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Romance / Re: Pls Guys Help Me Out. by InkedNerd(f): 6:40pm On Mar 18, 2012 |
@OP: Get a wingman! Not a yeye wingman--get one with sense who knows how to treat women with respect and who probably has a "decent" relationship to show for it. Be careful though, some girls can be very yeye though. |
Romance / Re: Advise For Ladies by InkedNerd(f): 6:36pm On Mar 18, 2012 |
A woman can cheapen herself when she has no respect for herself. When you have no respect for yourself, you're prone to just about anything disparaging treatment from from a man. |
Romance / Re: What Will U Do.if U Caught Ur Spouse Making Love To Ur Best Fwend?be Sincere Plz by InkedNerd(f): 6:33pm On Mar 18, 2012 |
@OP: Well, I'd go grab a bottle of champagne and make a toast to them and their new found relationship, finish my glass, and give the two fools the deuces and call it a day. I don't fight for or about men. The only men I fight for or about are the men in my family. If you're not one of them, then I have no business doing that. |
Romance / Re: Co-habitation by InkedNerd(f): 6:28pm On Mar 18, 2012 |
I don't believe that there really is one answer for this question. It's more of an opinionated response that you'll find here on the romance section. In my opinion, I'm all for it but I think couples need to consider many pros and cons before they consider such living situations. Although I'm very open minded to the idea, its not something I can see for my doing primarily because of the fact that I like my space and I like the idea of being come and go as I please. I think having that kind of space can be essential to a relationship because you don't want to create a situation where were you're going to get tired of one another. Some pros of cohabiting with a partner would be it can offer financial benefits (for example, the pooling of incomes, and avoidance of paying higher income taxes), it's a way to test compatibility before tying the knot, if marriage is the end goal, for same-sex couples who are banned from getting married, it may be the only option, in some states and countries, cohabitation is regarded as common-law marriage if you have lived together for a certain amount of time and have a child, and depending on the couple, it can promise a more even split of the housework than that carried out by married couples. Living with the person you are dating can be difficult. When faced with habits, responsibility, and strange preferences, relationships often take a turn for the worse. The shock of poor hygiene or the extremely picky and obsessive living manners of your significant other could be a turn off. If you find that lifestyles are just not compatible the relationship may sadly end. Some people feel this is a good thing because they have the freedom to easily leave, in most cases, because there is no divorce process. They can walk away saying, "At least I didn't marry them". Some cons of cohabitation could be, you may get sick of each other--during the “honeymoon” phase of moving in together a person may feel like they're spending too much time together which can take its toll thus causing feelings of suffocation. Otherwise potentially successful relationships can self destruct if progression is forced too early. Also, you may not find out everything about the person you're with. Even though living together does demonstrate the general living habits of a partner, it cannot give you a full insight into their character if they are resistant in revealing it. Some couples can be together for many years before they feel that they have seen their partner’s true colors and marriages can break down after many decades. Therefore, it can be argued that cohabitation before marriage is pointless. For the most part, these can be the basics in terms of the pros and cons when it comes to living with someone you're dating. |
Romance / Re: Can Your Man Kiss Your Feet? by InkedNerd(f): 5:27pm On Mar 18, 2012 |
@OP: Honestly, I'd prefer if a guy didn't kiss my feet |
Romance / Re: 12 Years Of Unhappy Marriage by InkedNerd(f): 5:18pm On Mar 18, 2012 |
Leyelyzo: Actually, I don't have a problem with men. What I have a problem with is a society that encourages women to stay in marriages that are detrimental to their overall mortality--that's what I have a problem with! Because I have chosen to address you and others on this thread as I did does not mean that I have issues with men. That's the one thing that I can't stand about certain people when it comes to addressing domestic violence, especially in Nigeria. A women who speaks out against this sort of issue or advises that an abused spouse shouldn't go back under any circumstance is deemed as a "man hater" or that they have "issues" with men. As a whole, domestic violence between both genders is wrong but to tell some that they need to reconsider leaving because being a single mother will be an difficult task is a heaping load of crap! Yes, it won't be easy but that is the sacrifice that she must make both as a woman and as a mother in order to ensure that both she and her children are safe and out of harms way. What kind of example is that setting for a child when they grow up seeing their father abusing, humiliating, and dehumanizing their mother?!?! If you're the sort of person who would want to stay and reconcile, then good for you but for a woman, especially in Nigeria, that should NEVER be an option. Hardship is always going to be factor in ones life but there is no reason why any human being should ever be subjected to such ill treatment. In a society where women are often regarded as second class citizens telling someone that they should reconsider isn't the best option. CalienteMi: It is funny how "we" judge westerners for divorcing like crazy when we don't even know what really goes on behind closed doors. Some women should focus on the safety of their children's lives including their own instead of lamenting on what society will think. Nigerian society doesn't protect women and will tell a woman she must stay in her marriage and die before being single and alive. It's nothing more than cultural bigotry. Bashing westerners for having a high divorce rate yet domestic violence and domestic related deaths are running rampant in people's backyards. When a person has children, the needs, benefits, livelihood, and safety of the children should supersede a wayward crumbling marriage riddled with domestic violence. In essence, we're all in the same boat. It's sad that people truly believe that when it comes to marriage it's do or die. If it's not working, then its not working--plain and simple. There's no need to be someone's physical or verbal punching bag. emmaliano: Marriage is for better for worse. You accepted that before God and man and you knew the man very well before getting married.So why are you complaining. Guys what God have put together let no one put asunder. It's amazing how some of you people use religions as a means of justifying domestic violence. I suppose if/when he kills her, you'll still be saying the same thing. |
Romance / Re: Ladies Can U Get Married To A Guy With Dreadlocks by InkedNerd(f): 4:12pm On Mar 18, 2012 |
[@OP: How do you care for your locs in Nigeria? Do you go to a loctician or do you do it on your own? antitpiah: Take your pick my friend. Idowuogbo: Oya, bring am o! I'm totally single I always a guy with some nice sexy locs. Chuks84: Most people supporting the op are nigerians in diaspora whose mentality have already been warped by the western world. Let's face the fact, no one will take you serious with your dreads in nigeria, you won't get a job in any corporate firm in 9ja looking like that. Its only 3 sets of people that carry dreads in the country. Those into entertainment, sportsmen and irresponsible fellows. The op confirmed it himself when he said the old people hate him. If you really loved your girl you would have shaved the dreads. Like every country, Nigeria has socio cultural values that ought to be adhered to. The public opinion of dreadlocked fellows is that they are irresponsible unless they prove otherwise. My linking locs has nothing to do with me growing up in teh US. Even as a child before I actually knew what locs were, I liked them and was very tolerant of those with locs. My mom had an aunt [who was born and raised in Nigeria] who had locs so for me, it was never a problem or issue for me. As I got older I learned about the history of locs both in Nigeria and other parts of the world. |
Romance / Re: Ladies Can U Get Married To A Guy With Dreadlocks by InkedNerd(f): 4:19am On Mar 18, 2012 |
antitpiah: ^^^^ The only thing i gagged on was my vomit when I first saw your face |
Romance / Re: 12 Years Of Unhappy Marriage by InkedNerd(f): 4:17am On Mar 18, 2012 |
Gnexplore: hmmm.... not good for any man to lay hands on his wife ....not good!!! Lemme ask you and many others something, why is it so hard for you all to believe that some of your menfolk are capable of doing such thing without being provoked? This may come as a shock to you but MEN CAN ACTUALLY DO THESE THINGS WITHOUT BEING PROVOKED!!! Aside from her laying her hands on him, what kind of provocation would justify such treatment?!?! Ileke-IdI: lmao, I like you idea on the beating!! |
Romance / Re: Ladies Can U Get Married To A Guy With Dreadlocks by InkedNerd(f): 4:11am On Mar 18, 2012 |
FEMARY1: But you are a handsome man now,why the ear ring and dreadlock.Shave everything off and look clean and let fresh air blow your head. Na by force? antitpiah: Were the golden locs on his head or in his pubic area? lol it was on his head. Though I've seen him näked before, I don't recall ever seeing what his pubic ever seeing his pubic hair but I would think it was the same golden brown color as his head. |
Romance / Re: Ladies Can U Get Married To A Guy With Dreadlocks by InkedNerd(f): 2:24am On Mar 18, 2012 |
I have a former "friend" who had a beautiful head of golden locs. I used to love running my hands through his hair and pulling all the curly golden brown hair on his head then watching them spring back. And his hair was sooooo soft. He had waist length locs that were very neat. I'd post pics but I don't think he'd want me showing pics of him on this site |
Romance / Re: 12 Years Of Unhappy Marriage by InkedNerd(f): 2:17am On Mar 18, 2012 |
dayokanu: At 23yrs you married a man who was clocking 50? About your fathers agemate. dasparrow: Nigerians and their wacky, constantly abusive marraiges. Poster, why would a young woman like you marry a man old enough to be your father? Anyways, its good you took a walk. I would hate to see the picture of another butchered body splashed all over the internet due to another case of domestic violence which is an everyday occurance in Nigeria. Goodluck! Her reason for marrying a man who is much older than her is irrelevant. Sadly, this is why such abuse exist in Nigeria. Because men like you think that just because such an age difference is a factor in the relationship that it excuses or makes it ok, because both of you questioning why she married someone much older that her is essentially what you are doing. She could have easily have been in the same situation even if it were with someone who was closer in age or the same age as her. Abuse has no age limit. Leyelyzo: Do you hear yourself? Really, do you? Once a spouse has crossed that line, there is no turning back? The mere fact that you would even tell her to consider these things just goes to show how people like you think. Honestly, do Nigerians love being part of this foolish social club that enables abusive spouses to continue their reign of abuse? No amount of talking or understanding should ever result in her going back to such a monster. So what if being a single mother is her only option aftwerwards. Issues like this are perpetuated in many parts of Africa because people like you use the fear of single parenthood as a means of scaring people into staying in such a relationship. Even if she wasn't ready to be a single mother, is that any reason to stay? No! Had she come here telling us that her husband räpes her every night would you still be sitting here telling that she should consider reconciling? The mothers, sisters, aunts, nieces, and daughters of Nigeria are being subjected to unnecessarily torture and pain all because people for whatever reason believe that most things in relationships can be resolved. Newsflash my dear, things of this manner can only be resolved if and when the partner who is being abused decides to put an end to it. |
Romance / Re: Ladies Can U Get Married To A Guy With Dreadlocks by InkedNerd(f): 1:57am On Mar 18, 2012 |
erico2k2: Well I dont see nothing wrong with dreads,My coz grew his over 7 years but have just had it cut.If OP was a footballer and plays for Man City and had dreads like Benny Man, would the parents say something? Of course not. Like the hypocritical idiöts that many of them are, they'd say that he is very talented and that they're happy that their daughter found a guy like him. |
Romance / Re: How Do U See Poeple With Tatoos On Their Skin by InkedNerd(f): 1:45am On Mar 18, 2012 |
queensmith: The reason for someone having a tattoo is irreverent. Whether it is for religious, cultural, or no reason at all makes no difference! As for people who sags their pants, I don't think anything of them. It's their clothes, their lives, and their body. Who are you to judge? Who am I to judge? I'm quite sure there are things about you that could be viewed by other as irresponsible, but that doesn't necessarily mean that you are. new guy: its actually on you ****?? This has absolutely NOTHING to do with copying the white man. If that were the case, then why did you forefathers and foremothers stupidly copy the white man's religions since its your assertion that 'we' must "copy" white people? Like I suggested earlier on the thread, it is very much a part of African culture, especially Nigeria. Just because a bunch of colonial 419ers came to our land and told us that everything that makes us innately Nigerian is wrong doesn't mean it never existed in Nigerian culture. If you did some actual research and stopped arguing blindly, you'd realized and understand that various cultures all over the world [including Africa] started marking their bodies in various manners LONG BEFORE white people stepped foot on the shores of Africa. The information is out there and readily available. Just because you choose not to read it doesn't mean it's not there or that it never existed. Dipwater: Me luv dick tatoo and dick piercing I am gonna get it done very soon Wow! Way to go! Never thought I'd find another Nigerian who has a gënital piecing let alone a Nairlander |
Romance / Re: Ladies Can U Get Married To A Guy With Dreadlocks by InkedNerd(f): 1:18am On Mar 18, 2012 |
WebSurfer: totally wrong, ama gonna upload a pic of ma locks intertwined with plated sides, maybe ♈̷̴̩ȍǘ Α̇̇̇̊r̲̅є̲̣̣̣̥ gonna call me a terrorist then, but I bet you am far berra than ♈̷̴̩ȍǘ, can bet ♈̷̴̩ȍǘ I have never stolen an inch frm somebody Ooooh, please lemme see it. I'm always interested to see how Nigerians in Nigeria rock their locs. |
Romance / Re: Ladies Can U Get Married To A Guy With Dreadlocks by InkedNerd(f): 1:16am On Mar 18, 2012 |
Dipwater: I wuz in a relatioship with this beautiful girl sometime last year. I wuz trully in luv with her. But we broke up cuz she said her family wuldnt accept me cuz of my hair that they ll think am not responsible. I live in owerri where people are been judged by ur appearance,born and raisd in lag tho and it wuznt a big deal in lag cuz people tend to luk beyond the physical. Wat do u think. My luvly people no bashing pls Well, I personally don't have anything against guys with locs just as long as they are kept clean, which is what I expect of any other human being regardless of the way the particular manner that they wear their hair. I understand what you mean about Owerri people being judgmental. I wear my hair natural and till this day my parents still don't like it. Sometimes, I wonder how my dad's side of the family will react when they see me rockin' my natural hair. They like many other people have this weird inbred idea that only people of a particular hair type can wear their hair natural. |
Romance / Re: Come One, Come All! Nairaland's Broken Hearts by InkedNerd(f): 4:56pm On Mar 17, 2012 |
Bombshell77: Hi everyone. The whole point of this thread was for people to vent and feel better. Since I didn't actually expect to see this many responses, I thought about asking some follow up questions and here they are. Do you think the person who broke your heart still loves you or thinks about you? Do do you think he/she misses you? And if you had a chance to reconcile things with that person, would you? If so, how would you feel if the person didn't want to reconcile? OP, I'll be back later on to answer your new questions. All this talk of heartbeat is quite saddening. I'm off to the St. Patrick's Day Parade. Hopefully that'll take my mind off things. firestar: Thank you my sista, it's just a matter of time. It's nice to see Nairalander's come together like this to support one another. |
Romance / Re: Come One, Come All! Nairaland's Broken Hearts by InkedNerd(f): 4:42pm On Mar 17, 2012 |
seleroms: Heartbreaks last for as long as you want it to last. Your happiness depends on no one but you. How bitter the cup of heartbreak is depends on how fast you drink it up. Overall time heals. I had heartbreak 5 years ago and it took me 3 painful and bitter years to get over her cos i found it difficult to accept the fact that my fiance messed up and got pregnant for another guy( a family friend of hers). It was a harrowing experience for me when our wedding was fixed for november 07 but funny enough her marriage lasted for just 8 months then she makes a u turn n God forbid devil sha: everything happens for a reason and every heartbreak takes you closer to the real thing QED Eh ya, sorry to hear that. But honestly, everyone is different--for some it takes some time to get over it but for it doesn't take much for them to get over it. |
Romance / Re: How Do U See Poeple With Tatoos On Their Skin by InkedNerd(f): 4:36pm On Mar 17, 2012 |
@OP: Is that you in the profile pic? Is so, can you please describe your experiences as a Nigerian man with loced hair? breezy147: Because I've seen him without his clothes on, that's how I know cantell: I never referred to or referenced temporary body art. Like I said, anyone who says its not of our culture is either stüpid or lying to themselves. It is very much a part of African culture, especially Nigeria. My great grandmother had tattoos and so did the women before her. It's sad how quickly people forget certain aspects of their culture when foreigners invade their land. |
Romance / Re: Come One, Come All! Nairaland's Broken Hearts by InkedNerd(f): 4:12pm On Mar 17, 2012 |
awee baby: Well, all you can do at this point is look good and stay fly so next time you come across him, he'll realize what he missed out on ::[/b]oya, come here lemme hug[b]:: |
Romance / Re: Come One, Come All! Nairaland's Broken Hearts by InkedNerd(f): 3:55pm On Mar 17, 2012 |
firestar: Yeah, it is tricky business. It's like trying to put glass shards together. With time, I'll feel better |
Romance / Re: How Do U See Poeple With Tatoos On Their Skin by InkedNerd(f): 11:11am On Mar 17, 2012 |
Acidosis: imagine voting in a president with tatoo all over his body. Despising it won't change the fact that it still exists. There are loads of professionals who have tattoos all over their body yet you'd never know. There's a surgeon I know of here in New York who has a HUGE tattoo on his back and across his chest yet if you had seen him on first glance, you'd never know he had any at all. Having a tattoo doesn't automatically mean that someone is irresponsible. Many people have tattoos and are still able to maintain professional lives and appearances. |
Romance / Re: Come One, Come All! Nairaland's Broken Hearts by InkedNerd(f): 10:49am On Mar 17, 2012 |
RuuDie: Damn! Eh ya, I just re-read that last line and it made me sad. It's ok. You're not alone on that one. The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost. Idowuogbo: ::[/b]wipes tears from eyes[b]:: Thank you my sista |
Romance / Re: Most Women Go After Money And Most Men Who Lavish Cheat On Them by InkedNerd(f): 10:41am On Mar 17, 2012 |
@OP: If this lamebrain theory is what you believe then there should be no problem with women who use these men since the men are using them as well. What goes around comes around. If anything, seems like a perfect combo--a sheister and a sheister. |
Romance / Re: What Advice Do You Have For My Pervert Friend? by InkedNerd(f): 10:38am On Mar 17, 2012 |
OK2NVME: am actually very lonely, i need dat girl but truth is i dont want to go down dat road anymore. the chics i hav been wit since me and my ex split all had a serious or at least a quasi relationship goin. i know dey want my money, dey want my outings, dey want my body too (which chic wont) but its all fake. and do u know d worst thin when i was wit my ex 4 bout 3yrs i never cheated on her. so here is what i found no man can be totally okay 4 a woman. i hav been wit a gal afta my breakup who to was reelin frm hers. we used each oda on d condition dat it was only s@x. i remeber gettin home late wit her 4 weeks, drunk. she left me after she n boyfriend reconcilld. i heard early this year she is gettin married 2 her bf. i keep sayin d new modern cassonovas r 9ja chics. aslong as they cant comit why shuld i? Many don't commit because the men don't commit. After decades of cultural and social mistreatment, why wouldn't some women not give two shïts about how they treat men? I'm not saying its ok to use people but hey, what goes around comes around. Blame your forefather and menfolk. |
Romance / Re: Come One, Come All! Nairaland's Broken Hearts by InkedNerd(f): 10:27am On Mar 17, 2012 |
Idowuogbo: lol I couldn't help it. I read through all the stories and couldn't help but add my own. Still makes me sad when I think about |
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