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ECOTERRORS:
Nigerians have started to reject Gbaja and Lawan because of their lust for power.

Gbaja lost fair and square so he needs to stop acting stupid

How were you able to gauge the opinion of these Nigerians?

Don't tell me it's through their representatives at the NASS who have always gone about business for personal gains

Adufetohposh:
Lolz @ jara

Na dis kain topic we dey see you

mcheew

L alert!

I don show

What's on the menu?

Erukumakanaki:
This looks like an Occultic Gathering to me


and where's the shine the Op is talking about

How you take recognize am Mr Eruku?

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.”

Bernard M. Baruch

I'm a professional bodyguard

We dey here

Wetin dey happen?

This doesn't make any sense whatsoever.

How come the government also funded Subsidy/Sure-p from the ECA account?

Did they spend the entire 3.3 TN on subsidy and Sure-P?

How come NNPC also deducted funds for subsidy before during their reconciliation for the same period?

She is wrong for introducing unhealthy competition between herself and the daughter

The only perfect way to reassure her is by using the obvious lines of: “I love you both differently”

Make them use crane na

Una go fear question... How can you even conclude that it was a rival that cooked the soup without any shred of evidence?

Just because an action suggests a possibility doesn't mean it's definitive.

You can't afford to be suffering in silence so you need to have a heart to heart conversation with your hubby since he doesn't seem to care about your feelings.

I will also echo the advice that has been given on this thread about the importance of saving regardless of your fear of potential impact on the family.

You have to stand your ground on this one and if it involves having to move the kids to less expensive schools then please go ahead.

Don't push yourself into financial ruin just because you want to stay in your marriage.

Prettyvhickie:
what is ogede agbagba?

Unripe hard as fvck banana

Prettyvhickie:
all of them

What's in it for me as in what's the incentive?

Can i offer you ogede agbagba?

Prettyvhickie:
he should be fast with it

What one you go like translate?

Teespice:
I had plenty bananas today.


guess what?


in d'prince's voice: I "yoooed".

Trust you to like banana

Na the unripe one you been chop abi?

I heard it's really FILLING

Aminat508:

Paranta
Agbagba
Omimi
E.t.c
.

Ogede agbagba
Ogede dudu
Ogede pupa
Ogede pipon
Ogede to gun
Ogede to fe

Aminat508:
@Op which type of banana ooo

Ekun

Sugardiva:
I am open minded. As a matter of fact there are some I wish I could develop feelings for. They are young, intelligent bla bla bla. If I were simply after money I would have said yes a long time ago cos they are a bit financially stable. But like I said the emotions are not just developing. I put in a lot of effort to spend time with them to try and trigger it but yet nothing. If they don't call me, it takes me 5 days to a week to notice they haven't called. Some of them are just plain boring to put it lightly.

The thing is I've had a great connection with the exes. It usually starts with a deep friendship and then evolves into something more often so quickly that I don't
even know when it happens.

I've known what it feels like to really connect with someone in both my previous relationships. Be the best of friends and companions and have feelings. I am over my exes and am not comparing or expecting anyone to be like them. The only thing that I am confused about is that can this connection and companionship grow with these 'suitors'. Is it right to say yes to someone who does not hold ur attention? And keep waiting to experience connectiin?

Could it be that having quite a few options is actually working negatively in the sense that you can’t seem to narrow your mind and concentration to one or two?

You mentioned some of them being boring, it’s also your responsibility to ensure you stimulate the friendship/relationship as at when it fully develops. Relationship is a two way thing hence the need to be open minded about the end result. It’s not like you are going to invest that much energy when all you had be giving is your free time.

I think you should get to know them more as I’m pretty sure there would be other things about them you had discover if and when you give them the opportunity

I know you have stressed that you aren’t comparing them but we are all human and it’s not unrealistic to expect us to sub cautiously default into comparative analysis. There is a reason why they are exes so let’s try and forget the past and embrace the future

Ifebazz:
I can almost bet, if you are 25 or above, that your mother didn't even know your father before she got married. Most of our African parents didn't court before they got married, but tell which 'Kadashian marriage' have lasted about half as much as theirs?
The key is humility and trust and obedience and steadfastness. Infatuation is generally mistaken for love. Or bouts of great sex for love. The main recipes for long lasting marriage is the real African way. Forget about all those soap opera love you see on TV, it ends there equally. Forget also about female equality and all that bullshit, it only bring you closer to broken home and teary eyes. Respect whoever is the man that God brings your way. You don't have to love him just yet (like we know how to love sef), just play your role by being the person he would love and see the good in him only. You'd be surprised you'll fall in love faster than you can imagine.

I'm sure they courted but that's irrelevant. Different times different approach to courtship and getting hitched. No perfect or foolproof way in achieving desired results. You need to understand your circumstances and mold it as you desire in order to achieve set results.

I do know we now live in a diverse world hence the need to embark on the journey with limited external interference. Yes you can use guides but the bottom line is desire and reality should always work in tandem

rahymat:
what some people are praying for is to find the right man.let me tell u d fact most handsome guys are proud and arrogant.continue to be picky nd wait till u reach menopause.mtshew

How is that a fact ma'am?

What you see as arrogance/proud could also be seen as impeccable confidence which isn't necessarily a turn off.

I don't believe anyone should lower their standards because they are afraid of menopause or whatever.

Yes you can compromise on standards but it's up to you to decide differentiate between minimum and luxury standards.

Leyqute:
Jaybee3 = Jaybee

of Rokiatu, Onila n co

He's currently being probed because of many NL babes

You got the wrong Jaybee then

Sugardiva:
I don't think that this is what the OP meant. I think she means should she agree to date a guy she has known for more than 2 years who is caring and shows her love but she doesn't feel anything for?

I understand her because sometimes i wonder the same thing. I have a number of 'suitors' who check all the right boxes according to ur list. Have potential, aligned faith, same values etc but no matter how much time I try to spend with them I don't get any feeling. No emotions at all beyond maybe friendship. And I'm not in a serious relationship.

The question is do u go ahead and date someone u have absolutely no feelings for just because he checks all the right boxes and treats u right? Will it work out?

I don't think you can allow emotions develop if you are close minded about something. Emotion gets triggered if only you let it

These suitors of yours, do you usually feel a need to hear from them or be around them at times?

Is it that you aren't attracted to them physically or you are just scared of being hurt hence the reason why you can't seem to allow them into your world.

You know you can go on dates with open mind without actually being physically involved with these dudes

Just be open minded about things and allow yourself see them in a different light

Leyqute:
Ah. You never know Jaybee niyen o

Who Jaybee be oooo

UjSizzle:
Sometimes we want the things we do not need. We don't see the things that are right in front of us. Sometimes our minds are clouded by our desires. But a Christian believes that God knows best-- He always has. And that's why we pray.
Choosing a life partner isn't the same as picking suitable flowers for a date. A lifetime commitment, this marriage thing. We can't afford to get it wrong. So we'll turn to the one who never gets it wrong.

That's my belief. I don't expect it to make any sense to you if it doesn't.

I can relate to your belief from the stand point of faith but it doesn't explain the fact that even pastors or the best prayer warriors get it wrong.

You can't make plans along the line of faith if you have to compromise on wants from the onset.

No guarantees in life hence the reason for mitigating against risks

Anyhoo... i'm hungry...come and feed me jor

UjSizzle:
You're mistaken booboo. She thinks she knows what she wants. Maybe she does. But wisdom teaches her to apply what knowledge she has acquired. Wisdom helps her distinguish between good and bad advice; good and bad choices.
Wisdom gives her common sense.

I can't think of anything else she needs right now.

But we all have common sense don't you think so?

We all have the ability to process information and in turn differentiate between good and bad.

We all understand our wants and needs

We tend to ignore these basic principles due to varying factors that we sometimes have no control over

I always say if you love yourself then you will simply know what's good for you.

BTW: The prerequisite of wisdom is knowledge and she definitely does have that else she wouldn't have been able to seek for feedback in order to gauge responses which would in turn enable her make the best decision going forward.
Having knowledge should normally allow her the privilege ability to process information of what's good for her so what sort of wisdom does she need again to apply this basic principle?

UjSizzle:
I don't think some men care very much about that. After all, we are supposed to be interested in their money.

I suppose that's why they keep getting burnt

Is she stubborn or strong opinionated?

Is she stubborn or you aren't flexible?

If she is stubborn about things that affect the family then it's your duty to ensure you guide and make her see reasons to the contrary

Effective communication is key in marriages. You need to be able to communicate without appearing condescending

Actively listen to her then intelligently point out things she may have overlooked.

It's your marriage so make it work

Ephemmm:
"But what makes me have a rethink is the character of this my friendzoned brother, he keeps in touch despite my rejecting him, he even offer little financial assistance when I'm in need".


@ bolded, if she doesn't need his financial assistance, why making it known that she is in need or are they co-habiting? Please make sure you read between the line come next time.

It's not hard for a kind man to assess situation and take initiative.

I do that with my friends so nothing new

She could have misconstrued his gesture for kindness and nothing more than that. It's really not a biggy since we aren't privy to the kind of help being rendered

UjSizzle:
Wisdom profits to direct.

She should ask for wisdom. The best part? It is free.

My dear get down on your knees and pray. And then do whatever God tells you. Simple.

Would God tell her to leave him or compromise on her desires?

Does she really need to pray to see these things?

No wonder a lot of people feel they can only get answers in church when they simply ignore logic/basic common sense in approaching issues

UjSizzle:
You should pray for wisdom. It doesn't get any better than that.

What next if and when you receive the wisdom?

How do you apply it?

Don't you know applying wisdom is the real difficult ish? Most people know the stack difference between right and wrong, using head and allowing emotion take over but yet they make the same mistakes time and time again. Why do you think that's the case?

love is complex but it ought not to be if you can be simply true to yourself

You know what you want then simply eradicate compromise from your dictionary so you don't feel sorry for yourself in the long run

Ephemmm:
But she is enjoying a little financial assistance rendered without having an emotional connection with him: what a parasitic exuberance!

Was he forced?

Not like he is a baby or whatnot

Obviously, the worst way to woo a woman is by enticing them with money. They will simply fall in love with the money and leave when it stops flowing.

They are friends and he seems to be helping her out albeit because he has some sort of feelings for her