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cococandy:
Not at all. While looking at her pretty face, it will be hard to dislike her for no reason.

But liking her doesn't mean I buy into the 'I'm not the First Lady' bull.

Pls...

I regard false modesty as worse than actual pride.
At least a proud person is sincere enough to show it. False modesty scream "hey look at me. I'm humble" revel in my 'humility'.

#Rolls eye. ( Seun this emoji is over due o)

I don't know who's giving her that idea.
She better get her act straight.

You do understand their stance regarding the idea of first lady is actually restricted to the "Legal/formal office" not necessarily the title itself.

She is our first lady but her having an office mean the office has to be budgeted for and there really isn't a provision whatsoever in our constitution for that

Moana:
no jaybee is the best target

It's your fault moana..

Why always you?

Moana:
I'm talking about your wife sleeping with another man like the driver because she spends more time with him more than you.

Why don't we just blame Moana!?

cococandy:
I actually like Aisha. At least more than patience Jonathan.
You should stop being a silly dolt.

Tskk.
Can't someone express opinion again without it being hate?
Dumbo.

Is it safe to conclude that your dislike for her husband subconsciously enable it extend to Aisha?

Please add pipeline engineering, subsea engineering, reservoir engineering MSc instead of the MBA before thinking of relocating.

Make yourself attractive

BEng in Chemical engineering alone won't necessarily give you the edge

It's always about money not the interest of the citizens

Not doing it for me

Oya come make i host you for your birthday party at my yard

So what happens when you turn 40/50/60?

Do you think you will be fulfilled or empty?

Powder - Don't know why they have to paint their face every goddam morning!

manikal:
1) When is the right time to end it considering the fact that one person is going to get hurt. Obviously

The likelihood of anyone getting hurt IF expectations were mutually agreed from onset is pretty slim. You don't go into such arrangement with the expectation to fall in love in the process. It's strictly what it says on the Tin FWB

manikal:
2) If the lady in question is in a relationship but wants you to stay single, when is the right time to draw the line on this OR to continue playing along till the inevitable happens.

Its a really weird debacle and i just thought to put it out there. I would especially love to hear from a ladies POV.

She can't be making demands when the arrangement should normally satisfy both parties. It seems the expectation weren't clear from the start and it's obvious it simply won't work.

Creamish:
Lol...yeah.. I still don't accept the guy has any justification to cheat sha. He can simply talk to his wife and express his disappointment. The onus is on her to accept his advice and change.

Yeah absolutely no justification for cheating because the wife is a career woman.
If he wanted a traditional woman then he should simply earn more and pay the woman the equivalent salary.

Only men with zero substance will feel threatened by the success of their partners. No man should kill the career/ambition of their spouse just so they can massage their ego. It's wrong and unrealistic when our society doesn't necessarily provide post-divorce support for the wife.

Marriage is all about partnership and both parties are meant to contribute towards the success of the marriage.

Creamish:
oh..rily? I did read it. Thought there was actually a meaningful scenario somewhere btw the pages that I missed..



I'l prolly be too fatigued from work to vote for you...good thing is, U prolly wont care. Good for us both.

Not really jare... You know how we like to dey add salt for soup na

Creamish:
is this the scenario or there is another?

yes darl

Blastfinito:
Just dt i find it hard deleting her frm my mind.

Choi .. you are actually serious about this...

Okay here is the deal, her suggestion alone shouldn't necessarily warrant an immediate break up except you are being pressured into a life of crime as a condition for her love.

Just go back to her and state categorically that under no circumstance would you engage in crime and if that's a condition for her love then she is free to leave.

Her reaction will determine your next point of action

TheOtherview:
jaybee3, you don't think 'ignorance' is temitemi1's real name?
I thought that was pretty much an open secret.

Should have known

my bad

lool

Blastfinito:
I mean should I dump her for wanting me to engage in scam?

Who pays for the crime if and when caught?

Why are you very dumb beyond comprehension?

Why are you a sorry case?

temitemi1:
For people like u thinking the US can provide funds outside her budgetary allocation, time to read up on the Iran Contra affair. Bottom line, it won't! Someone just opened my eyes to the fact too...

Did you even bother to read his prelude or you did but didn't understand?

Stop displaying your ignorance on a public forum doofus

Aren't you grown enough to know the difference between right and wrong?

Do you think it's a good thing to do?

Teeboy22:
are u okay

wetn concern u with my queen beauty


imagine this dude..sayng my queen is delicious


iffa catch u en.....

u go tnk say na YOKOZUNA bASH yOU

I no fit dey fight groupie with woman na

Teespice:
blame the man who has no atom of self control nor respect for his spouse.

You think say you sef no go tempt the most righteous with wetin you dey carry for front?

Creamish:
No matter wat, I see sleeping with the maid as total disrespect for d man as well as his wife. If there is an issue, trash it out. Nothing should lead the man to cheat with the maid because it thins out the respect the maid will have for either of the couple as well as the possible irreparable damage it would cause on the marriage.

Is the maid really worth the breakup of the home? really?

There is no relationship without issues.....thatz where maturity and luv comes in. Trash it out btw urselves. I dont see anything wrong with having a maid/manservant if the woman is not a full time housewife. The way men come back home tired from work is the same way women come back home exhausted and still try their bit to take care of the home. Women support their men any way they can and that also includes providing for the home. Its always better when there is a 2-way inflow of funds so there can always be a back-up when 1 channel closes abruptly. So i'm an advocate for a career woman. However, she must know to set limits on her ambition and not allow it cloud her responsibilities at home.

There should always be that understanding that can allow for patience, tolerance & sacrifice. The maid is no source of consolation for any wrong. It's an abomination.

You are absolutely right though you've introduced a significant dimension into the scenario being played out.

The husband didn't cheat on the wife as a direct result of any misunderstanding between them. He did so because he was simply attracted to the maid meaning he never had an excuse to cheat considering the fact that he then proceeded to marry the maid as far as the scenario is concerned.

Aminat508:
Chai jaybee3

you suppose dey advertise for close up...

i been dey see my face for your teeth sef

Na you oooooo

Joy1706:
You will take your car to the car wash, and your gate will be automatic ba? You're a hypocrite. Aren't all these things meant to make life easier for you but ur wife commits a great sin by getting a maid to assist her with the chores. If a woman doesn't suffer, you guys won't be happy. I cant deal with your hypocrisy. Abeg! It's easier for a man to poke the housemaid than the the gateman doing madam? Ok na. Tell that to those men who don't know their raising their gateman's spawn.

And who says there aren't men who neglect their wives' sexual needs? There are equally millions of hotter and richer guys out there to service madam

Shouldn't proximity of the enabler be a factor?

A maid would most certainly live inside the house and would most certainly come into close contact with the man more often than norm

Whereas the gate man in the same context is expected to see madam on very few occasions during the course of the day

Creamish:
smh..

I feel sorry for whoever uv chosen as ur slave wife.

What's your take on this booboo?

Aminat508:
. Hmmm jaybee3 u don start am ba?

See as you take fine like .....

you come look delicious

Aminat508:
I no do again joo, u re my EX lemme say it again EX, read my lips EX!!!!!!!

See as you take write EX in capital letters sef... Are you on a heart breaking parole by any chance?

Adufetohposh:

person ask you question you come begin do shakara
wetin sef?

why una too like to dey show colour sef?

Adufetohposh:
Are you saying a man that sleeps with his wife's maid is doing it to prove to himself that he's still ahead of the game and cannot be caught Makes no sense to me really.

Where is the respect he's meant to give to his wife? Most women dnt bother if they dnt know their husband's mistresses, but it's suicidal to know that ur husband is sleeping with ur maid right under ur nose, the woman will look like a phool!

Like I said earlier "some men" will not phuck their wife's maid... They are just too proud to engage in such

You are already getting your knickers twisted gyallll.
What i said in essence was, most men that will cheat with their maid would do so because they believe it will be done under secrecy thus they never getting caught.
I don't believe any man would openly sleep with the maid and flaunt it in front of the wife. It simply doesn't work like that

Adufetohposh:
And some men will not fall for that Beyonce or Kim K's Body, not because they don't find her attractive, but because they are disciplined and will rather go out instead of sleeping with someone under their wife's nostrils.


So what if the maid falls in love with the man and decides to poison madam and her children so she can take over the home completely....

I will blame the man. if he needs to cheat on his wife, it shouldn't be with her maid.

You obviously would never understand why people cheat.

Here is a clue, most people cheat because there is the feeling that they can get away with it prudue to the false sense of assurance that they would never be caught.

It also doesn't help that the society (especially African) sort of accepts it to be the norm thus having no sort of repercussion that would otherwise have served as some sort of deterrent to would be cheaters.

So you know, some of the most powerful men in history have fallen for their maids. Case in point, the gorvenator Arnold

cococandy:
while that may be true, it still doesn't make sense to blame the one person for the other's betrayal.

At least some accepting responsibility for one's mistakes would be nice.

Accepting responsibility should be the bare minimum but you can't look at it from holistic view point in marriages. Success and failure in a marriage is a joint responsibility and should be treated as such.

If a marriage fails then both party involved must have failed.

If a child turns out bad then both parents failed