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chaircover:
@Imoh81 the first thing to do is to try and locate Debora's relatives. I know you say that you are only a neighbor but if you really want to save this woman's life then you have to actually do something to help her.

If you ask the kids, they may be able to give you a relatives address. Take a responsible person with you and go and speak to her relatives. The aim is for[b] Deborah to be discharged from hospital not back home but to her relatives house.[/b]

Its up to the relative to call other family members or whatever and decide how to proceed with this but first things first is to remove this woman from further danger while they decide

I know that people dont like getting involved in other peoples disputes because anything can happen but a life is at risk here and you cant just waka pass and not do anything.

@OP,This also is another way to help.I did not even Know that Deborah is hospitalized already  
The only draw backs this approach might get are:
If the relatives are poor and are getting "financial helps" from the man.
If Deborah is an only child with only distant relatives,most times those distant relatives don't wanna involve themselves.
If she married against the parents or relatives wish.

pappykay1:
heya poor  woman anyway she shlf go to alausa ask of OFFICE OF THE OPD LAGOS STATE OPD MEAN OFFICE OF THE PUBLIC DEFENDANT i think there office is@ motorway beside sevenup bottling company tollgate there office is thier nad comlain to them they will be of help for her.
thanks

Goodyness:
I think FIDA (it is an association of female lawyers) can help, don't have their contact but the nearest NBA office will be a good starting point as they should be able to provide you with FIDA's contact.

. . .Worth trying.Thanks guys.  

moremi2008:
It is the belief and advice of men like you that have made many a woman die in their matrimonial homes at the hands of their husbands. I don't know how to get it into your skull that it does NOT matter what the woman does - a man should not physically abuse his wife, period. If the wife is rude or cheats, there are civilized ways to deal with the issue. Just send her packing to her father's house! You can't control what she does but you can DEFINITELY control what YOU do in response to it. A man that beats on his wife deserves to be given a thorough beating and then gang-violated in a jail cell.

Ooooh, I dare one silly man to lay his hands on my little sister. He go see wehn!!! The thought of it just makes my blood boil!!! I will deal with him so badly, my sister and her children will be pleading with me for his life!

lol
People with brain cells are busy asking questions like:
why did the man suddenly change
why not inform elders
How long have they been married. . . bla bla
Meanwhile the woman dey chop beating dey go

semid4lyfe:
Concerned Neighbour? Hmmmm. . . . .

Not saying it ain't true but peeps come in different guises to start thread on Nairaland so I won't be surprised if all na ''bobo''

@ Ify,
off topic but shey you don sign the dotted lines?

which ones be dotted lines and who dotted the lines ni ?
I signed a longolongo line with Dayokanu.

LMAO.
Dude u just typing much and saying nothing.
Please,If u are interested in the real truth and 2 sides to every story posted online,track out the Original poster/s and take urself to their homes.
You've shifted from vulture NGO to some NGO's.So whats stopping u from starting a (REAL not online noise)campaign against those so-called vulture NGO'S?
Back to thread o jare,enough of this your sentiments and going back and forth,im allergic to dizzy spells.
I just might be back when u fish out the said Deborah(not OP) and her hubby. . .or share real first hand experience u had in the hands of the NGO i talked about(pls don't bore me with google stories or hearsay)lol

With men like you as Deborah's brothers,how can she even think of liberating herself from the arms of the animal she married,Brothers who would rather than remove their sister from danger . . .then invite the man for talks or "beatings" as the case may be wud rather leave her to ask questions like want went wrong,how long have they been married,how/why did the man suddenly change bla bla 
Once any grown man resorts to punching his wife,NO MATTER what she has done or said,the man is obviously not ready to talk,atleast not at that instant.If he is a man and NOT an animal,why don't he sit the wife down and talk,call family and church members or at most send the woman back to where he got her from  why should it be the abused one that wud have to deal with her swollen face and limbs,think of what and when things went wrong etc . . .the reason ain't  far fetched . . .the man is an animal.

Btwn,no advice given online is foolproof and fits for every like problem no matter how similar the stories sound ,I believe every sane person knows that
Good day!

Chei,Arsenal.Agaba ndo ,lol
Darfur o na i maghi na Tosh no na house arrest na ohio?O na agbara credit crunch na ndi well wishers ya oji ugwo ozo were gbaga Ohio chere na owu ebe ahu ka o ga aka nma.

Te he he,Tosh nwa mama na anozi onwa ato tupu o nweta "nsusu", e kwukwala maka iba jerusalem. . .nke ahu bu nani na nro ka o na enweta ya.chai Tosh nwa mama,anu a na agba egbe o na akpa nri

Onye na agba kwa from bee eliza agaje nke Obama,ya dikwa na mbu gbako wepu,obodo bu igwe!!! Tosh na erezi condom nile o bu from Uk gaa Ohio iji were metu mmanu. Condoms O zuru o ga eji emeru umu nwanyi ahu na ohio

Usu Rome kwanu?ole Romananus?

IfeLuvely:
They want me to get a MSc before getting married, and also want me to wait for my sister who is 5yrs older to get married before i get married,

ewo!
How old are u?

@Lastpage First off,the OP is a "concerned neighbour" to the battered woman.
There are NEVER any 2 sides to stories shared online so that point is as good as moot.
What possibly wud a woman do consistently to a man that wud make him to beat her up daily,neighbours hear??
Talking abt the children,how wud they turn out,watching their dad beat their mum daily?Do u also have infor. on the statistics of children from abused parents?
Have u had a personal experience with any NGO or u just wanna use that to score a cheap point?vulture NGO?lol
Like everythind NLD,once u talk of seperation to save the abused party's head first,it quickly gets twisted to advocating for divorce. . .No one here has talked of divorce,YET.

dayokanu:
Lets play Papa and mama too

Ori eja,where have u been?
I've missed u
Hauwa was proposing to you on one thread,what's ur take?Amelikka soja . . .u go collect beating dye if u don't behave.

^^^Ehen those last images,are they not (or represent) deities(arushi)  

^he he he.

HHH V Sheamus . . . .2010


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=15mz6U-SpIw

What was she doing or who was she before marriage?One of the reasons why folks should not totally lose hold of their individuality just cos they are married.

Mai Suya:
Nice advice. If only it were that easy. . .

The poster described the lady as housewife. that says it all. life as a divorcee (female) with 4 children to cater for shouldn't, according to you, be that much of a big deal. yeah. . .in the US!

this is AFrica. Women right group, like the type the poster is asking about are very few here.

You talk of retaliating. That to an outsider, with perhaps a near perfect marriage would seem like a viable option.

unfortunately, thats not the case.

It gets to a point where the woman's sanity seems to take the same direction as her pride--downwards. She prolly doesn't even feel the pain anymore. Her utterances in most cases are proof of that.

Haven't you heard if cases where victims of such battery end up--preposterous as it sounds, but true nonetheless--defending [/i]the action of their husbands? "maybe if I had kept his meal warm enuf, he wouldn't have attacked me with the broken bottle'' 

trust me, it happens

Fact is, and this is speaking as someone who grew in such an environment, the thought of retaliating seems just. . .[i]right.  for the sake of the children, her family reputation, etc she just has to endure. . .

Pathetic, i know. . .

I so agree with the bolded parts . . .and its just pathetic.
Another trend . . .most of those battered women are housewives.This men rip them off of every defense and esteem by locking them up at home,then gradually make them their slaves and 100% dependent on them.How wud the woman go?If u are even trying to make them wake up . . .they keep drawing themselves back to the pit of hopelessness the men have thrown them into.They just don't believe they can survive without a man,they are afraid of even trying . . .they already believe they wud fail even without trying . . . 
So the woman is left defenseless,can't even find her self or know where to start from . . .Crushed,killed emotionally and physiologically that they believe that IF they leave the man,they would die.wharralife 

She has a choice although no one but herself wud decide that she has had enough and take her chance with change,albeit how difficult it might be. . .Take a walk,even a temporal one and arrange her life.
Besides,all those years spent at home as housewife,can't she boast of a neat lil savings somewhere 

Rather than doing something,they prefer changing Id's on nld re-cycle and re-post their stories each day.
Na dem sabi sha . . .IMO marriage no bi do or die.
Every marriage has its own ups and downs but when one party cos of anything the other person has done or said stoops as low as resorting to hitting,Common . . .thats the beginning of the end.

IfeLuvely:
Me n my boyfriend have been discussing about getting married for a while now, his parents are ready and I think he is ready too, (but my paresnts are definitely not) and each time we talk about gettin married, he tells me he has never done it before, so if i can use style to ask my father about bride price he would appreciate it, in Nigeria culture, am i allowed to ask?

What do u mean by your parents are not ready?You think they wont consent to ur marriage,why?
There is no way of using style to go abt it . . .go directly to your mum and tell her that u are thinking of marriage and u and your guy wants to have a look at the trad. rites demands.simples

The real jubilation/disappointment wud come after the elections . . .till then,taking it with a pinch of salt.

Chief Ikonne asking people to be calm,after all he did and still doing In Umuahia  . . .His name alone in that article made me doubt alot of things.
Hmmn . . .source of the story is Paul Ikonne Fbk page 
Watching and waiting.

Nro to me wu Onye kwe,chi ya ekwe. 
N'ihi ya,o buru na m roo nro na mmadu biara igbu m na nro,ihe abuo na agbam na uche . . .
Onye ahu a pughi ime m ihe o bula na ihe ya mere o jiri bia na nro.
Ekpere bu ajo ogwu na emeri ihe na onye ojoo nile.
O burukwanu nro oma,m dabakwa na ekpere na ario chim ka o mere m dika m huru na nro.
. . . .Kama ufodu nro bukwa oke nriju afo ma o bu iba. 

Mu he he he.
Blazayyyyyyy just stop posting.

Threadia a amaka. 
Obibia ndi ncho na uche ke m nwere uru na ogho m.
Ajuju m buzi.Ndi ocha a biago laa,ole otu ahu foro anyi ugbua?O buru na ndi ocha a biaghi,Ole ebe o di gi ka anyi(Ndi Igbo) ga ano ugbu a 

Andre Uweh:
They are treasures, not Gods and has never been so. Ndigbo has never worshipped gods but God in heaven called Chukwu or Chineke.
The advent of Christianity in Igboland is marvellous in our eyes for it only replaced the messengers but not God.
Mr Brown and the white men learnt some lessons about the Igbo belief in God when this issue was raised at Umuofia. Please see the last pages of Things Fall Apart (1958).

Thank you.
I've seen and walked past a few okwu arushi's and no matter where or what it stands for,there is always a carved mask amongst other things.
Ogwugwu,Agbala and co are not represented with a carved mask  

Ikomi:
Lol. 

Boy anyi nozi na Libya now, anyi gara Gadafi ngbaru. Nwokem ahu na eke ego any how as long as igaa ebu li pu propaganda na ya wu the best leader.


God willing the man si na ya ga enyem $500,00.00 if I work hard. That should solve my problem.   

Ikomus . . . .The only boy ji isi para full Oba ji.
Efe enyeghi nke oge ji adi . . .buru bia. 
Hopefully,I gaghi eji ego Ghadafi gba I-che-na-mmadu-wu-goat na Tripoli

Ujujoan:
Is it 'mother's day'  . . .  or 'women's day'    

Women's day.Celebration of the strong black woman and it covers all female  . . .single,married,divorced,separated.

^^Noted.Thank you.

Chief chef

gfhotee:
family isnt doing fine business wise, only the man is working as the woman has no job for now, he makes just enough to feed them the next day, so ignoring work means no food tomorrow.

. . . More reasons why the wife shld get up and do something no matter how little;and please don't give me that over-flogged excuse of having young children.Our grandmothers were all working housewives.So they are basically living from hand to mouth  

Ujujoan:
Honestly, I don't see what good the woman would have done if she had gone to work with him. Will her presence somehow stop the illness from returning    

She can rush him to hospital  

@OP,The couple are both selfish without even realizing that.
The man wants to go with his wife and leave the kids all alone till grannie comes.The wife is NOT bothered that a sick husband(heart related) for that matter is going to work,all alone in an office.Again,whats the big deal if the woman changes her mind and wants to come along and why did the woman refuse to call her mum and explain whats on ground to her?
The woman shld get something doing abeg.4 hours a day,buying and selling,anything.
The man needs to go see a doctor.
Both need to realize that they are all they have and shld put each others needs before an extended family members own.

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People bad o! [/quote]What sort of apps are these and what are their functions ?
I have given my droid to a male cuz,I wud be shocked to see him with such apps.

victorazy:
Bia nne, ibu onye Igbo. Idi-uto, your picture amaka. Ogadim uto kanyi relatia "victor"

Kedu ka mmadu si adi uto?
Unu ga egbu kwa onwe unu na NLD . . .I riri foto ya nwere mata na o di uto? 

ideylaff:
Kai , I see ebora/ojuju cover cloth for stage oooo chei , kai.e  seems we\they put more effort into the Red carpet and other efizzys,  LOL, we even have Green carpet events in 9ija. The cloth be like MaMa Gee wrapper ooo, abi na Jim Iyke get am, cos it matches his pocket square,

This is not the awards proper . . .This is the nominations night.

azharuddin:
Very useful information. Jazakallahu Khairan bro.

As in photographs, ? I have posed for photos. yes.

Ok.
Went back to ur first reply on this thread and was wondering If photos qualify as a drawing or anything that depicts animate beings

Koolchicoo,a kpozina m aha ozo.
Ajuju nile m juru o nweghi nke i zara,I were uburu gi kpogide na the last word . . .
I bu nwanne Tooshi?

^^^Owu nani na egwu ukwu ka a na ahu gi.

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=616367.msg7842398#msg7842398

Something is definitely wrong.

youngies:
^^Ify biko tapiala anyi ilu koolchicco above. Ihunanya i nwere na ebe amu di is on record. 

Koolchicco, nne biko kedu maka my request? 

E nweghim Ike Itapi ilu ojoo unu.Chukwu aju.
N'aka nke ozo,asusu Igbo anyi a sef . . .
Kedu ndi olu mba ha bu[b] amu for laugh,amu for shine na amu for learn[/b]  A dim sure na obu ndi Anambra?
Gini ka ndi nna nna anyi bu na obi mgbe ha meputara that "amu" word with its diverse meanings.
Oge o bula m dabatara ebe a dee "amu" . . .a naghim eche maka ahu nwoke mana somehow,u guys find a way to twist my posts,O dighikwa ato m amu.

agabaI23:
Kedu ihe court ga-eji si ya kwuo ugwo na ego igwe? Ka o bu N200, 000 ka I choro I de?

I chefuru enyo anya gi.
O gara na ulo lekwa ntu na london so o ga agwu ugwo na ego igwe.I ji Naira e-settle Feli gbo Nwoke m?
[quote author=pres-elect link=topic=413608.msg7867040#msg7867040 date=1299541173]Ikomi alaala onitsha. Ndi lekwe ntu kpo ya gaa court for regular non payment of frequent services. Court si ikomi kwuo ha £200,000 for damages. Ikomi ereela ihe Nile o nwere na London. Gaa naijiria ga rekwaa ala nna ya, gwa ha na oji ego ya eme investment. Still ego ya ezubeghi, ya mere nwannaaa jiri ga soto ndi na ebu ji na onitcha bridge. Iji meetia up. Nwoke na ife.
Ije uwa.[/quote]Cheei
Nwoke na ife.
Ikomus alaghachila na Ibu ji again,ji ahu o bugidere butere onwe ya hunchback na olu(neck) obogu(duck)
A gam azuru ya Barrow buko . . .A na emere Ikomi o na emere ndi lekwa ntu.

@OP,all masks are arushi(gods) or some are just masks with no "chi" attached to it ?

@Bilms,Please get REAL.

zayhal:
If there are issues to discuss, and i have a thing or two to say, i'll surely say them, insha Allah. But issues aren't really coming up.


And you know the hadith:

"Whoever believes in Allah and the last day should say what is good or remain silent."

I agree with you but what abt the issues raised by Bilms?Do u share same beliefs with him going by what he has posted here 

Lagosboy:
I dey here o my sister , I am a student on this thread waiting to learn from you o 

Indeed.Say something jor.