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omenka:
Here we go. Smh.

I'm afraid I'm not going anywhere with you Mr.

Well it does seem like the short chubby man is trying too hard to please.

But it remains to be seen how he intends to play this game to his advantage.

donstan18:
People of Ebonyi are fake Igbos.

And exactly how do you determine that, Mr fake Igbo?

Chiefochiefo:
You're still a bachelor naw. What do u know divorce ur husband naw, only you will live. Then watch that ur cousin get married and enjoy her marriage. Apply common sense.

I never even said anything about divorce. I'm only shocked by the suggestion to uphold the mans denial even if he did it.

If anything at all, the lady shld try to establish the truth first. And whatever move she makes next is entirely up to her.

cococandy:
Absolutely insane.

First of all, a husband is not a necessity. Especially if it’s one that sleeps with other people and even worse your relations. A good husband is a great thing to have. Anything less than that is not beneficial to any woman.

I don’t know who’s filling y’alls heads with nonsense but a single woman is better than one with a bad husband.

Your post is actually very disgusting in case you don’t know. Marriage is definitely not a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship. That’s why people who intend to keep their homes should not be sleeping with their spouses relatives.

You would not be very enthusiastic to advice your fellow man to keep his marriage if his wife gets impregnated by his family member.
You use people’s family issues that they bring on NL to further your evil agenda. Please stop.

Well looking at it from another angle, I want to believe the issue of rearing the kids may be the reason why most women stay. So they would rather endure the pain and anguish of being with the adulterous partner than divorce because they don't have the wherewithal. Thats why women should struggle more to be financially independent even up to a point. Its important.

chronique:
What type of irresponsible husband without self respect, goes about sleeping with his wife's niece? And even had to sleep with her without condom? You married a foolish man and what you are dealing with now, is the consequence of being with a foolish person. If he must flirt, are there no ladies outside? Why go so low to sleep with your wife's niece?

Because she is very close to him. He lacks self control.

Chiefochiefo:
Don't believe all these small small girls o, if not you'll have issues with ur marriage. Her mission maybe coming to eat that tin you're proud of or just to scatter ur home. Be wise woman! Believe ur husband, support ur husband even if it's true so far ur husband keeps denying it. Don't blame us. This d reason my wife don't accept long visit from a woman, even her sisters. Though sometimes am not too happy with that. It looks she don't trust me. But the mata be say anything can still happen. Handle this matter with wisdom woman.

Did you just say she should support her husband even if its true but provided he still denies it?

Chai. Chineke nna!!!!

Your type makes me sick to the stomach. This is foolish to say the least

purples25:
I never told her not to ' make haste ', go for it or whatever. The message here is that she does it with sense.

Why do you indulge that mofo?

ericsmith:
You're so toxic & full of negativity , are you insinuating there are no online r/ship that resulted into marriage,it makes absolute no sense to just make conclusions like that.
No matter the certificate or wealth a woman gather, it can never feel the vacuum a family will fill in her life.
That you went thru hell, now you are old, single & miserable does not mean you should spread ur bitterness to the young ones ... let OP make haste while the sunshines so that she won't endup like you.

Oga take a seat pls. You know nothing at all. I see how you are propagating and encouraging premarital sex like your life depends on it. Whose business is that? Have all the sex you want who the hell cares? But just don't encourage ppl copy your sinful reckless lifestyle pls.

Heaven helps those that helps themselves? Seriously, niqqa? By that I suppose you are encouraging the young girl to travel interstate to have sex with strangers she met online? Do you ppl even have any sense? Will you encourage a relative of yours to engage in this reckless behaviour?

You are busy defending premarital sex because that seems to be the only you have working for you. Shame on you man.

Acidosis:
It's a very s!lly move to visit a guy you haven't established a proper relationship with. "Come to my house, come to my house" is another way of saying "come have sex, come have freaking sex!"

And who is to say she doesn't want it? I mean look at her frustration, man.

Oyindidi:
You are eager to lose your virginity

The one she has lost? Or another?��

GraGra247:
Did you even listen to me. The guy has no business coming to see your mom till he's ready to start the marriage process.

He should get himself a hotel room in town to spend his nights. You only go to see him at an eatery around your area and discuss with him and find out everything about him.

The rest other discussions can be on whatsapp chat till he's ready to bring his people and come and officially see your parents.

The only avenue he has to physically meet with you is in an eatry till he sees your parents with his family members and formalize his intent.

Sorry sir but you are preaching to the choir.

This 24 year old girl wants regular penis, nothing more.

That's what she is ready to risk her young life going up and down to meet strangers with all the news flying around.

GrabHisBalls:
You sound immature though, and certainly not even ready for a serious relationship. Note, maturity is not in age.

How on earth would you expect your mum and dad to just let you go off with some random guy called a boyfriend? The introduction sef is disrespectful and if you were my child, let me reserve my comment.

You're a lady and men will only respect you when you respect yourself. Those guys who run don't run 'cause your parents are holding you down, they do so 'cause every of their moves will be accounted for since they already know your parents/would be meeting them.

You crave so much for disappearing for a long time with a guy and it's not a good thing. I am older than you by a few years, was once monitored 24/7, all movements must be accounted for and I can tell you that in my house, you don't sleep out without anyone knowing your whereabout. Of course, you can't tell my mum or oldest brother you want to go spend a night/more in a guy's house. They don't even want to hear you have a boyfriend, but they somehow knew I did when I was seeing someone. All my life, the only telling I did was when I was formerly proposed to, though, it later didn't work out. The few occasions I've had to disappear was from school for 3days even as an adult, they must not hear of it. Like 2yrs ago, my eldest bro wanted to know whom I was dating, but I refused and ignored his enquiries with smiles, telling him to leave me alone 'cause I hate disappointments. I have a self-con to myself, I have independence and I have one or two places to go to for sleepovers, but I don't bug. You can never see me outside my house by 8 for security reasons. I don't expect you to be me, but I think you're complaining about irrelevance for now. Lastly, the only man you should introduce to your parents is the one ready to marry you.

She doesn't know all this. In my opinion she is missing sex so much that she is not thinking clearly and sensibly at all. Because if you look at her complaints clearly you will know that what she wants to do is meet someone she can be having sex with on a regular.

GraGra247:
ifemide123, PLEASE NEVER GO TO VISIT A STRANGER YOU MET ONLINE.

I repeat again NEVER!!

Rather let him come visit you and meet with you at an eatery in your area.

Go and see him in the eatry in the company of a friend that will wait for you somewhere in the same eatry.

Even with all the serial killings that happened in Port Harcourt you girls won't still learn.

The love for penis is obviously clouding her judgement but she will soon learn the hard way. Young ppl always thinking they know more than their parents. Silly

onlinetomola:
That's so serious.... I think there are some parents like that . They're always think they are doing the proper thing but too much of everything is also bad. Although not every parents would be happy or understand when you told them you want to visit your lover you met online. Its crazy really but it's really not matter anymore. You really need an elderly person (May be your Pastor) to help you talk to them and you needs to be talk to also. You ain't young anymore and by the time you gets to 28 when you are over due for marriage and no man in your life then they'ill starts praying and going from one mountain to the other one. That's how some ladies are still single at 30 and above till date.

With all due respect sir will you shut the hell up cos you are making no sense at all.

So in your words, she should get her pastor to persuade her parents to allow her jump on a bus to travel interstate to see a man she met online?

Something is fundamentally wrong with this generation. Stupidity is one of them.

Ifemide123:
I'm really sad about this. I have a shop I run here so except I get a good job outside our town I can't just leave. The best bet is to rent a place and stay on my own but No! I am not married so why should a single lady live alone in same town with her parents? Yet they won't give me the freedom I should have. I can't stay beyond 7 outside, I can't visit a boyfriend in his own town too.

Madam what exactly do you think you are missing in life? SEX? Why do you think you know more than your parents? They are traditional folks, why do you want to reinvent the wheel? Why are you eager to jump on a bus and start running around shopping for penis? Don't you have common sense? Is that how much you love sex? Can't you masturbate? OK, in that shop that you operate, you mean you don't meet ppl there? Who patronizes you?

Let me tell you, don't be too fast to try some foolish means of "escaping" from your parents cos it might not end well for you and thats not a curse. Your parents want the best for you but as a penis addict that you are, you are too blind to see it. Calm down. Any man that truly wants to marry you and not just to fvck you, will find their way to your state. And it can start from there.

My 2 pennies.

laivwire:
Who knows how many victims have passed on because the ambulances that were supposed to get them to the medical help in time were sitting idle rotting away in a greeeedy politician’s compound.

Since 2016 for godsake!!

I was convinced I didnt have it. Yet for some strange reason I still felt quite uneasy. But i got the result and truly it was negative.

But I still don't feel safe cos the one I ran was the one they use a strip with bands. Shld I be worried.

I said this earlier

Apus:
No offense, you sound unintelligent. Your comeback showed You didn't even understand what he typed.

Check out her moniker. Does it even make any sense?

Guest007:
Women take time to warm up to a man... It's not chasing it's courting.

Women are slow cookers and men are microwaves. This means it takes a woman time to get comfortable and to observe the man, before choosing him and if you don't want to give them that time then...

If you run from every woman who doesn't jump at the chance of dating you then you're setting yourself up for...

Women are not like men and if this granddad knew anything about women and relationships then...

FP doesn't pay

Thoughtless comment as usual.

Obodo999:
You are right. Women can be useful for many things other than sex

BARELY.

ladyGKilaBCrueD:
ok so you saying that you'd rather chase kids or randy guys? bro you're either a peterfile or gay

I think he is saying Shut up

ashewoboy:
nice guys eats the remnants of pvssies. bad guys eats the pvssy when it is at its freshest.

At the end all are still pvssies. And none sticks on your dyke to the graves.

This nonsense talk is overflogged and stale pls. Let's talk about sth else.

maleekfrenzy:
Which one is every year. Stop carrying false rumors. It's only Medical students that pay 700k and it commenced just this year. So this is the first year.

700k for what? Concessional fee?

Samolaogun:
Like I said she has always been self centred. Always been about her looks. My wife is beautiful and when you marry beautiful girls I thought that was the package that came with it, nobody is perfect. It was manageable at first, but after the kids arrived it’s like she felt tied down and she wanted to just live her life. It’s not today this problem has started, it’s been happening for years. I’ve tried everything to tame her but you cannot tame a wild beast. Only thing left is to report her to her mother, but her mother is a replica of my wife. That is how her father died before his time, I cannot allow that to be my case. When you are too understanding or calm with women, they take advantage and misbehave. For my own peace of mind I have decided to let go, I no longer want to be involved. I cannot have a women parading as an ashewo in my house making a mockery of me. I’ve reached my boiling point.

Gbam! Then go ahead and follow thru with your decision. Waiting for her to just change overnight is just postponing the evil day. Tell her you are done and watch what happens.

mysticgal:
Okay, firstly, you don’t really know what is happening right in that home. His dress sexy and all could be my Mary Amaka, so chill

Secondly, Oga saw this at first and did nothing about it beside he was avoiding marrying an evening newspaper. See with every gift comes a wrapper. He should honestly bear his cross

So madam all this your bitterness is because the man didnt marry an evening newspaper? Hmm.

Be that as it may, the deed is already done and he needs a way out. And you are saying he should carry his cross? And possibly die of heart attack? Will you say this same thing to a family member of yours going thru the same thing? Human beings! Nawao.

Mikeiron78:
Based on the information provided, you seem to be insecure for one reason; You are way too older than her and you're scared of not being able to keep up with her and eventually losing her to a younger guy. That's life.

So because he is older than her she should live a wayward lifestyle in his house? You people disgust me with your thoughtless comments.

nunnu:
You are just a sick and insecure bastard.

And you are a senseless and imbecilic nonentity!!!

Samolaogun:
Oga my problem is not her looking good as you can see I praised her for it.

My problem is her scandalous behaviour, partying every minute, too friendly behaviour and extreme seductive dressing. No man will be comfortable with such behaviour. As it is, I just want her out of the house. Do not envy what is shallow, as you see me so I’m dreaming of a quiet decent woman who will give me peace of mind over this scandalous show off wife that I have at the moment. Be careful what you wish for.

My brother, honestly some people are just so senseless in this world. Bear with them. I'm pained for you for bringing this kind of painful situation on a forum like this that is rife with juveniles with zero experience about how life works. At best, what you will get are nothing but uninformed, inexperienced and distorted advice and suggestions from single folks that can't tell their right from left.
Pls bro, for your mental health sake.. Tell her in strong terms that you plan to separate from her if she doesn't change. And follow thru with your word.
As for now, just rest assured that she might likely not change since she believes she has tasted the elixir..hence there is no going back.
Brace up for any eventuality in the coming days as they may be very unpleasant for you. But at the end of the day you have to choose between two pains: the temporal pain of break up OR the perpetual pain of being reduced to nothing by the supposed love of your life. Peace sir.

donstan18:
This is insecurity at its peak since you're yet to catch her.

Or maybe, just maybe, you have very good reason to think and feel the way you are feeling because there are some flirty activities that is expected of a married Nigerian to quit or reduce.


But in my opinion bruv, I'll advice you to reduce the way you stalk her phone and life and focus on how to train your kids, before you die of HBP, because you never complained of her inability to contribute on the welfare of your kids, you are just uncomfortable with her Slaying life . Stop stalking her so that you don't find out what you've been longing to see. If possible; Start slaying too.

Not all women are ready to turn to an old mgbeke because of marriage, some like looking good and you should be happy you have one because they are few.

This your comment shows you Know NOTHING about marriage!!!

Just look at this trashy talk from so called "intellectual". Chai