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"Oscar! Please I beg you. It won't happen again. I'm sorry." Sophia cried out as Oscar turned her into a punching bag. He smacked her head and threw her against the table. Her waist smashed hard on the edges. The glass wares fell to the ground and shattered into fragments.

"I've warned you severally. I hate it when I see you hang out with any man not me. I'll deal with you today!" Oscar flexed his muscles as he yelled. He rendered a blinding slap on Sophia's face. She lost conscious a little and fell to the ground. The broken pieces of the glass wares torn through her skin. She felt sharp deep pains.

"Oscar! Oscar! Oscar! I'm bleeding. Please, I'm sorry." She struggled with her breath as she called out. She was bleeding profusely. It didn't matter to Oscar.

"That's what you get for disobeying me." Oscar roared out his vexation and walked away.

Sophia shed blood-ridden tears as she tried to help herself up. The broken pieces of ware pierced her skin. Some hooked on her skin. She felt a sharp pain as she pulled them out. Each one she pulled forced out tears that stung her eye sockets. She wept at her sorrowful situation. The Oscar that she loved so much is the one leaving scars all over her body. The previous scars are still fresh. And he has added new ones.

Sophia lost her virginity to Oscar. It formed a bond that attached her to him. She's foolishly in love. Everything Oscar does is right. Everything he says sticks. Oscar is reaping an undeserving love. He knows Sophia was so in love and couldn't do without him. He took advantage of such a rare privilege and used her like a piece of rag. He forcefully demanded sex from her and most often rape her. Almost everyday he demands sex favours from her. After each ejaculation, he'll abandon her like a prostitute. He claimed he loved her and wouldn't stand to see her with another man. He was still struggling to become financially mature. Sophia most of often help him financially. Cook for him with her money. Wash and take care of his home. It's just one room apartment. Sophia turned down the advances of many potential men because of Oscar. Oscar on the other hand, was a possessive jealous cheat. He cheated on her and wouldn't let her go. Sophia couldn't see all the wrong he was doing. She was totally in love. Oscar promised to change. She believed him and she was waiting patiently for him to realize she was his woman. She stuck to him because she believed Oscar loved her that's why he's protecting her from other men. And plus, he doesn't want to let her go. She believed he will change someday.

Sophia's phone was ringing. She noticed that it was an unknown number. Oscar was around her and she was so afraid to pick her call.

"Pick your call Sophia." Oscar urged her.

"I don't know the number calling me. I don't want to pick." Her lips vibrated in fear as she refused to yield to Oscar's request.
Oscar grabbed her phone and answered the call. He discovered it was a man that was calling her. He dropped the call without finding out who the caller was.

"A man is calling you again? How the hell did he get your number Sophia?" He raged. Great panic squeezed Sophia's throat.

"I don't know the person that called me. I didn't give anyone my number lately. I'm sorry please." She begged.

"Sorry? That's not the reply I expected. For the last time who's the man that called you?" He stood up and walked closer to Sophia as he asked her. His anger boiled and evaporated into extreme vexation. Sophia trembled and hid her face with her arms.

"Oscar you picked the call not me. You should've at least find out who the caller was." She explained calmly.

"What! Are you crazy?" He dragged her roughly to the floor. "You're a big liar! A fool! How dare you challenge me that way? I asked you a tiny question and you threw it back to me. Was it my phone he called? You must be very stupid!" He roared and beat the demon out of her.

"Oscar please, I'm sorry! I swear I don't know him. I didn't give any man my number. I don't know how he got it!" She cried and pleaded. Oscar lashed her with his belt. She cried like a woman thrown into boiling hot oil. She begged and begged. Oscar didn't relent; he flogged her terribly until he got tired.

"I'm hungry. Prepare my food." He commanded as he walked away from her. Sophia couldn't help but cry miserably. She got up with marks all over skin and walked to the kitchen crying bitterly.

The same night, Oscar demanded for sex. Sophia complained of body pains from the weeps she received from him.

"I can't make love to you tonight. I feel pains all over my body. Tomorrow please." She tried to elicit some pity from Oscar.

"That's total rubbish. You brought it upon yourself. You fouled my orders. I'm getting sex tonight and right now!" Oscar ended and jumped on Sophia.

"Please Oscar; my body is filled with pains. Please, don't do this to me." Tears rolled down her cheeks as she begged. Oscar ripped her night dress apart and forced his manhood into her. He didn't initiate any initial pre-intimacy to get her body ready. He thrust her like a demon and ravaged her.

"Oscar please, that's enough. It's too painful. Please stop!" Sophia cried like a woman who lost her husband to assassinators.
Oscar used her that night and abandoned her like a LovePeddler like previous other times.
Sophia laid in bed and cried. He looked at Oscar, the one her soul is bonded to with so much love and wept bitterly.

Oscar finally made it in life. He started growing rich. Sophia was so happy for him. Finally Oscar will marry her like he promised. He secured a new apartment outside the state without her knowledge. He was planning to leave the state. He had sex with her like crazy. He used her and used her to his satisfaction once more. He finally disappeared and abandoned Sophia. Sophia tried to reach him through his cell phone. He rejected her many calls. Sophia tried severally and finally he picked.

"Oscar what happened? Are you Okay? I've been trying to reach you for so long. Where are you? How could you just shut me out?" She asked in a hurry.

"Sophia I'm very okay. Please stop disturbing my line. It's over between us. I can't continue with you. There's nothing left in you. Your vagina is so slacked and wide. It's not pleasurable any more. I got tired of you even before I left you. Stop bothering me. I've moved on with my life. Do the same, goodbye and good riddance!" He dropped the call.

That moment a veil fell off Sophia's eyeballs. It was like she was suddenly freed from her enchantment. As her clouded mind cleans up with the truth about her blind love for Oscar, she dissolved into a new being. Her senses slowly departed from her. She turned into an unfortunate mad woman. She was sent to a psychological hospital. No positive news was heard about her again. *poor Sophia*

Oscar enjoyed only a brief moment of peace. He endured a consistent sleepless night. His nightmares stole the night from him. He searched for a woman who'll love him but failed. He was emotionally ruined and dead. A grave loneliness enveloped his heart. Even though he had his sanity, he was just a shadow of his former self. The money and all he had hated him. He lacked fulfilled happiness and peace of mind. He had to suffer all these for four years.

One certain night, he experienced a wonderful dream and a calm night all through. That was the first time in four years he slept peacefully well. It was Sophia he dreamt about. And finally he realized she was the only one who'll bring happiness and peace into his soul. He realized he has abandoned a diamond while picking stones.

He set out in utter desperation and determination to find Sophia. He returned to the state where he abandoned her. He traced her to the psychological hospital and he was told she has been discharged. He searched and searched and searched for her. He searched every corner of the state. And finally like a bolt out of the blue, he found her standing in front of the church. It was the only place in town he didn't search. She looked so happy in her wedding dress.

Oscar noticed she was about to get married. He ran like a troubled soul escaping from hell to her.

"Oh my God! Sophia! I can't believe this is you! Thank God I found you. I've searched the whole town for you!" He said excitedly as tears rolled down his eyes. He has realized all the wrong he did to Sophia. Sophia couldn't utter a word. She stood like a statue and watched Oscar.

"Sophia..." Oscar started on a painful note traced with regrets and repentance. "I know you've always wanted a different me to love you. I know how much you waited patiently for me. I'm a changed man now Sophia. Please, I've not known peace ever since I left you. You can't marry another man. Please give me just a tiny minute of chance to make it up to you. I beg you in the name God." Oscar fell to his kneels like a fool and cried out to Sophia. Sophia heaved a tear and finally decided to speak. Painful tears that remind her of the sufferings she endured in the hands of Oscar began to draw lines of agonies down her cheek. All the scars he left on her body itched and bit her. They reminded her of the slavery she was forced into by Oscar. All the time she was used and used, and finally tossed into the waste can like a useless rag. She remembered everything and how she was dumped like a dead prostitute without a family. She looked up and sniffled at Oscar, the failure she was struck with, the wasted years in rue and bitterness. The torture, the tears, the afflictions and all the painful days she was made to bleed by someone she loved. She remembered all the suitors with good prospects she ignored just to please Oscar. She expelled loudly and wept more at the death trap that stood before her. She looked at her years of sufferings and madness and cried like a lost soul locked up in hell to rot and decay. She looked up at Oscar the scar-agent of Satan and wept bitterly. Is it wrong to love someone so much? She asked. She fixed her crying eyeballs on Oscar as she sang this song by Michael Learns
"Boy I miss your kisses
All the time but this is
Twenty five minutes too late
Though you traveled so far
Boy I'm sorry you're
Twenty five minutes too late"

Oscar started experiencing strange changes around him.

Sophia continued. "Oscar I'm married now. You're too late. I got married twenty five minutes ago. I'm free from you Oscar. I'm free your scars. The scars you impregnated my body with are healed by my loving husband. I've moved on Oscar. You should do same. Goodbye and good riddance!" She finished and joined her husband.

Oscar threw away a diamond while picking stones. He hurt and abandoned the one that hold his eternal happiness and sanity. He earned the reward for his foolishness and wickedness. He lived mentally disturbed for so many years. He regained his senses when he has lost everything he had. He had to depend on odd jobs to survive. He helped people with their loads in the market and get paid. He helped a man to carry his load to his car. He got to his car and discovered he was Sophia's husband. Sophia was in the car playing with her children. Oscar dropped the load and walked away in shame without collecting his wage.

{THE END}

SCARS GET HEALED; NO OSCAR CAN DELAY YOUR HEALING.

Well, ladies, it's better to be with someone that loves you than to suffer in a wrong relationship with someone you love but doesn't appreciate you or treat you like a human.

Hi dears please is it possible to book a one way flight to SA with a visiting visa instead of a round trip?

Fugly... He's seriously gettinmg out of shape... Shame!!!

literarymathy:
Many of you have heard about Warri in Delta State. It is a very popular place and one of the most well known areas of Southern Nigeria. Warri is a fast growing megacity filled with so many potentials and so many people. It is like a small Nigeria of its own. Warri is the unofficial capital of Delta State as well as its economic hub. It is a well known fact that politics dictated the relocation of Delta State's capital city to the current Anioma town of Asaba. This act prompted a lot of sentiments from all corners but what has been done has been done. I wish to present you all with some facts about this oil city that should be known and also address its origins and theories about its ownership.

- Warri was a major hub for trading as far back as the 15th centuries when Portuguese traders arrived its shores.

- Warri is occupied by three main ethnic groups: the Ijaws, the Itsekiris and the Urhobos. Each of these ethnic nationalities claim original ownership of Warri and each may as well be right. However, this issue will be treated later on.

- Warri was the headquarters of the colonial Delta province and has always served useful functions as a hub for all the nearby ethnic groups.

- The FIRST NIGERIAN to ever go to a university was Antonio Dom Domingo who graduated from Coimbra University in Portugal in 1611. He was a Warri Itsekiri man.

- Modern day Warri is made up of three local government areas; Warri South LGA which is dominated by the Urhobos of Okere and Agbassa and the Itsekiris, Warri South West which is dominated by Ijaws and Itsekiris and Warri North which is mainly dominated by the Itsekiris with Ijaws as well. These LGAs are all in Delta South Senatorial District. They share this district together with the Isokos.

- Warri was a major slave hub during the transatlantic slave trade that lasted for over 400 years. Itsekiri chiefs and monarchs were partners with European slave traders and they imported slaves to be shipped to North America, South America, Europe and the West Indies.

- The name "Warri" was coined by a Portuguese explorer and has no origin with the Itsekiri titular name of "Iwere". This is a historical fact. Furthermore, other names of places in the Warri Axis such as "Forcados" were also colonial coinages.

- The Agbassa (Agbara-Ame) People of Warri South Local Government Area were migrants to Warri from their home town of Agbarha-Otor just like the Idjerhe(Jesse) and Oghara people of Ethiope West. The Itsekiri people of Warri are also migrants. Their documented history shows that most of them migrated from Ijebu and Ilaje(Yoruba conclaves) and were placed together as one people under the reign of Ginuwa, an exiled Benin prince who took refuge at Ode-Itsekiri, the ancestral home of the Itsekiri people. The Ijaws are quite older in Warri. However, history documents that they were also migrants from the hinterland of the Niger Delta when the old Edo people came to their current land in the Pre-Ogiso era. So if any tribe can lay claim to Warri (based on original occupation), it will be the Ijaw people. However, it is known that the Ijaws, prior to the Kaiama declaration, were less concerned with territorial holds. There were passive in old Warri. In reality, Warri is no man's land .

- In Pre-colonial times, it was fashionable for the tribes occupying Warri to inter-marry. In fact, there are a few Warri indigenes without any mixed Itsekiri, Urhobo or Ijaw ancestry.

- In pre-colonial and colonial times, there was a marked division of territory in Warri. The Ijaws occupied the islands and shores in the Warri South West Axis, the Itsekiris occupied the islands and mainlands close to the coastal areas in Warri South and North while the Urhobos occupied the hinterland with the exception of Okere-Urhobo and Agbassa urhobo who occupied coastal regions.

- Due to the fact said above, the Itsekiris had the privileged advantage of meeting the Europeans first and trading with them. There were open and eager to learn the European way of life. They eventually monopolised trade with the Europeans and other ethnic groups went through the Itsekiris in other to gain access to the Europeans.

- When colonisation started officially, the Itsekiris were much more favoured by the British. This brought about envy and jealousy by the other tribes occupying Warri. The Itsekiris became colonial court clerks and judges, they were interpreters, they were agents, they were virtually everything embodying the indirect rule system. Bad blood was developed.

- When the colonial NCNC and the Action Group party was formed, the Itsekiris embraced the AG while the Urhobos embraced NCNC. Awolowo punished the Urhobos for this by placing the Itsekiri monarch above all the Urhobo monarchs. Awo also changed the traditional title of the Olu of Itsekiri to the Olu of Warri and moved their traditional island of Ode-Itsekiri to mainland Warri. This led to a series of protests by the Urhobos and Ijaws. This period also marked the beginning of Urhobo nationalism led by the great Mukoro Mowoe, M.G. Ejaife and others. However, the change was already gazetted and little could be done about it. Another bad blood was spilt.

- With the discovery of Oil in the Warri region, another trouble started for the people of this region. Most of the oil wells in this region were presumably in Itsekiri land. However, Ijaw and Urhobo land has its large share of these oil wells. The Olu of Itsekiri, in a bid to monopolise the oil wells, decided to impose lordship over all lands in Warri since his title is the Olu of Warri and there's an etymological link between Warri and "Iwerre", an Itsekiri word. This led to a series of court cases which lasted for decades until a particular court ruling that stated unequivocally the the Olu of Warri is a mere titular appellation and his over-lord's powers are limited to Itsekiri traditional homesteads. This brought relative peace to Warri.

- With the coming of oil companies such as Shell, Chevron, NNPC and others, the Itsekiris presented themselves as pitiable minorities that were oppressed by their big brothers in Warri. Employment was monopolised to Itsekiris, so also with development, scholarship, etc. Urhobo and Ijaw lands became desolate like the proverbial "wasteland" of T. S. Eliot, the British poet. Ironically, the areas of Warri that are shared by the tribes were never developed by these companies due the influence of the Itsekiris. Even the airport in Warri now was fought against by the Itsekiris for their own reasons. More bad blood was spilt again...

- The heightened tension came when the Delta State government decided to situate the headquarters of Warri-South West LGA in an Itsekiri land, bypassing the proposed Ijaw land of Ogbe-Ijoh. This led to a series of violent clashes now known as the Warri Crisis that lasted for years. It was only the Urhobos that were somewhat neutral in this clash. Relative peace was regained when the headquarters was shifted to the proposed Ogbe-Ijoh land of the Ijaws.

- Warri is currently enjoying a very delicate peace among the tribes. However, this peace can change at any given moment if any tribe engages in any actions not sanctioned by the other tribes.

- The Itsekiris are currently seeking for their own state with capital at Warri. Before now, they sought to be placed together with Edo state in a contraption known as "EDOWA" or to be connected with Ondo state. It is even presumed that they had political roles played in the situation of the Delta State capital at Asaba and not Warri, the true heart of Delta. This is because they believed that the Urhobos will gain more from this rather than themselves.


The above facts have been presented as objectively as possible. I am not from Warri. These facts beg the question, who TRULY owns Warri City? Is it the Ijaws, Urhobos, Itsekiris, all of them or none of them? Judging from the above facts, please answer the question.

p.s. I am not claiming to be an authority in Urhobo-Ijaw-Itsekiri relationship and history. I am only trying to educate others. So if you have a point to add, or a correction to be made, please state it. This thread is not for ethnic rivalry or the likes. It is for the truth.

They all own it together

rotimilax:
Lol. This 'hater' would love to have ur contacts. How about that?

Mayb d hater should drop his!

edozie04:
story for the gods

Even the gods know how irritating make up sounds...

rotimilax:
Not bad. U just had to show a pic of urself sha #showoff.

Not showing, just proving make up isn't a big deal to some of us! #hater

edozie04:
Can a normal girl stay one month without applying makeup

Yes and even more cos I don't make up at all

The soldiers probably went visiting...

May God not let evil befall us... we all need to be very careful this period, avoid late nights and if you must, don't be alone in a quiet place at NIGHT!

I Amaka,will not forgive myself if paul marries her....

I have known Joyce all my life. We grew up in the same neighbourhood and attended both primary and secondary school together.. We were inseperable and people often found it hard to believe that we were not related by blood...

We attended the famous Nnamdi Azikiwe University Awka and we lived together.. .
We have lived like sisters for years now but something is about to tear us apart...

In my final year at the University, I met a banker called Paul and I can still remember that fateful day vividly. I had rushed into the bank to withdraw some money to pay for my departmental dues but I met an usual crowd. It was on a friday afternoon and the deadline for the payment of the dues. I was in a fix and didn't know what to do. J had travelled the previous week in preparation for her grandmother's burial and there was no one else to ask. My eyes were red. Paul was sitting at a corner, not too far from me and my eyes caught his. He beckoned me over with a wave and I walked to him reluctantly. All these stupid bankers, I thought to myself. I hated a lot of bankers then, because they seemed to be too full of themselves. He saw the tears in my eyes and asked if be could be of any help. I told him what the problem was and he collected my passbook. Some of the students saw him and began to yell, 'so what's the queue for? All these bankers and their stupid girlfriends'. He ignored them and helped me get the cash and we became friends afterwards...

Paul was a nice guy, quite different from many of the bankers I had met in the past and he did everything to catch my attention but I just wasn't interested. He was an Edo man and that was a no- no for me. He was also very short. I had always seen myself getting married to a tall, dark and handsome guy and a man from my tribe. To make matters worse, J didn't fancy him and she expressed her disapproval on the first day she set her eyes on him.

We left school and Paul still kept in touch. I rejected his proposal several times but he couldn't take no for an answer.

Paul got transferred to the lagos branch of his bank and I was the first to know. He was doing very well financially and I was so happy for him but I just couldn't bring myself to marry a short Edo man..

Months later, I found the man of my dreams' tall, dark and handsome and from my tribe too but with a terrible temper...

Hmm, life has a way of playing out things sha. One day, J went for a job interview in lagos and got stranded. She called to ask if I knew anyone that she could put up with and then I remembered paul! I hadn't spoken to him in weeks but he was glad to be of help when he heard about my friend' s predicament. J stayed with him for two days and I didn't worry about anything..... I was just happy that my friend and sister was in safe hands!

Days after, J called and started to say a lot of nice things about paul and I was happy to know that she had enjoyed her stay but when she didn't stop, I knew something was 'cracking'. At first, I didn't pay any attention but when she began to call and tell me how many times Paul called and chatted with her, I began to feel uneasy. J never liked Paul. She always called him a 'short man devil'. I couldn't understand the sudden change of heart...

Few weeks later, J called to tell me that paul was asking her for a relationship and she was going to say yes. Where was that coming from? I called Paul and he confirmed the whole story....

I really do not know to do now. But I feel betrayed.. J keeps uploading the pictures of her and Paul on facebook and I can't help but admit that I'm jealous.. just last week, she sent a text to tell me that Paul would be meeting her parents in a couple of weeks...

I am writing this in confusion! Should I be happy for my friend J? Is she really my friend? I have a tall, dark, sexy, guy waiting for me to say yes but I have learnt to look beyond physical looks now. My prince charming barks at the slightest provocation and he feels he is doing me a favour by wanting to marry me. He is rich, and handsome just like I have always wanted but there's something missing...

What do I do? Do I accept this new guy or fight back for Paul. Its crazy, I know but that's how I feel...

Please tallk to me....

All is well that ends well.... i stil hope for a better end, if them like make them shift am till oct 1st... what will be will be!

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meshacha1:
We have been telling them, come back home.
No place like home!
You can't be stranded at home.
At home here We have Siblings,friends, neighbours and relatives to support, over there who do you have?
Ajo da bi ile
We have capable hands here
Please we should stop underestimating our doctors.

Come back home and die? Or you didn't read the part that says she went for a medicAl treatment! Sometimes I wonder what kind of. Educated illiterate we hav here

waffiboi:
1. Selfishness or Egocentricity: An average Urhobo person is selfish or egocentric. This is the act of believing only in self. The propensity to satisfy self at the expense of others. Being self-centred. In the process of trying to satisfy self only, the individual begins to become greedy by accumulating more and more to him/herself alone. E.g. some Urhobo elites in position of influence tend to turn away from other Urhobos when Urhobo language is spoken around them in the office or when they are needed to help an Urhobo person to succeed, they don’t bother to help because they are thinking this person is going to take their seat or is going to get better and their influence will diminish. This trait is very devastating.

2. Jealousy or Rivalry: This is deeply rooted in our polygamous family setting where a man marries two or more wives. In most cases, the wives engage in unhealthy competition among themselves with one trying to outclass the other. This could lead to hatred of one wife against the other. It could lead one wife wishing the other evil or even death especially when one is getting more prosperous than the other. The poorer one would start to despise the other by making derogatory statements like; “what does she think she is ?” or “what kind of rubbish wealth she thinks she has?” and so forth. This behaviour or attitude is then passed down to their children (male or female) that sometimes one wife and her children could form a “union” against the other wife and her children. And for generations this unhealthy co-existence remains. Something has to be done to abate this trend.

This phenomenon is directly linked to the “Avwebọ” (amebọ) and “Avwiorọvwe” that husbands create within the family. In other words, it is the husbands that caused the rivalry and jealousy. (There is a lot written about this by Professor Peter Ekeh for those who want to read further about the topic)

3. Avarice or Covetousness: The product of selfishness and greed is avarice. This is where someone is so self-centred that he/she continues to acquire material wealth to him/herself without minding any other person. They can sell or even kill the other person in the process of acquiring what they want.

4. Hatred, Malice and Bitterness: The result of greed, jealousy and rivalry is hatred. The person who is greedy is hated by the people around because s/he never helps anyone. And over time, this hatred leads to bitterness that is deeply rooted in the heart of the people against the person. And the real product that is lacking among the people is love for one another. Genuine affection is not there so people can keep malice of the other in mind for as long as possible.

5. Miscommunication: Since there is no genuine affection between the people, the line of communication is also not thorough. This creates communication gap which in turn creates misunderstanding of each other and later leading to suspicion.

6. Distrust or Suspicion: With the issue of rivalry in the family, people begin to suspect the actions (or inaction) of the other person. When this becomes someone’s attitude, they exhibit it beyond the family to the community.


7. Nepotism and Tribalism: Resulting from the self-centredness within the rivals in the family, pockets of “unions” or “cliques” begin to develop and this grows into where people now identify with one another with undue patronage to one another just because they are relations. The common Urhobo adage, “Uwevwi a g’obọ vwiyọ” is purely an act of nepotism and not UNITY as people think. The attributes of nepotic attitude on a larger scale is tribalism. It could also be the root of racism at international scale.

8. Separatism: This is the result of nepotism. As people get into grouping based on who they are related to, others soon see it as a form of fraternity to relate closely with one’s relations and less with those we are not related to. Such advocates always see line of demarcation between one person and another because of their family background. These separatists easily see why some group of people should not belong to a union and soon create a division among the people. There are many separatists among the Urhobo people.

9. “Unforgiveness” and Retaliation: Most Urhobo people have the heart of keeping any hurt or wrong done to them by someone in the past and they will never let go. They will keep the hurt with them looking for a day to retaliate or revenge. Usually, the revenge could be more hurtful and devastating. And since the other person(s) equally has/have the heart to keep things, they will record this event in their heart till such a time that they will revenge against the people who hurt them together with their children, etc. It is a vicious cycle that has no end. Sometimes that was the beginning of wars between communities and nations.

Where it does not result into physical war, it could be a social or psychological war between the groups concerned. That is why we often hear that in a town, one part is against the other part to the point that they must never cross each other or else heads will roll. Or in one street one compound is ostracised that whenever they are doing something, people from other parts of the street must not partake with them.

10. Conservatism and Intolerance: Following on from the problem of unforgiveness and retaliation is intolerance. This is rooted in the tendency for an average Urhobo person to be very conservative. People’s beliefs from generation to generation remain as what dictate their behaviour towards another person. This is related to the phrase: “naware rhe”. So what our forefathers did in the time past must remain to be done exactly so today without change. Any person causing a deviation or introducing a change (for better) is not tolerated and must be stopped or ostracised.

11. Pride and Arrogance: An average Urhobo person is naturally proud. There is positive pride which is being proud to be what and who you are. So it is good to be proud to be an Urhobo. But negative pride which people detest is arrogance. This is where a person considers him/herself to be above and better than every other person and looks down on the others. This attitude is very unsociable and it produces disunity.

12. Ignorance and Inferiority Complex: This is a very subtle canker in the life of most people. They are ignorant and have inferiority complex or lack of self-confidence but they pretend to know everything. Worse still is the fact that when someone tells them about their problem, they bask in their pride/arrogance to say that they don’t have any problem. This category of people is those who don’t know that they don’t know but they think that they know. There are many Urhobos in this category and they are very difficult to work with.

13. Cowardice, Gossiping and Backstabbing: Some Urhobo people are cowards. They will not say anything in the presence of someone they are in disagreement with. But they will go behind the person to say all sorts of things about the person. On the other hand, they will say “good” things to the person and behind the person they will say nasty things about him/her. That is backstabbing and it is very dangerous.

14. Hypocrisy: This is the bane of our present day society. People preach “Unity” but they are actually practising “Disunity”. So what shall we do?

Unfortunately for you all the above is a general trait found in every human who doesn't hv the fear of God in then, and you just practically reviewed who you are through this post, "cast the first stone if you don't exhibit some, if not all you just. Listed" hypocrite

TheSonOfMark:
Their females are unladylike and crude.

Please that's not true, maybe the ones you have met... The female are creative, independent, great cooks, good wives, home keepers, loving mothers and respectful... I speak for myself and sisters, and my friends on nairaland can attest to that.... @yokiti, @immanuel etc

UrennaNkoli:
Loud ovations ? The crowd I'm seeing there doesn't look like they're giving any loud ovation. Even the general overseer of the church doesnt look happy sitting down beside jonathan in the first photo. Better stop deceiving urselves, no one is happy with this man. He must go. Nigeria needs him no more.

There was indeed loud ovations that lasted for more than 15min... And I was an eyewitness... And the will. Of God. Will surely come to past so stop beefing

1) You fail to look good.

2) You pray for an excellent
husband instead of becoming an excellent wife
material.

3) You use money to buy a man and keep the relationship under your control.

4) You sell your destiny for marriage.

5) You stay in an unhealthy relationship because you
are scared that if you break up with him, you may not
find another man as good as him.

6) You give your hrt to a man and later try to use
your head....

7) You compete with your man instead of
complementing him.

You use sex to get a man.

9) You work at a job that limit
your progress in life.

10) You follow a man blindly.

11) You mistake romance for love.

12) You don't put God first in your life.

13) You mistake the availability of money for love.

14) You don't know what you want in life.

15) You fail to grow up in maturity.

16) You enter into a relationship
with unavailable man.

17) You force a relationship to stay alive.

18) You date different men at the same time giving
each of them the impression that you are romantically interested in them when you really are
not.

19) You compare your man with your father, brother,
or other men in the past.

20) You adapt to an unhealthy relationship instead of demanding for change, respect and honour.

21) You fail to connect with quality, God fearing men and women in positive relationships.

22) you fail to agree with this post

bisi16:
Lol.. in 45mins sef. PM me let me link u

I just did that, waiting for your mail. Thanks

Hi pllS I need help, want to get police clearance, was told to go to alagbon, can anyone help tell me what is required and if I can gEt it same day... What to expEct, etc. ThAnks

Sanchez01:
I hope the pastors who compromised their faith can see this

Ayo Oritsejafor
David Oyedepo et al. Please return it if indeed you received it in form of offering/honorarium

What proof do you have by mentioning the men of God you mentioned above, be careful so you don't lay curse on yourself, allow God deal with whoever accordingly ooo!

― If you didn't kill earthworm with salt.;
― If you didn't play rubber band.;
― If you never bathed in the rain.;
― If nobody told you about India vs Nigeria 99-1.;
― If you didn't sleep on the couch and wake;
up on the bed.;
― If you didn't go 2 steal cashew and guava in d next street;
and the owner's dog comes through the;
backyard waiting for you to come down from the tree.;
― if u didn't throw your milk tooth on the;
roof for the lizards to take it and give you new ones.;
― If you didn't just wash your hands and legs instead of;
bathing when going to school.;
― If you didn't act film in uncompleted building or under bed;
with friends.;
― If you never flew a kite.;
- If you didn't use ur two legs to build houses with sand.;
- If u didn't write ur name on paper and insert it into ur pen;
so that no one will steal it.;
- If u didn't close d fridge door really slowly to see when d;
lights went off.;
- If u neva waved @ white birds expectin ur nails to b whiter;
- If u neva heard of a ghost dat stays under;
mango trees @nights;
- If u didn't drive a single car Tyre with a stick and called it;
ur car!;
- If u didnt mix garri n sugar in ur pocket and eat while;
walking in the street.;
- If u never did mama and papa play i.e. cookin grass nd;
sand witout fire.;
- If you didn't play table soccer. with bottle;
cover.....;
.....then I guess ur Childhood wasn't fun!;
Oya choose which one u do;
Do you knw its not jangilova epo motor? it is JINGLE OVER LIKE A MOTOR!! I bet u didn't knw. Don't be shy, I didn't know either until now I am sure 99.9 % of adults that grew up in Nigeria dnt knw dat d nursery rhyme "sandalili sandalili" is actually "stan;
ard living standard living". D song in church saying " o singo singo, praise d Lord", is actually " o sing my soul and praise d Lord. I knw u are singing it now again, smiles ***Confess.! are u guilty? hahahaha

seedord247:
I keep asking them the same thing... Where in the bible did they talk about premarital sex ?...

If i'm a product i need to test it and see how efficient it will work if i decided to take it home..

Sex before marriage, pre-marital experience, assuming one is talking of sexual intercourse or perversion of the same, the word of God implies it all by calling it fornication. It knows no exception. It allows none. Renaming fornication does not change the act or remove the consequence. Those who commit fornication sin, Consider what the word says. "Marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled, but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge" Hebrews 13:4. Paul said, "Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body, but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body" I Corinthians 6:18.


The body of the believer belongs to God. He has been bought with a price and is to glorify God while in the flesh. All of this is clearly taught in this chapter. Fornication is generally committed. in private. This leads one to believe that, since no one knows, or since the act was committed with a prostitute or call girl, that the sin goes unnoticed and the consequences are allayed. This is just not so. Pre-marital sex? An effort to reach compatibility? An innocent game to play? Not according to the word. God says it is fornication, sin, and those who commit such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God. It is not sex which God condemns, but it's misuse outside the marriage bond.
May God forgiv ur ignorance!

Nice one

[quote author=Tracy66 post=30179259][/quote]Ugly things forming becos of 10k that I can comfortably give out, mtcheew!!!