Give your brother the money. It's for times like these and people in need that God required tithes in the old testament. And it is because of the abuse and failure of this system that tithes were abolished in the new testament in favour of freewill giving (although u'll never hear that from pastors). And just in case u need biblical justification, it is written "If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever." 1 Timothy 5:8.

..cos they comfort u and give u soo many feel-good idealistic and sensitive responses and solutions to ur problems that @ a point u begin to feel they understand u soo much, and that both of u r made 4 each other or soul mates or sumfing...until u switch (for those dat do). Then u'll probably realize dat ur ex was an angel but it'll be 2 late.

It's all fake. A pretext to plant an Africom base in Nigeria in the name of AlQaeda.

...the Christian Industrial Complex continues to expand at the expense of true Christianity...SMH

ladies, would you allow your man take another woman/girl to an event?

get a catholic bible and read the book of Tobit. It should answer your question

Feel sorry 4 d poor dude who's sumwhre thinking he's married a virtuous wife. If only he knew how much his wife regrets marrying him... wonder y someone wld go into a marriage she'll regret for the rest of her life. Stories like these make me wonder if it's necessary to even get married at all.

the congregation contributes the munnyz to build the buildings, the schools, d printing companies etc, and d pastors colonize it. The congregation pays for the materials and then when its finished they tell you that you have to pay for the cost of "materials" and "printing", meaning that you are basically paying for the cost of your contribution. Open your eyes my friends.

Mandatory HIV screening for all South Africans including MTN and DSTV staff! That should take care of 50% of SA Migrants.

Reminds me of the question "can you kill someone?"So many people will say "no" or "never" or a lot of politically correct answers, until d 5hit hits d fan.

If u catch d chic, end d chivalry straight up, save 4 any special occasionz or sumfin. Too much of anythin is bad. 9ja girls are one of the most pampered in the world. It's hard 2 believe but it's true. Anyone who has lived outside 9ja will confirm this. Reminds me of back in d days wen ma sis will call n beg me 2 come back home early to turn on d generator wen all she had to do was turn a key, and she could drive. U don't do nearly as much 4 white women. Ironically, 9ja girls r the ones who complain the most. Dat's y it's hard 4 dem to get guyz outside 9ja n wat do dey do wen dat happens? Turn around n blame it on d 9ja brodas tellin us its our fault cos we're always talking shit abt dem. I just luv ma 9ja sistahs.

Guardian:

Too much off the point talk.

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Of the options you have, ABUJA happens to be the best, fair enough, good infrastructure, hygiene is fair enough. But accommodation and upkeep a bit pricey

Schooling isn't much of an issue There are International Schools in Nigeria But you could do well to post some kids offshore to Ghana. Very Safe. Spices up your activities and who knows explore oppurtunities across West Africa.

Entertainment is a big issue for your kids. The kind of entertainment they would desire really doesn't exist out there,  that could dampen their expectation in terms of social life. You can't call going to the moves daily such a pleasure.   neither is going to City Malls such a delight

With respect to Business,  ABUJA is best,  lot's of oppurtunities,  the market out there isn't as crowded as in the East and certainly not as competitive as in Lagos. What's more you have the country's richest and reasonably chic clientele base in ABUJA.

However you must be ready to face the following displeasures. Your desired UK food items are scarce (Substitute available), Electricity is not as cheap and available as in the UK. Transportation is heavily dependent on your owning a car, preferably a 4WD all the time. Luckily fuel  and Labour is fairly affordable and you get to  be chauffeur driven


LAGOS which happens to be quite cosmopolitan would have been a nice choice,  but it's rather quite a hectic place. Crazy traffic, too much competition for your business.
One thing for sure, you have a very large and diverse community of foreigners in Lagos than any other part of the country. This of course if you are so keen on mingling with Europeans more often

Correction - Electricity is way cheaper in Nigeria.

If your hubby is financially comfortable, Abuja or Calabar is your best bet. Don't even think of Aba or Ebonyi cos even your hubby cant guaranty your security there. Just returned from the UK after 3yrs and I totally agree with you. There's no way you can raise responsible kids there. No disrespect but that society is sick. Wouldn't wish 4 my enemies' children to be raised there, although most ignorant Nigerians don't know that. As for discrimination, that shouldn't be an issue in Nigeria. Discrimination in Nigeria is mainly ethnic and religious and is usually not extended to foreigners. The educational system (Up to High school level) is way better than in the UK if you can afford to pay for a good private school. The GCSE exam is a joke compared to its 'O" level equivalent in Nigeria. As 4 Nigerian universities, don't even think of it. If you're still not sure about moving to Nigeria, you can consider moving to Ghana instead.

@OP; don't be fooled by this ''neva hit a woman"psychological blackmail dat women use to subject men to all kinds of physical and psychological abuse these days. If she got away wit breakin ur fone, ur laptop wld have been next, n den ur head and she'll be quick to call u a "woman beater" or "batterer" if u lay a finger on her even wen defendin urself. A real lady will always be a lady and will never give u a reason to hit her. The only treatment these demon-possessed, ill-bred vampires who masquerade themselves as "ladies" deserve is an exorcism and your approach is a good start. It's only fair that a wild animal gets a wild animal's courtesy. i personally suffered a lot of abuse from an ex (including lots of scars) trying to be a gentleman. Dat gentleman crap doesn't work wit wild beasts. My advice; dump her and get urself a real lady or soon she'll turn u into a murderer. Women like that don't change. U have been warned.

you should consider marrying another wife because you don't have a wife. The one u have now is not a wife.

@ OP; Fyi, abortions triple the risk of developing bosom cancer later in life.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1288955/Abortion-triple-risk-bosom-cancer.html
Won't judge u because i knw just how hard it is 2 live with the 'curse of being a single mum in 9ja', but It's up to u to decide which is better; the baby or the lumps. Best of luck dearie. I hope u make the right decision.

all you can do is to hope and pray she's not screwing anyone else.

And where did those stats come from? i wonder,

Whenever this topic comes up, you can always trust sistahs to give you a thousand new definitions of the word "submission". Soon, 9ja women will be totally liberated and everyone can do wateva dey like; the family structure will be completely destroyed and life in 9ja will be just like it is in UK where everyone basically eats, drinks, smokes and shags anyone dey like - no rings or strings attached. I hope my 9ja sistahs will be happy when we get there, but i seriously doubt it.

D bible didn't add all these clauses my 9ja sistas r cooking up o!!! It's "wives submit, , den men love, " No "if, , else" clauses o!

Also get a maid for housework so you can have time for the baby solely.

I hope this maid you're advising her to get will be above 18 and will be paid, or that will be encouraging child enslavement. And if she's over 18, i hope she won't end up stealing her husband cos i've heard stories,

4 those 9ja women that think these feminist laws r cool and and should be introduced in 9ja to "protect" 9ja women, u better shine your eyes like this . Myt seem like a good way to get back @ some guys and/or make good munnyz but in d end it's d children who suffer d most cos no one really thinks abt wat's best 4 dem. The founders and sponsors of this seemingly noble cause called "feminism" were not so interested in your welfare. It's an ingeniously orchestrated plot to destroy the family structure and to have early access to  children for indoctrination.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NN05DHO9bJw

Got a glimpse of d endgame in UK, and it's not pretty. Most "liberated" British women above 30 are lonely and depressed single mums dat feel like their lives have ended @ 30. And most of these illegit children always grow up angry and bitter and end up becoming a nuisance to society. It neva ends well.

You should have simply corrected her instead of expressing your disgust, if such things are very important to you. From the way u sound i'm sure u got some sick sense of satisfaction embarrasing your date  didn't you? SMH, another one of the many idiotic Nigerians who live to create impressions. Why don't you bleach your skin so you can be completely white? Still can't understand why so many West Africans suffer from self hate and identity crisis. Disgusting scum!

Just curious, when your children grow up which church will they attend? All these denominational divisions are not good for the family. You should have sorted this out before you got married. Speaking in tongues is very much part of what being a pentecostal Christian is and since you married one,  I'll advise u to get used to it. If you can, switch to Winners, so your children don't end up getting stuck in the middle.

From the above arguments, it is safe to conclude that @OmoTier1 is either a pastor (and a direct beneficiary of tithing) or is an ignoramus with a sub-70 IQ that is incapable of any level of critical thinking. Despite the fact that there's ample evidence to to support the fact that ''tithing'' is being used by most pastors today to manipulate and fleece the flock for their own personal aggrandizement, this Nigerian keeps arguing blindly and pouring out strategic threats to intimidate people. Know this; if you refuse to stand up against evil, it'll only be a matter of time before it consumes you. If you keep silent when pastors manipulate people with scripture, loot church funds and defile our daughters and sisters, and shield themselves with the "touch not my anointed" bible verse, it'll not be long before that evil comes around. Who knows, maybe when your daughter or someone dear to you becomes a victim of this travesty; this mockery of true Christianity that you so desperately defend, you might have a change of heart.

Switch!!! Simplez! It's a no-brainer

but women say it all the time,

Woe to the man dat has a violent and cantankerous woman who knows he's a gentleman and will never argue wit her or hit her. Endless Slaps, punches, scratches, lockouts, curfews, conditioning, tongue lashing and embarrassment will be ur portion.

Woe to the man who has this kind of woman and loses his job or doesn't make good money. You will 4eva be taunted, ridiculed and psychologically and emotionally tormented.

Even greater woe to the man who pretends he's a strong man and can handle all the abuse because when ur heart can't take no more, you'll cross the bridge to the land of the dead. Run 4 ur life while u can cos u just can't win. Can u catch breeze? or can u grip oil?

Eva notice that some women keep testing ur resolve, sometyms even tellin u they just want to see wat u're like when you are angry? Fair game. But if she keeps pushing dose limits beyond a certain point, u better run 4 your life cos u'll either kill someone or die urself! Abuse never gets better whether for a man or a woman.  

Even the bible advises you to run.
Proverbs 21:9 It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.
Proverbs 21:19 It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered woman.
Proverbs 25:24 It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.
Proverbs 27:15-16 A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike; to restrain her is to restrain the wind or to grasp oil in one's right hand.
If after seeing all these warnings u decide to stay and act macho, den i guess u deserve wat u get. Who no wan wise na him know,

Personally, i hope and pray I find a good woman when the time comes because I no get power,