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Surely ain't rocket science.
Don't be a nag,
Be well versed in the art of servicing,
Being a good cook helps as well.

The 3 do's i call 'em

Above all, you don't need to stress/obsess yourself about making the better half happy IF the feeling is mutual

dare2think: Apparently, they might have been paid.

Nothing is impossible in the world of a conspiracy theorists.


Don't be surprised if another one comes and links Tinubu to all of these.

It's GEJ's fault
Whenever in doubt, blame it on GEJ

Theben: Can you please explain to me how ignorance contribute to low life expectancy? I need to be enlightened.

Here is a simple example of how an ignorant person contributes to that alarming stats. Say for example person A is diagnosed with HIV and choses to believe in the lord for solution instead of getting proper medication (antiviral drugs) which would normally help suppress the immune system and in turn help prolong person A’s life expectancy.

Clearly, person A being ignorant has contributed to that stats, no?
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I can see saga's eyes being lit up with yet another errm errrmmm errrmmm (ok i forgot the word that starts with F) roaming around

mpowa: so because some people who are not God put some nonsense statistics together now, you need to believe and take it? In life u take what's urs and reject it if it's not urs. my own life expectancy is 85,and I'm not leaving this country.

what's nonsense about averaging the age @ death of recorded deaths?

You are more likely to die before a certain age doesn't necessarily mean one will die at or before that age. Just a sorry fact that most people in 3rd world countries die rather too young due to known factors that can obviously be improved but instead ignored by the greedy elite.

mecussey: On Saturday, Chief Iwuanyanwu in his late 60s wedded a 22 yr old girl, is this not Yerimarisation?

Get yourself some brain Mr.
Both are consenting adults so what's wrong with that?

Nope

speedyboi: Exactly! Those Village people dey live long pass anything.

Not sh/itty America where the youths are addicted to drugs and the keep visiting rehab till they finally expire at 30 something

Seems you've comfortably ignored the fact that the map/figures are aggregated. Each country/region will have own deprivation/access to good quality healthcare issues but believe me these figures when critically analyzed will be in the minority.
Question is can you say the same about African countries?

@OP
How about we start from who a typical Nigerian girl is?


I hope you know stereotyping Is the mother of all f-ups

private equity

@telexfree1

We appreciate your concern and can assure you that we are already thinking/working along the lines you highlighted in your post.

Okija_juju: DO we have any new or on-going cases still?!

No new cases at the moment.
As a group, we are looking to be in the position of proactively seeking for cases where success can be easily measured.

We currently work in a reactive capacity, having adequate resources in place will help us achieve our ultimate goal of being able to provide effective early intervention when cases such as poor health and or poverty are spotted.

Okija_juju: TEHN EXECS:: Are donations for this case still open?! Or have we reached our limit?!

ALthough, a second years rent for her shop wouldnt be bad at all... 1 Year flies by so quickly..

We believe we already have enough to complete this project but you are very much welcomed to keep supporting TeHN's work.

We can always look into advance payment of land rent so long as it's feasible.

Richfella: Jay Bee my man, we all know the kind of jobs an undergrad can get (in Nigeria). That boy most likely doesn't know what he is doing - he's just pússy-whipped & maybe overwhelmed too.

I do understand that but at the same time, it's not nice having other people involved in one's relationship so long as he hasn't specifically asked for help.
Dude is an adult and should be responsible for his actions.

Jaynec: He is still struggling with schl fees. D engr firm is just a one man stuff n nt realiable.

Did he ask you for help?

Jaynec: Am from a family of 7 including our parents. Am the eldest 25 n d only lady in the family of 4 boys. My immediate younger bro is 24 still an undergraduate in a federal poly, he got a part time job with an engr firm in kd. My family reside in PH. Dad retired since 2009 n still struggling to take care of his family. I got a shocking news from my mum that my immediate younger got some one pregnant , d lady gave birth to a baby boy . D lady in question is quite older than him, my bro agreed to marry her. Am really hurting cos my bro is very tender n doesnt knw wat life n marriage is all abt. Please pals i need your advice n contributions. God bless you.

Your brother has a job and he frankly hasn't asked you guys for financial help so what exactly is the problem here?

He is a man and should be left alone to make his own damn decisions.

You need to start MYOB like seriously

Airbrush thingzzzz

Shameless lazy man

Happy birthday bro
Where the party @?

more like a pim/p

beer parlor gist

Cathaliya: thats not the issue here joor..... This guy in question is her VISA to UK

Even worse

Na real wa

Desperation only ever lead to destruction.

kofsy: Wow! Thanks so much darling ({}) :* ... This is the kind of comment I've been looking out for. You truly understand my stance. In fact I'm surprise that most guys here are saying I should dump him, when in truth most of them are pathological cheats.
On how to deal with him, nothing is too much dear! I've been praying for him but I also intend to do something I know would pain him(not cheat o) when all this is all over... However, we learn everyday, and who knows if my plan is not the best. Pls I'd like to know how to deal with him... I'm trying my best to be a good fiancee to him... But may be there's something I'm not doing, pls let me know. You can send me a PM. Thanks swit

This is what i don't get with some women i swear. Red flags here and there but yet they always chose to conveniently ignore them only to start expecting miracles to happen.

Basically, you are going to settle for less due to the general notion that most men cheat?

What happens once you guys are married and he simply can't leave his alleged playing habit behind?

Where on earth is your self esteem geez

Not ma thing

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Does she treat you with respect?
Will she go extra mile for you?
Does she put you into consideration when making decisions that are directly/indirectly related to your relationship?
Is she proud of you?
Does she tell you how much you are loved?
bla bla bla

Bottom line is, you can only fake genuine love for so long. You definitely don't need to be a rocket scientist to determine if you are loved or just being played for a mugu

Incrizz: Watch.
Views, already counting and rising. No comment.
just watch..

I may come back to modify "No Comments" to "Few comments "

Like seriously?

You gotta be kidding me

Incrizz: Watch.
Views, already counting and rising. No comment.
just watch..

I may come back to modify "No Comments" to "Few comments "

how on earth did you manage to pass jamb?

What are the circumstances?

Zik4zik: Swag queen and the rest of you that has been abused in you relationship I am really sorry about your situation. These are my advice and you must take it seriously no matter how difficult it seemed. For those of you that are still dating please end the relationship immediately. But for Swag queen and the others here who are married please NEVER EVER leave your home no matter what. You swore for better for worse... DON'T EVER LEAVE YOUR MARITAL HOME FOR ANY REASON. The mind of an abusive married man works like a clock, it eventually gets back to its right senses but if you had already left the house by then lots of irreparable damages might have been done such as him already impregnating someone else or having a kid. I am not saying you should let him beat you to death. No... That's not my intention. The truth is that a man in such situation is actually suffering, he needs help, he knows what he is doing is wrong but he can't help himself, he wants to stop but he can't. Haven't you ever wondered why he beats you with so much hate and rage yet he feels extremely insecure and monitors your every move. He feels insecure because deep inside him you remain his source of strength, he knows he is lost without you. As a wife in such situation, you need to put him in prayers, when you pray, cry in your prayers and let him hear you pray and cry but try not to be too loud. Let him hear you pray for his protection and success, do this every night(2am) for seven days. And for God sake you already knows he beats you when you talk back at him so PLEASE PLEASE and PLEASE from today let him have his way, don't talk back at him, when you findout that he has slept with other ladies keep it to yourself and talk to your God about it. Once you learn to control your tongue, you have taken away his strength over you because there is nothing for him to hold as a reason for beating you. These are simple logic that works and if you can continue like this for 3weeks or more he will gradually revert to his old loving self. But when you confront him or talk back at him, the devil seizes an opportunity to take over his rage and he gets uncontrollably angry towards you and the beating starts again. Please read this post over and over until you master all that I have written in it. Remember, before he married you there were over a million women on earth but he chose you because you meant every thing to him but now he has a cloud over his eyes and you must help him get past his weaknesses by praying for him and keeping your tongue in check... DON'T TALK BACK

Excuse me, divorce being the last option should never be discouraged when violence is/was the norm in a relationship. This is exactly the problem why most women stay in abusive relationships because of what written in a book that was written centuries ago.
You can only support a man that wants to be supported not those devil reicarnated. Being married is not a do or die thing and absolutely nothing wrong in being single if that’s what’s going to provide the much needed peace of mind.

BTW: Those that need help should simply seek help without being prompted. He is a grown man and sure does know when the line has been crossed.
You can’t force a man to seek help especially when it’s obvious that there is absolutely no love in the relationship.


Lastly, the lasting impact of staying in an abusive relationship is far worse than the stigma one gets if divorce is the best option.

showoff: not a script oooo, things happen. it happened to me.

How did you handle it?

@Swag queen
So what do you want to do going forward?

I just can't stress enough why empowerment should be embedded deep into the skulls of all young teenage girls.