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You now have proof, she hurt you real bad but above it all, u gotta come out on top but it has to be a class act. Here's what you do, when next you see her, be cool, under no circumstance should you ever shag her, it ain't worth it bro.

Just be plain and tell her you heard the recording that everyone now has (burn a copy on cd and give it to her). Make her realize that she made a fool of you among your circle of friends. Don't shout or make a scene about it. Tell her you wish her the best in life but she would do better sticking to one guy in the future. You are still heartbroken, so don't linger for any explanation she has (since you are sure it was her voice you heard) or you might fall for her lies. Pat her firmly but gently on the back and leave.

That would be the most mature thing you ever did and nobody would hear about your actions and blame you for anything.

My first love went the way of the dodo!!

Sorry to come off as being harsh but u dont throw a brother out like trash and the next day u tell him he is more precious than diamond to u. Any sensible guy won't buy that. I advice you to forget about him or be humiliated beyond comprehension.

It all depends on how you broke up. My ex lied and started dating someone else b4 breaking up with me officially. So quite naturally, I resent her cos she always pretended to be the holy one. Hell, she was the one always saying things like "I cant wait to have your baby". She has been trying to get me to talk to her for 5 months, don't pick her calls, reply messages, she wanted to meet somewhere, I declined saying I was cold on a very hot day. The betrayal was collosal so I feel no guilt. I know what she planned didn't work out the way she had arranged. I know she's suffering and I dont care. She asked a friend of mine to ask me just to be her friend but I told him to tell her that I'd rather be friends with an inland viper (one of the world's most venomous snakes).

I dont owe her any form of etiquette, I hate/resent/abhor/detest/despise/loathe that being for being such a schemer. Good riddance to bad rubbish.

My case is quite pathetic, they leave for absolutely minor reasons and I get the impression that the dump was pre-meditated, then seriously speaking they go through humiliating situations (you need to believe this) and I never take any back. Thats the story of my life. One left me so hurt I developed a short-lived phobia for the women folk. I'm over it now, thank God

Tell her off but not b4 she bakes that life-changing cake.

Have done it b4, she initiated it but I was a bit shy. She even tried to go all the way in a dark spot but I scampered away. She was so crazy!!!

Its amazing, they leave like they just found prince charming, then they come back and do ridiculously humiliating things to get me back.

I personally believe anything that happens the same way on three unrelated situations isn't just another coincident. It all happens to me this way; I see a girl, she sees me, we start dating, she really loves me (apparently), I treat her nice but after some time, she leaves for a flimsy reason, I get hurt, I get over it and the dumper (girl) tries everything humanly and witch-ily possible to get back into to my (dumpee) life. I am good-looking, nice job, you know the whole works. It has happened three times and I'm still counting. Why do you think they leave in the first place and most importantly, why do they try to come back months after?

I think we can get a draw from an injury plagued latvia. Brazil, spain are no go areas cos 123-2 would be very embarassing!

Lord of the Ring, the whole damn trilogy.

Silly things I have done for love. The list is quite endless but the one that takes the award is so silly that I can't bring myself to say it on a public forum like this one.

Aliko Dangote is worth 3.3bn usd. David Beckham could be his butler if he wanted

Don't try to get back with her. Most times, a girl would go all out and date someone else simply because she believes she could get back the ex anytime she desired. Do not give her the satisfaction because she'll prolly see you as soft and do it again. Severe all communications with her, no calls, texts and you'll be fine.

Tit for Tat, what goes around comes around. You said you had a long distance relationship with some dude in Nigeria, from what I gather from your post, you didn't break up officially with him before you started having mind-blowing sex with another dude, you are just getting what you deserve. I do not mean to judge you but that's just how I see it.

In on e word, women are "fickle"

Antidote, you are spot on my sister

It's a really sad situation. I try to sympathize with you but deep down, I just feel like you have ulterior motives (sorry). You loved him when he was a player, you should love him even more now that he's not but the reverse seems to be the case.

Imagine him leaving you high and dry after three years, would it go down well with you? True, unconditional love means you love this person through thick and thin, so I don't think you ever truly loved him unconditionally.

It's almost clear that you are considering someone else from your post, if that is the case, it's a real pity. It wouldn't kill him if you left him but it would kill him if you left him for someone else. Since you know he's now totally into you, you should be at least satisfied but you are not, If you leave him for someone else, you might just get a dose of your own medicine and if you ever try to go back to him if that happens, he'll treat you like a plague. Karma is real my dear. If you are gonna terminate something that took three years to build, it should be for a darn good reason like infidelity, medical incompatibility not for a skin-deep excuse like "you no longer feel him". Don't get my point wrong and continue half-heartedly, but be ready to face that old hag named "karma" or her daughter named "nemesis"

dunno really, she's still trying to come back saying we cld still be friends but I told her that it wouldn't happen in this lifetime, in the afterlife or even if we died and came back as animals, I still wldn't want to be friends with a green snake under green grass wearing a green sweater.I knw I shldn't but I really despise her, the deceit was record breaking. I got one consolation though; NEMESIS

It's a very thin line between love and hate. Have you ever loved someone sooooo much and he/she messed up so bad that you totally hate/abhor/despise that person? Be honest.

kiss my ex? No way, I hate the bit**h.

We all read this thread so we cld give advice to a fellow nairalander and that's exactly what I'll do. Firstly, when a woman starts comparing with with another man, she's already cheating on you emotionally. She came outright and told you that this other guy does things you do not do.

I'm an advocate of building not destroying but I'll tell you loud and clear that her mind is elsewhere. Most women never truly love completely. She asked for a break and a break is exactly what she's gonna get. Give her that break she cravingly asked for three times. She'll prolly realize that she lost a gem and try to come back to you but then again do not be suprised to hear she's already with someone else during the so-called break.

She obviously found somewhere else she expects to be greener but nemesis is a bi**ch and as far as your hands are clean, it'll catch up with her.
Cut your losses and move on, it's gonna be hard but thats the only smart thing to do. If she comes back to you, you'll have that sense of satisfaction but don't ever go back to someone that compares you with another guy. When a woman is in love, only her man is perfect, if she now thinks you ain't the shit, then she has either fallen outta love with you or she never was. It has never been clearer that you gotta move on. Be on your EXODUS, Goodluck bro

Wldn't say first love but rather the one I loved most. Had a fight, then she kept oscillating b/w wanting me back and some other guy that comforted her while the rift lasted (3 wks). Don't pick her calls, answer her texts or call her. Deep down, I knw I still have strong feelings for her but I'm with someone else that I desperately want to stick to. The betrayal was too much. I made a decision that I'll never see her again in my life, she thought I was joking then but she's finally realizing that I meant every word and it's making her desperate and I'm just loving it like McDonald's. Neeways, I never want to have anything to do with her again. Wld never curse her, then again, I'm reluctant to praise her many good sides cos she bleeped it all up at the end.

The worst thing she ever did was making me know her, how I regret that day!!!!

Take heart my bro, I went through sth similar and it hurt like crap. I had been dating this girl for about a year and half and I put in time, resources into the whole thing. We had a heated argument just like that you'd expect from a relationship, after three weeks, i decide to play fool and initiate a make up and it turns out this girl already started up sth with someone in france. Hurt for a while but the way i see it, things worked out for the best. If you really wanna get over this, dont call her, visit her or even pick her calls. If you had pics of her, return them or better still, burn them. She might call you to initiate things, ignore her or you'll get a fresh round of pain. The only plea I have is that you dont take this out on anyone else in the future, just learn from it. In my case, I avoided girls that wanted me just to please her, I even lost a couple of my friends. Just take this from someone with a similar experience and move on with your life. It doesn't all end sadly, now I have someone else that's finer, more sensible, so It's her loss. Move on with your life and if you are still a young man, pre-occupy yourself with making money for the future (legitimately). YOU"LL GET OVER HER WITH TIME.

I'm sure I can

I'm the last. Competition over

It's really amazing how people change, I heard u all and I'll like to hear more so I can take a decision cos when I take a stand, I stick to it to the end