Zheemub:

Is it only at the tip or also around the genitals?
Please take him to the hospital.
Stop wearing diaper for now.
It's well dear.

It is just on the tip.... I have reduced his wearing of diaper but he can urinate for Africa.

Just noticed this on my son's penis,what can it be I am really freaking out here. I have been so busy in the last 2days his nanny has been bathing him.

@ciscamustexcel,sorry about your ill health. I resumed work the day after my son clocked 3months. I started bottle training him when he was 2months old with tommee tippee bottle,he was taking it very well. Suddenly,one week to when I was to resume work he stopped totally and was hungry for close to 6hours as I kept hoping he would take the bottle when he is hungry. He didn't even send me o,he kept sleeping. I jejely breastfeed him.

We tried everything possible, changed bottles,changed infant formula as I was giving him infant formula too so he gets used to the taste just in case the breastmilk I express gets finished(power supply where I live was epileptic at that time) so I couldn't store breastmilk,sang different songs,made sucking sound with my tongue e.t.c. nothing worked so I resorted to cup and spoon. He was taking 120mls of milk at that time,before we use spoon to feeding 120mls he would pour half on his body as he keeps struggling and shaking his head.

After one week of resuming work,he started crying,inshort screaming when he is being fed. I even thought of stopping work as he looked like he had lost weight. He even started vomiting the milk(breastmilk, formula),when he was 3months and 2weeks I was advice to add pap(millet and little corn) to his milk and he really liked it. Since then he has been taking the pap(we make it very light),he also hates water so we force him to. He is 4months and 1week today,his dad bought Gerber's rice cereal(supported sitter) and cow gate fruity porridge (from 4months to 6months) he doesn't like them much though.

This is how I have been able to manage o. Sorry for the long write up,this is so you know you ain't alone in this.

Onegai:


Okay! Let's do this

Please let's talk about your job: is it a career-defining job? My sister left her children (youngest aged 3 years) to go to another country to get a Masters...came back with an M.B.B.S (she's a consultant paediatrician) and is advancing her career. Is that what your job is, an amazing opportunity for growth? Is it a financially-rewarding job: my last job paid me more than N200,000 for 4 days of medium-stress work. I should have kept it, because I never got home later than 6pm max and would probably even get home earlier nowadays. Is that your job, a financial comfort?

Because if your job is neither of those things, you are sacrificing a lot for nothing.

I get it, Nigeria is awful with this economy and Lagos is a nightmare (I'm a city-dweller lagosian and reading you describing jumping bus daily to the island, with a young baby, is horrid. You must be exhausted). But, in Nigeria, we do a lot of things out of foolishness, even me, Because "That's Just How We Do It". So calculate your income and how much you are spending living in Lagos (one of the top 20 most expensive cities in the world to live in, please google this fact) and see if at the end of the day, you have upto N10,000 to save in your personal Savings account. Because, if you still need money monthly from your husband to support your household in Lagos, your job ain't cutting it. So move.

A clever person I follow on Twitter said last week, "a lot of people feel you must be in Lagos to make money, it's a false narrative". He's right, you would be surprised that moving out to Akure/Benin/Kaduna/Nassarawa etc will open up an opportunity you never thought of...and you will blow. I've seen it happen. So move, with a plan.

Damisinto, what is your job? Is there opportunity for growth? Because, you gotta think outside the box. There are jobs you can create for yourself (no, not baking, makeup, small chops, sewing etc. Too many people are doing it, and doing it badly). Do you know, I have seen 3 opportunities outside Lagos, in more affordable cities (one up North, one down South, one can work anywhere, heck even a small town, that can be taken advantage of? One can be turned into an awesome career (so many people will copy you eh). All they need is the right person who has a passion for it, and unfortunately you cannot fake passion for something. But yes, people do make money off their passions, if they plan right and carefully.

Thanks o...I am a Nurse(Bsc holder)the job isn't even worth it that is the funny thing. Nursing in Nigeria is so messed up to even start with. I spend like one third on transport/buying food on the days I go to work without food. Apart from the fact that I want to have time to take care of my son,i am beginning to get pissed with what happens there. Anytime I plan to resign my direct boss just keeps pleading. I have been trying to save enough money and see if I can start an online business or something. If you talk about increasing pay my MD tells you if you ain't comfortable with the pay you can leave.

sassyangel1:


Awwwww...really feeling ur pain. 1 of d reasons I resigned tho wth my hubby's consent cos I don't wnt him giving me attitude later cos I don't v a pd job. Before u resign, seriously sit wth ur husband and hear from his side, check 4 any crèche close to ur office and take ur nanny wth ur lo to the crèche close to ur office b4 u finally decide whether u wana resign or nt. it may nt b easy esp in the financial aspect depending only 4rm one source esp if u r used 2 a kind of lifestyle and if such lifestyle cannot b continued it could bring attitude, grumbling or quarrel. Just think it thoroughly b4 u decide and will u be able to cope especially in this buharicession?

Funny you,no be small buharicession. I have discussed extensively with my hubby. He said he is fine with it. Crèche close to my office is out of it because of the distance from my home to office.

helovesme:


Try a different bottle/teat.

Boil the new teat in water for about five minutes to further soften it.

If that doesn't work, it's possible he's tired of NAN. try another milk brand like aptamil or any other reputable brand.

Why not have him stay in a reputable crèche ? I won't really trust a maid/housegirl with a child that young.

I tried SMA it was same thing,he also rejects breastmilk from bottle,cup and spoon. So I don't think it is about the milk.

The nanny is quite elderly and she is like a big aunty to me. I have known her for over 20years and I can say I trust her to a large extent. Thanks for input

hotmomma:
Jaygrl, don't be too worked up and pls don't even think of resigning abeg. I read somewhere that babies can never starve themselves. When I resumed work after mat leave hmmm, it wasn't easy too as we did exclusive for 6months, heres what I can advise.

NEPA: since u don't have constant power supply, buy iced blocked pure water, the blocked ones, express and store in the bottle and place those bottles with the blocked pure water, that stands as your makeshift fridge.

Milk supply: reduce thinking and stress as it would inhibit your milk production. Take better pap and milk etc and take your pump to work and express there. There should be a private place you can do that.

Bottles: look for bottles with nipples soft as breast like Dr browns bottles. Avent is quite hard although I don't know which one you use.

creche: I would have advised you take him to a creche close to where you work but since that's not the case for you, look for a creche around your home where a matured woman is one of the care givers not all these young ladies cos they look after babies well.

Sis, all I wrote down is what I did, and if I can, you too can. Pls don't resign, life without money isn't too easy oh, you won't lose your baby, he will be fine.

Me that loves money very well,if I resign my hubby don suffer be that...Lol. I use tommee tippee bottle. Thanks so much

feddy27:
Jaygrl, don't resign yet... Sit back and analyse the situation. There is always a way to go about it.

1. Take him along and keep in a creche close to your office. He's still young and has emotional attachment for you hence the cries. Your nanny can't play that role and may not be patient with him.

2. Stop force feeding! 1 in 3 children always have push backs when it comes to feeding. Since you are the mother, you can always figure a way around it. I resumed work when my daughter was 2 months old and she also rejected the bottle! I bought different types, yet nothing!

Solution : we fed her with syringe. I breastfeed in the morning before I leave. Since you will be taking him along, breastfeed on the way before you get to the creche.

Pop in at break time, breast feed and play with him then go back to work. I went home (cos baby was at grannies) every break till she was 7 months old.

Keep trying but ensure he's not force fed. Let them sing along while feeding. When he gets to 4 months, you can introduce cereal.

Pele dear. It can really be frustrating for a first time mum

We try to sing,dance for him while he eats. I have tried the syringe thing too,when he is crying and struggling it just keeps hitting his gum. The creches in VI where I work are quite pricey,the distance from where I work to where I live is quite far,I won't want to put him through that stress everyday,I don't have my personal car I use a bus....Thanks for replying promptly

Chumzylove1:
you can put him in a nearby creche that way you sneak out and breastfeed him, you'll also monitor him maybe he's not comfortable with the nanny

The nanny was employed one month before I started work so he is very used to her,she was around when he was accepting the bottles and she was feeding him very well.

Hey mamas,I am thinking of just resigning from work to take care of my LO. I resumed back to work last week just as he turned 3months old. Before I resumed I introduced Nan because the breast milk I express won't be enough for him till I come back(we have not had power supply for like 1month 2weeks). I leave on the mainland and work on the island,I leave home say 5:40am with hubby so we have a nanny that takes care of my DS. I breastfeed him very well before leaving,some mornings he feels to sleepy to suck very well.

So to the issue now,I introduced feeding bottle to him like 1month before I resumed and he was taking it very well,just before I resumed he just stopped taking it. He doesn't take even the breast milk from spoon or bottles but he sucks breast very very well . So we resorted to forcing him even when he is crying to take the expressed milk/Nan via spoon. When he is very hungry,he takes say 60mls(then he starts crying,coughing so loud and sometimes ends up throwing up). This is what happens every single day since I started work,he seems to have lost so much weight. I come back say past 6pm as I close by 4pm for now.

So i came back earlier than normal yesterday,I opened the door with my key. The state I saw my son just made me breakdown,his clothes and bib was very wet,his eyes were red and teary. He just finished his milk of not even up to 60mls,for his cloth to be wet most likely he was pouring out the milk as he was been fed.

So I am wondering,for how long will we continue force feeding my 3months plus son when all he just wants is breastmilk directly from the breast itself at least for now. I actually plan quitting my job say October while I try to get a place close home,maybe I should resign by the end of this month and come take care of my DS before I lose him(he cries every time he is being fed till I come back home in the evening).

Sorry for the epistle,I am a first time mum and I am so confused at the moment. I love my son sooo much and I feel so guilty seeing him pass through this. Mum and mum in law thinks he will adjust but this is almost 2weeks now and he is even getting worse as he gets so angry at been fed with spoon. Mamas advice me oooooo

reniduke:
Mamas please urgent request. Anyone know or can recommend creche around yaba to ebutemetta. Lo is almost 3months when i resume in 11days time. Im doing daycare cos im scared to hire nanny n leave a stranger in my house.
Next time ill get the nanny like one month before i resume and be observing her till i have to resume.

That is exactly what I did...I just resumed on Monday. Leaving my DS with her at home wasn't a big deal for me. I just pray and anoint him every morning before I leave home.

oamronnie:
Piece of advice to working mothers who are doing EBF. If you are still on leave and want to continue EBF when you resume work, pleaseeeeeee, start 'bottle training' LO like 2 weeks before you resume. My DS showed me shege this week and I've learnt my lesson the hard way. He just kept pushing out the bottle with his tongue as if I gave him bitterleaf. Thank God we still have a few weeks before resumption.

I started bottle feeding my DS 3weeks ago as I am to resume work by Monday,it took him about 3days to adjust. Since this week he has refused sucking the bottle and I end up using cup and spoon,he ends up not taking as much milk as he would have if he was talking it directly from the feeding bottle...He will just keep crying. I am in a serious dilemma. My mum thinks he knows I am about to resume work so he just wants to scare me...Lol.

yseries:



Hello,I suggest you take d baby to a pediatrian. Maybe run a malaria test too. When my baby's appetite reduced though she was still very active I took her to d hospital n d doctor suggested a malaria test which turned out positive. Once I treated d malaria, her appetite increased n feeding went back to normal.

Aiit, thanks

Good morning Sabi Mamas,my son will be 3months on the 21st of this month. I will be resuming work on the 24th of this month so I had to start him on infant formula NAN 1,he was taking it so well at first but for the past 10days now I practically fight with him before he even takes 60mls. I think his appetite kinda reduced,because he doesn't also suck the way he used to,once I put him to breast,he sucks a little and sleeps off. He eats little and sleeps so much right now,in the past he can't sleep straight 2hrs and he had bad colic plus reflux. So I am wondering,could it be growth spurt or do I need to try another milk?

NB: He is still very very active,no fever or any sign of him being sick. I think he feels very light though

Biko help me o put mouth in this matter as I am so worried.

Hey Sabi Mamas,lo had his 10weeks immunization on Friday. The hospital we use in Victoria Island Lagos charge 10k for the rotavirus vaccine,what I did was that I went to Medvac pharmacy along kareem ikotun bought the vaccine at 5,650naira and administered it very carefully to avoid him spitting it out. I think that is the cheapest place rotavirus vaccine can be gotten for mamas that want to buy on the island.

healthconcerns:
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GNLD, its simply the best!

How can you be a registered nurse with the Nigerian Medical Association It is doctors that are registered under that body...If you want to lie eh,do your research well.

Yesitsme:
she was 4months ystday, the last we weighed her she was 5.1kg at 3months. Although she was a preemie, she couldn't latch till 7wkz, I was expressing and giving formula but wasnt seeing it in her, I was too worried as people at health center mistook her for a new born even at 6wks. When I tell them her age, they tell me sorry madam that they asked .she is chubby now that people don't believe she is the one they saw at birth.
My dear, u have to sacrifice and forget your body largeness when it's time, u shed it. People keep tell me I look big but I careless as long as my baby is healthy. After all her health is more important than those days of my worries.

Thank you so much,I really do appreciate.

Yesitsme:
not all babies are chobby. It's likely h has a strong bone. He willget big eventually. I experienced same just dat she was 2 .5 at birth, 2.7 at 6wks so u c, yours is fine. You need to eat good food for it to reflect in his body.cheers

Thanks for your prompt response...How old is your baby now? What is her weight and body size like now? I am on the big side so I am also trying not to blow up as such.

Hey Mamas,I am really worried about my baby's growth.I am a ftm... He is 2months and a few days,his weight at birth was 2.7kg and by 6weeks he was 4.1kg. I remember telling his paediatrician that he doesn't look that weight. At the moment he can even be passed for a newborn. He has obviously added little flesh here and there though as he was very skinny at birth.

I started him on NAN 1 just last week as I don't even know if the exclusive breastfeeding thing is okay for him. He cries throughout when he is being fed the infant formula and has refused to suck the feeding bottle and so we use cup and spoon. The milk just spills all over the place.

I am worried as I want him to look physically his age. His father keeps wondering where the food he eats go to...Lol.

Lo's paediatrician says he will be just fine but I need to know from experienced mamas. How do I go about this? I don't mind buying a formula that I know will help him put on weight no matter the cost as all my struggles is because of him.
I would really prefer him using a bottle for his feeds (I bought tommee tippee) as it is less messier. How do I go about his refusing bottles?

Biko don't read and pass o....Help a sister

chychy4us:
@ Jaygrl , those drugs u mentioned don't really work, skip meals like milk, vegetables, beans, soft drinks like coke, Fanta,etc, you will see your baby will be fine. Please don't give your baby any herbal drugs again.

Thanks

Mamas I hail una o..My baby(2months) has terrible colic,from 12md till 6pm during the day and 12mn to 6am he just keeps crying intermittently,stretching and twisting his body,sucking sef Na wahala as when the pain come he pulls his mouth off the nipple and start shouting/crying. I have used nospamin,Infacol,gripe water, Colipan no relief at all.
His father had to go get Herbs as his friend told him same happened to his son and the herbs helped. Immediately I gave a drop to lo he threw up all the meal he had taken all day.

I am so confused,seeing him in that situation just breaks my heart and knowing I can't help him makes it worse. Biko,mamas is there home remedy or something??

PS: Started infant formula(NAN 1) for him on Monday.
He poops twice a day.

brownsugars:

Do you always burp him after feeding?
You need to.
Vomiting is inevitable when you dont burp...i personally had to learn this the hard way.
While feeding, pause & burp at intervals then continue feeding. Also remember to burp immediately after.
Do not jiggle or toss him around immediately after eating.

You need to watch out for signs that he's full:- Like if he stops sucking, removes his mouth and turns away his head persistently.

You can try expressing & bottle feeding so you can figure out how much he eats, then take it from there.

Crying & turning his head left & right after feeding might be for other reasons like sleep, heat, wet diaper, urge to poop, colic etc and not necessarily food.

I always burp him and when he doesn't his grandma carries him uprightly until he wakes up..Lol.

I have done the expressing thing and fed him the milk with cup and spoon at some point he stopped taking it.

Giddyperson:

Try to hold her still and in a head up position for like 10 mins after feeding, don't dance or move her too vigorously. I think it has more to do with the size of their stomachs. Or you could take frequent breaks in between feeds where you just make her sit up for a minute before you continue feeding.

Why was she admitted for 5 days tho, they only kept my baby overnight cuz they thought it was an infection and when the result of her blood work came out clear the next day we were discharged.

As for the colic thing, it's just a phase that's going to pass, your baby can handle it. Don't let yourself get frustrated, what I usually do is to google her symptoms, if you do you would find so many mums that have been in the exact same situation and it kinda helps you feel better.

Takin breaks in between feeds to burp him is like war as he will keep crying and pulling my cloth.

The first blood work we had the White blood cell count was low and after two days it rose but was still within normal range plus he had fever for a day. The paediatrician suggested that we place him on antibiotics 12hrly. The vomiting became better though

For the colic I have been giving him Infacol,I can't even say if it's working sef. Thanks so much

enque:


From my experience, my daughter takes her mouth off the breast once she is filled and even if u put it bk, d best she'll do is just lick my nip.ple...so that's how I figured she is OK.
U need to watch ur baby for certain signs when he has had enough but I think most babies do the same thing.

As for the poop, check the consistency of the poop... As long is it isn't watery or has mucus, then I think he is fine.

U can read this link for detailed info on baby poop
https://www.babycenter.com/0_baby-poop-a-complete-guide_10319333.bc

Take it easy ma'am, u n ur son are doing great.
Congrats and kisses your LO.

Thanks for your prompt response. My son never takes his mouth off my breast,like I have to practically drag my nipples out sometimes. He just wants to keep sucking and sometimes he throws it up.

The consistency of his poop is quite normal.

Hey mamas,my son is about 1month old. He throws up Everytime he over feeds and I really do not know how to control the quantity of breast milk he takes in. Sometimes when I feel he has had enough he just keeps crying and turning his head left and right in the most pitiable manner,when I give him more I get the whole breast milk on my cloth. I have been the hospital on 2 occasions we were placed on admission for 5days and he was given antibiotics.

I am really worried because I wonder how he will put on weight with this habit. He also poops say after 2 episodes of breastfeeding,the paediatrician says it is normal though. I am a ftm,I am getting very frustrated with all these. The colic thing isn't helping matters too

So I am wondering if anyone has had same experience,let me know how it was resolved. PLEASE MAMAS HELP ME Ooooo

Hey Mama's,I have been in peeping mode all this while. I have learnt a whole lot from this thread. Due date April 30th but opting for an ELCS scheduled next week.
Please has anyone used Angel baby soap,how good is it? Thanks

Be very careful Nne,that guy can lie for Africa.

I am married to a man too that is always busy. I used to complain bitterly before coupled with when he is so stressed up with work he goes to a joint with his friends to take alcohol and comes back home say 9pm.

How I solved the problem;
-I stopped complaining,any day I am offduty and he comes back home I make sure there is food for him to eat.
-I stopped disturbing his phone with calls. I just allow him galavant and come home to a very cheerful wife.
-I learnt how to put on the generator as I see that is what gets me really pissed when he isn't around,as I will be very bored probably with low battery too. Before he comes home I am already enjoying a movie and laughing very loud.
-Those days when I go to work I don't hurry home o,I take my time too in the office and before I get back home he is already home and would be calling and calling my phone to know where I have gotten to as my work place is quite far from home.
-Weekends I playfully encourage him to work from home that I won't disturb him with gist.
-Pray and pray and pray,I have seen it work wonders in my marriage. My hubby is also a very stubborn person,he isn't even somebody you can report to his parents. With prayers I can say I have been able to hold him at a place.

Good luck dear.

sunvick:
I will feel so betrayed. If you can hide such from me, then there are more you are hiding. It also shows that there is trust issues in the family.

Did you understand the OP at all Her husband hasn't given them room to discuss about their finances. He doesn't want her to know how much he has,so why should she let him know how much she has in the bank? My marriage is also less than 1yr,my husband and I have never discussed my money,he asks for list of stuffs we need at home at the end of the month and gives me the money,he gives me money to make my hair e.t.c. Recently we are searching for a bigger apartment,the ones we have seen so far are quite beyond his budget, I volunteered to complete the money and he refused saying it is his duty to take care of me. He says always that I should save my money for our future...lol. Some men are not interested in however their wives decide to spend their money,he made a promise to her family to take care of her,that he should fulfill not minding how much she has in the bank.

princessKF:

I'm sorry to Chip in but sometimes morning sickness during pregnanCy Can be severe, for the first four months I had to leave my job becos I couldn't even come down from my bed unassisted not to talk of having my bath or going to work yes it was that severe. I was so weak that I couldn't stand thank God I have a supporting DH.... it was not easy, I thought of abortion (God save my soul) if not that we've been trying. I was so frustrated becos I couldn't Do basic things for myself not to talk of working. So u never can tell how severe her MS is. Let mr thorpido update the house before we judge her.

Sorry dear

thorpido:
@bolded,pregnancies are different and bodies are too.I'm not absolving her of blame here but just to point out that two people can't compare pregnancies.

I understand two bodies are different,mine is as severe as my not being able to keep down food. So what do I do? Resign from work? Go on 3 or 4months leave without pay? What of bankers faced with morning sickness? You just keep patching until that phase passes. This is my first pregnancy and everyday I wake up feeling like somebody else.

Onegai I really want to commend your efforts

I like giving real life experiences o,Moji you think morning sickness should stop you from looking for a job? Really I am faced with that at the moment and I still work. I leave home at 5:25am and get back home by 9pm most of the days and I still prepare the food I will take to work the next day amidst my ill health.

You think you are too young at 26yrs and we should all pity you? I am 26yrs old too,no decision is taken in my father's house if I am not consulted even though I am married. I made myself that relevant....

It isn't too late to pick up the pieces of your life,if we don't love you I am sure nobody will spend time advicing you on this thread. I believe you can be a better person,I believe you can work and be able to cater for yourself,your son and your unborn child.

I hope you have begged your mum as I adviced in my previous post. I am sure she will help provide you with little money you can use to register your son in a school while you go out and hustle... People will laugh at you but it will only be for a while and they will get tired of your gist and look for another one.

Moji,you are the architect of your problem,so don't pour your frustration out on anybody. We are here to help you.