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1 and 5 makes perfect sense

MrsChima:
Miss me boo?

You bet

adepiero:
This is real life bro! Back in the days, people counted on luck and merit but nowadays you've got to kiss someone's ass

Women are the greatest liars and for her to tell you the truth about her travails is really commendable.

The only stumbling block I see here is "Guilty Concience" and public opinion

I guess i live in a different world then. Most of the women in my life have the following qualities:
Supreme Integrity
Understanding and appreciation of self worth
Awareness of the need to be honest regardless of the situation. That's what i give and encourage them to do at all times

QueenHeart:
shallow way of thinking

Don't you think minimum standards is an individual thing?


I couldn't knowingly marry someone that has sold sex as a commodity but i would gladly marry any girl that has been sexually active regardless of the no of her previous sexual partners.

adepiero:
This would have been relevant if she did it for money

But according to the writeup, she made a sacrifice for the guy's future as well as hers! What if she wasn't a virgin in the first place, what then would you have done if she still secured the job using the same means?

FYI, any lady that can sacrifice for a man deserves more than a ring on her finger! In fact she deserves to be worshipped

I wasn't crossed that she lost her virginity to someone else other than me. I was crossed because she took that life changing decision without seeking my opinion.

There are other and better ways to sacrifice for your man other than using one's body to open doors.

MrsChima:
You this woman beater.

Hehehe

pek:
I am shocked you wrote this but even more shocked that you got likes. It is obvious you didn't read the post and it says a lot about you.

really?

What does it say about me Mr?

Zedric:
You are joking, right? People can be funny


Btw, what she did is for both our sakes. You could have done it, get a job for herself and claim high class but I'll be glad she didn't, tell her not to take such major decision without seeking my approval and I'll sharply forget about the scenario

No im not joking and i did think about the scenario carefully before posting my reply.

You absolutely do not want to attribute your success or source of livelihood to something like that.
Besides, you will always owe her for the wrong reasons and the skilled gained at the company can always be put to good use elsewhere

Initially YES but to stay in it both parties have to be comfortable with the terms and conditions.

In other words, most long term marriages are of convenience rather than love.

cococandy:
Yes they should be accommodating if they are aware of those faults from the beginning. Everyone does have some fault to begin with.

But how about those that got married and after some years start behaving nasty to their spouse? That's the kind of thing I think they should change instead of expecting the poor fellow to endure it. They are preaching against divorce but won't stop doing that thing that can lead their partner to get fed up. Just like you said at the bolded. Introducing uncertainties that don't belong in marriage is likely going to break the marriage.


I'm fine
If you keep calling me ma'am or madam I'll go and find a chieftaincy title for you

Give me the list of character traits that are likely to change once married and allow me scream those traits where obviously ignored whilst dating as they were deemed not serious enough to warrant total pullout

I'm sure they go don dey use ma'am for you for obodo oyinbo

Glad to hear you are doing fab..Just tge way we like it

They are actually always logical just that the chronological order of their logic always have emotion as the underpinning reason for any of their logical steps

cococandy:
Ma'am?

Jaybee will not kill me.

Sir I agree with you on being realistic with expectations. But I think you're misunderstanding my position. In a way we are saying the same thing.

If someone won't change a bad attitude that puts strain on his or her marriage but keeps expecting his/her partner to put up with such things, isn't that an example of being unrealistic about the things the other is capable of enduring?

See same thing.

Shouldn't they be accomodating the difference from the onset?

Going into a union an expecting change for a desired result is too much of a gamble.

You shouldn't knowingly introduce uncertainty variables into marriage equations.


Madam sounds better?

How u been though?

Justfollowit:
Ok o, you have got a strong heart

I'm not a saint so I don't expect a wife or potential partner to be hence the reason why i don't attach too much importance to sexual activities outside the primary domain

Justfollowit:
Really

Why?

I can deal with her having sex with someone else but can't handle the thought and realisation of her living a lie

misspicy:

wat happened to d part 'if kids r involved?
abeg modify that post ojae

Help me modify jor
Help a brother out

Justfollowit:
What happened to forgiveness

I would have agreed to the arrangement if i was informed before the first action

misspicy:
please read the post again,then comment afterwards.

Just remove divorce and add breakup

This one na real technical question ooooo but let me give it a try...

I would have to be grateful to her for going extra length in helping me secure the employment.

If kids aren't involved, i will resign the job and return all the money i've earned to date to her then divorce her simply because she should have discussed her planned action with me before going ahead with the action

If kids are involved, i will still divorce her but won't return the money since it will go towards raising the kids

The fact of the matter is anyone that can do anything for money is very dangerous and you are simply better off without them.

cococandy:
The one tip I believe that can save a marriage and not lead to divorce. Change.

Change change change.

If you're cheating on your husband or wife pls change. Repent. Ask for forgiveness and make sure you intend to never go back to that sin again.
Change.

If you're selfish. Pls change. The world doesn't revolve around you. Give as much as you expect to be given. Respect as much as you want to respected. Love as much as you want to be loved. Change your selfish attitude. Your partner shouldn't always be getting the shorter end of the stick.

You know what you promised when you got married. Remember them and keep to them. If you fail sometimes as humans do, apologize and be ready to make up for it. Don't expect your partner to be fine with your shortcomings all the time. They are human too. If they are, pls be appreciative. They are not living solely to please you. Their happiness also matters.

If someone is always on the receiving end of your selfishness. it will only be a matter of time before they snap.
So treat the cause of the disease and not the symptoms.

With all due respect ma’am, I disagree with the change mantra as far as relationship is concerned. Change can never be sustained especially when human beings are constantly having to deal with temptation of varying degree on a daily basis.

Expectation! Expectation! Expectation!

Couples need to have/set realistic expectations. The world is changing and as such very diverse. You need to embrace differences and ensure expectations are well communicated before embarking on the journey. Yes people will lie so they can receive the acceptance they yearn but as a person you simply can’t lie to yourself. If your expectation isn’t being met then there really isn’t any point to continue the relationship hence the divorce option.

It’s really as simple as that

standd:
Well, I am a power engineer and I can teach you the process of 'debouncing' toggle switches, plus how to totally remove/disable the bounces between oscillations so the signal will permanently produce the green light you desire.
But you have to pay first.

How much smart a...?

Creamish:
spill...

Some NL girl on this thread has been sending me mixed signals. In fact the signal is on a permanent toggle switch oscillating at
every other 5 secs.

Question is, how do i disable the switch without physically touching it and in turn allow the signal to be permanently stuck on green?

I have beef that needs straightening out

co.ck and bull

Remember to pay your tithe out of the unexpected gift/income

Does he have a PA or the job is meant to double up as one?

^^^^
Didn't you see the max budget as clearly stated by the OP?