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Tashaamania:
Why are you soo fond of posting trash on NL?

Are you a moral police now?

Maybe it's better not to butt into things that doesn't concern you

Adufetohposh:
how u take know? Has she been taking urs?

Why you dey buga me with your bobby?

Aminat508:
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You too like banana.... Ogede agbagba to be precise

Omotayor123:
you didn't see 'Hope'.


'I mean I hope he won't'......

I'm high on janjaweèd

Omotayor123:
If you have The capability go ahead and sponsor her. If not let her see reasons.

Hope the dad won't stop your wedding because of that....

Shouldn't

woju:
plz my fellow nairalanders i need ur candid and unbiased advice on this issue that has been bothering me;
Am hoping to go for my fiances' introduction by the end of this year and all things being equal we hope to get married by 1st quarter of next year (2016). she's 22 and will be rounding up her NYSC by October. her father has always wanted her to do her M.Sc immediately after service which i totally agree with but the problem now is that the M.Sc form is out and her father is saying he doesn't have money to buy the form for her talk more of sponsoring the program. So plz i wanna know if its my responsibility to sponsor her Masters program. Note that i have always been ready support her in the program but its like her father is trying to push that responsibility to me which in all sincerity i don't think i can shoulder alone at this stage because i have our wedding to plan, am running a professional program and my Masters at the same time.
pls ur thoughts and opinions are needed.
No hate word or insults pls. MOD PLZ DO THE NEEDFUL

Why bother consider it if you can't afford it?

Just be honest about it and ask her to defer it

cococandy:
Let's agree to disagree.

For me it's clear cut. If I cheat on my man with any of our male house helps, I expect to be blamed totally for it.
And Vice versa.

Do you think it's easy to solve a problem without finding the reason for the problem?

Yes you can absorb the blame but that doesn't mean the dude shouldn't find where he failed as a man

cococandy:
I'm not talking divorce here.

I'm just asking plain and simple of it is ok to blame the man when his wife cheats on him because he's not meeting up to his roles as a husband.

If they can say it's the wife's fault that the man cheated with the maid and can't say the same when the wife does it with some guy helping the husband with his duties, then it is plain hypocrisy and of course just as excuse to justify bad behavior.

As always.

Anyone that fails with their primary responsibility deserves some sort of blame. It's as simple as that

cococandy:
Would any guy care to answer this please?

Buncha hypocrites some of you are.

What's their to answer again when it's evident that financial pressure is one of the single most important reason for divorce

cococandy:
Not at all. While looking at her pretty face, it will be hard to dislike her for no reason.

But liking her doesn't mean I buy into the 'I'm not the First Lady' bull.

Pls...

I regard false modesty as worse than actual pride.
At least a proud person is sincere enough to show it. False modesty scream "hey look at me. I'm humble" revel in my 'humility'.

#Rolls eye. ( Seun this emoji is over due o)

I don't know who's giving her that idea.
She better get her act straight.

You do understand their stance regarding the idea of first lady is actually restricted to the "Legal/formal office" not necessarily the title itself.

She is our first lady but her having an office mean the office has to be budgeted for and there really isn't a provision whatsoever in our constitution for that

Moana:
no jaybee is the best target

It's your fault moana..

Why always you?

Moana:
I'm talking about your wife sleeping with another man like the driver because she spends more time with him more than you.

Why don't we just blame Moana!?

cococandy:
I actually like Aisha. At least more than patience Jonathan.
You should stop being a silly dolt.

Tskk.
Can't someone express opinion again without it being hate?
Dumbo.

Is it safe to conclude that your dislike for her husband subconsciously enable it extend to Aisha?

Please add pipeline engineering, subsea engineering, reservoir engineering MSc instead of the MBA before thinking of relocating.

Make yourself attractive

BEng in Chemical engineering alone won't necessarily give you the edge

It's always about money not the interest of the citizens

Not doing it for me

Oya come make i host you for your birthday party at my yard

So what happens when you turn 40/50/60?

Do you think you will be fulfilled or empty?

Powder - Don't know why they have to paint their face every goddam morning!

manikal:
1) When is the right time to end it considering the fact that one person is going to get hurt. Obviously

The likelihood of anyone getting hurt IF expectations were mutually agreed from onset is pretty slim. You don't go into such arrangement with the expectation to fall in love in the process. It's strictly what it says on the Tin FWB

manikal:
2) If the lady in question is in a relationship but wants you to stay single, when is the right time to draw the line on this OR to continue playing along till the inevitable happens.

Its a really weird debacle and i just thought to put it out there. I would especially love to hear from a ladies POV.

She can't be making demands when the arrangement should normally satisfy both parties. It seems the expectation weren't clear from the start and it's obvious it simply won't work.

Creamish:
Lol...yeah.. I still don't accept the guy has any justification to cheat sha. He can simply talk to his wife and express his disappointment. The onus is on her to accept his advice and change.

Yeah absolutely no justification for cheating because the wife is a career woman.
If he wanted a traditional woman then he should simply earn more and pay the woman the equivalent salary.

Only men with zero substance will feel threatened by the success of their partners. No man should kill the career/ambition of their spouse just so they can massage their ego. It's wrong and unrealistic when our society doesn't necessarily provide post-divorce support for the wife.

Marriage is all about partnership and both parties are meant to contribute towards the success of the marriage.

Creamish:
oh..rily? I did read it. Thought there was actually a meaningful scenario somewhere btw the pages that I missed..



I'l prolly be too fatigued from work to vote for you...good thing is, U prolly wont care. Good for us both.

Not really jare... You know how we like to dey add salt for soup na

Creamish:
is this the scenario or there is another?

yes darl

Blastfinito:
Just dt i find it hard deleting her frm my mind.

Choi .. you are actually serious about this...

Okay here is the deal, her suggestion alone shouldn't necessarily warrant an immediate break up except you are being pressured into a life of crime as a condition for her love.

Just go back to her and state categorically that under no circumstance would you engage in crime and if that's a condition for her love then she is free to leave.

Her reaction will determine your next point of action

TheOtherview:
jaybee3, you don't think 'ignorance' is temitemi1's real name?
I thought that was pretty much an open secret.

Should have known

my bad

lool

Blastfinito:
I mean should I dump her for wanting me to engage in scam?

Who pays for the crime if and when caught?

Why are you very dumb beyond comprehension?

Why are you a sorry case?

temitemi1:
For people like u thinking the US can provide funds outside her budgetary allocation, time to read up on the Iran Contra affair. Bottom line, it won't! Someone just opened my eyes to the fact too...

Did you even bother to read his prelude or you did but didn't understand?

Stop displaying your ignorance on a public forum doofus

Aren't you grown enough to know the difference between right and wrong?

Do you think it's a good thing to do?

Teeboy22:
are u okay

wetn concern u with my queen beauty


imagine this dude..sayng my queen is delicious


iffa catch u en.....

u go tnk say na YOKOZUNA bASH yOU

I no fit dey fight groupie with woman na

Teespice:
blame the man who has no atom of self control nor respect for his spouse.

You think say you sef no go tempt the most righteous with wetin you dey carry for front?

Creamish:
No matter wat, I see sleeping with the maid as total disrespect for d man as well as his wife. If there is an issue, trash it out. Nothing should lead the man to cheat with the maid because it thins out the respect the maid will have for either of the couple as well as the possible irreparable damage it would cause on the marriage.

Is the maid really worth the breakup of the home? really?

There is no relationship without issues.....thatz where maturity and luv comes in. Trash it out btw urselves. I dont see anything wrong with having a maid/manservant if the woman is not a full time housewife. The way men come back home tired from work is the same way women come back home exhausted and still try their bit to take care of the home. Women support their men any way they can and that also includes providing for the home. Its always better when there is a 2-way inflow of funds so there can always be a back-up when 1 channel closes abruptly. So i'm an advocate for a career woman. However, she must know to set limits on her ambition and not allow it cloud her responsibilities at home.

There should always be that understanding that can allow for patience, tolerance & sacrifice. The maid is no source of consolation for any wrong. It's an abomination.

You are absolutely right though you've introduced a significant dimension into the scenario being played out.

The husband didn't cheat on the wife as a direct result of any misunderstanding between them. He did so because he was simply attracted to the maid meaning he never had an excuse to cheat considering the fact that he then proceeded to marry the maid as far as the scenario is concerned.