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jay bee:
OK that's a worthy compromise.
It's no biggie for me anywayz was just trying to find out why u r so adamant about keeping yours.
U been good though? been a while

jay bee:
I agree that one has to discuss that before taking the step if it's going to worry them so much.
Would you give up on love if your dream man happens to be adamant about you having his last name?
What about considering the hyphenated/mother's maiden names as a compromise.

CyberG:
@Ogaga. . .I don't think you understand where I (or we) are coming from. This is not about any kid issue, that is a different discussion. This "stealing" from the pot is not about not having enough to eat.

I am talking about you having your own everything including the house the Ogbonno soup resides. In fact, you cooked it or your girlfriend cooked it and you had a decent portion to eat for lunch. Small time, you cannot stop thinking about it and you say, I think I am gonna taste this thing to be sure it is still as tasty as you had it 30 minutes ago. Note: tasting is not the issue but you will find any available reason including manufacturing a reason to still eat this Ogbonno soup. This is the kind of "stealing" I am talking about 'cos it is just irresistible!

Phate07:
I dont remember ever stealing from the pot.
I normally do steal the whole pot.

Sagamite:
^^^ I honestly have no problem dating girls that say "this is 2010" like Inked Nerd.

Honestly, I don't.

Where we can have a problem is when she tries to turn it to 1918 in one aspect and maintain it is 2010 in another. That would piss me off.

If you want the relationship to be guided by the so-called "enlightened" and "progressive" principles, fine. If you want it guided by the traditional principles, fine. Don't pick and mix, I am not Woolworths.

If you think it is 2010 and you "All the women who are independent, throw your hands up at me" then don't turn around and tell me "Can you pay my bills? Can you pay my telephone bills? Do you pay my automo' bills?". Waka!!

! When we go to a restaurant, get your wallet out and drop 50% of the bill.

If you think it is 2010 and you can't get in the kitchen and make me a meal, cool. Don't turn around and expect me to help you carry an item that I see you carrying but is awkard and heavy for you to carry or if I am carrying nothing at all or check your car when it is faulty.

If you think it is 2010 and you don't have to listen to some of my leadership demands, no lonthing. Don't turn around and expect that I have to be there and listen to any emotional rant you want to "share" if I am not interested in taking a share.

Don't expect me to have to set up something special on Valentines. We should both be doing it on par levels.

Don't expect me to ask you to marry me, we will discuss it like a questions and answer session until we arrive at an answer. And Heck, forget the engagement ring, except you are buying me one too. It is 2010.

Almost 2-11 now.

chaircover:
In our culture (and even some Western cultures) it is the norm for the woman to take on the husbands surname when she gets married.

There are some exceptions like Sagamite mentioned above (and even then this has to be mutual) however if your husband and his family are not happy with you keeping your maiden name and you go on to deliberately kick against this because of reasons such as you want to "keep your identity" & "this is 2010" then you have started to poke holes in the fabric of the union.

Truth be told, you are indirectly telling the man that he is not good enough for you to bear his name & most men will take this personal.

jay bee:
@Inked
ain't nothing wrong with wanting to keep your surname as it's only a name at the end of the day.
What i wanna know though is how do you explain to your kids why daddy has a different surname to yours?

excoba101:
So you are even this young? Well, you have been brain washed by the feminist theories. You still have a long way to go.

excoba101:
Yeah right. I am sure he will be proud of you especially if he read these comments you have been writing down here.  ]
How old are you? Have you found your man yet? If not good luck with finding him.

oolu:
I certainly belief that  there must be a  mysterious supreme being  somewhere who I feel must have an unparalleled sense of humour. Wherever he is, he must be laughing hard at the foolishness and illogicality of mankind. I, therefore see myself more as deist than an agnostic or atheist. There has to be God (the complexities of mankind can't be mere coincidental happenings), but not is not in the light painted by religious fellows in the Christian or Islamic world. When I read the Bible or Koran, things don't just add up. They do not align with my sense of reasoning.

I come from a religious upbringing but I started asking questions when  those that preached holiness behaved in ways that were unacceptable of "holy" people.

190:
[color=peru]inkerd loves me!![/color]

kaygenx123:
i prefer an ugly intelligent chick ova a brainless beauty, lmao, *smiles widely*

2buff:
Olorun Oba!
This thread is still alive and 30+?!

Lol even 190 has joined the ranks of guys pledging their left sacknut to Inky (lol abeg make una no vex give me, I jus dey talk am as I see am. I Never knew this kind kolo was possible without a JPEG.).

Inky, I hail.

skillero:
Babes long time been off for God knows how long. Can't blieve the thread is still alive,

TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN!!!
INKED IS THE HOTTEST SEXIEST GIRL I"VE KNOWN>>> EVER.

Mobinga:
Are you serious? Hmmm. Tell me more

Rymzo:
I support Skillero and Inked Nerd wit a 5 romms apartment at Las Angeles

jotopayo:
she went on recess, cos u know its nt easy all d attention and all what not
have u finally seen her face 2 face cos i quite agree wit u dat she soundsor writes intelligently nd unrestrained too same wit hbabe luv 2 meet d 2 of dem, support u wit a room in dat seven star hotel in dubai(i don 4get d name of d hotel sef )

excoba101:
Man and Woman are two different types of human beings. They are not the same things one is stronger than the other one in everything. Religion, science nature proves that. What am i even arguing here? You can do anything you like. Just wait for the consequences.

excoba101:
Like i said you go out there and do what you like. Also wait for the hard consequences. You see because of controversies and conflicts in agreement like this, that is why there are law which forms the basic standard of how we should live and going against it is a sin or crime. What is in your law about these things you argue about? Why were they written that way and not the other way round (which suits your line of reasoning now).
Talk is free. You can say anything you want. But you don't want to be caught doing everything you think or feel, do you (might not end up good you know)? 

Ogaga4Luv:
I laugh.

This is the biggest confession on Nairaland .

Well , i guess that was when you're a still a kid not now , ever since i grow up to this stage i have never still meat from a cooking pot . I walk straight to the kitchen  , open the pot and serve any meat or fish i want even without the permission of the cook .

OK now that you have confess I'll forgive you darling. . . 

excoba101:
What else could we use to remind the fallen women of these facts? Is it not the social laws, religion and above all God? etc
Even the woman's right policy with has given people like you right to talk junk doesn't mean for a woman not to take her husband's name, this is just a new ideal from fallen women who can not really interpret what their rights are and what their right aren't, and it will go a long way to affect the unborn generation if not treated.

Yes! There is an underlying conspiracy behind these many policies and ideals in the world system today.

excoba101:
Just the way they have injected food we eat and makes us grow old and die quicker than usual. Just the way they bring anti this , anti that vaccines and at the end of the day they have injected a sickness into us eg Polio, Swine(pig) Flu, HIV/AIDS, Cancer etc

just the way they allow every body both old and young, man and woman access to indecency and gay/less in public. their is an agenda behind all these brain washing. No body even has the fear of God anymore. Everybody now has freedom to do or think anything. Including myself. May God help us all. And may God save us from the hands of women . Adam must not fall the second time  

Well at least i wont be around to witness what the world would turn into in the next 200 years of revolution this and revolution that.

excoba101:
Trading words with you over this issue makes me feel like those kinda men you talked about. Keep looking for your she_man. Good luck with that. I didn't told you that i have seen your kind of girls in real life who wouldn't wanna bear my name. You are among the few women(probably 0.9%) who will start the regime. I am not locking up my third leg for chit. It's still active and i love women(the ones who know their lord and call them by name). O d' Ola Friend.

apocalypse:
@ inkerd
or group of people who trust each other

Yeah they are seen as being very good but still do things that are repugnant in the face of their God. My mum for one is a hard core tribalist who hates Igbos with passion ( we are yorubas ). My brother redefines the word player and my sister is about the only one I can tolerate

excoba101:
Where can i find these men ? Man wants dominance over woman? Has Man not been head from the beginning? It a both God's and Man's  made design altogether in agreement.

But the brain washing began somewhere along the line. A time will come when it will be gold to find a woman  who wants to remain in her true nature while other will be hanging out with perverts. I don't see that world to be a better world, i don't see those women really happy and i don't see them being able to turn things around for the better because it must have eating deep into them.

Well, this could also mean a depopulation tactic by great brains. Knowing that it will make a lot of men and women die single. I love this world.

apocalypse:
8. sex should be shared between people who trust one another

apocalypse:
4. No my mum and siblings are all " good " christians

excoba101:
Talk is free. Lets see how you plan not to take your husband's name and be married. Respect man, what are you people fighting for anyway. Are you dreaming of a day when women will be what.        ?

Idowuogbo:
^ were my love 2 

@denzel
sit underneath boiling water first , den wen your asss gets hot use plunger to remove anytin upstructions 

excoba101:
I think very soon women will also fight for kids to bear their names. yuck. Not accepting a man's name during marriage is a good start. Thumbs Up Ladies. Witches 

May God bless our loyal mothers.

spikedcylinder:
Lol! Hiding.

bawomolo:
inked nerd is an agnostic? hmm not shocked.

lots of you guys who claim to be agnostic are most likely weak atheists.   just hop over the fence guys.

bawo is all man, yoiu can unzip my pants to see  

i never hid my atheism.  thought my rabid liberalism was open for all to see.

harakiri:
WHY DO YOU THE POSTER FEEL THAT EVERYONE MUST HAVE A RELIGION? Must everyone be religious? This is part of the brainwashing syndrome i keep talking about. In Africa, if you are not into one religion or the other, religious zombie a.k.a most people believe you are weird,odd and a nobody. The same zombies forget that what they practise is an imported religion of which the same people who brought it don't take it as serious as we do.Let's face it : Is ATHEIST an african word?