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kofsy: Wow! Thanks so much darling ({}) :* ... This is the kind of comment I've been looking out for. You truly understand my stance. In fact I'm surprise that most guys here are saying I should dump him, when in truth most of them are pathological cheats.
On how to deal with him, nothing is too much dear! I've been praying for him but I also intend to do something I know would pain him(not cheat o) when all this is all over... However, we learn everyday, and who knows if my plan is not the best. Pls I'd like to know how to deal with him... I'm trying my best to be a good fiancee to him... But may be there's something I'm not doing, pls let me know. You can send me a PM. Thanks swit

This is what i don't get with some women i swear. Red flags here and there but yet they always chose to conveniently ignore them only to start expecting miracles to happen.

Basically, you are going to settle for less due to the general notion that most men cheat?

What happens once you guys are married and he simply can't leave his alleged playing habit behind?

Where on earth is your self esteem geez

Not ma thing

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Does she treat you with respect?
Will she go extra mile for you?
Does she put you into consideration when making decisions that are directly/indirectly related to your relationship?
Is she proud of you?
Does she tell you how much you are loved?
bla bla bla

Bottom line is, you can only fake genuine love for so long. You definitely don't need to be a rocket scientist to determine if you are loved or just being played for a mugu

Incrizz: Watch.
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Like seriously?

You gotta be kidding me

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how on earth did you manage to pass jamb?

What are the circumstances?

Zik4zik: Swag queen and the rest of you that has been abused in you relationship I am really sorry about your situation. These are my advice and you must take it seriously no matter how difficult it seemed. For those of you that are still dating please end the relationship immediately. But for Swag queen and the others here who are married please NEVER EVER leave your home no matter what. You swore for better for worse... DON'T EVER LEAVE YOUR MARITAL HOME FOR ANY REASON. The mind of an abusive married man works like a clock, it eventually gets back to its right senses but if you had already left the house by then lots of irreparable damages might have been done such as him already impregnating someone else or having a kid. I am not saying you should let him beat you to death. No... That's not my intention. The truth is that a man in such situation is actually suffering, he needs help, he knows what he is doing is wrong but he can't help himself, he wants to stop but he can't. Haven't you ever wondered why he beats you with so much hate and rage yet he feels extremely insecure and monitors your every move. He feels insecure because deep inside him you remain his source of strength, he knows he is lost without you. As a wife in such situation, you need to put him in prayers, when you pray, cry in your prayers and let him hear you pray and cry but try not to be too loud. Let him hear you pray for his protection and success, do this every night(2am) for seven days. And for God sake you already knows he beats you when you talk back at him so PLEASE PLEASE and PLEASE from today let him have his way, don't talk back at him, when you findout that he has slept with other ladies keep it to yourself and talk to your God about it. Once you learn to control your tongue, you have taken away his strength over you because there is nothing for him to hold as a reason for beating you. These are simple logic that works and if you can continue like this for 3weeks or more he will gradually revert to his old loving self. But when you confront him or talk back at him, the devil seizes an opportunity to take over his rage and he gets uncontrollably angry towards you and the beating starts again. Please read this post over and over until you master all that I have written in it. Remember, before he married you there were over a million women on earth but he chose you because you meant every thing to him but now he has a cloud over his eyes and you must help him get past his weaknesses by praying for him and keeping your tongue in check... DON'T TALK BACK

Excuse me, divorce being the last option should never be discouraged when violence is/was the norm in a relationship. This is exactly the problem why most women stay in abusive relationships because of what written in a book that was written centuries ago.
You can only support a man that wants to be supported not those devil reicarnated. Being married is not a do or die thing and absolutely nothing wrong in being single if that’s what’s going to provide the much needed peace of mind.

BTW: Those that need help should simply seek help without being prompted. He is a grown man and sure does know when the line has been crossed.
You can’t force a man to seek help especially when it’s obvious that there is absolutely no love in the relationship.


Lastly, the lasting impact of staying in an abusive relationship is far worse than the stigma one gets if divorce is the best option.

showoff: not a script oooo, things happen. it happened to me.

How did you handle it?

@Swag queen
So what do you want to do going forward?

I just can't stress enough why empowerment should be embedded deep into the skulls of all young teenage girls.

kika41: @9ija man,which of these applicants have a brighter chance
Mr.A-petroleum engineer 1st class-Uniport
Mr.B-petroleum engineer 1st class-unilag
Mr.C-petroleum engineer 1st class-uniben
Plz,rank dem with reasons!!

The university is irrelevant so long as the course is accredited and you've met the minimum criteria (GPA => 2:1)

UK Newspaper Detail How Oando Made Its Whopping Quarterly N3.1 Billion Profit By Dodging Taxes

This week, Oando Plc, the so-called “highly successful” oil trading company owned by Governor Bola Tinubu's cousin, Wale Tinubu, declared a massive quarterly profit of N3.1billion, an “achievement” that was advertised in Nigerian newspapers. This would be a significant achievement for any company, except that the success of Oando hinges on a clever policy of dodging taxes.
In stories published by Private Eye, a United Kingdom newspaper, it has been explained how Oando is taking advantage of the Department for International Development, through its development fund CDC (formerly the Commonwealth Development Corporation).

The following, according to Private Eye, is how it is done:

Oando attracts foreign capital flow from an American private equity fund known as "Emerging Capital Partners" based in Washington DC, which in turn receives funds from the UK government through the CDC Group, Oando a privatized Nigerian oil company is known and called Oando plc. But to avoid paying taxes to the Nigerian government Oando carries out its investment partnerships through an offshore company known as "Ocean and Oil Mauritius", itself owned by a British Virgin Islands vehicle called "Ocean and Oil Holdings (BVI) Limited " whose well-connected investors bought their 34 percent stake in Oando from the Nigerian government in year 2000.

It has been established from investigations carried out by the UK Metropolitan police that James Ibori and his schoolmate, Henry Imashekka, sent funds stolen from the sale of shares owned by the Delta State government to an offshore account, they later invested $10 million that were stolen in acquiring Notore Chemicals (formerly NAFCON).

CDC and its privileged offshore co-investors in Oando earn “technical fees” of 5 percent of profits and “management fees” of 4 percent through a Nigerian company called Ocean and Oil Investments, giving them a significantly better return than standard Oando plc shareholders. In 2008, the last year for which figures are known, $8.5m was paid by Oando in this way, signed off by Oando’s auditor PricewaterhouseCoopers.

Of Oando’s $91m remaining profits after these fees have been creamed off, $21m was earned by a company called Oando Trading Ltd, which boasts of being “Africa’s largest independent and privately owned oil trading company”. Except it is registered in the not-so-African tax haven of Bermuda. Unsurprisingly, the UK Private Eye’s efforts to locate some actual oil trading by Oando in Bermuda were fruitless: the contact number in Hamilton turns out to be the firm’s old administrators, called Appleby, while its new ones, the Harbour Group, could not connect the Eye to anybody with anything to do with Oando.

This is of course, a crude arrangement to avoid more than $7m a year in tax – which would provide quite a few schools or hospitals in Nigeria where the company really operates through offices in Abuja and Lagos. The scheme would not work if Oando were based in a developed economy such as the UK, where tax rules prevent the more blatant scams to stuff profits into tax havens, but poorer countries such as Nigeria are more vulnerable.

SEEDY CDC

METROPOLITAN Police charges naming a prominent Nigerian businessman, which can be revealed following the easing of reporting restrictions on a trial scheduled for later this year, pose more questions about Britain’s international development fund CDC formerly the Commonwealth Development Corporation, and its attempts to maximise profits by entrusting taxpayer’s money to questionable private equity firms.

One of the charges arising from Knacker’s long-running investigation into money laundering involving Nigeria is that a group of businessmen including Henry Imasekha “concealed, disguised, converted and transferred criminal property, namely the sum of $10m ... knowing or suspecting that the sum constituted the benefit from criminal conduct of another person ...”

Henry Imasekha, it so happens, is a major shareholder and director of one of CDC’s main Nigerian investments, privatised fertilizer company Notore. CDC invested in the company in 2007 through American private equity fund manager Emerging Capital Partners, which also invested CDC’s money in a couple of other large Nigerian businesses, including privatised oil company Oando, which does a nice line in tax avoidance.

CDC: Haven help us

TAX avoidance, explained Treasury minister Stephen Timms to a Paris conference recently, “costs developing countries billions each year in lost revenue – a major drain on often fragile economies and a genuine barrier to economic growth. These are vital resources for schools, hospitals and infrastructure”.

Perhaps he should explain this to the Department for International Development, which is busily fleecing fragile economies by sponsoring corporate tax avoidance at its development fund CDC, formerly the Commonwealth Development Corporation.

Through American private equity fund Emerging Capital Partners, CDC funds a privatized Nigerian oil company called Oando plc. But it doesn’t do this directly since this might mean it and its co-investors would have to pay some tax. Instead, it invests through a mysterious company called ocean and oil Mauritius, itself owned by a British Virgin Islands vehicle called Ocean and Oil Holdings (BVI) Limited whose well-connected investors bought their 34 percent stake in Oando from the Nigerian government in 2000.

Tax avoidance among CDC’s companies is unsurprising since the fund has modelled itself as a private equity investor, a structure in which tax dodging has always been an intrinsic part. But that doesn’t make the British development fund’s indulgence in the shady business any less damaging for poor countries like Nigeria.


http://saharareporters.com/news-page/uk-newspaper-detail-how-oando-made-its-whopping-quarterly-n31-billion-profit-dodging-taxes?page=1

Sagamite: Cool. I will be happy to.

I will PM you.

Don't go toasting her oh, Mr smooth talker

Do not suffer in silence. Make sure you get help towards whatever may be bothering you. What you need now is time off to clear your head, re-evaluate your life whilst being around positive people.
Stay blessed

JMOI: Lampard is more prolific from the spot. He has so far scored nearly 50 penalties for Chelsea and 9 for England (the highest for any player who has played for England). How can you compare him with someone who has not scored more than 15?

You be real olodo oh. Please stop compairing the two so long as lampard can't boast of 100% success rate.

Afam4eva: I've told you people to stop bringing in population as long as Lagos or any state does not feed it's population. If anything, it's to the advantage of the state with a higher populaton cos that will mean more money via taxation. We're looking at the number and quality of projects executed and only a blind man will not give it to Akpabio but if we were to rank them based on people oriented projects then it may not even go to either of them. An obscure governor may win it ahead of them.

One question bro, what's the percentage of recurring budget of the two states?

[quote author=Anyi.]hehehe... Go pantless ladies[/quote]I concur

JMOI: He's a good penalty taker, but Lampard's statistics dwarf his.

Care to provide us some evidence (figures)?
How can anyone possibly better 100% success rate

TGIF

Happy birthday Stillwater. Where the party @?

She is probably still bitter that you guys broke up.
Best thing to do is just delete the message off your wall and ignore her going forward

Chiscomax: I need one moderator who is a 2pac fan to complete this;
" you claimed to be a player but I..."

fu/cked chiscomax's bi/tch

Use excel to work out your monthly budget and simply stick to it
We can't simply throw figures at you since we don't know what your essential outgoings are.
You should always save a greater % of what's left of your monthly income after all outgoings are taken care of.

Ok your 1 sec fame is over. Next

jazzyme: Found the receipt of the dinner purchased and when i asked him about it he told me who he bought it for.

He told you he bought dinner for his new babe or you added 1+3 together before arriving at 2?
If your dude is blatantly cheating on you whilst doing it to your face like he doesn't give a damn then surely we don't need to be telling you what to do.
A man that loves you and value your relationship will never disrespect you in ya face sort of way so there you go.
No amount of fasting/praying will change someone comfortable with cheating.
Players don't retire they just slow down

Looks like he has something to hide. Let him know how his recent actions are making you feel insecure and if things don't changed then please try counselling.
Btw: How did you actually catch him red handed?

speedyboi: Ehn ehn? Are we listening to the same thing? It's cute joor!

Cute and accent in the same statement

speedyboi: I like her cute Nigerian accent

Cute nigerian accent?

I hope you know you are also referring to those in your immediate and extended family when you use all to quantify such ridiculous statement of yours

Sagamite: Once my sons are 18, I am going to tell them to call a maximum of 5 of their closest friends to all report to my house and I would give them a 3-day, four-hours-a-day masterclass on how to relate, treat and deal with girls.

I would give them the inner secrets on what women are like and are looking for based on things that includes the girls' looks, culture, age range/life stage (15-18, 18-24 etc), initial interest in a guy and what the guy has to offer. My masterclass would be full of charts and psychological tools.

One of the most important sessions is the one on hot girls (i.e. based on looks). They would learn young hot girls don't like good boys and I would teach them how to be the type of guy young hot girls want and how to smack the shyt out of these girls. They must learn the when to "Stop giving a shyt at the right moment!" approaches to different types of girls, so they never lose out.

I would have studied all the boys' personalities and body language before the masterclass, so on the first day, I would be handing them a short self-profile telling them the most likely outcome of their interaction with babes (just to blow their mind because they will be like "this is fcking true; this is how girls have been treating me) and then on the last day, I would tell them what they need to change in their approach to women to always get what they want.

Give them 3 to 6 months to go explore my advice and test my tools and then come and reply back to me how the life coaching has worked and what else they want to learn deeper.

I hope you will also advice them to use "rubber" at all times else na to become grandpa at 40

Both are equally important and very hard to weight whilst having an overview look.
Technically, one needs to be attracted before compatability question even comes into reckoning.
However, depending on the stage i'm in career and life, i'd like to think compatibility becomes the single most important thing.
Of what use is me being attracted to someone i intend spending the rest of my life with if we aren't compatible. This i can overlook if i'm looking to play around or better still need the occasional fix.