Nice one but Liverpool must not win the league

Void the season already

mrphysics:


There's nothing that is impossible. I didn't say the body can't absorb radiowaves, it does ofcourse. However, what effect does it have on the body. These waves are non ionizing and poses low ionization potential. I highlighted in my post that anything containing (H, C, N, O) can't be ionized by waves that is below 12.4 eV (which 5 GHz fall under). It means it does not affect it's make up by modifying it's fundamental particles.

Anything can be linked to immunosuppression, linking is one thing but it is not fact. I read all these link to this, link to that, are there facts?

You didn't address the part that spoke about changes in the optical properties of oxygen therefore make it difficult for hemoglobin to absorb and bind well with the defective oxygen.

What's life without oxygen?

I'll like to read your inputs on this. Thanks

Looking forward to Post Covid19 Nigeria

Voice of Sowore but the hand of BAT (de Jagaban)

Hmm

Nothing good comes easy same way the decision won't be an easy one to make but the right one.

Let them try again Next Season

There's no place like home. I hope our leaders learn a thing or two from this COVID-19 pandemic.

The world won't hesitate to shut her door on you. Develop your country and protect her cos that's your only true home.

#realityCheck

papaejima20199:
This is my first time posting NL , although I've been reading a lot in the last few months . I'll try to be as detailed as possible. I don't even know if I'm asking a question, or advice, or what. I just have to get some things out of my brain.

I’m 36 and my wife is 32. we've been married for 12 years and have two children, twins age 1. I would say happily married. As in, we don't fight, , never any abuse of any kind, no major life disagreements. I love my wife. She is a great mother, a great provider for the family, and we make a great team when it comes to raising our kids. However, she leaves me feeling undesired. Sexually, just intimacy in general, not feeling wanted or desired, missing that flirtatious quality that we all enjoy in a relationship. Our sex life has been on a steady decline, honestly since we got married. Less and less and less every year, and yes, kids make that even more difficult (and provide very easy excuses)

About 2 years ago, I was close to cheating. There was a girl at work that I flirted with often. We started hanging out , and we always seemed to end up talking, touching innocently, flirting, but nothing ever happened between us. The feeling this girl gave me inspired me to tell my wife how I was feeling, what I was missing, etc. I told her how important sex was to me, asked her what I could change, or if she needed to change something. Her response was that she "just didn't really think about it like you do" and that she would try to work on it. Well she didn't work on it, at all.

The flirty girl didn't work with me any more, and I lost that "flame" with her and let it go, and went about life as usual. I've been working a lot of hours over the last six months. I fell into this flirty relationship with one of my coworkers 22 and we just would have a lot of fun with one another. Mad sexual tension. A few months back things happen and she blows me. Its great. Best sex of my life. We set up plans to meet up off work hours and we do.

My coworker is in perfect shape. Its like my perfect woman. I love the way she loves me. She appreciates me, she satisfies me, she matches my sexual drive, and even exceeds it. She is everything I was missing in life, and I'm as happy as I've been in a long time. She is also crazy about me which feels unbelievable. Its been a while since someone has just wanted me to be happy and wanted to please me. I now consider her my girlfriend.

I don't wish to hurt my wife. But I do wish to be happy.

I do not wish for my children to grow up in a home with divorce. I want them to grow up with myself and my wife still being the team we've been so far, doing equal parts to take care of them, and always be there for them.

I realize a lot of what I'm saying are things that can't go together. I want to be with my girlfriend, I don't want to hurt my wife, and I don't want my kids to suffer . I can't have it all. Now I feel stuck

I need help because I can't seem to go through with this alone, and I have no one close enough with the time and level of trust that I can confide in, so I would really appreciate it if you'd offer me some advice.

Thanks for reading

12yrs ago you were 24 and your wife was 20

You married and did honeymoon for 9yrs plus before she got pregnant

Let's assume the above is true, the main question is why did you marry that early and why did you stay for that long honeymooning?

Your cousin already told your fiancee the truth but advised her to use the "I am pregnant" trick on you so that you can open up.

She's not pregnant, she's only trying to hear the truth from you as confirmation

Use your head �

The beginning of the end

Why not retaliate by dealing with the cause of the problem?

Why did they place the ban?

Solve the problem and move on with your life

daveemuobo:


Even in Nigeria, house officers earn more than CNO's

I don't understand why people come online to boldly showcase their ignorance like this one here

Vega100:

You are the only sensible person on this front page. Without hearing from the other party, I can swear with My Life, that this NEVER happened this way, I Can Swear with everything in me, that it NEVER happened.
The way people come online to write nonsense and discredit people is terrible, why are we like this?

I work in a hospital, and I particularly know how this nurses (especially the older ones) could be so mean, arrogant, insolent and violent with doctors (especially the junior ones) perhaps the believe that this one na small pikin, and they treat them with utmost disrespect.
This NEVER happened! A house officer, will never assault an ACNO, despite what this doctors face, I have never seen a case where any of them went physical. In most cases, those older nurses know many people in high powers, so the younger doctors stand no chance.
It just pains me so much what was written here, it's really hurtful. I understand the whole scenario and it's not alright when people distort a story against other people.

The story of slapping her for asking to document for not catheterizing a patient is even stupid, follow a HO outside to tell him how documentation is important, that will NEVER happen with those nurses. If them no use mouth finish u for patient front.

Please stop all this nonsense of tarnishing people's name, please, it's unfair.

Why not go and get the doctor's side of the story for a rejoinder before raining curses on yourself and entire generation

Imo State is not in the moon and FMC Owerri is not Jupiter.

Swearing like we all don't know the level of workplace violence perpetrated by some arrongant Doctors against Nurses. I blame those Nurses who always allow such a matter to get cold by approaching the hospital management.

"As e de hot, just serve any arrogant doctor your revenge sharp sharp" after all two can play the game.

okpalaAnambra:

Stupid journalism , no where was the name of the state even mentioned

So you can't see "Niger State" there

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Adam1990:
The reason for the Arabic inscription on Nigerian currency was due to the fact that when the colonial came to the northern region they met the majority of the people there were literate in Arabic language I.e they schooled, communicate and transact using the Arabic alphabets,that's why when introducing the official currency or medium of exchange they decided to include the Arabic for the simple understanding and also inclusiveness of the average northerner which also aid in their objective of amalgamating the southern and the noryhern protoctorate.

Even as at today majority of the Muslims in northern part can read and write in arabic as most of them attend Islamic school since from childhood.

Thanks for this explanation, how about the military?

BluntBoy:


So, what really is your own point because I don't understand?

My point is that I value the true meanings to things. Therefore, if I can call you my best friend, then you shouldn't withhold such information from me.

If you (my best friend) saw my wife in a hotel with another man, tell me about it. Allow me to sort out myself with my wife in regards to whether she went there for business or pleasure. Also, even if she has told me about it or not, you duty is to tell me.

Think about this, if someone you call your best friend can withhold such a vital information from you, is he truly worth calling your "best friend"?

For me to call you a friend, you must have earned it; for me to call you my best friend then you must have really become a part of me (brotherhood)

BluntBoy:


What gave you the impression that she has not told her husband?

How does that answer the OP question?

Whether she has told the husband or not, OP is seeking to clear his conscience and maintain the trust that exists between two friends over the years for them to have grown into best friends.

I'm not reading meanings into why the woman went to the hotel or whether she's told her husband but I'm only concerned with the OP maintaining trust with his best friend.

Any other explanation is left for the wife and her husband. If she went there for business or pleasure, she should settle it with her husband.

BluntBoy:


He said he saw them in a hotel, not in a hotel room.

Work-related issues such as conferences can happen in a hotel lobby.

Moreover, a boss can take work out of the office and invite specific employees to a lunch. It is called lunching with the boss

If you don't want your wife to have a social life, then stop her from working and put her in a cage.

So the wife cannot explain this to her husband?
All the OP is asking if he should tell the husband that he saw his wife with another man in a hotel.

You people are the ones reading meanings into it and giving advice based on that assumption.

Left for me, the OP should tell the husband and the wife can sort herself out with her husband with any other explanation on why she was at the hotel with another man.

INDUSTRIALFAN:
he's not even in the country. My boss goes to a number of meetings daily... Believe me.. After a number of few months, even if she would tell him everything, he would get exhausted hearing it all.. Besides, I noticed you only spoke of her husband knowing where she went... Is the consultant exempt from letting his wife know where he'd be or is it just women infidelity is tied to?

No one has said the OP should tell his friend that his wife went to have sex in the hotel. They're simply saying he should tell his friend that he saw his wife in the hotel with another man. That's all.

If she went there for a business, it's left for her to explain that to her husband.

Why the panic?

umbre:


Bro same happend to me in 2016 December. I changed the keys of the house and I had just stayed in the house for 3months or less. My laptop was carted away and there was no single sign of breaking-in into my apartment. I'm still trying to figure out the way the larceny occured.
So sorry or your loss.

My advice: Move out of that apartment when your rent expires or if you can afford it soon enough before it expires. Do not buy any expensive items home again.

Some use the ceiling to enter and exit a building. A thorough check should be conducted cos changing locks alone doesn't help in all cases

I'm happily married, thanks for asking.

That repungent African custom is what stole OP peace and made her to come online with her issue.

I'm an African and a Nigerian and I'm happy with my wife cos we respect the "African custom". The "Non-African customs" is one thing I can never copy from the "Non-Africans"

In conflict management, there's a huge difference between 'ideal' and 'real'. To each, his/her own

YelloweWest:

Shalom after expressing repugnant unnatural African customs... lol

You make it sound like the child belongs to the husband alone.
I don't know if you are married but for me and most married people roles between husband and wife are clearly defined.
The husband is the head of the house, provider protector etc.
The wife is the manager of home affairs and care giver. The wellbeing of the children are her number 1 priority. In my home and many others I decide who comes near my children not my husband because he too busy focused on his duties to interfere with mine.

Remember it's called mother instinct for a reason. If the op sister inlaw were good people, they would have no issue what so ever with the wife's mother caring for her new born grand child.

They are wicked and never liked their brothers wife. Imagine telling her that she must be in their good book for her to have peace in her home!! What rubbish!

Check well those are frustrated ladies who want every one else to be like them.

My cousins wife is currently facing same problem. All his sister's are single or divorced except for 1. They are all giving his wife so much heat except for the married one. I know what I'm saying, a woman happily married would have no time for her brother home!

YelloweWest:

So the op being a young student should have left her new born baby in the care of people she does not trust, people who clearly dislike her all because of culture??

The op has the right to invite her mother to take care of her child if that's who she can in trust the care of her baby to!

If you want to quote me, at least try and present it correctly

I'm not for or against who should have helped OP looked after her baby. The decision however, should come from her husband cos the child is his.

It's amazing how you guys quote rights for husband and wife like you're the one in charge of 'right allocation' for families. Lol...

The OP said her problem started after she took her 1st child to her mom (i.e. her family). The OP didn't complain about any nasty behavior from the husband's sisters/family prior to that, so please don't add to her story in your attempt to prove a point.

Like I earlier said, only the OP knows the whole truth and the complete story. Obviously, it's an inter-tribal marriage and when a marriage is like that, there's nothing like wife's culture anymore but husband's culture which becomes the wife's new culture by the virtue of marriage. That understanding alone helps in solving most problems of inter-tribal marriage especially the ones that bother on cultural beliefs and practices. When it becomes very difficult to follow husband's culture then his express consent/decision for the wife to act takes precedence, in order to avoid stories that touch.

Going back to the origin of her crisis will help her in solving her problem. The husband is a 'FAMILY GUY' with multiple roles to his major loved ones likewise his sisters. He wants a cohesive extended family because he's now a husband, a father to his kids and his sisters and an in-law to his wife's people without bias which is what the OP doesn't want (from her hidden message).
Ask the OP this: has the husband ever asked his sister(s) to apologize to her before (let her think very well before attempting to answer)?

@OP, "The peace you long for and must enjoy is the peace you give to others". It's not your fault but you must identify and deal with your excesses, then join forces with your husband to curb the excesses of his sisters. As it is right now, you can't join forces with hubby cos he's not open to you. You crave for peace, try and work it out.

Shalom!

ZIMDRILL:


guide her to which right track? based on what she said it is the sister-in-law manipulating the husband

remember the dislike of the mum started the moment she stepped in to help her daughter so from there she was disliked so whatever she said to her daughter as guidance would be said she is interfering with marriage

If by reading about how she took the baby to her mother which they kicked against quoting cultural variation as the beginning of the problem was missed by you, then your advice won't help her here.

During my Traditional Marriage, my wife was explicitly told by her people that she belongs to my family and our culture is now her culture (of course it's an inter-tribal marriage). That advice has been helping her a great deal since we got married especially when it's an issue that has to do with culture.

From the OP narrative, the decision to take the baby to stay with her mother (i.e. her family) was strictly hers. This means she pulled the trigger, drew the 1st blood that started all the shit. By doing that alone showed that she was coming to battle the family and assert herself over the husband and his family.

Secondly, the OP is over 10yrs in marriage and according to her, the problem started after the birth of her 1st baby. By my calculation, probably the 1st year of her marriage. Ask yourself this, how did she resolve that little incident with the husband and his family? For the husband to always direct the OP to settle things with the sisters shows that he isn't ready to take side; which by my judgement is a good thing because they're all ONE BIG FAMILY

The OP didn't complain that the sisters hated her before she got married (another vital point to note). Something got broken along the line and it's a good thing that she already knows the origin of her crisis.

I want to believe that the husband is trying his best to bring unity to the family. The evidence is all written in his decision to wait for the sisters' family before taking his family and them out; going out together is a way of promoting unity, and secondly, his insistence on the wife working things out with his sisters. Do you think that there are no excesses from the wife's own family that the husband is overlooking for peace to reign? The pointer to that question is that the OP didn't complain for once if there's any friction between the husband and her own family. The wife should draw her strength from there and use him as a model for herself.

The OP knows the whole truth about her situation. Let her work on herself first, then she can join forces with the husband to fix the family.

The sequence to solving the problem should be:
1. OP dealing with her excesses
2. OP joining forces with the husband
3. Both fixing the sisters excesses

ZIMDRILL:


which post did you read?

you are replying to your own version of the story

1 her own mum came to look after the child and that move the sisters took it as "her own mum has influence in her daughter's marriage"

2 so since that incident they have never liked her mum

3 Love for your sister/s and wife are totally different things, they cant be grouped into the same basket

So you didn't read where she took the baby to stay with her Mom after taking in?

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You took your child to your mother? Why?
I thought you were married then so how will your own mother dictate what happens in your home.
In my place, it is a disrespect to the husband's family.
Your problem started from there.

They don't like your mom, Why? Because she make decisions in your home? If your mom is running your home then it's never good.

It is very difficult for all your husband family to hate you, there should be 1 person that loves you.

Your husband know you very well, he loves you,He love his sisters too.

Your husband loves your mom and your family, I am sure of that bc you did not say otherwise.
So pls don't make him hate his own sisters.

I remembered many years ago when my sister brought her child home bc of some issues in her marriage, my parents told her to take the child to the husband's family.

She did and they told her to stay with them for few days, within that few days the husband people made peace between her and the husband.

Most times the problem starts little by little.

Make peace with his sisters, let your husband see it by himself.
Then he will know you have done your part.

There is no problem in your marriage.
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The most sensible response on this case

It's well

Vol 1.0

alpontif:
Please the moderator of this thread should take it down or remove the word "Engineer".

There are legal and image implications to this against the perception of the general body of Engineers in Nigeria by the world, things like this dont help our image, also You don't call yourself an Engineer publicly in Nigeria unless you are COREN registered.

Do not persist in calling quacks Engineers, it is illegal and very bad.

It is like calling a Traditional healer a Medical Doctor, a lot of people would have been misled before realising the NMA is not the body that certified such "Doctor"

You can change his descriptor to Designer or even Inventor, but not a Nigerian Engineer, its embarrassing.

He's a certified Engineer. He studied Engineering abroad, was offered a job there but he declined the offer and returned to Nigeria to chase his dream.

A bit of background check on him would have saved you from this embarrassing comment �

Daviddson:
Very good! Nigerians envy the likes of US, UK, Germany, etc, but they're not ready to do half of what those countries citizens did or are doing that make their country so prosperous - a big irony! What's ₦50 that educated youths have been complaining about for months now? Do you think if French people don't pay taxes, VAT, etc, they'll be where they are today? In most developed countries, almost everything you buy or sell is taxed, so why the fuss here over a mere N50?

Clap for yourself, Weldon.

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Wordson:
Now for u spewing trash,"Liverpool can never win d league"... Note, 2 seasons ago, we got close to it, last season we missed it by one point, ok! Isn't dat a progression? Now we are still 6 points clear,.... If u think Liverpool will never win dis league, are u ready to put ur money where ur mouth is? because I am ready to counter cover dis with huge stake!! But if u aren't ready, den shut d hell up!!!

How much do you want to stake?