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sinistermind:
Some people are just so clueless. An old proverb says u can only force the horse to the stream, u can't force him to drink water. Whether pleading with him or not, the decision for him to step down was his. He could have "Jammeh" the whole thing but h chose not to.

Word!

haywire07:
This news is as fake as kardashian's ass

No matter Hw some dicks try to cover up for her with various lies, it doesn't change d fact that she was part of such an insane act

Who are you to judge her? Have you never made a mistake in your life? Get off your high horse bro and join the rest of humanity where people screw up all the time.
Leave judgement for the One who knows and sees all things

Babzilla:
Ill follow him on facebook. Wasnt he the one that did something during one of these republican rallies where he jad a blue wig on

Thats Stephen Colbert. Oliver is on HBO sunday nights. You can watch clips on youtube too

fingard02k:
Didn't he divorce his wife? Ayam not understanding

I too am confused. He seems to be making a distinction between a spouse who initiates a divorce proceeding and the one who is a respondent in a divorce. At the end the result is the same. To his mind he is blameless since he didn't file for divorce. I find his attitude baffling. He seems to take pleasure in rubbishing his wife in public, making her out to be a bad woman. He cannot turnaround and claim the press is writing rubbish about his marriage when he put the issue in the public domain in his attempt to put all the blame for the breakdown of the marriage on her.

keepingmum:
It takes more than semen to be a father. It takes more than blood to be family. Are you swayed simply because your biological father's family are well off? If they were rural farmers/herbalists/drug dealers/touts would the decision still have being difficult?

Where was your uncle who stood with your dad/mum when your mum was going through the trauma? No where!!!

If your dad's biological family all had kids/grandkids would they have come looking for you?

Its only when Nigerian families (the men especially) learn that you CANNOT abandon a child with their mother UNDER ANY circumstance and assume that "well she will suffer with the child and when the child grows, he/she will come looking for me".

If your stepdad hadnt trained you and shown you love as though you were his biological child, would you have thrived healthily, academically and mentally to the point of graduating and qualifying to work in an oil coy?

I find it insulting that your biological family think money answers all. Its even more insulting to your stepdad that they are saying they would train his children. Why didnt they train you? Why didnt they come looking for you all these years? At least they knew your mother and her family.

It would be very disappointing after all the heartache your mother went through, after all the sacrifices your DAD (the person you call step -dad had earned the right in every aspect to be called and respected as your dad) for you to throw all that away because of money.

When you were sick, who stood up all night supporting your mum emotionally whilst footing your bills - the man you call step dad

I suggest you go back to work. Tell your biological family that you need time and would appreciate they give you space/

Your dad has already given you the perfect answer, you are now a man. Choose wisely

Well said!

fragilebeing:
Summary: I got to know about a consulting firm here in Lagos and without second thought, I decided to start doing freelancing with them, reason being that it will be a great opportunity for me to put into use what I learnt in school. The freelancing agreement was not without a baggage that I will get absorbed into the system once there is any chance.

Fast forward, recently, the company underwent some expansion and restructuring and I was properly interviewed for a position that fits my ability and profile. While at this, I was rated by the other higher personnel to be very okay in terms of performance as I not only deliver on time, but also assist in fixing some office computer systems that had software problems which was not part of the job prescription anyway.

Problem: It all started when we asked to do presentation on some topics. In my case, I concentrated on identifying problems and suggesting possible solutions to them, surprisingly, the feedback I got was that I wasn't right. I immediately asked for another time to re-present it and my request was granted. Now, even before the time for presentation, I did a pre-presentation to all my colleagues and they say that it was ok, but surprisingly when they were asked to air their views on my performance after the presentation proper and I was given 70/100%, only one of them gave a positive comment, the rest said almost negative stuffs concerning my performance.

The climax was when the Boss asked me to go back to school as I don't know anything.

These got much better part of me and the thought of coming to work is no longer appealing.
I can't even think straight anymore...
Staying amidst of people is no longer fascinating let alone being among colleagues in the office.
I feel like it would have been better if I never existed in the first place.

Some of them laughing to my face consistently is bullying the crap out of me.

Please how can I overcome this?

Please don't mind my punctuation... I can't think straight right now.

I would suggest you meet with your boss and have a frank discussion about the areas he believes you need to improve. Don't try to defend yourself. Take everything he tells you in good faith and work to improve yourself. I would also suggest you find a mentor.

shogotermies:
This night I observe that am unable to login to Facebook on my FB app,till I realise my account was made unavailable for saying I HATE GAAY.
Am just thinking what's this world turning to. screenshot below

What's the world turning to? Allow me to help you out.

There is no place for hate speech in a civilised society. Your statement is only a few steps removed from an Omar Maaten armed with weapons and gunning down people whose life style he does not approve of. You are of course entitled to your opinion and free to express it anyway you choose. You are not however entitled to express an opinion on a platform that is in violation of community user guidelines. That is why facebook blocked your account. That is what the world is turning to. You are welcome

Olu20090:
The Unthinkable Has Happened



http://www.thebiafratimes.co/2016/05/breaking-cardinal-arinze-joins-heroes.html?utm_source=&utm_medium=facebook&m=1

That is not cardinal Arinze! Stop spreading lies.

TeamSimple:
The same set of people asking Buhari to soft pedal on his fight against corruption and face the dieing economy are the same people wanting him to visit every corruption cases in and outside Nigeria.

His not yet true with the fight against corruption locally, now you want him to go Panama. And believe me when he starts visiting this case, some hipopo would still come here to scream witch hunting coz their heroes makes up the larger part of the fraudsters.

What a load of bullcrap! Straight from the mouths of government apologists, no doubt!
You must think PMB is a lone warrior, with an inability to multi task, waging a battle against corruption all by himself.
Its people like you, sycophants and demagogues, who cannot (or won't) apply dispassionate reasoning to issues, that are the cause of bad leadership in Nigeria.

I think your sister’s behaviour is pretty common for a 14 year old. You may be blowing it out of proportion a little bit. The only serious issue you have raised is that she has a boyfriend. That is a cause for concern and should be dealt with decisively. But first off all you and your mother need to get some things right.
Firstly, your mother should not have read her diary. It is very wrong. I’m sure if your sister finds out she will be furious and will not trust you or your mother anymore. Advise your mother to respect the girl’s privacy and not to do that again. It’s very important for teenagers to have their own space. The teenage years is a period for self-determination and self-discovery. So give her some space but within reason.
Secondly, you said in your post that you talk to her and encourage her to be of good behaviour but it doesn’t seem to be working. This suggests that it is a one sided talk. Perhaps it’s time to change tact. Change the objective of your conversation. Let your objective be to build a relationship with her. Talk to her about your life and the challenges you face in your life. It will take a while but you will get to know her better. She may even begin to confide in you. It’s also important that you do not judge her as she opens up. You may condemn her actions but don’t make her feel that you condemn her too. Teenagers are very sensitive to criticism. Make sure that your criticism is constructive. This is the formative period of her life. Build up her self-esteem.
Lastly, don’t sweat the small stuff! What she wrote in her diary about hating your parents because Mumsie disciplined her or won’t let her do what she wants is no big deal. Am sure everyone at that age from time to time felt the same way about their parents. Your mother is being paranoid about it. Also you have to realise that your sister is under a lot of pressure. Being a teenage girl is hard enough. At such a tender age she is saddled with care of your father. I have been in the same situation (still am) and I am older than her. Since you do not live at home you may not appreciate how difficult it is for her. She’s too young to face that kind of responsibility but that is her lot in life as the last child of elderly parents. The fear of losing her parents is always at the back of her mind. So please cut her some slack.
Sorry for the long story. God bless!

blackpanda:
I dont think they shld prosecute this guy. To me, this is just teenage love gone wrong. Except they can prove that Yunusa abducted her and forced her into marriage.

From the stories on social media, it almost seems as if they girl followed him on her own. Girls at that age are vulnerable. And even the Yunusa is just 18. Both of them dont knw anything

The prosecution doesn't need to prove that he forced her. They only need to prove that she was 13 at the time he took her away and that her parents did not give their consent. Under the law a girl under the age of 18 cannot give consent to either marry or elope with a man. The consent of the parents or lawful guardian must be obtained to take a underage girl from the custody of her parents or legal guardian. Even if the girl claims to have willingly followed the accused, he is still guilty of abduction.

fiizznation:
Yunusa is innocent of the allegations he has been accused of, and this will always be my stand. Just because yunusa doesn't have access or money to a good lawyer doesn't mean he should be treated with disrespect. A girl of 14yrs WILLINGLY eloped with her lover from bayelsa to kano, and all of a sudden everybody is calling for yunusa's head.

It is today in Nigeria that girls of different ages elope with random men to whatever destination? I urge kano elites to get a very good lawyer for yunusa who will battle it out in court with ese's lawyer, her parents and the government of bayelsa state. Ese's parents especially the mother are very wayward. They failed to train their daughter and instead they are looking for young yunusa to blame for their failure. Anybody that heard the narrative of ese's mother will definitely know the woman is hiding the true picture of her daughter's story.


I just saw Audu bukarti's( i happen to know the good man personally) name as one of yunusa's representative in court. Fortunately the man is highly intelligent and I trust what he can do. After all is said and done, I will urge bukarti to file a defamatory case against ese's parents because they have already defamed yunusa's character.

You missed the point by about a mile. It doesn't matter if Ese "eloped" with him. It doesn't matter if they have been lovers and Ese begged him to take her to Kano. A charge of abduction is established when the prosecution proves that the victim is under the age of 16/18 (depending on the section of the criminal code he is charged) at the time she was abducted and her parents or guardian did not give their consent to the accused to take the victim.

Here are some sections of the Criminal Code on abduction for your information.

362. Any person who unlawfully takes an unmarried girl under the age of sixteen years out of the custody or protection of her father or mother or other person having the lawful care or charge of her, and against the will of such father or mother or other person, is guilty of a misdemeanour, and is liable to imprisonment for two years.

225. Any person who, with intent that an unmarried girl under the age of eighteen years may be unlawfully carnally known by any man, whether a particular man or not, takes her or causes her to be taken out of the custody or protection of her father or mother, or other person having the lawful care or charge of her, and against the will of such father or mother or other person, is guilty of a misdemeanour, and is liable to imprisonment for two years.

xtervaganza:
She brought a guy home? Are you joking?



You have to be joking. I'm married and if my wife comes home with another man I'll kill the man 1st before throwing her out



I would never chest kn her though

Well its not about you, is it.
Lets try to stay on topic, shall we

emalek86:
The judicial system in Nigeria is wack, I don't see any reason why we should have a lower court nd higher court, both of them always giving different verdict, buhari if U want an institution to scrap I guess one of these should be on your top list.

Scrap the judiciary?! That is the most ignorant statement I have seen on nairaland yet.

You do realise that the judiciary is not an agency that can be disbanded by executive action. It is an arm of the government and created by the constitution. Your statement is tantamount to suggesting that the President should disband the National Assembly. Ridiculous!

EroticAngelina:
the step mother is a stoopid bitchhh.

She can whoree around with the whole men in her village, buh she should give the late husband respect and stay off the house when fvcking!

The guy shouldn't have stabbed the lover.
too bad the imbe.cile is dead, we can't get his own side of the story

what side if the story would that be? They had a fight, the guy was stabbed and he died.

The accused should have borrowed some sense and let his stepmother mind her business instead of poking his nose in her private life. He's gone and committed murder because he was defending his late father's honour. Just plain stupid

Thanks for stopping by Mr. President!

debojyde:
This is not a rant... This looks more like a calculated feedback to his critics. ......I didn't know oliseh's vocabulary was this good

His vocabulary is good?

Bigchief46:
Sagay was my Dean at the University of Benin and as a student was beloved by all of us, but I have to say that his comments on litigation matters have always been a terrible disappointment. It was the same way he tarnished his reputation with his comments on the Abia Guber poll Election Petition Tribunal Judgment in 2007. Sagay's problem is however very clear to understand; he is a distinguished Law teacher no doubt but he is no Barrister. There is a world of difference between theory and practice. Sagay was a law Teacher for the majority of his Professional working life, rising to become a distinguished Professor of Law specializing in Contracts. At a very late stage in his professional life, he decided to try his hands in private Legal Practice but his record in Litigation has been filled with blunder after blunder: there is a reason that the proverb says that you don't learn new tricks in old age. SAGAY IS NO LITIGATOR simple and should stop embarrassing himself by giving myopic opinions on litigation matters. He was awarded a SAN ENTIRELY for his academic accomplishments & not for anything he has ever done in the Court room. Moreover, I do not know of a single Election Petition in which SAGAY has been Lead Counsel. Election Petitions is a highly technical practice Area and many lawyers, including SANs reject such Briefs or recommend others if approached. Most Politicians know those who are experts in this exclusive area of practice & Sagay is certainly not one of them. The first Rule in critique of Judgments is that you must have all the facts of a case so that you know exactly what the Court you are criticizing knows. Moreover in these cases, the Supreme Court has not even given its reasons for the Judgments so people of the standing of SAGAY should have been slow to make such disparaging comments on our APEX Court for now. It would be understandable if this was some green-wig lawyer or rabble-rousing "radical" lawyer making these comments. NOW TO THE ISSUE: I have some suspicions as to why almost all the Governorship cases will end up this way. First, the Supreme Court is consistently known and revered for its CONSISTENCY over the years. With the SC, you know exactly what the law is unlike the Courts of Appeal who keep on putting their foot in their mouth and somersaulting all the time. Most Petitioners in this election circle took the easy way out by relying & putting the fate of their Petitions on Card Readers. The traditional way of prosecuting & proving electoral malpractices is very difficult & so when the issue of Card Readers came up, they shouted "eureka" & focused all their energies on proving malpractices using Card Reader data. Even those who pleaded other forms of malpractices & non-compliance failed to call adequate evidence on them as proving malpractices through Card Reader data appeared simpler & straight forward. But they did not take cognizance of one thing: Card Reader as part of the accreditation process IS NOT YET part of our Electoral Laws. Card Reader is commendable; it will reduce rigging; it will improve transparency in the electoral process BUT IT IS NOT PART OF THE LAW YET: you cannot put something on nothing. The fault for this lacuna should not be put on the doorsteps of the SC but is entirely that of INEC. INEC failed to get accreditation by Card Reader legislated into law before the elections. The duty of any Court, including the SC is to interpret the law: in doing so, a Court should interpret the law AS IT IS and not AS IT OUGHT TO BE. This forum is not adequate to expantiate on this issue but let me finalize by saying this: the mode of accreditation recognized by the Electoral Act is as set out at Section 49 of the Act. Once the data & details of a prospective voter appears in the Voter's Register & match that in his PVC, he should be given a ballot paper and allowed to vote. There is no mention of Card Reader anywhere in the Electoral Act & so INEC Presiding Officers were giving ballot papers to voters to cast their votes, even if the Card Reader failed to authenticate their PVCs once their particulars are in the Register & match that on their PVC. So in essence, what many Courts of Appeal did was to annul the elections in places where the number of votes cast exceeded the number of accredited voters captured by Card Reader but the Supreme Court is saying no: the votes cast should include those accredited with Voter's Register only (popularly called "manual accreditation". Once that happened, most Petitions fail at the Supreme Court because, as I explained earlier, most Petitioners put all their eggs in the single basket of Card Reader. INEC failed to get the National Assembly to further amend the Electoral Act to legislate Card Reader into law as a legal means of accreditation. They only issued a directive that Card Reader should be used; however this is what Section 138(2) of the Electoral Act provides: "An act or omission which may be contrary to an instruction or directive of the Commission or of an officer appointed for the purpose of the election but which is not contrary to the provisions of this Act shall not of itself be a ground for questioning the election". Clearly accreditation without using Card Readers is not contrary to the Electoral Act & is therefore not a ground for nullifying any election. This is all the Supreme Court is saying. I can vouchsafe that the CJN & other Noble Lords of the SC are not happy with the outcomes but what can they do when INEC failed to do the needful? What can they do when Petitioners failed to prove their case to the exacting degree & standards required by law? Remember the Court, including Supreme Court does not make law; they only interpret it. Lastly it is intriguing that no one heard the voice of SAGAY & his ilk when the Court of Appeal, Lagos Division gave THE VERY FIRST JUDGMENT EVER on the issue of Card Reader, holding that it was not part of our electoral laws. The Court of Appeal dismissed the appeal brought by the PDP & their candidate, Agbaje against the APC & Ambode which was premised on Card Reader. Sagay & others like him praised the sagacity of the CA but because the same interpretation by the CA on Card Reader which favored the APC then now favors the PDP at the Apex Court, our Noble Lords of the SC are being rubbished by ignorant comments.

A thousand likes for this!

A lot of commenters have said give her time to get over the shock. You should give her time and space as she has requested. But I dont think she's in shock. You broke her trust by your action. Its your responsibility as her husband to build it again, to earn her trust by your actions. Unfortunately this may take time. But you have to be patient.

Please don't heed the advice on here that you should buy her expensive presents or take her on a shopping spree unless you want to build your marriage on material things.

You have apologised for your action, that is an important first step. Now you have to show her that you will never hurt her again. Being attentive to all her needs, however trivial, is the way to go. Also don't forget to ask God for guidance.

All the best!

fowlyansh181:
did you care to ask what she does before getting hit?

Doesn't matter what she did. There is no justification for violence against the person you vow to love and protect.

NwaNimo1:
Narcissism . . . See his dressing

I know right!

He appears to be doing good work in the state though.

kolawaxxy:
Good. God bless PMB.

If you have anything against this, ...the lagoon is always open and accomodating

After you!

Dude you need to chill!
Ladies do not have an obligation to be polite to you or to listen to your pitch before they decide they a'int buying.
maybe you should consider a girls body language before you approach her. Such as if she makes eye contact and smiles and seems genuinely interested in what you are saying, then take a chance and make your pitch. even then it could go awry. don't expect random girls to give you a minute of their time.

abagnalie:
hope she will do what is right too by getting married so that her kids to be will have the opportunity and joy to celebrate hers wen the time

comes.wish the parents many more years.

mean while does she have a younger sis i can crush on cos that genie ladie is fine.

i know say i dey talk pwentie.

Your unsolicited advice is full of a lot of assumptions. Do you know her, I mean personally, not the half truths and lies you read on this site and others. Do you know what she wants and what she hopes to achieve? Do you have any idea what her priorities are? Then you do not know what is "right" for her.

Marriage is not "right" for everyone. Some people are better of on their own and others are not. The fact that a majority of people get married does not mean its an ideal state for everyone.

In other words let babe be. You are certainly in no place to offer her any form of advise.

MadCow1:
I wonder when she would give them a Husband and grandkids to make their life's achievements complete.


I am not saying she should rush o, but if my broke, ugly, illiterate neighbour Iya Ronke could find a husband and marry with 7 children, Genevieve with all her beauty, fame, money and success has no excuse anymore.


MadCow..

You have no chill at all!

Thank God you are alright.

Hope you used protection sha because if your swimmers are as active as you are (were?), you family and stranger girls' family may soon have something to talk about.

Question: how would one know when Lai Mohammad is lying?

Answer: when his lips are moving you know he's lying

Question: how would one know when Lai Mohammad is lying?

Answer: when his lips are moving.

Emzyme:
About d dad ish.....my kind of dad
Therock5555
If i do something its bad very bad
But when a kid does it outside ,hes very proud ...lyk can u see him

Always using oda pple kids as example


While in sec skul...i neve wanted to stud medicine.....but it had to b cos....he said he wouldnt sponsor my edu to study anoda course......i had no othet source of income.....cos i wasnt even allowed to work in d first place

I got admission b4 any of them, i wasnt allowed to stay on my own...i had to stay with someone appointed by my dad....not that there was no money
Jst so he could monitor me.......

Those kids he used as examples ...for example
They wanted to go out ....nd i was interested ....it becomes a war......i remember a particular day
I visisted one of them......i got a phone call from dad every 10 minutes......
Deh even made jest of me saying dat



" daddy's boy e b lyk say nepa don bring light....ur pman want make u come on fan for am.....etc

I got nicknamed INDONESIAN..... Cos i was always indoors....

I have been virtually embarassed in almost every knwown situation i can think of


I try to dress well, they say see ooo dis 1 is claiming fyn boi
OI got vitually no new cloths .....and yet i am accused on spending.....jst because i bought jst one new jean trouser....

At 18 i couldnt buy anything for my self.....one day very annoyed ,frustrated...see my so called friends looking dope me...?
I went out to buy some stuff....shoes..shirt..
On getting back see pman lyl
Inspector of police...waiting for me
I was drilled with qxtn...bt d 1 dat got my attention was
U went to buy shoe, and cloths in this House?

Cant, i buy stuffs for myself....or wat

I go across d road to buy something and theres my dad watching me.....



Once hhe's back from work...he starts reciting my name every 5mins to make sure am at home...y

Even d compound peeps, old and young make jest of me......

Frustratiom upon frustration...... I dared him

He talks ...i look him in d face defiant ....i dont reply except necessary..... I dnt fight him sha....

Now i am d legal Black sheep of the family....and according to him d first in many generations

Looking at me alone....u get to knw dat something is def wrong
Am anti-social.....dats not hw i wanna b but dats jst hw i have been conditioned to b!!

Low self esteemed.. More lyk

Ur suggestions....are appreciated........cos its a stuggle - to find oneself, discover who i really am!!!!!



Is it too late, cos i am in my final year in the university

I'm sure your father means well its just that he does'nt know how to commuicate his fear and concern to you. He does'nt want you to be irresponsible thats why he monitors you. I'm guessing you are a teenager or just about entering your twenties. This friction with your father is entirely normal. Its not easy for some parents to let go of their children esepecially their first borns, and at your age all you want is freedom. You two are pulling each other in opposite directions. I know you are feeling rejected by your father and are probably keeping to yourself at home. Please don't do that. Relate with him as if as is well. Engage him and try to be his friend. Be open with him as much as you can. I belive that if you open up to him he will do the same. Unfortunately most of our parents are not emotionally available for us. Sometimes it falls to us the children to take the first step to making an emotional connection with our parents. Please do it. Don't let pride deprive you of forming a relationship with your father. You will regret it later. Be considerate of your fathers feelings. He is afraid thats all. I'm sure if you draw closer to him and understand him he will get to know the kind of man you are and he will trust you.
Don't worry so much about what your friends or neighbours say. Its only for a time. Your life has not even started yet.
Be well

If moving out is not an option, then you got to dig in and fight for your place in your family. I know what its like to feel used and abused by ones own family. Don't allow bitterness into your life, it will only destroy you. The Bible says honour your father and mother so that your days will be long on earth. Therefore no matter what you go through, you must honour them, otherwise all your trouble will be for nothing.
Do all you can to take care of your parents and honour them but you do not compromise your stance. I deduce that you are in the movie industry. Most of our parents do not encourage us when we make "unconventional" career choices. Do not be discouraged. If you are diligent and work hard God will bless you and lift you up. I'm sure you've heard stories of many successful comedians and actors whose parents did not support them in the beginning. So don't be discouraged.
As for the misunderstanding with your father, please know that you are not alone. So many of us have fathers and even mothers who are the same way. They are of a different generation and do not understand that it is their responsibility to make children feel emotionally safe. Don't allow your fathers attitude towards you turn you into an angry person because he would have won and be proven right that you are no good. Instead handle every situation with love.
Being the black sheep of the family is not a bad thing. You are independent minded. You are obviously an intelligent and brave person. These are fantastic qualities. The great men and women we read about are exactly like you. The "black sheep" in my family is the rock in my family now. So embrace this gift that God has given you and use it for good. One day your family will recognise that your "stubbornness" is a blessing.
Please don't despair. You are not alone.
Take care