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youngies:
Ije no na be di ya

Keduzi oge Ije jiri luo di?
Onye na alu Ije? . . .Nwokenaije

^^^LOL.
Kedi Ije,Mr Obere?

geoger:
you believe i can't waste my time making things like this up, he gave my access to the internet because know that none of my family members are on net. and he cross checks every other thing i do on the net. this i have been happening for a very long thing but i don't post it you know why? is because he has my password. do you know how times he has beat me because i post something, am posting this because i how made up my mind to live, we have an agreement that if he beats me again i will live that what my mother told him.so even if he comes back and see this propbably he will respect his decisions. and he check the bill alway.if you notice on and off just to save the bills from courting too much.

To leave him or to live with him?Which one?
You never said anything abt this "agreement" until now,so has he respected that agreement since it was contracted  
That ur uncle that talked to him the first time,can you reach him again,have u tried using Facebook to locate ur relatives?
Do u have any money of ur own?Do have any handiwork?Assuming you leave him,can u afford to feed urself and ur kids?
There is a Nigerian Embassy there?No?

Missy B     
Our own trusted and special residential picture collector and amebo E ku she ooo
More oil,tube and tyre to your kini. 
@Topic,Gene would easily pass for a 25 yr old chick(the pic she wore brocade)Was that D'Banj sitting beside Gene 
I can't wait to see the movie.

geoger:
i don't have anybody to tell to because they all know he abuse me, like my uncle once told me to quit the the relationship my husband got angry at him and say all sotrs of nonsense word to him ,since then he never care to know how i am doing.my husband don't just only abuse me he abuses and chase away any body that is close to me. i told our pastor he talk to him and he abuse him too acusing me of having an afair with him. he has once said i should stop posting here. he make me feel so sick. he check a very single thing that i do, i have no body to call a friend because he isolates me.

. . .So what abt now?how do u explain this thread to him or he won't see this one
Ihe ka awukwana egwuregwu na Iberibe ndi NLD sha.

geoger:
yes an arab woman told me to go and call the police for him, he told that i should that nobody will listen to me that all the policemen in that station are his friend. and i don't speak arabic, can you imagine i have been here for 4 years yet can not speak a single arabic word, because i don't go out. he never liked it when i speak to any other human being.

The woman advised you and you went to tell him or how did he know what the woman told you?
Even If he wines and dines with the President,speak out,Push.
He has broken and crushed you emotionally and physically to the extent that u see resigning to ur fate a better option than rising and fighting back.
Get up woman,throw away all the excuses and self pity,Fight back atleast for ur kids,Call the Cops,involve ur family.

geoger:
No am not in Nigeria am in north Africa, I lost all my friends because he wouldn't let me call them. I don't even have my own cellphone.he seized it. he even ask me not to call my family members.

See slavery oooh.
Atleast you still have internet,there must be a way you can contact your family online,Please DO SO.
Check online helps for women in ur situation in ur country of residence.

[b]how do i fight back rather than to live, am no match for him, i have been planning to live.everyday i cry asking my self how i got into this, i never want a broken home for my kids because i know how  it feels to be without a parent. that is one of the key problem i have with him.he is alway telling me about my past, like, where is your father, did he teach you how to be with a man? where did you learn how to handle a family, because you have none.you where raised from one aunty to another, so you don't have the right to say anything or come to the parlor when ever my friend is around. because when i was growing up i never saw my mother ask my father any question or come in when ever he has a visitorhe says lot of things to me, well he is killing me and i know it i don't know what to do i have nobody to turn to except God. I am sorry ask men alone because he thinks is right for a man to beat a woman, but you are welcome you can answer if you have anything to say. I just need peoples help, as i go through this.[/b]
You don't want a broken home hence you wud rather die in that un-broken home than get help?
Have u thought of your kids?If he punches you at the wrong place on a wrong day and u fall and don't wake,what becomes of them?
Aside your mum,don't u have any other relative?Do u go to church,how close are u with your pastor,do u trust him?Do u have money anywhere,something to keep u going for sometime?
God won't come down from heaven to help you,You have to take the first step.
If you are in Europe,call the cops.If u are in naija,involve a trusted male relative of urs to talk with your hubby and If your hubby does not change positively afterwards MOVE OUT.
I know a NGO that wud help you with accommodation and basic stuffs till u pick up.

I cant make a head of what u are on about OP,why not copy and paste the whole story . . .If its worth the work

Sup,Radiant?
If one should go by most of the replies on this thread,Its safe to say that Enugu state is getting enough support from the govt.,perhaps you might want to consider the next door state . . .Ebonyi

Radiant:
I have that in mind too. The other options would need my presence more often and as I don't live in Nigeria it would be a bit difficult as I would want things done very well.

Thanks Ify

Ogidi nwannem, happy new year too. Hope the year is going as expected.

I'll solicit funds from Nairalanders , friends and family and other avenues-companies, adverts on a few websites and basically raise awareness of the needs of young children and pregnant women in Nigeria on Facebook.

What d'u think? thanks for your kind words 

Thanks Odunnu.

I didn't know about the health care in Enugu. People still complain bitterly though. I don't live in Nigeria but I grew up in Enugu city so I thought it would be nice to give back to my society  So are you ruling Enugu out completely? What of Anambra?

True that.
Most charities that really thrive do have either one or two people from the founding team on grounds.
Have u thought of merging with an existing NGO with same vision

geoger:
Hello everyone I need your help on this question. Is there anything that a woman will do that will make a man the beat her messily . ( giving her black eyes) . My husband beats me so much that I can’t take it anymore.  He beat me when am pregnant, one month after give birth to our child. Because I ask him questions. He is doing thing I don’t understand , like make late calls to whom I don’t know. Keeping secrets for me. He beat me again because I told him I don’t like the way he and his boy friend use to behav

Stay there, do NOTHING.
Just stay and keep praying,fasting and enduring his beatings.
Beatings don't kill NO woman,we are made of sterner stuff.   
Seriously,are u asking this question woman?In this day and age?

geoger:
@OP, a few questions for you: Did anyone force you to marry this man ?

After the beating, how do you feel ? Do you get some form of sexual satisfaction thru these beating ?s How old are you ? How many children do you have ? Are you mentally handicapped or unstable ?   

Nobody force my to marry him, How do i know that he is an abuser, you met a guy who seems nice and lovely so how do i know he will abuse me,  Do you get some form of sexual satisfaction thru these beating ? noway i feel like he is the devil himself. i have two kids. Are you mentally handicapped or unstable ? no but an undergraduate, i dropped out because i have  nobody to support me. it's my mother only and i am the oldest of 7 children my mother's husband is late. i am 25 years old.

My dear,do something before something do you.
Save your head first,shuoooo,wetin be all dis 
At just 25 you have collected more than enough beatings to last you a life time and YET you have not learnt how to fight back? 
Whatever u have been doing in the past is obviously not working so its high time u change your approach.
Have u been rude in the past,learn to talk to him politely.
Have u been collecting the beatings without as much as raising a voice,scream and fight back now please.
Just do something Fast.
@ Blazay 

Freewilly:
No excuse for what that foolish boy did, he should be locked up for a long time. But what is a married pregnant woman thinking going into a man's hotel room for a job offer.

Thank you jor.
She choose her fate,she shld deal with it squarely.Im guessing she spilled because she DID not get the promised contract.
No excuses for the boy either.Dumb and greedy woman + money miss road he-goat .

He is an Iman,he can do better.He is looked upon by alot of folks,his defacing the posters  directly or indirectly means and speaks volumes.
There are better ways to express your dislike for something or someone.
The arrest and charges against him are however ridiculous.

Jarus:
I know this Imam. His mosque is situated inside GSS, Farfaru, Sokoto, which was used as our camp during our NYSC year. I have prayed Friday Juma'at under him in the past.

In all honesty though, I do not expect someone of his status in the society to be defacing anybody's posters.

koolchicco:
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Lie lie. Asi asi, ajuru m aju.

Nma nwoke bu ego!

Umu nwoke sef
Okwa umu nwoke butere na Nma nwanyi bu di ya,I intentionally changed it to Ugwu mana cherekwa,gini mere na nma nwoke a gaghi abu nwunye ya?
Nma nwoke bu nwunye ya,Nwoke rugoro ogo ilu nwanyi na alughi nwanyi bu agafu.

This is more or less a survey @ OP ,why sound as if it was a real deal?
I never knew the ffg parties and aspirants exist:
* (Fresh Democratic Party)
* John Dara (National Transformation Party)
* Mahmud Waziri (People for Democratic Change)
* Nwadike Chikezie (Peoples Mandate Party)
* Peter Nwangwu (African Democratic Congress)
* Rasheed Shitta-Bey (Mega Progressive Peoples Party)
* Yahaya Ndu (African Renaissance Party)
* Ambrose Awuru (Hope Democratic Party)
* Akpona Solomon (National Majority Democratic Party)
* Chris Nwaokobia (Liberal Democratic Party)
* Ebiti Ndok (United National Party for Development)
* Iheanyichukwu Nnaji (Better Nigeria Progressive Party)

Echelon Dalu.
@Topic,Ugwu nwanyi bu di,Nma nwoke bu nwunye ya.

macjive01:
i got this story off a friend and i wud describe it in the first person mode.


My name is bola, i am married with a 2 years old daughter, i am a staff nurse at a hospital in central london, i am tired of my husband, he irritates me now, i think i shd simply send him back to Nigeria.

I'm 33 and my husband Hassan is 42, i have realized now he is too too old for me. i dont like him any more but i have no doubt he loves me, luvs me so so much. His absolute love for me is killing me, making it very difficult for me to take the step i want to. jettison him.

I am so confused. i have been to counselling and was advised to leave him if it has gotten to the stage it is now. i just want to hurt him. But he has done nothing to me. He left his full time job at Tesco to take care of the baby since i earned more, he does everything in the house, takes care of the baby, does the dishes , the cooking and laundry, and still work at kfc part time now and again - mostly on Sunday night and Tuesday nights.   

The first time i cheated on him i felt so guilty and saddened that i told him. He cried, and cried, he never shouted or rained abuses on me, he didn't fight me or threaten to leave me, he simply cried. Strangely, the more he cried the better i felt. its crazy but i became really excited.

since then i have done everything i know i cud do to make him cry. really , not to hurt him but to have him cry and beg me.

Now, his Visa is expiring  and he wud have to be on mine- HSMP, i don't know, but i feel like send him back to Nigeria but im confused.

please what shd i do ?

She never loved the man,she married him for selfish reasons best known to her.
When u don't love someone and he/she is suffocating you with love,the next step is to feel really pissed and disgusted.
Why is the man wasting his time with this lady,why save up all ur love for someone that is not and wud not reciprocate and appreciate it ? While the lady is doing everything she can to make the man leave the man is going to extremes to make her love him.
Does this man have people sef?I hope he does not get tired and fed up one day and commit suicide or homicide
Someone close to him shld help knock him back to senses.

Obviously,Gene's pic were tampered with . . .
Victoria Inyama's hair is terrible.

[b]NO,[/b]not even in my wildest dream.
I cannot and would not!I cannot bear and carry a child and give him/her up,for anything or anyone,not even for my twin,assuming i had one.

Ogbanje Spirit at work,Dayokanu offers special and free deliverance sessions.

Hbd SIR,[/b]hbd [b]SIR
Enough respect online and offline.

Start already  . . . starting too late/close to the wedding month might make you forget lil'details here n there.
You can just get a notebook and write things down(what you want and don't want.)
Compile photos of gowns,flowers,music,cake centerpieces and contact the providers.
Start working on your guest list too.
Don't forget the most important person . . .YOUR FIANCE,SPEND MORE TIME AND PLAN TOGETHER WITH HIM.
CONGRATS    
@Jenny,a huru m ya,a maghim na ochonganoko ahu nwere ike i wish-i mmadu well.

shithapuns:
ok, thanks guys,

am wondering if she wud hv confessed if she didnt notice me searching 4 the money, and also has she been doing this in the past?.

cud this be compared 2 cheating?, ie if u catch some1 cheating, how sure r u that its the first/last time?, even doe the person swears thats its fiorst and only!!!

Valid points.
I personally wont trust her anymore.Anyway tell her that u wont accept it anymore and drop a bait for her after sometime . . .before you do this,Please be very sure that she is the only one that has access to ur house.

shithapuns:
really need your comments on this.

u kept some cash at home and 1 day u go to use it, but u notice that it has been tampered with, n tis only u n your fiancee that r in the house.

after a day she later confesses that she is the one that took the money,  n asks  4 forgiveness.

wud u still go ahead with the relationship?//cos the trust level  has  gone down as a result of this

nb: u hvnt been stingy with her, u try your possible best 2 meet her needs

I wont call that stealing . . .I know it fits perfectly to the dictionary def. of stealing sha.
She took the money without ur permission but she owned up when u asked/searched for it.Tell her in clear terms that what she did was unacceptable though she is forgiven but it should NOT be repeated.

Nnenneigbo . . .na thunder go fire Presido1

The brides gown did not flatter her . . . .they look good and happy together though.

How do u decide someone is arrogant?
Most times people that point others as being arrogant have issues of jealousy,esteem and insecurities hence they scream "arrogant" when they encounter a stronger,bolder and brave force

^^Thanks though I was looking forward to a discussion here where evryone wud contribute.
Salam alekuim.

datnigga:
so u tink i can use it to fry eggs or chips?

Ofcourse yes.
I use it for everything.Frying dodo,chicken and even for my egusi soup.(with egusi i use lots of tomatoes and tatashe to get the red flava)