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Leyqute:
Ah. You never know Jaybee niyen o

Who Jaybee be oooo

UjSizzle:
Sometimes we want the things we do not need. We don't see the things that are right in front of us. Sometimes our minds are clouded by our desires. But a Christian believes that God knows best-- He always has. And that's why we pray.
Choosing a life partner isn't the same as picking suitable flowers for a date. A lifetime commitment, this marriage thing. We can't afford to get it wrong. So we'll turn to the one who never gets it wrong.

That's my belief. I don't expect it to make any sense to you if it doesn't.

I can relate to your belief from the stand point of faith but it doesn't explain the fact that even pastors or the best prayer warriors get it wrong.

You can't make plans along the line of faith if you have to compromise on wants from the onset.

No guarantees in life hence the reason for mitigating against risks

Anyhoo... i'm hungry...come and feed me jor

UjSizzle:
You're mistaken booboo. She thinks she knows what she wants. Maybe she does. But wisdom teaches her to apply what knowledge she has acquired. Wisdom helps her distinguish between good and bad advice; good and bad choices.
Wisdom gives her common sense.

I can't think of anything else she needs right now.

But we all have common sense don't you think so?

We all have the ability to process information and in turn differentiate between good and bad.

We all understand our wants and needs

We tend to ignore these basic principles due to varying factors that we sometimes have no control over

I always say if you love yourself then you will simply know what's good for you.

BTW: The prerequisite of wisdom is knowledge and she definitely does have that else she wouldn't have been able to seek for feedback in order to gauge responses which would in turn enable her make the best decision going forward.
Having knowledge should normally allow her the privilege ability to process information of what's good for her so what sort of wisdom does she need again to apply this basic principle?

UjSizzle:
I don't think some men care very much about that. After all, we are supposed to be interested in their money.

I suppose that's why they keep getting burnt

Is she stubborn or strong opinionated?

Is she stubborn or you aren't flexible?

If she is stubborn about things that affect the family then it's your duty to ensure you guide and make her see reasons to the contrary

Effective communication is key in marriages. You need to be able to communicate without appearing condescending

Actively listen to her then intelligently point out things she may have overlooked.

It's your marriage so make it work

Ephemmm:
"But what makes me have a rethink is the character of this my friendzoned brother, he keeps in touch despite my rejecting him, he even offer little financial assistance when I'm in need".


@ bolded, if she doesn't need his financial assistance, why making it known that she is in need or are they co-habiting? Please make sure you read between the line come next time.

It's not hard for a kind man to assess situation and take initiative.

I do that with my friends so nothing new

She could have misconstrued his gesture for kindness and nothing more than that. It's really not a biggy since we aren't privy to the kind of help being rendered

UjSizzle:
Wisdom profits to direct.

She should ask for wisdom. The best part? It is free.

My dear get down on your knees and pray. And then do whatever God tells you. Simple.

Would God tell her to leave him or compromise on her desires?

Does she really need to pray to see these things?

No wonder a lot of people feel they can only get answers in church when they simply ignore logic/basic common sense in approaching issues

UjSizzle:
You should pray for wisdom. It doesn't get any better than that.

What next if and when you receive the wisdom?

How do you apply it?

Don't you know applying wisdom is the real difficult ish? Most people know the stack difference between right and wrong, using head and allowing emotion take over but yet they make the same mistakes time and time again. Why do you think that's the case?

love is complex but it ought not to be if you can be simply true to yourself

You know what you want then simply eradicate compromise from your dictionary so you don't feel sorry for yourself in the long run

Ephemmm:
But she is enjoying a little financial assistance rendered without having an emotional connection with him: what a parasitic exuberance!

Was he forced?

Not like he is a baby or whatnot

Obviously, the worst way to woo a woman is by enticing them with money. They will simply fall in love with the money and leave when it stops flowing.

They are friends and he seems to be helping her out albeit because he has some sort of feelings for her

5minsmadness:
Sadly, the bolded is a lie.
She will most probably end up chasing all the men away.

I disagree Sir. Most guys that I know would not even consider any girl perceived as a liability from afar. I live in a country where there is pride in being empowered as a woman. We understand the fact that facial beauty is only temporary and would most certainly not keep the home together in the long run.

As a woman, you need to make yourself attractive by having a lot of things going for you as well as having impeccable personality traits to match.

Remember we (Men) usually have more than one to choose from when in the dating game so why then would any sane man go for the second best?

olaolaking:
Thanks. But we should be able to get a means of involving you. I am sure you will agree with me that E mail will delay. Phone calls will be better because it is very direct. If will want to base this on Email. I bet it cant be that effective. Because the checking and reply of emails is not always instant.

Thanks

We monitor emails 24/7 Sir. Any delays incurred is probably due to the need to deliberate as a group before giving you an official reply.

We also have to keep records of all communication for audit purposes.

Just involve us with your scheduling and we will try our possible best to remove the delays where possible

Regards

irishCream:
Thanks a bunch, quite insightful!!!

You're welcome

PS: Please don't let the society pressure you. 29 is not too old except early marriage was one of your goals growing up. Make yourself attractive by being extremely successful in all your endeavors and see good quality men troop around you. Know and appreciate your worth so you get valued like a princess you ought to be.

Life is for the living so let the world be your oyster

irishCream:
Yeah I'm working but the pay is token.

Don't term it desperation, have been fine all along it just his good nature and persistence that made me have a rethink, I don't belong to the class that rush into lifetime issues just cos every one else is in it.

I only asked you about your employment situation so as to ascertain if your requirement for a money bag has something to do with your view of marriage has a gateway to financial security.

If he is good to you and his persistence which could be easily analysed as him having genuine love for you is not enough for you to see beyond the norm then you might not find a good man going forward.

Below are the key criteria you ought to consider when choosing a partner:

Potential: His he educated and good work ethic
Values: Is he morally upright?
Faith: Does your faith align
Listening skills: Does he allow you contribute or he is a pushover
Accommodating: Does he accommodate your flaws

All the above will help you sustain your home not money

Surely you will frustrate yourself out of the marriage If you marry the wrong one out of desperation

You will almost certainly leave your man if your sole reason for marrying them borders along their financial strength. You need to love someone for whom they are not what they have

BTW: Are you working?

Busybody2:
As long as you had the audacity to proclaim my children to the www/nairalanders as hungry bastards of a scamming mother, then I will keep demanding for an IP check from Seun to clarify I have no connection with said thread!!!

Making unguarded claims yet again... Do you think i'm as jobless as you?

Post evidence where I've made such claim ijiot

You are jobless and henceforth ignored!

Busybody2:
Remember this amount was paid in day 2 DJ's donation started. Remember this amount was not included in DJ's donation list (screenshot)!!!

Meaning amount was for full registration figure given to me by R321!

Coogar has advised me to leave y'all to God which I heeded, so I don't know why you ( Jaybee) are dragging up my name 7 months later in a case unconnected to me, THREATENING ME THAT YOU KNOW WHERE I LIVE!!!


cc Coogar
Seun I would advise you take jaybee's sinister threat towards me seriously and conduct an open IP check asap to check if I am lawter00 as claimed!

Are you getting all scared now?
Do you have anything to hide?

This is my last warning to you, don't you ever accuse me of misappropriating funds ever again in your life.

Don't ever mention my moniker again.

I have warned you!

Busybody2:
jaybee3 i have screenshot all your denials and r321's denial that I didn't give Tehn one kobo.

Ask Jarus the easily traceable N150,000k that was paid into his account by me, this account was given to me by r321 for Tehn registration! Jarus' account number was/is being used by Tehn remember!



Cc Coogar, justcurious, Seun

Provide evidence of your payment, we will ask Jarus to corroborate your claim and if we can substantiate your claim then I will reimburse you from my own pocket

However, if your claim is in relation to a donation made to DJ's appeal then you will have to formally request for the money back so we can reimburse you from the balance

Obinoscopy:
You've just listed the reasons why I want to major in Medical Statistics.....lol. We need to improve on our data collection system and how to analyse such data to arrive at very useful information that could improve our health care system. This is where I hope to do my part.

My family motivates me. They believe in me and have always supported me. I hope to make them proud.

I'm not a womaniser in real life. But I love women and they seem to be comfortable around me cos of my innocuous nature. I'm a one-lady kinda guy when in a relationship. But I'm single at the moment (and it will remain that way till I'm ready for a relationship in 2-3 years time or thereabout)

I actually work in medical statistics (Analytics) and I certainly don't feel you need to do Phd to make your mark in the field. I quantitatively analyse medical data using programming to query health data to in turn spot trends and anomalies which we then use to drive improvement in quality of care.

Airforce1:
Im sorry

I don't know much about biafra and the motives behind it

I'm a Nigerian
And i love my country

My second question?

CFCfan:
Sir, according to section 25 of the constitution a Nigerian kid born outside Nigeria by, at least, one Nigeria parent is a Nigerian citizen by birth.
So Sen Saraki is a Nigerian citizen by birth.

A Nigerian citizen AT birth is different from a Nigerian citizen by birth

CFCfan:
Saraki is still a Nigerian citizen by birth. The fact that he is a naturalized British citizen does not negate his Nigerian citizenship by birth, according to section 66 of the 1999 constitution.
Therefore, he is qualified to hold public office in Nigeria

How can he be a Nigerian citizen by birth if he was born in London?

tearoses:
You better dont call me on my birthday
Send me a FB message instead

Why should i employ a complex web when i can trigger the fastest comms route known to man?

@airforce1

What's your take on the biafra topic?

Goals are meant to be set, dreams are meant to be pursued. How would you mitigate against unrealistic goals/dreams?

Obinoscopy:
Ermmm, I don't think there's any. All the things I indulge in are things I still want to indulge in for now.

Technological advancement such as Internet, GSM, etc are the changes I've witnessed and they've made life beautiful. I've always loved information thus this info age is really a good thing for me.

My goal is to become a seasoned statistician. And that will be achieved if I can do a PhD in Medical Statistics. I'm currently doing a baseline program that will enable me enrol for a PhD program in two years time.

What exactly would you be using medical statistics for especially in a country with non existent/limited data collection and zilch exposure to using data to intelligently drive quality of care and ensuring safety ?


What motivates you?

Your online persona suggests you being a womaniser, how would you balance perception and reality?