna apply for them