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What an eye opening thread.
Thanks all for these recommendations. I'm gonna get better by God's grace.

chaircover: When I am angry I "attack" housework and/or play gospel music or get on the treadmill. You can try that, maybe it will work for you.

As regards your lady wanting you to stay and sort it, you are going to have to explain to her that this is your way if keeping your anger under control and that you cannot effectively sort out whatever the issue is whilst you are boiling.

Personally I dont like people walking out on me and I like to sort it out there and then, but I understand that not everyone can deal with anger the same way and I'd rather whoever it is walks away for a breather than him/her saying or doing something that will further escalate the situation.

There is nothing wrong in being angry. Its a healthy emotion . . . the idea is not to let the anger take hold of you or let it control you and make you do silly things that you will later regret.

exact thing, i try to avoid... thanks everyone...I've really learnt a lot here today...

Orikinla: I read a book like the Holy Bible, 48 Laws of Power or The Art of War to know how to turn my anger into positive power.

LOL...power play most times fail when dealing with someone u love so dearly...

candygosh: When u get pissed off, just do this;
Whisper quietly "I refuse to be angry" for as long as u can then shower. I tell u, u would smile after.
If u can't get a shower(maybe ure at work, just drink water). It helps me most times cos I av a bad temper

seriously, d shower idea is kool...and mixed with quietness will help alot...

@joeydozzy, @Mynd_44
Your advices also can be of great help.

Thanks Cretin. U have an idea how much they could cost...the ones I saw are 5k each for now. And 4k for tokunbo.

Thanks a lot Kunle. You are so on point here and I really need to master d act of quietness even at point of frustration. This, I will task myself to do. And by God's grace will become a better man.

Thanks @kunletiwoo
I have been praying about this. And I often try to be calm but trust ladies never to be quiet when u are quiet. Sometimes I try to leave my apt to relax outside for a while just to be able to regain my calmness but she hates that. She says she like it when we argue and settle not when I walk out to be calm.

I hardly get angry and all my life, I haven't had a physical fight with anyone but lately I discover I can be uncontrollable when offended though am not quick to anger. I can be very abusive and swear. I can say words like 'get d hell outta my life' and after some minutes begin to beg because I actually said those words out of d immediate anger. I don't drink, I don't smoke and I don't cheat, I am very dedicated to my quest for a good life, and a happy home in d future and don't ever wish to be distracted.

How do I control myself not to be abusive when angry (cus I hate it and my fiancée hates it as well).

Fhemmy's analysis is making me hasten my thought to have me 04 Corolla sold.
Please help me here, are there brands to look out for when replacing once's shock absorbers...changed the front shocks some 5 months ago and now it worse...(meanwhile i used the once that came with it for almost 2 years)

I drive a Corolla LE 2004 and I really need to change the shocks...never done this before since i got the car some 18 months ago...am really scared and trying to avoid buying fakes..I wanna know if there are different brands and the best to get.

That house should have been destroyed a long time ago. Too close to road and almost blocking the street at it side. So sorry to him. Make him just go collect him share.

@Horous, @Jakumo

I think the era of us ignoring this barbaric acts is gone. I think since the social media is now very popular in our country, we should step up our fight against cases like this. If we don't act now, this won't stop. It happens everywhere and I have witnessed about three different cases but this should be the last. I think there should be legal practitioners on Nairaland who should be willing to donate their time and strength to fight this. Let get on twitter and on facebook, get across to media houses, newspaper houses, get the national human right commission involved along with all sane Nigerians. I am willing to dedicate my time in this fight. Heads should roll for this lawlessness.

I have always wondered why some parents had heartlessly marked the face of innocent babies. I have always tried to know why? What are the justifications for these marks?
Do you have any tribal mark?
I have a straight mark right on my jaw, and my parents told me it has no cultural basis but traditional medical solution to the tooth problems I had while young.

Can anyone provide explanations please?

Good message, Bad messenger.
GEJ should apologize for lying. We will understand its was not his fault but that of his aides.

taharqa: So that am clear, esp as i HATE and distest Corruption in any form : there is still substantial corruption in 9ja, there should be no doubt about that. It cuts across all arms of govt( executive, legislative, and very unfortunately albeit in lesser form, Judiciary), all tiers of govt(FG, States and LG), civil service and MDGs, NGOs, schools, professional bodies, unfortunately religious bodies, general society including more than half of the peeps viewing dis thread presently( even many of d people who have bn shouting dier azz out on this thread). And while i note d tiny improvements in d FG, there is not a single doubt in my mind dat we are still in a bad situation and that the govt has to do more to tackle it; i bliv dat GEJ has to provide more leadership to fight more of corruption we see today and i think he could have done more. But excessively blaming GEJ wud not do any good in long run, it wud only give sm friviolous ppl sm 'feel good-i-caused-my-president ' momentary effect and then wud wear off. But serious minded ppl ought to think deep: i hv bn shouting here that we shld put sm pressure on d CJN to name d Special Judges for Corruption and Terroism she has promised since she became CJN about 3months ago. That is the most critical thing that can presently be done to tackle corruptn in dis country, any oda thing wud just be cosmetic. The President, d NBA, Civil Society groups, political parties and any one who matters, have urged her(as they did her predecessors) to name d judges, still no show- what they hell is stopping her to name dese judges 4 God's sake(caution: as we put pressure on her and d judiciary, lets respect d sensitive position and institutn she heads and not do what we hv come to do very well- curse away)

You are so right. Personally, I don't encourage insulting the President. But I think he needs to get in touch with the realities on ground. No doubt he is fighting a war against corruption but how sophisticated is this war? What signal is the anti-corruption war sending to the camps and minds of the corrupt? How many corrupt persons have been jailed? What is the govt relationship with indicted private businessmen? Is he even carrying the masses along in his war against corruption?

In the aspect of budget implementation and transparency at the fed level, he may be performing well but his relationship with corrupt persons is not helping the war at all.

jmaine: Can the mastvbating ediots on this thread dispute this . . . . .am sure this was the original line been twisted out of form . . . . .

Guy please can I find a link to verify this. The last time I checked we are on the 143rd position in the world after dropping 10 places. 134th in 2010.
The most corrupt nation in the world is Somalia on 183rd. This is on the CPI-2011 on the transparency international web. Please help me with any link to verify this claim. Abeg.

The truth about Bakassi, Nigeria and Cameroun – Bola Ajibola

On September 29, 2012 · In Special Report

4:09 am

By Bashir Adefaka
Prince Bola Ajibola (SAN), former Nigerian Minister of Justice and Attorney-General of the Federation, was on the Panel of Judges, at the International Court of Justice (ICJ), which decided on the issue of Bakassi between Nigeria and Cameroun. 

The former Nigerian High Commissioner to the United Kingdom took time off his busy schedule, even at  78, to narrate to Saturday Vanguard at his Hilltop GRA home in Abeokuta recently  how the ceding of Bakassi to Cameroun actually occurred. Excerpts:

You were not only a serving judge at The Hague when the International Court of Justice (ICJ) gave its verdict ceding Bakassi to Cameroun. What really happened and what do you say about the clamour for appeal that is presently going on?

To start with, there is nothing like appeal in our International Court of Justice (ICJ).  There is nothing like that.

You see what I mean?  An application can be made to review certain aspects of the judgment but not strictly speaking an appeal.  So, an appeal does not lie to our court there.



All they are now doing is belated and overtaken by events.  What they ought to have done is to have put their house in order before even independence and immediately after independence.

To be frank, when the situation became virtually what it is today, the Ministry of Justice, in those years in early 60s, sought for legal opinion on this matter and because of what happened in  1913 in the Anglo-German Agreement, it was since then that we have this uphill task because it was Britain that ceded the whole of that Bakassi area, well described in Article 21 and 22 of that agreement, specifically to Germany.



Prince Bola-Ajibola

Germany, when it suffered defeat during the Second World War, was deprived of that area and Bakassi went to France and it was France that gave independence to Cameroun and that was how Cameroun got into it.

A lot of people have been saying a lot of things that are not really correct.  In most cases, we ourselves as Nigerians bastardized our position because, as far back as 1961, we had written a note to Cameroun telling Cameroun that we Nigerians are aware of the fact that they own Bakassi!

Throughout all these 1960s and 1970s, our map of Nigeria was always indicating the excise of Bakassi out of our own land in Nigeria as part of what belongs to Cameroon.  In fact, it has further been stamped by the fact that we agreed that our boundary is in Akwa Yafe as opposed to Rio del Rey. If we own Bakassi, the boundary would have been in Rio del Rey and not Akwa Yafe.  We agreed to that! We Nigerians in Nigeria here.

And we even at a time asked Professor Valad in Britain to advise us on the matter and that professor told us clearly that we had an uphill task, that what we thought we owned had already been transferred to Cameroun through that treaty.  That is the situation.

But there are still questions to be answered, which had already been ignored or decided against by the ICJ and you can read a lot of that in my ‘dissenting opinion’.  Your see, the situation is far more than what a lot of people have been talking about.

It is what has happened beyond our time, before our time.  We are now raking the misfortune of yesteryears and we are now the victims of the problems that arose before now.  That was at the time of our independence.

From what you have said, where and how did General Gowon, General Obasanjo and you came into this controversy because it has been said that Gowon started it, Obasanjo gave it out and you sat on the panel that decided the case against Nigeria?

No.  It is wrong.  They are not mentioning the names that they ought to mention, which really prejudiced our case before the ICJ.  They ought to mention the name of our Minister of Foreign Affairs just immediately after our independence in 1961 that really in his note gave Bakassi to Cameroun.  That should be mentioned.

We are just the unfortunate victims of what had happened before our time in Nigeria.  And a lot of things happened advertently and inadvertently through our regular mistakes or misfortunes.

Then, how in the first instance, did the matter get to the ICJ?

Cameroun took us to ICJ.  And let me say this, that in fact it was during the time of this litigation at the ICJ on the application by Cameroun that we started changing our map to include Bakassi (laughs).

That was the obvious and the judges are human beings.  They are there equipped with evidence put in by Cameroun.  It’s a case of an admission that we have taken on ourselves to cede all this area to Cameroun based even upon the 1913 Anglo-German Treaty and based on what we lawyers call pacta sunt savanda.

It is very, very unfortunate that a kettle is now calling a pot black.  It ought not to be at all because the mistake or the problem started right from the beginning of our independence.  Those who are now shouting ought to have started shouting at that time if they could get hold of all that we did.

But why do you think the Nigerian side appeared to be complacent over the judgment that they didn’t talk about it until now?

Let me say something here.  Bakassi is not the beginning and end of the whole issue.  What Cameroun took us to ICJ for was not only Bakassi.  It had to do with the land in Lake Chad; the land boundary between the two of us, the land boundary between Nigeria and Cameroun from Lake Chad to the Sea as well as Bakassi and the maritime boundary.  The maritime limit that they asked for and that is asking for virtually all the sea boundary of our present Nigeria.

Let me say that if they had succeeded in that, we would have been in the misfortune of having no more oil, at least the foreshore oil.  We would not be so privileged any longer.

But that is not the most heinous part of the action that was taken by Cameroun.  Cameroun took Nigeria to court on what we call ‘state responsibility’.  It’s like a criminal charge against Nigeria.  If they had succeeded in that one alone, we would have been thrown into endless debt that must be payable to Cameroun.

We never allowed that to happen because we counterclaimed against them on it, which saved us the internal slavery to Cameroun and being in perpetual penury in which we would have been till today and henceforth.  We did not allow that to happen to us.  But that wasn’t all.

Those who are criticizing should go and look into the judgment again and they will find out that virtually we gained generally rather than losing.  Because the entire land that Cameroun had occupied in Nigeria, and we were able to ascertain that belong to Nigeria on the land boundary, far exceeded that which is now claimed in Bakassi.  And we were able to claim it back from them.

Could you  give a bit of the details of what we gained and what do you advise the agitators for return of Bakassi to Nigeria to do?

In Chad area, we knew that it was the ceding of the water that forced our people out of that place and since the water kept drying up, we got into that situation.

We moved out of that but they also moved out of the Southern part of that Chad which they occupied and which belong to Nigeria. But I think before they start doing anything, I mean those that are now talking, they should not look into Bakassi alone because, Bakassi is not a be-all-and-earn-all of the whole things involved in this dispute.

It is the land and maritime boundary.  We gained extensively considering the claim of Cameroun against us on the maritime boundary.  We gained extensively in that.

They must not be myopic, they must be objective and they must look into the whole judgment before passing any judgment further on what they may likely go back to the court for.

Again, the whole dispute had three phases, I have to say.  It started with the preliminary objection on admissibility and jurisdiction.

We first of all told the court that, that action is misconceived and should not be entertained.  We gave eight reasons for this but the whole thing was turned down by the court and the court rejected all those reasons .

Then the case on merit. Also, before that, there was also an application on …..on certain aspects of the case.

These people should go into our archives and be well informed and be well educated on this thing and in fact the antecedents before litigations.

They should look into it.  And they should look again into the history of what is Southern Nigeria and Northern Nigeria and all that moved.  Because the Northern Nigeria moved into Nigeria while part of Southern Nigeria went to Cameroun.  So, we need to look into all that.  We need to check our facts before we start talking.

Just before stop this discussion, let me quickly ask: Why is it that our Constitution still reflects Bakassi as one of the 774 Local Governments of the Federal Republic of Nigeria and yet we believe, as a system that Bakassi has been ceded?

Whatever may be the problem with implementing a decision of the court is the internal problem of Nigeria and that, in itself, is strictly domestic.  All we need to do is to check the Section 12 of our Constitution and put our house in order.

The international community is not concerned about that.  Internationally judgment has been given against us with regard to Bakassi and that, they are aware of.

As a matter of fact there are so many things that one needs not come out with in this matter that could have happened disastrously to what is called Nigeria.  And as a matter of fact, if we had done something else, there would be no Nigeria by now and arms conflicts would have taken over and there are so many countries in this world that are so friendly with the position of Cameroun because they are of the view that Cameroun has Bakassi.

Meaning that even if the verdict hasn’t favoured Cameroun, it could have declared war against Nigeria believing there are so many world powers that would come to its aid?

They could because so many powerful countries in the world are behind Cameroun on this matter.  We have seen that and we have been told about that.  We are aware of that and actions are already going on, on that.  So, we must be very careful.

And I repeat that we must be very careful.  We must think again and we must look into the history.  Those who are talking now must first of all go into the history and look at all that happened before independence and immediately after independence.

You see what I mean?  And they should look into all the powers exercised by the colonial masters and all the international agreements and treaties.  It is worth looking at and, perhaps, they should read my Dissenting Opinion.

http://www.vanguardngr.com/2012/09/the-truth-about-bakassi-nigeria-and-cameroun-bola-ajibola/

The truth about Bakassi, Nigeria and Cameroun – Bola Ajibola

On September 29, 2012 · In Special Report

4:09 am

By Bashir Adefaka
Prince Bola Ajibola (SAN), former Nigerian Minister of Justice and Attorney-General of the Federation, was on the Panel of Judges, at the International Court of Justice (ICJ), which decided on the issue of Bakassi between Nigeria and Cameroun. 

The former Nigerian High Commissioner to the United Kingdom took time off his busy schedule, even at  78, to narrate to Saturday Vanguard at his Hilltop GRA home in Abeokuta recently  how the ceding of Bakassi to Cameroun actually occurred. Excerpts:

You were not only a serving judge at The Hague when the International Court of Justice (ICJ) gave its verdict ceding Bakassi to Cameroun. What really happened and what do you say about the clamour for appeal that is presently going on?

To start with, there is nothing like appeal in our International Court of Justice (ICJ).  There is nothing like that.

You see what I mean?  An application can be made to review certain aspects of the judgment but not strictly speaking an appeal.  So, an appeal does not lie to our court there.



All they are now doing is belated and overtaken by events.  What they ought to have done is to have put their house in order before even independence and immediately after independence.

To be frank, when the situation became virtually what it is today, the Ministry of Justice, in those years in early 60s, sought for legal opinion on this matter and because of what happened in  1913 in the Anglo-German Agreement, it was since then that we have this uphill task because it was Britain that ceded the whole of that Bakassi area, well described in Article 21 and 22 of that agreement, specifically to Germany.



Prince Bola-Ajibola

Germany, when it suffered defeat during the Second World War, was deprived of that area and Bakassi went to France and it was France that gave independence to Cameroun and that was how Cameroun got into it.

A lot of people have been saying a lot of things that are not really correct.  In most cases, we ourselves as Nigerians bastardized our position because, as far back as 1961, we had written a note to Cameroun telling Cameroun that we Nigerians are aware of the fact that they own Bakassi!

Throughout all these 1960s and 1970s, our map of Nigeria was always indicating the excise of Bakassi out of our own land in Nigeria as part of what belongs to Cameroon.  In fact, it has further been stamped by the fact that we agreed that our boundary is in Akwa Yafe as opposed to Rio del Rey. If we own Bakassi, the boundary would have been in Rio del Rey and not Akwa Yafe.  We agreed to that! We Nigerians in Nigeria here.

And we even at a time asked Professor Valad in Britain to advise us on the matter and that professor told us clearly that we had an uphill task, that what we thought we owned had already been transferred to Cameroun through that treaty.  That is the situation.

But there are still questions to be answered, which had already been ignored or decided against by the ICJ and you can read a lot of that in my ‘dissenting opinion’.  Your see, the situation is far more than what a lot of people have been talking about.

It is what has happened beyond our time, before our time.  We are now raking the misfortune of yesteryears and we are now the victims of the problems that arose before now.  That was at the time of our independence.

From what you have said, where and how did General Gowon, General Obasanjo and you came into this controversy because it has been said that Gowon started it, Obasanjo gave it out and you sat on the panel that decided the case against Nigeria?

No.  It is wrong.  They are not mentioning the names that they ought to mention, which really prejudiced our case before the ICJ.  They ought to mention the name of our Minister of Foreign Affairs just immediately after our independence in 1961 that really in his note gave Bakassi to Cameroun.  That should be mentioned.

We are just the unfortunate victims of what had happened before our time in Nigeria.  And a lot of things happened advertently and inadvertently through our regular mistakes or misfortunes.

Then, how in the first instance, did the matter get to the ICJ?

Cameroun took us to ICJ.  And let me say this, that in fact it was during the time of this litigation at the ICJ on the application by Cameroun that we started changing our map to include Bakassi (laughs).

That was the obvious and the judges are human beings.  They are there equipped with evidence put in by Cameroun.  It’s a case of an admission that we have taken on ourselves to cede all this area to Cameroun based even upon the 1913 Anglo-German Treaty and based on what we lawyers call pacta sunt savanda.

It is very, very unfortunate that a kettle is now calling a pot black.  It ought not to be at all because the mistake or the problem started right from the beginning of our independence.  Those who are now shouting ought to have started shouting at that time if they could get hold of all that we did.

But why do you think the Nigerian side appeared to be complacent over the judgment that they didn’t talk about it until now?

Let me say something here.  Bakassi is not the beginning and end of the whole issue.  What Cameroun took us to ICJ for was not only Bakassi.  It had to do with the land in Lake Chad; the land boundary between the two of us, the land boundary between Nigeria and Cameroun from Lake Chad to the Sea as well as Bakassi and the maritime boundary.  The maritime limit that they asked for and that is asking for virtually all the sea boundary of our present Nigeria.

Let me say that if they had succeeded in that, we would have been in the misfortune of having no more oil, at least the foreshore oil.  We would not be so privileged any longer.

But that is not the most heinous part of the action that was taken by Cameroun.  Cameroun took Nigeria to court on what we call ‘state responsibility’.  It’s like a criminal charge against Nigeria.  If they had succeeded in that one alone, we would have been thrown into endless debt that must be payable to Cameroun.

We never allowed that to happen because we counterclaimed against them on it, which saved us the internal slavery to Cameroun and being in perpetual penury in which we would have been till today and henceforth.  We did not allow that to happen to us.  But that wasn’t all.

Those who are criticizing should go and look into the judgment again and they will find out that virtually we gained generally rather than losing.  Because the entire land that Cameroun had occupied in Nigeria, and we were able to ascertain that belong to Nigeria on the land boundary, far exceeded that which is now claimed in Bakassi.  And we were able to claim it back from them.

Could you  give a bit of the details of what we gained and what do you advise the agitators for return of Bakassi to Nigeria to do?

In Chad area, we knew that it was the ceding of the water that forced our people out of that place and since the water kept drying up, we got into that situation.

We moved out of that but they also moved out of the Southern part of that Chad which they occupied and which belong to Nigeria. But I think before they start doing anything, I mean those that are now talking, they should not look into Bakassi alone because, Bakassi is not a be-all-and-earn-all of the whole things involved in this dispute.

It is the land and maritime boundary.  We gained extensively considering the claim of Cameroun against us on the maritime boundary.  We gained extensively in that.

They must not be myopic, they must be objective and they must look into the whole judgment before passing any judgment further on what they may likely go back to the court for.

Again, the whole dispute had three phases, I have to say.  It started with the preliminary objection on admissibility and jurisdiction.

We first of all told the court that, that action is misconceived and should not be entertained.  We gave eight reasons for this but the whole thing was turned down by the court and the court rejected all those reasons .

Then the case on merit. Also, before that, there was also an application on …..on certain aspects of the case.

These people should go into our archives and be well informed and be well educated on this thing and in fact the antecedents before litigations.

They should look into it.  And they should look again into the history of what is Southern Nigeria and Northern Nigeria and all that moved.  Because the Northern Nigeria moved into Nigeria while part of Southern Nigeria went to Cameroun.  So, we need to look into all that.  We need to check our facts before we start talking.

Just before stop this discussion, let me quickly ask: Why is it that our Constitution still reflects Bakassi as one of the 774 Local Governments of the Federal Republic of Nigeria and yet we believe, as a system that Bakassi has been ceded?

Whatever may be the problem with implementing a decision of the court is the internal problem of Nigeria and that, in itself, is strictly domestic.  All we need to do is to check the Section 12 of our Constitution and put our house in order.

The international community is not concerned about that.  Internationally judgment has been given against us with regard to Bakassi and that, they are aware of.

As a matter of fact there are so many things that one needs not come out with in this matter that could have happened disastrously to what is called Nigeria.  And as a matter of fact, if we had done something else, there would be no Nigeria by now and arms conflicts would have taken over and there are so many countries in this world that are so friendly with the position of Cameroun because they are of the view that Cameroun has Bakassi.

Meaning that even if the verdict hasn’t favoured Cameroun, it could have declared war against Nigeria believing there are so many world powers that would come to its aid?

They could because so many powerful countries in the world are behind Cameroun on this matter.  We have seen that and we have been told about that.  We are aware of that and actions are already going on, on that.  So, we must be very careful.

And I repeat that we must be very careful.  We must think again and we must look into the history.  Those who are talking now must first of all go into the history and look at all that happened before independence and immediately after independence.

You see what I mean?  And they should look into all the powers exercised by the colonial masters and all the international agreements and treaties.  It is worth looking at and, perhaps, they should read my Dissenting Opinion.

http://www.vanguardngr.com/2012/09/the-truth-about-bakassi-nigeria-and-cameroun-bola-ajibola/

ACN's Akeredolu proved again that he is not a politician. No doubt abt his professional standard but in d practice of politics, he is still a learner. He came in brightly and tried to play by d rules of NO direct attacks which attracted a heavy punch from Mimiko. His counter attack was poor and from there his defenses went crashn. He lost focus and gave Mimiko the impetus to ride freely.

Mimiko, a very good speaker utilized the lack of facts by the opponent. He spent most of the night guiding his policies and defendn weak attacks from the others.

Oke is good. Very good. But was been diplomatic with his missiles. He was indirect, and this helped his defenses.

koseepaaro: Thank you, thank you very much indeed, all advice noted! But one more thing: what do you suggest I should do when I take her to a hotek just to sleep there overnight and she says I shouldn`t lodge her in any hotel that she will be comfortable sleeping in our house, even if she have to sleep on the mat, that she wouldn`t mind? The lady is the type that always tell me that I like to waste money each time I buy anything that is a little bit expensive for her that instead of me wasting my money on that thing that I should have given her the money that I used to buy that thing for her. Or I should have phoned her to tell her that I want to buy such a thing for her. Should I still tell her that she shouldn`t worry that she should let us go that I want comfort for her? What would you advise me to do at that point? To answer one of the questions that you guys are asking me, my brother was the one that told me to bring her down to his place to come and sleep overnight when I raised alarm to him that I don`t know where she would sleep because I`m quite sure that she can`t go back to their town on that same Saturday. And see, this lady didn`t tell me that she would like to meet both my mum and my siblings when she comes until yesteqday evening when a message enter into my phone and I opened up the message and read this meeting my mum and my siblings issue of a thing. But to be honest with you, house, I`ve got only 7k from which I planned to use in preparing food for her and give the remaining one to her as her fare (though her fare from their town to my place is just N1,600, making it roughly about N3,500 to and fro including fare on bike). That`s the plain truth, house! Now tell me, how can I achieve all these with the 7k that I have?

Gud.
Immediately she lands. Don't pretend. Let her know u have 7k budgeted. Since she know u r very gud financially yet, she will understand. Give here 3500 immediately she arrives to cover her transport expenses. Get a hotel for 2k on saturday, organize dinner for her from you brother's house. Since she's going on sunday, she will check out by 12, then use to balance to give her a nice treat with fried rice with beef o (not chicken), salad and a drink. Barely 800. Naira.
Then u r OK

OP.
Women desires convenience. Make her comfortable with you. If u can't afford to lodge her in a hotel. Then postpone the visit till u are financially buoyant to have her visit u. She's staying for just 2 days and she deserves to be treated in an unforgettable manner so that she will be happy and comfortable with u.

[quote author=ndu_chucks]If this video does not encourage the youths to get involved and participate in the political process, then this is the crop of leaders you'll continue to get.

95% of nairalanders who regularly post in the Politics section are brighter than these candidates.[/quote]You are so right. I currently reside in Akure, Ondo State and I felt so sad listening to those idiots slaughter the reputation of the Ondo people. It got to an unbearable point where I had to switch of electronics. I still feel the pain as I talk.

Thank God for NEDG.

taharqa: Did he actually use the word foreign military intervention?

Please help me ask them o.
If actually he used it, then I don't agree with him totally. We may require foreign anti-terrorism expertise in the area of intelligence gathering and training for our secret service. But foreign military intervention will only aid the reputation of the group. With the performance of the men on ground(JTF), we are not facing shortcomings in this containment stage, but the intelligence input the JTF is getting still seems to be poor and slow. Abu Qaqa was not tracked down going by what we read in the dailies. He was just caught in a road block and his identity revealed by the woman with him after he was killed. The accountant was arrested with the help of a bank. How come they keep arresting the top officers without still getting to know the hideout of Shekau.

[quote author=acidosis™]I love this! and I endorse this.

Another one for students is project writing. write as long as you've got a good I.Q. You will make good money from other students especially, Mature students, Part-time students and even your fellow course mates.

I did it then in school.. I remember writing a thesis for a masters student in my 400l [/quote]Did a lot of this o. 3k per chapter. 5 chapters = 15k. Wrote up to 25 long essays then. Stressful but fruitful.

Well, watch tomorrow's edition and u wont be disappointed...
These morons parading themselves as aspirants are just there to seek attention.
And let us not forget that presenting poor candidates cum aspirants is one of the demerits of a Multi-Party system.

afam4eva: For those of you that are wondering why Akwa Ibom with the E-LIbrary did not win this award. You have to understand that this award is for the state that is IT compliant. Which means this state uses IT in the day to day running of the state affairs. For instance, if you want to pay any fee to Ekiti, you can pay it online etc. It's not just about having an E-Library that i'm not sure is fully functional yet.

Also note that this award is for Ekiti Government and not for Ekiti state. Note the difference. If it was for states, then Lagos could easily have one this award.

U are damn right here. After spending some months in the state within the last 12 months, I can say that Gov. Fayemi is a right thinking man. Everything about the state civil service, the state university is ICT-driven (biometric re-registration of the civil servants).

The state is so poor yet the govt is working hard in it quest to renew the state capital, upgrade their schools, and invest immensely in agriculture (especially yam processing).

The guy dey try.

Delafruita: 1500naira weekly on fuel?sure?

Yes o. Very sure cus I live in akure now and my house to work isn't more than a 15 min drive (no much traffic) and my car is 100% fuel efficient. 4k fills my tank.

Seeing what Siena, and Wallie posted here, I think I should stick tight to my tax-free economy, and govt here...

I drive a Corolla LE 2004. V4. Barely 2 years old.
I spend 1500 naira weekly on gas = 6000/monthly = 72,000
3500naira/monthly goes to servicing = 42,000
MOT = NO
Road Tax = there are no taxable roads in Nigeria.
Annual Car Registration = 10,000 (actually covers all taxes)

All makes 124,000 naira in a year. I think that's ok for corper like me.

Right now. The message is coming to me that GEJ is in ASO ROCK. That PHCN will be no more. That there will be no state policing. That the price of GA.......garlic will increase.

So says the spirit in me.

The Ghana cedi was just redenominated to easily control the quick devaluation it was witnessing. That 1 GHC equals some naira doesn't mean it can buy what its naira equivalent can. I think they did that just be able to create more currency denominations. If Nigeria decides to redenominate and make 1 naira (154naira) equal a dollar, it still does not mean our One naira can buy what the American dollar can. So in value, u will need more 1 nairas to chase the value of 1 dollar.

The PDP must be ready to start presenting charismatic candidates for gubernatorial seats in the SW if they ever hope to reclaim the region. How can u set that General against a performing Oshiomole in Edo where Prof. Ahonvhere would have been a better opponent, set Sola Oke vs LP's Mimiko or ACN's Akeredolu in Ondo State where they could have hijacked Prof Borofice, plans to set Fayose against Fayemi in Ekiti State (Rwanda vs Spain). Other parties are scouting for and presenting charismatic candidates while the PDP keeps relying on Federal might.