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 Family › Re: A Wailing Cry For Help! *Da Latest Gist* by InkedNerd(f): 10:22pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
divalishis:No problem, I'm always glad to help. If you take a look at the videos from the first website, there is a particular video that has a discussion about an episode from a reality show called "Real Word:Las Vegas", there was a guy on the show named Adam who was EXTREMLY abusive both emotionally and with his actions. Please show your cousin those videos so she can help herself before its too late. |
| Family › Re: A Wailing Cry For Help! *Da Latest Gist* by InkedNerd(f): 6:46pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
@OP: You wanna know my honest opinion? He is abusing her?!?! Fiance or not the guy is a piece of ṡhit [excuse my French  ]. He has beaten in down in a manner that is not only damaging her psychologically but physically as well. Its only a matter of time till he starts abusing her physically. There's something I wrote on another thread where a young woman was seeking advice on her abusive boyfriend so I'm gonna say to you what I said to her: I know we are just faceless ID's here on a site but what you've just written is really tugging at my heart right now. What breaks my heart even more is the fact that you know what he is wrong and you're asking us if you should go back to him. I hope you love yourself enough to know what what this man is doing to you is WRONG!! I don't know where you live or what the laws of your regions are but you really must find a way to get away from this guy. You need to tell people around you. Make sure you inform others [particularly your friends and family] about what this person is doing to you. Only you have the power to put an end to this. You cannot make excuses for this guy by telling us the sort of person he was before he started abusing you because that may be something that will keep you entrenched in this horrid situation. You've acknowledged that there is a problem, now the next step is how to leave this relationship. Let me ask you something, is causing someone both bodily and emotional harm love? Is threatening their life love? This disgusting creature you call a boyfriend knows perfectly well what he's doing but it seems that you don't. Your excuse for being with him is that previously he was gentle and responsible, the commitment and the sacrifice you've made, and that you have and that you love him. . . Tell me, is this what love is? Please keep in mind, love isn't supposed to hurt. What kind of sacrifice is so great that you would put your life in danger? If you do stay in this relationship with this guy, what makes you think he will change? What would make you think the situation would get any better? If he's doing this to you while you're just dating, imagine what he would or could do to you while married. Don't allow this boyfriend of yours to keep using you as a punching bag. You really don't know how much this is breaking my heart to hear that this person is causing you so much pain. Please, I'm begging you for all that is good please TRY to see your worth so you can leave that monster. I know that in your cousin's case she, she is being emotionally abused but my words still apply here. Its not too late to call of this whole thing. Even if she does marry him, and he still hasn't changed, she can still leave. Marriage is no reason for her to condemn herself to become a very and perhaps physical punching bad. If there's one thing I can't stand it's abusive partners. Where on Earth they get these idiotic notions about control is beyond me. I don't care how jealous or insecure a person is, it is by no means justification for such idiotic behavior. Please show her these links below so she can seek help. All in all, it all boils down to control. He wants to exercise control over her. If control is what he wants then he needs to go buy a do who will obey his every order. By the way, when I kept saying 'you', I was referring to your cousin. Here are some websites that can provide you with information on how to tend to this situation: (1) http://www.loveisrespect.org/ (2) http://www.thehotline.org/ (3) http://www.thesafespace.org/ (4) http://www.safehorizon.org/ (5) http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm (6) http://www.beckysfund.org/cms/index.php?page=how-to-end-an-abusive-relationship (7) http://www.stanford.edu/group/svab/relationships.shtml http://www.safehorizon.org/ (8 ) http://www.gurl.com/findout/fastfacts/articles/0,,697185-1,00.html |
| Romance › Re: Staying With His Grandmother For A Month by InkedNerd(f): 5:03pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
[quote author=High_Chief link=topic=653947.msg8215289#msg8215289 date=1303918948]^^^Inked pls put up your pic pls. Wondering how you look like[/quote]I'm tall and slim, nothin' special  |
| Romance › Re: I'm Back & I Am Serious! by InkedNerd(f): 4:58pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
Pweety4me:::[/b]sighs[b]:: fine |
| Romance › Re: I'm Back & I Am Serious! by InkedNerd(f): 4:54pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
Pweety4me:You don't have to be tied down, its just for entertainment  |
| Romance › Re: As A Christian Can You Marry A Moslem by InkedNerd(f): 4:47pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
wee2:Well, on the subject of children that is something you two really need to discuss. Do not sugar coat anything when you have this discussion just because you're in love. |
| Romance › Re: I'm Back & I Am Serious! by InkedNerd(f): 4:44pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
Pweety4me:Oh ok, I see I have a way for you to look for a man. Wanna be part of a NL reality show? Pleaassssssse Pretty please with sugar on top? |
| Romance › Re: As A Christian Can You Marry A Moslem by InkedNerd(f): 4:37pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
wee2:Well, since he doesn't seem to mind that you and him retain the religions you practice then I see nothing wrong with that. Now, I'm curious, what do both your families think of each other in terms of your religious beliefs? How do both families feel about both of you retaining your own religious beliefs? And have you factored in children into this equation? If you two are intend on having children, what do you intend to do in terms of how you will raise or not raise your child/children religiously? If he tells you that he wants to raise your child/children within the Muslim faith, would that be an issue for you? If you tell him that you want to raise your child/children within the Christian faith, would it be an issue for him? |
| Romance › Re: What Does It Mean For A Gal To Spank A Guy's Butt? by InkedNerd(f): 4:31pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
maclatunji:Why are you so shocked? |
| Romance › Re: I'm Back & I Am Serious! by InkedNerd(f): 4:29pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
Your back? Where did you go?  |
| Romance › Re: As A Christian Can You Marry A Moslem by InkedNerd(f): 4:24pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
What exactly is the problem/question? |
| Romance › Re: I Have Warned Her To Stop Bringing Her Big Butt Gf To Spend D Night In My House. by InkedNerd(f): 4:19pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
SexyDuby:Eh ya, don't get upset. After all, we're just faceless individuals online. All is well. [quote author=Blood_Shed link=topic=654531.msg8215065#msg8215065 date=1303917222]I wonder, I think she's bipolar or something. How can someone agree with you and you just turn on them? lol[/quote]No she isn't, she just misinterpreted what you wrote that's all. |
| Romance › Re: I Have Warned Her To Stop Bringing Her Big Butt Gf To Spend D Night In My House. by InkedNerd(f): 4:10pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
[b]^^^ [/b]Its understandable. Clearly, some things were lost in translation during the dicussion. All the cursing just wasn't necessary. |
| Fashion › Re: Large Holes (pores) In My Face by InkedNerd(f): 4:08pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
Hi Timi1990. I'm good. How are you? |
| Romance › Re: I Have Warned Her To Stop Bringing Her Big Butt Gf To Spend D Night In My House. by InkedNerd(f): 4:07pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
^^^ You know, I was wondering why you two were arguing because from what I read I could have sworn you agreed with her. |
| Food › Re: Nigerian Women Who Don't Eat A Lot In Front Of Guys by InkedNerd(f): 4:04pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
segzi cres:lol sounds like a conversation I once overheard on the bus. Some girl was swearing up and down that some other girl was a hoe and that the girl does all sorts of things yet the girl complaining admitted she does the same thing too. I was lookin' at her like >>>  |
| Romance › Re: What Does It Mean For A Gal To Spank A Guy's Butt? by InkedNerd(f): 4:01pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
Isoke:Yes we do!!! |
| Romance › Re: What Does It Mean For A Gal To Spank A Guy's Butt? by InkedNerd(f): 3:52pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
It doesn't mean anything for me. I do it to my male friends and they're ok with it. I just do it just for the fun of it when we joke around. |
| Romance › Re: I Can't Manage My Jelousy by InkedNerd(f): 3:50pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
Its good that your trying to correct the situation. |
| Romance › Re: Is It Important For A Boy To Remain Virgin Till He Gets Married? by InkedNerd(f): 3:46pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
SexyDuby:How is my point confusing? What is it that you don't seem to understand? And no I'm not taking it personal. Because I'm actively engaging in this discussion doesn't mean I'm taking it personal. |
| Romance › Re: I Can't Manage My Jelousy by InkedNerd(f): 3:43pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=653125.msg8214785#msg8214785 date=1303915206]Oh, I knew what you meant and that is sad. Well, there are better fishes in the sea and they will love you sticking your tongue out all the time. When they are in denial everybody is at fault but them. You got that man sprung! You used whipped cream this time? [/quote]lol, I'm not worried about meeting anyone else. Imma do me  Sprung? Girl, I don't know what to call it. I commend the OP though, at least he sees there a problem and is seeking help in correcting his actions. |
| Romance › Re: I Have Warned Her To Stop Bringing Her Big Butt Gf To Spend D Night In My House. by InkedNerd(f): 3:34pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
divalishis:I hear ya. |
| Food › Re: Nigerian Women Who Don't Eat A Lot In Front Of Guys by InkedNerd(f): 3:32pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
[b]^^^ [/b]True |
| Romance › Re: I Can't Manage My Jelousy by InkedNerd(f): 3:29pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=653125.msg8214643#msg8214643 date=1303914125]What are you sticking your tongue out for? You trying to catch a fly? That is a deadly combination if he is selfish as well. As long as their are a balance then it could be romantic but if you feeling like you are in the movie Eagle Eye then he needs to check that before he finds you in Greece. [/quote]Lemme stick my tongue out all I want.When I said he's selfish I don't mean it in the sense of him only wanting things for himself--I mean he's only thinking of himself when he gives me reasons for his actions, almost like its ok or like he wants to say to me that I'm a bad person for not seeing things his way. He's been hurt before and doesn't trust women besides his mother and grandmother. I'm just done with it all. Even when I try to talk to him about it he gives me this look like I'm speaking like a madwoman. |
| Food › Re: Nigerian Women Who Don't Eat A Lot In Front Of Guys by InkedNerd(f): 3:20pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
Pweety4me:loooool, his face is that bad? |
| Romance › Re: I Can't Manage My Jelousy by InkedNerd(f): 3:17pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=653125.msg8214572#msg8214572 date=1303913667]I can understand exactly what you are saying. Some people say it is insecurity and some say because he loves you. Which of these two are the truth?[/quote]In my dude's case, I think its jealousy and a bit of selfishness. I know I'm not the jealous type so I try to empathize but it just too much. Its jealousy and selfishness, plain and simple |
| Romance › Re: Is It Important For A Boy To Remain Virgin Till He Gets Married? by InkedNerd(f): 3:14pm On Apr 27, 2011 |
SexyDuby:No, a woman's virginity cannot be proven. And yes, I already noticed that a man cannot prove they are virgin. I never at an any point in time said that there was a way to prove that. Crude Oil:Regardless of what you say, there is no sure fire way to prove a woman's virginity. If an individual has never engaged in sex then they are a virgin. |
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