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Op ansa d questn 'hve u bin intimate wid him? Coz dat wil determine our response

To me I think dating or marrying and older woman is nt a crime. The whole thing depends on each other. If d r happy and luv each other y nt

There is notin wrong wid dat as for, but d truth is dat most Nigerian girls r afraid of asking a guy out even if d like d guy

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victorD3: Ravine boy : A cultist

Ekpo/micro chips/Bomb/brain support : expo

Tutu mkpong : derive from ibibio language meaning "till tomorrow". Used to describe a girl going to sleep off campus with boy friend or for money

UNIUYO : Great tuskers!!

Naso bro! Including officing: colecting widout permission, iyaba sira: canteen, dis wz comon in perm site.

Mehn! I didn't knw my profession is d most sought afta by women. I'm proud to be an ENGINEER

It is d gurls dat mek it seems as if s*x is all d can offer in a relationship because if u dnt do it, d might tink u r impotent

I'm a young vibrant guy frm Aks, my pin is 26DDE82A. Babes only

3triangle: I am like I said doing something abominable and I know. But I cant help myself. I am an existing member of nairaland.com but I cant post this using my original ID for fear of the stigma cos some of friends in school knows my nairaland.com handle.

I am 23yrs old and I am sleeping with my two elder sisters husbands. I am the last girl in a family of 4, 3 girls & a boy. The boy is the oldest. The most painful part is that I am in love one, who happens to be my immediate elder sister's husband. my immediate elder sister is 4yrs older than me. I have always had a crush on her husband right from when they were dating but I never thought it will get to the stage of me sleeping with him. Their marriage is 2yrs although they have no children yet. I am in LASU and their house is close to my school so I moved in with them after their wedding. Our illicit affair didnt start until april last year. My sister works on the Island and leaves for work very early in the morning while the husband is a business man in Alaba market. So I am left with making his food in the mornings before he goes to work. The first time was a mistake but it has never stopped after that mistake. It is actually a daily routine except on weekends that my sister doesnt work. I have cried several times because of what I am doing to her because she doesnt deserve it. She is a wonderful person.

On the part of my eldest sister, her husband is very wealthy and so he buys me things I can only dream of whenever he travels. He calls me baby of the house. They have 3 kids. His own is that he seduced me with a drink on my 20th birthday. I lived with them from when I was 17. We still do once in a while but its usually against my will cos he buys me stuffs even as I am in my immediate elder sister's house. I think I am finished if this thing gets out. I want to stop but I am already in love with my immediate elder sister's husband. He is so caring and so romantic. Someone please slap me out of this.

Babe u get mind. But anyways sha! Go to God and ask for forgiveness

Idowuogbo: my own trek from yaba to ekiti go buy me agbalumo.

Laff don tear my belle apart o

sweetcheecks: Hi all, ( this is long but gives a good background to the problem).
I have been dating this guy for over a year now. We both seemed to care a lot about each other. Had a challenge with a jealous friend who happen to be a mutual friend. I broke ties with her, he did not. We had a break of two months and I thought it was over but we reconciled. I suspect during that period he might have travelled overseas with our friend ( she travells the route often) to buy house remodelling material but he never told me and I never really asked. I had not really given this relationship the best attention becouse I have been going through tough times in my businesses and had plummetted into a financial crisis. I had never asked and shared my true financial situation with him. He would always ask me how things were and I would always tell him things are fine. I have been through the worst ever times of my life financially but have find it most difficult asking for help from friends and family.

I was just working hard on my business to try and turn things around. I always thought I do not want him to think I want his money. But now we are growing apart becouse I have been soo consumed by my situation and found it difficult to share it with him.

I planned visiting him after a had finished a project to take a breather and just spend time with him. I called him and left messages when i could not get him. The night before my flight to visit him he called and said he was not available that weekend and that i did not talk to him about the visit. What was supprising he always asks me why am I not visiting anymore. And now when I plan this visits he acts up. I was angry and told him that I am not interested to visit someone who does not want me around him and I would never force a visit on him.

When I ask him why he would not be available and if he is seeing someone he gets angry and says that its non of my
business. I told him, that it was ok I was cancelling the visit.

I later sent him a message just expressing my feelings about his behaviour and appologising for getting him angry.

He tried calling the following day but i was very upset and had switched off my phones. And if he got thru I would not answer. He called more than 12times and I just could not bring myself to talking to him, I was still very much upset. He sent messages begging me to call him back but I would not.

Now we chat but I cannot help but feel distance is tearing us apart and my inability to share my financial woes is
presenting itself as if i do not care about him.

I had promised to do some work for his business to help build his business brand and profile to earn some more money than ask him for money. But becouse of my situation I had to focus on my staff first.

I care about him a lot. I know we could be great together. But I need more than just a relationship. What complicates things to me even more is that a prophet told me I am going to marry someone else not him. Now with the way he is I am wondering if I should fight for this or just let go?

Over to you, NLers.

Please not dumb comments, just do not comment if you not in a good space right now

Try and talk to him, let him knw d reasons y u were kiping distance frm him. Tel him hw much u luv him, I bet u he wil come bak. Best of luck

Its a 1-1 draw na

demelza:
Finally, someone who understands me. Part of this anxiety I must admit comes from me feeling like I havent achieved enough and that time is now ticking louder. Uggghhh ....... Sumthings just sucks

Hey! Dnt get it twisted dear

CrazyMan: So you don't know why...alright I'll tell ya

1. A jobless girl has all the time in the world to hang out and fork different guys...hence the saying "an idle mind is the devil's workshop"

2. A jobless girl has nothing to offer her guy apart from sex...so with time, he'll get fed up with her.

3. She can be very frustrating to maintain cos you'll be the one to pay her rent, pay her fees (if she's a student) give her pocket money, make up money, money for hair, take her out for shopping...etc. And what do you get back in return...lies, deceit, unfaithfulness...etc.

U r right bro

pleep: Just seeing her ruined my week, so why would i marry her. To ruin my life?

Hehehehe!

Vikin: All this one from from one boy? OP i think you need more than 1!

Hehehehehe! Its true o she nids more dan one boy

vivian chinaza: Ok, then no, I can't pick my bf's call before my parents..........once the phone rings, I'd pick it and leave.

Hehehehe.... So u dey fear WAEC questions abi

Networkmaster: 14. Your Role Models Are Totally Strange And Bad! If you want to be a great woman tomorrow, start now to emulate great women- study their foot parts, their lifestyle, their ways and try to inculcate their lifestyle into yours. Stop looking up to music stars and fake celebrity ladies, etc as your only role model in life. What happened to looking up to women like- Great women in Nigeria numerous to mention or international women like Hilary Clinton, Michele Obama, etc?
Stop gluing your eyes on fashion TV, Fashion One, Big Brother TV Show, E! etc, and start now to build interest in economy issues, current affairs, economy and business news, watch more of CNN, National Geographic channel, Channels TV, ESPN, Discovery World, Animal Planet, Aljazeera TV, Super Sports, etc, these are what men love to see women do cos only a handful of women show interest in these, and those few women are those ones that end up being great women in future. Movie Magic, Africa Magic will only inculcate bad habit, poor manner and laziness in you, please wake up before you end up single for life, which I pray not.

Abeg help me tel dem o. Almost evryting in dia bodies r fake. Fake hair, fake eyes, fake nails, fake breast, fake buts

Sweetlemon: He said at this "stage" of life. He's done with the dating thingy. Besides, Did I say I asked him to be my boyfriend?
Please o! Read my post well
And as for looking for another guy to "spend my emotions on" well, thanks but I think I already have one in him. We do everthing bf and gfs do except sex. PLUS, he's a terrific friend. I have absolutely no problem with him. I'm only in suspence as per what he means by buying a bed and me waiting till he buys a bed

Actually, wat dis guy wants is to b convinced dat he truely luvs u b4 sleeping wid u. Actually he is a nice guy. He wants to marry u so dnt rush him for sex

vivian chinaza: Boyfriend? No! Husband? Yes!

Evryone wud do dat if its involves spouse, but we r talkin abt if u r nt yet married. Me, I do sometimes sha but my voice wud b somehow

[quote author=Lady George ]Hi am new here[/quote]Hello evryone, I'm new here. I like wat Id, Ijebabe, sexkillz r doing in dis thread

luvmijeje: I vowed not to date a guy that does nt ve a sense of style i.e nt fashionable but my current boo dat am in love with is a fashion disaster.

Hahahahahaha! Mehn! I like dis word 'fashion disaster'