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There are some questions you ought to have answered before getting into Marriage.
Listen to Mercy Mordi as she explains these questions and answers


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A 32-Year-Old Ugandan lady called Lulu Jemimah got married to herself. True love and Relationships learnt that with just $2.62 she was able to get married to herself.

Her decision to marrying herself was as a result of parental pressure. Jemimah made the decision to marry herself in other to concentrate in her studies as a Master’s degrees student at Oxford University, England.

Her wedding only cost her $2.62, the amount she spent on transportation to the venue of the wedding. Her friend hired the wedding gown for her as a birthday present, her brother baked her wedding cake and the guests all paid for their individual bills at the bar where the ceremony took place. However, it is not clear whether the wedding was done by a religious minister or not.

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“My father wrote my wedding speech when I turned 16. Every birthday, my mother prays for me and in recent years this has included a plea for a good husband. Someone to take care of me. I decided to put them all at ease. I got married on my 32nd birthday to the one person I am certain will take care of me.” She said.




She did the wedding on her Birthday in company of some friends who wished her happy married life and Happy Birthday.

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He asked me if I would go home that Christmas (this was around August that year). Of course I was always home for Christmas.
He said, "I think it will be the best time to see your people" - finish.

Then that same Christmas period, 28th December, 2005, his father sent for me. He told me he was not happy his son, a Master's Degree holder of Pharmacology, was taking a wife, and of all ladies in the world, he was going for a girl with only WAEC. He was blunt! I love Mayor for his bluntness.

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He went ahead to tell me that he had tried to make his son change his mind yet it was fruitless. So, he was going to give me his own conditions: His daughter-in-law to be must be a graduate. No excuses will be entertained for not going to a University.

Within me, I was like, ''calm down, Sir. That was my own pre-condition for marriage too "Ndi ebeke anyi si, kwam na egbe ama, evele, ahu nde pu aturu" (Nigerian Language). Heaven just delivered a deal signed from the foundation of the world. Then, he told me to go tell my people they were coming on January 1st.

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By January 1, 2006, yours sincerely set out on a beautiful journey. We're still at the preamble of it, fourteen years on and making the best of it.

Each time I told my husband that he didn't make a proper proposal, he told me to go back to my father's house, so he could come and do it. Naughty somebody. He thinks I don't know his wicked plans. I'm not going anywhere! Lols.

You see those arranged social media proposals, some of those marriages start having issues from the day of proposal. Either the guy didn't use the exact words the lady preferred or the lady's response wasn't so romantic and wahala begins to follow them.

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The beauty and success of your marriage doesn't depend on the kind of ring used, the hotel where the pre-wedding ceremony took place, the kind of suit or wedding gown or even whether CNN or BBC carried it. It is garbage in, garbage out. Whatever you put in comes out for you. Lastly, marriage is what you make of it.

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The first thing most women do when they get into an argument with their men is to call, SMS or chat up their female friends (bestie) or family. The moment anger emerges, they feel like letting out. And the most preferred person(s) they wish to talk to is that "bestie" who will definitely take your side in the issue, possibly listens and contribute.
Falling into this bait is very affordable especially when the relationship is new and hence you feel you need the approval or disapproval of your "besties". You want everyone of them to like him, you want them to tell you that you picked a good man. You want them to tell you "he's cute and handsome, caring and loving. Whether she's your best friend, mom, or sister, you get peace of mind from being able to vent to them about an argument that happened with him. Talking it out with them helps you get your head on straight and gain more clarity before going back to your man and then actually dealing with the situation. But really, how much is that actually serving you and your relationship with him?
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Indeed, your girls "besties" wants the best for you, they love you, they are concerned etc. But there are some reasons I might want you to have a re-think before sharing with them again.
Every woman has a different outlook on men and relationships as a result of their own personal experiences, but your outlook is different, and the only one that matters in your relationship is your own outlook.
Maybe your bestie has been your best friend since primary or secondary school, maybe she knows everything about you, and maybe she’s that person you admire her attitude and lifestyle whose opinion you respect a lot. But, if she’s single or if she’s in an unhappy relationship, definitely her opinions might sway you in a different direction than you would have gone if you hadn’t asked for her opinion. Even if she means well, if she’s unhappy in her own relationship, or if she’s subconsciously feeling left out because she’s single, there’s a chance she might have a biased outlook on men and relationships in general. Or, she might have underlying negative feelings towards men. The result of all of this will come out in the way she talks to you about your relationship.
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She might be the type who always talk about how all men only want one thing, how they’re all cheaters, liars, etc. If you’ve got women like this running in your circle of friends, it’s possible that you’re more likely to start having those same thought patterns.
Your "Bestie" influences your decision
Another thing to look at is whether or not you have fair weathered friends in your circle. It’s not pretty, but jealousy happens. It’s human nature. But pay attention, because a jealous friend, whether they have malicious intent or not might not always be looking at your needs first, their main concern might be what makes them feel best.
There is another reason you shouldn’t involve your "bestie" or family members in your relationship. Be it when the relationship is just fresh or when you guys are married. In reality, people get into arguments, people mess up, and sometimes your partner will let you down. You have to accept that as a part of life. Your partner is not going to be perfect all the time. It’s impossible for things to be "peace like a river" all the time.
It is not only disrespectful to your guy, but disrespectful to your relationship. A woman who took pride in her relationship wouldn’t go around telling everyone the details of an argument she had. It lowers the value of your relationship. Your relationship is something precious that you should protect and honor, not a hot topic of entertainment. It’s also disrespectful to him. I would even take it so far as to say that some men look at this as a form of betrayal.




Your "Bestie" will always take your side.
But when you go gist your issues to your "bestie", sister and your mom, they’re always likely going to look at the situation from your side (and besides, you will only tell them what he did wrong, you will find it difficult to say where you went wrong), because they’re your circle and family and they never want to see you hurting, no matter whose “fault” it is. Their opinion will almost always be biased. You’re better off sticking to telling them the good stuff about your partner rather than the bad stuff.
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It is Disrespectful telling your "Bestie".
If you often find yourself discussing issues within your relationship to anyone other than your partner, try keeping things private for a few weeks and see if your relationship improves in any way. I strongly believe it will. Give it a try. Keep your friends and family out of it and you will see it lasting a long while.
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Research couples have Proven that our relationships with our earliest caretakers have a powerful impact on our romantic relationships. For most of us, our mothers were an important part of our early environment and are key to how we relate in our romantic relationships today.

How does your relationship with your mom impact your romantic relationships?
First, it affects who you are attracted to.
People tend to be drawn toward partners who are "familiar" and who psychologically resemble their parents in some way, whether for good or for bad.
And once you’re in a committed couple relationship, you tend to repeat the relationship dance that you learned from your mother. You likely repeat both the behaviors she modeled for you and the ways she conditioned you to behave in relation to her. This can be displayed unconsciously.

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Some leading couple researchers have found that old traumas and unresolved issues from childhood can get triggered in the intimate attachment of the couple relationship. This can cause significant distress in a couple's relationship until the issues are addressed.

If you have a mostly positive relationship with your mother:
First off, celebrate! You are a lucky person indeed. The quality of your relationship with your mother can greatly affect your sense of security and well-being in adulthood, especially for women. If you're blessed to have a caring mother who respects your boundaries, you are more likely to thrive and feel well in your life, and your couple relationship is likely to have also benefited from this stability.




Next, consider the ways that your mom has positively affected your life. Connect to a sense of gratitude for the great gift she has given you. You may want to convey to her your appreciation for the job she has done. Then acknowledge any negatives. No parent can possibly be perfect. Even though your mother has been great, don't deny any aspects of her mothering that may have inadvertently affected you negatively or that may be playing out in your romantic relationship.

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If you have a more difficult relationship with your mother:
If this is the case then it is much more likely that you have struggled with difficulties in your dating or couple relationships. Old wounds may be leading you to react negatively to your partner, causing conflict. Or perhaps you pick partners who are needy because you were often a caretaker for your mother. Maybe you are stuck in an unhealthy pattern with your mother today, creating stress in your relationship with your partner. Or maybe your mom wasn’t safe, so you shut down to protect yourself and prevent closeness with your partner.
It is crucial that you work toward your own healing. Addressing these issues head on usually helps improve your couple relationship, and it’s also good for your own health and well-being.



How to Heal:
1. Work on yourself: Reading, meditation and yoga are all excellent modalities for releasing negative emotions and connecting to the authentic, powerful part of yourself.

2. Self-care: Be the mother to yourself that you wish she could have been. Eat well. Exercise. Get enough sleep. Treat yourself to a massage or a nice, hot bath. The better shape you are in, the better a partner you'll be to your significant other.

3. Self-help reading: Read books about couple relationship skills and gather new ideas about how to strengthen your romantic relationship or dating habits.

Finally, consider how this important relationship has affected your life. Celebrate the riches of your relationship with your mom and assess what you might need to heal or what you want to change. You may also want to reflect on the kind of mother you want to be if you have children of your own.



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"We must do this"!!! he shouted at me.
I was left in confusion , was still calm, trying to figure out what came over him.
"Listen, you got no excuse today, it'd been a year and we must do this today" he barked. Then I began to understand what he meant.

"I thought we've settled this issue already, why are you acting this way" was all I could utter before I heard the statement that left me bewildered.
"If you are not ready to do this, then its over, we're breaking up" He said with his face looking furious, unapproachable and anger written all over. I tried calming him down, attempting to change his mind, reminding him of the principles we've set and our dreams of having a beautiful family in future, all I was doing seemed futile, as the atmosphere was still full of tension.

He stood to his feet, gave me that pessimistic look, drew me closer and said "I am not joking, I mean every single word I said earlier, I still repeat, it is either you choose to give me what I want this very moment and make me a happy man or its over between us"
I wasn't myself any longer, I was gasping for breath, I was seeing my long time dream of having a beautiful future with him fading right before me, I love him so much, he means so much to me.
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If is should ask, Can you spot a good relationship?
Of course nobody knows what really goes on between any couple, but findings and experiences into love, sex and relationships have taught that a number of behaviors can predict when a couple is firm and strong or headed for troubled waters.

Good relationships don’t happen overnight. They take commitment, compromise, forgiveness and most of all — effort.
Falling in love is the easy part of the adventure. The challenge for couples is not in the beginning, but how to rekindle the fires of romance from time to time and cultivate while maintaining the mature, trusting love that is the hallmark of a lasting relationship. READ MORE https://trueloveandrelationships..com/2020/06/how-to-build-better-relationship.html

It was a sunny afternoon. Thrilled by curiosity and adventure, I decided to pay a visit to Abakaliki Rice Mill Market.

Abakaliki Rice Mill Market is one of the largest Rice Mills in Nigeria. Noted for being one of the highest producers of Rice in the country. It is located in Abakaliki, Ebonyi State Nigeria.

After spying through the very busy RICE Milling area, I then moved to where all the "dust" (chaff) are stored....Read more: https://trueloveandrelationships..com/2020/05/my-experience-at-abakaliki-rice-mill.html

"We must do this"!!! he shouted at me.
I was left in confusion , was still calm, trying to figure out what came over him.
"Listen, you got no excuse today, it'd been a year and we must do this today" he barked. Then I began to understand what he meant.

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"I thought we've settled this issue already, why are you acting this way" was all I could utter before I heard the statement that left me bewildered.
"If you are not ready to do this, then its over, we're breaking up" He said with his face looking furious, unapproachable and anger written all over. I tried calming him down, attempting to change his mind, reminding him of the principles we've set and our dreams of having a beautiful family in future, all I was doing seemed futile, as the atmosphere was still full of tension...Read more https://trueloveandrelationships..com/2020/05/tears-of-virgin-pledge-to-virtue.html

you're not far from the truth. i just read a lad's personal experience this morning too. https://trueloveandrelationships..com/2020/05/tears-of-virgin-pledge-to-virtue.html

Lols.
its not a scam. even this morning i stumbled on post where a lady was giving her real life experience about this subject. people still practice it.

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This is similar to the subject. i ended up feeling sorry for what our ladies go through in the hands of "boyfriend"

https://realmejames..com/2020/05/my-experience-at-abakaliki-rice-mill.html

Have you ever visited Abakaliki Rice mill where the rice we eat is produced in Nigeria? or have you visited the Chaff hill at the mill?

This is to bringing you closer. click to read more

In some cases, the man is the victim
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The Answer is just explained in this blog

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Well,
your may be right in some essence though.
She appreciates you because you have satisfied a urge. This is why a woman will seek a divorce because the husband has refused to satisfy that same urge.

Click the link below to read my article of a real life story of some who do not even understand the value of it.

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