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Dearlove2me:
The truth is right now, I feel like going somewhere for a while. I feel like I need rest. Somewhere I can forget about all my problems and breathe a fresh air.
My husband has not been honest with me since the beginning of this marriage and I doubt if this is an attitude of a man that loves

He has always been in debt even before I married him. and he wouldn't let me know what he do with the money he keeps borrowing from people. Even my friends I introduced to him, he is owning them and can't pay back.

The bad side is, he borrows and stop picking their calls not respond nicely to them.
He behalves badly to them.
I'm suspecting he's into some kind of addiction that demands money. Maybe gambling but he wouldn't tell me.
He's constantly on his phone.

He is owning loan app everywhere. To the extent that the app had to send hurrible messages to his contact's lists including his bosses, office colleagues and my relatives.
It's so embarrassing and tiring.
He has apologized several times that I should give him time to work on himself to stop an addiction, but he refused to explain what it is. Claiming that I might leave him if I know.
But he has not changed abit.
We are always hungry in this house. No baby food for my 6months old baby, no pampers and everything is total struggle. I quit my job last year but I'll soon start job search once my baby grow a little.
In this house, If I don't look for food, then, we starve, I don't look for means of getting pampers, food, wears,then my baby will suffer, because his daddy is not capable of providing anything for us. It's so annoying.

I have dreams before I married him, but right now, I feel lost. There's no romance, no love, no affection in this marriage anymore, as I wouldn't even let him touch me because of the stress, suffer he constantly brings on us.

Money I raised to start up a business, (340k) I ended up using it to pay for his debt last two months because the people were always coming to embarrass us in the house and neighbors were coming to pleade on our behalf. I had to clear up the loan, yet he couldn't explain what he did with the money.
With that start up capital, I would have been growing by now, but here I am. Still at the zero point.

I'm really tired
I'm so confused here.
What should I do?
What would you advise?

How old is your marriage? Was he like this during your courtship? Does he have a brother, sister, mother, friends that loves him and your family? Does he have a spiritual father he honors or a mentor he has high respect for?

Your solution is in one or more of these I mentioned.

TheBillyonaire:
Look up Ethnocracy.

Nigeria is Ethnocratic Republic, in the true sense of the word.

a nation, state, or community in which political power is distributed according to ethnic or racial affiliation
The above is positive if they develop in their own pace. It is not bad to own up to such practice if the various ethnic groups practice fairness and equity.

But demoncracy is a type of government where demons operates in human form. How to know is suffering rate/years of suffering

I am a Nigerian and I am proudly so but what my country is practicing is not democracy, we move from demorecracy during PDP era to demoncracy. This one na long thing.

But as for me and my house we shall serve the Lord and we are so blessed.

Enjoy!!! I Am Obidient. I sign out in peace. Shalom

Myopic view. Those areas pay the bills that makes Lagos.

She should be arrested.

So I just casted my vote now. Good luck

LagosEmir:
it's still Early

I'm still in bed, I will vote in 2 hrs time

Ah! Bros, you dey enjoy ooo. Abeg stand up.

In my polling unit, voting has commenced but with very low turn out. INEC has killed people's moral.

Wike has touched the apple of our eyes and he will pay for it.

colorsofrainbow:
U didn't add Enugu and Kaduna and Kano.
Dey wyne yourself

In my post I said, add yours.

Globad:
APC will win in Lagos State

We shall know this by this time tomorrow by God's grace. Finger crossed.

Fibonacci88:
Add cross River.. caterpillar is winning tomorrow

Which one is caterpillar again?

blackmantis:
Nasarawa is going to PDP.

Yes, you are correct

sageb:
PDP will win Plateau
APC will win Lagos and Benue
LP will win Abia state
YPP will win Akwa Ibom

You are a politician by this your prediction. It takes someone with deep knowledge to mention YPP and Akwa Ibom.

Babzrockman:
Forget what played out in presidential election, I was born in Lagos but far away from Lagos now. But I have about 7 friends there who voted Obi because of Muslim Muslim tickets not because it's Peter Obi or Labor Party... Like those guys are voting for Sanwo Olu

OK. But I frequent Lagos and my car and driver's license are from Lagos. I drive a lot of time around Lagos due to my work and what I see is not too good.

Jones4190:
APC will win Benue and Lagos comfortable

I don't know of Lagos state but I think they may win Akwa Ibom State.

garfield1:
Remove Lagos state

Why, can you shade light on this?

Zonefree:
Labour Party will occupy all the states you mentioned, insha'Allah in Jesus name, Iseeee!

I don't know which party but I do know that it will not be business as usual.

There is so much awakening in Nigeria politics. It will be foolish for someone to think that it is business as usual.

What I want to do today is to list few states that may not have their usual party winning the tomorrow's election. Below are the states, you can add yours.

1. Akwa Ibom State: There is a lot of disharmony in the state as we speak. In fact my LGA, Oron is playing opposition in the state and other LGAs. Aside this, people are tired of PDP in the state. They are looking for a fresh party and ideas. To worsen the situation, the flag bearer of PDP gov mandate is a turn off for many Akwa Ibomite. Especially his recent Happy Hour policy.

2. Abia State: This State is overdue for a change in party because among the states in the south and South East, Abia state comes worst in terms of development. In fact, it is like a curse. Even the enemy of Abia State is tired of her backwardness. So be sure to see a change here.

3. Lagos State: Lagos State is also in the eye of the storm. To be truthful with you, many Lagosians are tired of APC and the dominant of her godfather. Even many "Loyalist" of Tinubu are working against him behind. The reason is not far fetch. It is human. Any time people perceive that you are dominating them, they will revolt. Sometimes they will work against you behind while praising you in your presence or where they will get favors.

Unfortunately, the few who are still benefiting from the current deny these obvious facts. They think it is Ibos that are trying to change the system. No, it is the core Lagosians who is driving the change mantra, other tribes joined in the struggle. You can verify this from the Oluomo Twitter handle where #Mobolajiejikedantata responded that they were not igbos but many Omo Ale Yorubas and that they are many. Lagos condition now is not surprising to me. It is a normal phenomenon.

4. Benue State: The past 8 years has been so rough for this State. Even the current government seems so helpless. It has been from one tragedy to another and people are tired and looking for quick answers and solutions to their plight which seems not to be in sight. So expect to see a change.

5. Plateau State: I don't know much about this state but what I do know is that there have been too many attacks in some sections of the state in the last 8 years. These has fueled a lot of resentment and people are tired of their situation and need a change as well.

You can add yours.

Modified:

I think I should add Rivers State as my No 6

It is not good to be desperate. Tinubu's desperation has caused him his honor.

Pierocash:
I have often told people that Atiku cannot be trusted ,once he gets money ,he backs out.

The true owner of the mandate will take back his mandate. Atiku is only nothing but a distraction

Many did not read the context of the article. Please go back and reread the post. Hmmm

They will kill his career. In fact what do I know about football sef.

Throwback:
Obi would couldn't go beyond 25% in only 16 states (less than half of 36 states), who couldn't win even insignificant votes in the core North and SouthWest outside Lagos, somehow believes he won the election?

The guy is suffering from a very destructive delusion.

But if that was the case what was the need for rigging the election and making Nigeria look like a zombie nation in the sight of the world.

Why was presidential results not uploaded in real time? Please make sure you check out things with clear facts.

Why did inech chairman not vetting the results for seven days as there were a lot of questions on the ones he was reading?

Say it again

Chinjo2:
The tool used to commit a crime is marked as exibit 'A'

Who retrieve it?

I need a seasoned lawyer to help me answer this question.

What happens to a tool allegedly used to commit a crime?

Why I am asking this question is to have understanding on the laws we are operating in Nigeria. People are clamoring for a better country and yet many don't know that what makes a country a better place is the extent at which laws are effective no matter what.

maasoap:

Sweeping victory my ass! Massive riggings with the intimidation of voters who wanted to vote other parties other than LP.
If Obi's votes from the south east has to be made to pass through integrity test, he won't have one million votes left.

Fear God even if you no fear man.

BigBrother9ja:
Rubbish
So that the thing will convert to BLACK HEADS LATER...

WHERE DO YOU PEOPLE GET YOUR NONSENSE ADVICE AND RECOMMENDATIONS?

One wisdom I have learned about life is that I don't argue things I have not done or practiced. It is a life saving habits.

effido666:
Even wen dey are ripe ?

Yes, allow it to burst by itself. The temptation to press it at this point is very high, even among people around you but resist it. It will burst by itself and you wipe it out without still pressing it.

Nna, your 4head eh. Back to the topic, stop pressing pimples on your face and you will be free forever. Do this and thank me later.

all4zionlover:
What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money.

He just wakes up in the morning, have his bath, put on the AC and go back to sleep. Only expecting any little thing the wife can cook to eat? He wouldn't pay any bills, provide anything but very humble helping out with house cleaning and washing.

Knowing that the situation is not funny on the wife and two children.

The wife must struggle to make food available no matter how little for the children, because she can't watch the children go hungry.
In a situation like this, when men goes out looking for means of making food available for their children and family, he is comfortable not having anything to offer all the time.
Is this the character of a father and husband that loves?

Is this not enough reason to divorce him?

Not a good reason to do so except the madam is already eying something better. You know how you met him, you can put him back and try to let him see reasons why he should get up and work. Engage him in frank discussion, no hold-bar but with humility.