@Sexkillz, double tuale for you!!! you have spoken well
@Donday, don't try too hard, just let it flow. Be friends with the gal(s) first without introducing relationship talks. That way you'll know who is who and separate the wheat from the chaff

not to give excuses fro him, but he may be trying to avoid temptation by getting too close to his gf, and he knows nothing can happen between he ans his female friends cos he feels nothing for them

In this case, i don't think she's telling a lie. the gal is actually the one i'm closer too and i know wot she and the guy have been thru together.

I have a friend with the same issue. His gf was old the same thing by 3 different pastors at different times. Mind you, she didn't go in search of these prophecies, they came to her. In such situation, can one doubt how true those prophecies are?

@poster, there's no point going ahead with the marriage. You've punished her enough already, marrying her will be an even greater punishment. But the question still remains, why on earth did u go this far when you knew she didn't meet up with the standards you wanted in a wife?? Its been said before, you need forgiveness!!! Remember, what goes around comes around. I hope all nairaland guys learn from this.

@poster, maybe you have too many expectations when in the relationships and when the girl doesn't meet up with one, you 'fall out of love'. Love is a decision and not a feeling so you just can't fall in and fall out as you wish. Take some time off girls, focus on yourself and itemize what you want in a future partner. Never be in a hurry to ask a girl out. Be her friend first and see if she has what you need. Remember, you are not perfect so don't expect your girlfriend to be perfect!

I won't say my maths teachers were bad, infact they were pretty good. I kinda have a low attention span and just never got the hang of it, though i was in a science class. I aslo felt that most of what i was learning was irrelevant to life in general. After school, i was scared that i'll never pass an aptitude test to get a job cos if ny hatred for maths!

@poster, the question is are you really ready to start a relationship, or you just want to do so so as not to feel left out? As a guy, i assume you know what you are looking for in a partner. If all those girls don't meet up with what you want, then so be it (though there is room for flexibility). Just don't go down on your standards to please anybody, you'll only end up being miserable. and lastly remember that Love is a decision and not a feeling. When the right person comes your way, you'll know

Ehen na.
But wait, r u implying that she looks old? I'm actually 2 yrs older than she is

Look at me nah, i'm very cute!!

for some reason, all the annoying pple mentioned have have become rather silent on this post, which is rather unusual! are they sitting somewhere reflecting on their lives or what?

@OP, nuttin do u mehn! i'm sure some of dem beefers wish they were like u. jsut keeep being u and if anybody has a problem wiv u, tell em to go hug a transformer under d rain!!!

Though men are naturally physical beings, they also have an emotional responsibility as far as their wives/girlfriends are concerned. Any other man can provide to a woman's physical need and that doesn't necessarily signify love. If i man must be in a relationship, he must be ready to shoulder his emotional responsibility. if not, let him just stay single!

@Sexkillz, i agree with you 100%. its a pity that the world we're in has become so perverted, such that abnormalities have become normal!! consequently, what ought to be considered as ideal is now seen as absurd. smh

the poster said KALABARI (a tribe in Rivers State) and not CALABAR!!! they are very different.
@poster, sorry can't help you with this. All the best anyways

My hairy face!!! geez shaving is such a pain. all dem bumps are seriously dulling my swag.(though funny enuf pple still think i'm 3 years younger than my age, wonder what i'd look like if i had no facial hair) wish i could get a permanent solution to the hairs, infact on most parts of my body!!

3 years younger, older, heck no!

When my brother was still in the university some 7 years ago, he saw Frank twice with one of his course mates both on campus (in her hostel room) and at the cinemas. He's been cheating on his wife for a long time!!!

That archaic statement could actually be looked upon in a different way. Women bring life. So no women, no life! So women, thumbs up to you all

I'm totally averse to pre-marital sex so most definately pregnancy before marriage is a huge no-no in my books. There really isn't any guarantee taht a lady would get married to the guy she gets pregnant for!

My brother finished with a 1st class, got a distinction at masters level, won an award, and is presently pursuing his phd. even if he did runs here in 9ja, he definately couldn't have done runs in the UK where he got his masters. so yes, its very possible to get a 1st class on your own. all 1st class graduated that i know are actually very brilliant and they deserved their grades

@poster, to make things easier for u, don't ask the gals out immediately. get to know them as friends first, from there you'll get to know those things u can't tolerate. That saves u d hassle of breaking up, and there'll be no broken hearts involved

@Poster, no need feeling too bad with yourself. just take life easy. I'll say we're kinda similar. I'm 25 and i've never been in a relationship before (though i'm working on that now). Never ventured into one because i felt i wasn't ready to handle it. relationships require maturity (mentally, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and off course, financially!). many pple don't allow themselves mature b4 jumping in and out of relationships.

Check yourself and see if you are really ready to handle a relationship, or u just want to enter one because you are tired of pple calling you names (i've been there several times). when u r truly ready, your mind and body will tell u. The most important thing is to make the gal your friend first, then you'll know if you're compatible or not. The rest will flow quite easily

The question is what is your main motive? If its your girlfriend, then you are likely going to continue eventually. What happens if for some other reason you two break up? she'll no longer be there to breath down your head about drinking, and at that point you'll have all the freedom in the world to drink yourself to stupor. If you are going to stop drinking, let it be because you now realise the implications it has both physically and spiritually.

The first step is to decide (for the right reason). Don't want to get too religious here but the truth is you really need to pray about this. get someone around you that's responsible and obviously doesn't drink to be accountable to. this person would monitor you from time to time and remind you whenever you pick a bottle. If possible paste your new resolution on the walls in your room as a constant reminder and tell everybody around you. Being successful with your new resolution may involve changing your friends.

Note that its going to be very rough, and would take time to get used to, but think about the immense benefits you'll get from this in the long run. All the best

I'll never allow myself to be made a fool of! a brotha gots his pride intact

@Poster, don't allow any gal weigh you down. Just keep being yourself, your ideal partner is somewhere out there. Just wait for her patiently. I'm a virgin too and i've been dissed abt it several times but i dont give 2 flips wot anyone has to say abt it!

the issue of pregnancy won't come up at all if all guys learn to keep it locked in or at worst, cover it up!

A man who stands for nothing will fall for everything! Stick to your principles but be a bit flexible. I have similar principles about relantionships too and my friends have concluded that i have 'no game' simple because they haven't seen me identify someone as my girlfriend. I consider it a waste of time dating someone i know i can't marry from the onset