DaddyOpe:
I got married to my wife 5 years ago. Before we got married, she dated a guy. We all stayed in the same area. I live here because it is close to my place of work. Her ex lives in the area. He does building contractor. While they were dating, I met my wife. I was able to convince her to date me. And since the guy was always travelling, I was able to get close to her. I think I won her finally after we had sex. Because that first day, I scattered her brain. She later left the guy. I proposed, she accepted and we got married.

I will say, at that time I got married to my wife, her ex and I were on the same level financially. But, recently, the guy has turned to something else. He does building for people overseas. People said the guy's work is good and he is always getting contracts. My wife said he had a 2.1 in Civil Engineering. He started selling cement. He is now a dangote cement distributor. He built a duplex at the junction of my street. He has 3 cars in the compound (he recently bought 1 car during this lockdown that people are saying no money oo). I and my wife do not have any car. I am still a tenant. We have to pass front of his house every day.

During this lockdown, my office has being delaying salaries. It has not being easy. I have had quarrels with my wife in the past but yesterday was the worst. During the quarrel, she said she regrets marrying me. That if she had ignored me and married her ex, she would have being living comfortably. I almost beat her up. Then she told me that this her ex paid her school fees in 300 and 400 level when she almost pulled out of school for lack of finance. She regrets paying him back by leaving him to marry me.

Since then, I have not being myself. I just created this account to express myself.

This is what you get when you convince someone to love and marry you. Maybe next time, you'd relax and take things slowly.

delkuf:
Good Nairaland I don't normally do this, bringing my family issue here but this issue is pissing me off.

Here is the story. I got married last year, and I thought I have known her enough that was why I married her. But to my surprise I started discovering that she is too stiff. She is too hard. When she says she is not doing something, that is it, she won't do it.

Sometimes if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give.

She gives me time for sex. Presently am down with fever and the only thing she has ever asked me is how is your body. No what will you take or something. Am starting to think of quitting the marriage. The only issue is that she is pregnant and this is my first child.

Here's a solution for the sex part; anytime you ask for sex and she refuses, tell her that you are going to have sex with or without her.

Martinez39s:
Don't waste time and energy mentioning emotional simpletons.

Mart... It's Omar... I got banned again... Lol... Howdie?

MelaninSkinGirl:
Hey, I showed you the science, you decide what you want to do with your lives. It's a free universe.

But believe me you, there is nothing sadder than a man who is 50something running around and sleeping with everything that moves. He thinks these pretty young girls love him, but he doesn't know they are in it for his wallet. It's a sad life.

Every woman both young and old are in it for the money. So I don't see why a man in his 50s shouldn't be sleeping with anything that wears skirt. Romantic love have never existed.

Nonsoboy4life:
I made a previous thread here with picture evidence of how I found out my girlfriend of three years was cheating.

Refer to this: https://www.nairaland.com/5861021/how-discovered-girlfriend-been-cheating

So my plans of sending her away first and letting her know when she reaches her destination was foisted..She was going through her deleted messages and saw the screenshots I had deleted (I didn't know her phone had such function). So she became totally weak and came to me asking if I entered her WhatsApp, told her no but she somehow knew I was the only person she's staying with..when she came showing me I told her yes that I did screenshot it. That's how she started begging and crying ..So I had to obtain more information about the said guy(was just catching fun anyway).The said guy happened to be one of these NYSC Christain family papa she met during NYSC in one of the south west state. I recalled when she told me the story of how this same guy left the family house to go straff horrny NYSC corpers (I just laughed off and told her she has finally collected hers).She confessed that they've been having sex since January in her house, same house I brought 4/5th of the rent.

Now she asked me if I had forgiven her or still wanted her to go this week.Definitely I had to tell her that I have forgiven her(which is definitely a hoax anyway).I also told her she is free to stay till lockdown is over that I have forgiven. I had to use my phone to call the guy and she told him the real truth where she was because she had already lied to him that she went to see her brother and the guy asked her never to call again .. that's to say I have stripped her off of that one, and I did it deliberately so that once I block her she will really be hit hard.

Meanwhile my plan is this : I will allow her stay for this lockdown to finish and to cure my konji too , I have been straffing her non-stop now and immediately the lockdown is over as soon as she's going I'm blocking her off already..I'm already looking for another gal as we speak and in talk with one already.
I actually wanted to punish her more and make sure she goes back to the village which I have the capacity to do by sending the screenshots to her brothers who weren't comfortable of her staying alone for fear of messing around in the first place.

I will keep her as sex slave till lockdown is over , afterall everything is fair in war and in love
Thanks for reading

If na me go do row call for heaven gate, thunder will fire me if I call anything weh resemble this your name.

In fact let me write it down.....

RoyalBlu:
Otuocha


I've seen this word somewhere...

You get am for body na why.

emmaodet:


You see, i am more less a prophet and for being honest, you have earned a follower.

Noticed you are based in PH, which part?

This girl weh talk true like this...

jasent:
She not his wife yet hope you're aware?what's wrong if the girl is keeping her options open?

So because she's not his wife, she's allowed to hang out with other men and cheat on her boyfriend?

If you can go ahead and marry such woman, then no need being in this conversation with you.

Na from fart we take know how shit go taste.

dairykidd:

Pussie hole

Is you done yet?

jasent:
She not his wife yet hope you're aware?what's wrong if the girl is keeping her options open?What if she finds herself in the shoe of the girl below?

Well the girl is very stu.pid to not know when to quit. First she shouldn't have gotten pregnant, second after aborting the first baby, should have been her bus stop. There's a difference between keeping your options open when you don't really have a serious man and being faithful to your man whom you know is very serious about having you in his life. Also one should be responsible for one's actions.

dairykidd:

Fvcking piglet.. next time keep ur online Alpha shiit to ur fvcking self. When ever u feel the need to spread out ur online stupidity just hush when u notice my moniker available. And yes I rep streets for ever !!! But u wouldn't know nothing about it Fvcking pencil dick keyboard warrior.. You when still dey kneel cry n beg ur olosho girlfriend make she no leave u alone go dey open eye type simp. Do u know the meaning of the word simp? Make God let me catch any of una for real life.

Clap for yourself.

jasent:
Op got no evidence to back up his claim that she cheated on him..There is always a clause in most cases. Yes her sister said she's chating,but don't u think her sister can lie?He needs to really seat her down and ask question,sometimes we are the cause of of our own problem.

If he is not at peace with his mind where his girl is, then he has to let her go. Or do you prefer to stay with someone who gives you insecurities? A girl who makes you wonder where she at and who she fvcking with? He needs his sanity, him going back will never guarantee that.

I once push a girl to cheat on me,I never knew I was the cause until she told me what I did wrong, and yes it was my fault.Don't get it twisted I am not weak,but I like looking out things from different angle before drawing conclusion.

That your girlfriend cheated you wasn't because you pushed her to do it. She did because she wanted to and decided to make you feel guilty for her own wrong doing. Talk about taking responsibility for once actions. What happened to self respect.

jasent:
If you don't accept this girl back,you may never find love again..Danm she love you guy..Just imagine those words?[/b]guy call that girl now and help her to become a better person[b]. Seat her down and talk to her,please my guy..I am a man but I am almost moved to tear by some of her words.She may truly be sorry and really want to change if truly she ever cheated.Again pls victor call her.

What happened to working on one's self? Wow. It's so irritating that guys are also asking op to return to the girl like she's some trophy. I like to believe y'all are being sarcastic. Damn it's quite appalling. She ain't the only "good" girl in the world. I bet you before he walks to the next junction he will meet someone that is 2x better than his now ex.

dairykidd:

Fuckoff my mentions online Alpha. Broke useless idiot. Wtf u know about being a man? I chose to answer her and i did. She asked a question and i gave my answer. Who be this fool when want tell me who and what to answer to If u see me for street u fit dey where i dey? Fvcking ignorant online Alpha goat.. I don't live by ur stupid unwritten or written rule. You should school urself on ur own shiit test. Real ones have nothing to prove. So once again fvck u n all u stupid NL Alpha wannabe. Delirious imb.ecile

Wow. So uncultured. Yes very well I can't stand where you stand if I meet you in the street you know why? YOU BELONG TO THE STREET
You are so intelligent I feel so dumb right now. Now off to streets will you! Street urchin!

emmaodet:

Don't most girls do? they always lose their virginity to bad boys when their main bf is waiting patiently.

Arrogantbro:
I am not in the country at the moment and no time for reviewing the decision. I can't take her back

That explains why she's begging. You are her ATM and she's banking on you elevating her to abroad.

dairykidd:


Nope... rather i am blaming the women who catch feelings for the guys they cheat with. You said somewhere on this thread about the different treatments man & women get when they cheat on their spouses in marriage. I only wanted u to see reason from a clear point and not bias because ir a lady. Women attach too much emotions to sex hence when they eventually do cheat be rest assured she has no feelings for u as a husband rather her emotions are all tied to the guy she's recently fvcking. Unlike men that can separate the two. Fvck any random chick and still treasure wifey.. I know its hard to understand but its just how we are. And i don't encourage infidelity from any partner. I'm only showing u the difference between us..
And don't give up on relationships just yet.. ur Knight in shining armor has come

You make yourself look stu.pid [pardon my French] trying to explain silly things to people who ask silly questions. Her initial question should have been best left without reaction but no, the simp[pardon my French] in you still wanted to put her through. Try to avoid emotional questions that will leave you to be questioned about how much of a man you are. It's a shit test and you failed. Imagine if your girlfriend asked you same question as the person you are replying to rn? I'm trying to teach you something, don't be offended, just read in between the line and understand the information I'm passing to you. ALL EMOTIONAL QUESTIONS ARE SHIT TEST, AVOID IT!

galadima77:

Though I see him sliding back

Already placed a bet on this. I wish he would do it already.

MelaninSkinGirl:


Wow, you are a sick man, I pray you have daughters or grand daughters because the sins you commit against women will be visited on your female progenies long after you leave this earth.

If his daughter decides to be cum dump for men, it's not his cross to carry but his daughter. Likewise mine and yours. Just pray to not have a brainless girl as a daughter.

Arrogantbro:
She once used some apology texts from the Internet. I noticed that and I asked her if those words were from her heart she said yes, she wrote them. Then I referred her to the site where she coined the texts from. The girl sabi lie die

Oh... I thought I was weird. So what's your next move? I placed a bet here with someone here that you would go back to her in no distance time, so when are you going back make I chop the guy? And please make it before this week end, my woman just born I need the cash.

Lalasticlalabos:
Nairalanders, let us bet. This guy will go back to her & in future,the girl will officially breakup with him without looking back.
Bro,stop deceiving yourself, from what I'm seeing,you are going back

I would have loved to place a bet, but I know his is weak and would soon return to her. Give him two weeks.

Arrogantbro:
I never wanted to believe my now ex girlfriend was a cheat even after receiving numerous advice from nairalanders here sometime ago in my other thread. I allowed the relationship to continued until yesterday due to the love I had for her.
Yesterday, her younger sister broke the news to me that her sister is cheating on me with a guy from her state. Before this happened, I have been seeing the red flags. Few days ago on my birthday, she posted my picture on whatsapp with the caption "friends become bestie". I was startled because I never knew I was my girlfriend's bestie. Damn, some girls are evil hearted. Secondly, she deleted the birthday post before 5pm, another red flag.
I have nothing to do with her anymore, I have officially broke up with her. I'm a free man now. Relationship is overrated, no Naija girl deserves to be trusted

Is it me or did anyone notice that she either Googled those "take me back" message or she has the app?

Twinkletwin:

As it is I'm waiting for the day they will discover that she is pregnant and we exchange i take his daughter and he takes my wife.

Na you gain pass. Imagine a 19yo body so sweet and succulent... Chai...

E no get anything weh we Nigerians no go fit copy. Meghan de Stallion don talk say she go show boob if her music reach number one for billboard.....

Now this local foul want show stretch marks and saggy boob for TV for her next album just to gather views.... Tueh!

Copy better thing, naija no go ever...

Martinez39s:
If you are not resolved to quitting porn, and making porn to not be part of your lifestyle, no block app can help you. When the urges tackle you so hard, you will deactivate the app sharp sharp.

Block app my foot.

I'm so addicted I've resolved to making money from it.

Ps no one should mg me asking how... I'm still searching and trying to quit as well.

Nonsoboy4life:

What if she starts crying and forming emotional tears or even probably refuses to go,?

Or what if she harms me in the night before then?

That's why I opt for her to leave first..do you get me?

Nna wait when she leaves oh... Make one no go kill man pikin (you). As soon as she reaches Awka, send her all the screenshot and just off phone. No answer her call or anything. She go use her head reason wetin sup.

Mod weh ban my main account, show your face make reason bone to bone.

emmaodet:


Bro i got banned by BOT on travel section due to my reply to you despite not having any 'F" words in it.
I'm always surprise the way i get banned easily.

I got banned two days ago quoting Acidosis and saying something related to a woman subtly endor.sing ba.by ma.ma and how she will regret it.

I wonder if women married to those top 100 Forbes richest men in the world are having a problem with taking their husband's name.


It's always a dirty girl from a no body who's father never amounted to anything in life and will never even if given the opportunity Dangote had. It's always them ugly mofos will be blabbing mouth to remain relevant socially.... Why?


Funny how it will never cross their mind to maintain their fathers name when married to a local government chairman in their communities not to talk of a real politician. Ew!

daveFBL:
Finally, I was able to capture a snake alive without hurting it. Its still small, not more than 2 weeks old from the look of things.

The specie happens to be House brown snake, they are non-venomous snakes. You can confirm... Its day 2 with it. But just wondering where I can get pink mice or anything to feed her with. She's a female. I checked for that also.

Hope its not a bad idea?

How you take know say na female?

JimPerry:
I met a girl on Facebook sometimes last year whom I really did like and admired. She claimed to be a very religious and disciplined person and this made me fall for her more.

We reside in different states so it wasn't too possible for us meet due to my work schedule and her school demands. However on her birthday, I offered to flex her around my city if only she could come around. This we planned will also be an avenue for us to meet and discuss our terms of relationship engagements. I was happy when she agreed to come. But unfortunately, our schedule couldn't hold anymore as I had to travel out of my state for sth else. Since then, we've planning to meet. Later in the month of March, we planned to meet again but just before the day of her coming, she called that she couldn't come anymore due the corona virus lockdown that had already begun in her state. This was a bad day for us and we planned to meet immediately after the virus era.

On one cold evening, last week, I recieved a call from her that she was coming the next day despite the lockdown as she can't stay any longer. I wondered why she suddenly took that decision despite the current situation in the country. I begged and convinced her not to come but relax and wait until after sometime as I wasn't even ready to receive her this period but she ignored it. She immediately went to the park to look for a vehicle and later found out that none of the transporters were coming to my state. Sincerely, I was excited that she will finally change her mind as there isn't any means of movt, but she was feeling very very bad. I was really surprised why she became so so desperate this time around.

The next day around 3pm, I recieved a message from her that she was on her way down. I instantly called her back to tell her to return back as I wasn't around in my state (as I had already travelled earlier without telling her). Her numbers were not reachable. I sent her series of message but her line were not reachable. I had to relax. At about 8pm, she called me with a strange number that she was already approaching my state. I instantly criticized her for boarding a vehicle without telling me. I told her I wasn't around and asked her to turn back but She kept begging me to find someone to host her till I returned. I had pity on her and called my friend to host her till I return. Because of her, I had to return back to my state the next day and she came over to my place.

When she came around, I criticized her as to why she got so desperate to come and see me despite the lockdown without pre-informing me.
She immediately broke into serious tears and began telling me that she ran away from home because she was pregnant for her ex bf (who had absconded) and her family members are very mad at her and will not allow her stay at home anymore. Now she has no where to stay. She said she don't want to abort the baby as she may die. Now she packed her belongings and left the house and want to relocate completely to my state to avoid the shame and embarrassment. She will also abandon her school and start again after giving birth.

I was deeply and terribly shocked. She never told me she had a bf all along when we were getting along. Now she is at my place begging to stay with me till she can get sth doing and rent her own place as she didn't have any money to rent her place now. I was devastated. This is a girl I really liked and I planned may get married to.
As much as I was angry, I just couldn't push her out but had pity on her and allowed her stay for the now.
Honestly, I'm not comfortable with the idea. Though I'm damn scared of her safety, I'm really tempted to tell her to leave as I'm scared of the implications of hosting her.
Will this be right to do. Or what do you think?

I just want to let you know something that simping has blocked your brain from reasoning. If that girl dies before during and after child labor in your house, e don be for you. E never easy for men weh marry their wife before she die not to talk of you weh never sabi whether you be boyfriend or not. Remember na friend you be oh.... Her people no go understand say na friend una deh friend.