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kentozybee:
both but partially Fr d fear of God

Firstly, if the fear of God is your reason, then that should be your driving force. Will giving in to your gf's demand really show that you have any form of fear and reverence for God?

Secondly, you're just 19! you really have greater priorities than gf and sex issues.

Get wisdom and let God guide you

kentozybee:
I and my gf were virgins, she told me she is tired of keeping her virginity dat her friends are making jest of her,she said she feels like a small gal among them.I can't stand d sight of her giving her virginity to another man, I want to b d first but we r both scared.She also stressed dat she is proud of it Bt nw wants to get rid of it. Pls should I go ahead or I should let her give it to someone else, opinions please nd I am serious about this

One question: What's the reason you have remained a virgin for this long? Fear of God or lack of opportunity?

One cardinal rule when attending an event: NEVER GO ON EMPTY STOMACH!!

Yungwizzzy:
[b] Please, this is serious I'm a 300l student of AAU I met this girl in one of our UCCF service, I liked her and decided to make her friend

along the line I couldn't help but fall deeply inlove with her, so I asked her out, it took quite some time before she said yes because she is MD-Music Director/Choir Mistress of one fellowship, while I'm the TD-Technical Director of mine

We feel inlove that even after a romantic date I had with her and talk sense into her

It's four months now we've been getting along well. about two months into the relationship I start asking for "it" but she vehemently refused and said it's against the will of God and her conscience

though we kiss and sing love songs to ourselves, just last week she called and said we should make our relationship a "godly one" that no more kiss, s3x or whatsoever

but she still love me and wish to end up with me

I'm 22 she's 20 we are adults but I don't understand this, o love her so much

I'm a Christian and don't want to cheat but I'm human you know

ADVICE [/b]

Are you for real so you want a devilish relationship right? so you expect her to suck your flute and use the same mouth to sing praise and worship during fellowship?

You know that fornication is a sin, and instead of being thankful that you have someone that's trying to keep you away from sinning, you are here ranting. Seems spirituality and godliness are no longer criteria for selection of fellowship excos. U better go and read your Bible again and pray for your condition

Ideally the wife is expected to follow the husband to his church and not the other way around, just as the wife moves into the husband's house and adopts his family name. The exception to this norm is if the husband wasn't committed to any church in particular, and the wife is a full committed member of her own church. The husband must agree freely to adopt the wife's church as his own church, and this must be discussed before the marriage.

Please answer these questions:

what's the correlation between sex and loyalty?
When dating your previous gf, did you look for sex outside or you were 100% celibate?
What's your gf's reason for not having sex? (religious/morals)
Right now, are you trying to use loyalty as your excuse to have sex?

samtin:
Hello fellow nairalanders, i love my girlfriend wholeheartedly. she is still a virgin though. i am now a graduate but we have been dating for the past 2years. its now time to leave the campus environment and she is some1 i met here where i schooled. i pray to put a ring on her finger someday but the fact of not sleeping with her keeps bothering me. i want loyalty and stability now because i have lacked such in my previous relationship where i dated a girl for 3solid years without sex. we ended up breaking and i had loved her so much. My new phobia now is that i wish to my marry my current girlfriend but i keep getting this feeling of 'i want loyalty now than ever'. please i need your candid advice guys. may be i have been wrong not asking of sex and that is why they dont stay?

Young man, you need to migrate your thinking faculty from your lower region back to your head where it should be. Your post stinks of immature arrogance

lawreezycheezy the virgin slayer

larweezycheezy:
I have met with 2 girls now that I disvirgined.if we had issues, mayb from me or from her, she will come and beg and settle tinz, I felt. Like a king and was happy, now the relationship ended and they still call to tell me they miss me, and some still regret. Now I met this new girl that claims she is a virgin, we had s*x and I felt the tightness of ha punami and she waz crying, but I never saw. Blood, I waz totally confused o, cos I hav neva met with a virgin like this before. Now the relationship is having problem and she is nt even looking bak. My belief and experience I had earlier on waaz checkmate here o.. nao I am doubting if I waz d one dat disvirgined ha. Cos she dnt care @ all abt loosing me.. ur opinion pls

All these children that want to eat their cake and have it

You're either having sex or not! A man has seen and fondled your naked body and you are there claiming virgin. SMH in 7D. Just allow the guy enter the place and stop deceiving yourself as you're fornicating already

Virginity goes beyond having penetrative sex. Virginity is a state of innocence, both in mind and body

You can't sit in a tight corner and expect to be found! Do away with the fear and get out there. Hold on tightly to your values and also re-examine your expectations....you may be expecting too much from your potential man. Just free your mind, have fun, smile more, take care of your appearance and be prayerful

Why would any sane guy want to chase after a girl with a boyfriend?? imagine another guy hitting after your own girlfriend

There are plenty single girls out there, move on and make your choice from one of them!

At age 19 having a boyfriend is not a topmost priority. The fact that she has had 4 already is quite worrisome! If secondary virginity as u have made reference to is what i know it as, then she is not giving her virginity to anyone. She has just chosen to abstain from sex going forward..and that must still be respected. If guys are running away because of her refusal to have sex, its a case of good riddance to bad rubbish. She should't be bothered about that now, rather focus on more important things. She must also refrain all forms of 'hanky-panky' with any guy and claim to be abstaining.

I aint got any campaign manger...but that shouldn't stop you from voting.

[b][/b] Vote for JNRPROF

campaign for me na.....pretty please

prettyjo:
hmmmmmm....don't even know what to say.51 guys came out for this contest #guys dey vex ooooo#. odikwa egwu.I don't even know whom to campaign for,let me sleep over it.


Anyway,I wish you all good luck.

[Where will you be on Saturday 27th December? #AwonBoizInc #WatchThisSpace #DontDull #BeachGroovequote author=abpatrick7 post=27921127]Na wa... Battle Royale.

46 guys and still counting.
This season is fight to finish and I see plenty hopefuls with potential. Much more adrenaline.

I wish all contestants a successful outing and pls bring in ur "A" game, i.e I guess 12 eliminations per round.

Cc: Chrislu,, Naijaboiy, Kakip, Kwonder, Kulboy and many more underdogs.

Jnrprof are u in?[/quote]If i can still get verified, most def!

yaay!! and i got a nomination

Hope sey e never late

iyabodeh:
That's so true.
That jnrprof though. yummy!!! Jut the way I like them.

Izukwu and nuttynhic too

Infact I nominate jnrprof. I wonder if he is still here somewhere.

:Dyaay!! and i got a nomination

iyabodeh:
That's so true.
That jnrprof though. yummy!!! Jut the way I like them.

Izukwu and nuttynhic too

Infact I nominate jnrprof. I wonder if he is still here somewhere.

I find it rather distasteful when men try to 'change' their wives after marriage. As long as he knew that she was wearing trousers while courting and didn't consider it an issue then, why bring it up now Secondly, doing or not doing things just because of what the family would say is hypocrisy! Let his personal relationship with God create his own conviction and not family opinion

You've dated close to 38 ladies!!! What da heck are u doing with them? How old are you if i may ask? I think you're the one with the issue here. Your appetite for females seems insatiable and needs to be dealt with!

gedtalks: Its just a T-shirt like many other T-shirts. Sold in the super market. It wasn't even edited by him. Its just a T-shirt like many other T-shirts. Sold in the super market. It wasn't even edited by him.

Please tell them o!!!! thought i was the only one who realised that. *sighs*

As lovely as the prospect of owning your business sounds, there are so many things you need to consider b4 starting any biz:
What business do i want to do?
what is my motivation
Is there a need for the product/service i want to deliver?
who/where are my target market?
Do i need much capital to start?
what's my marketing strategy?
how do i outshine the competition?

If being an entrepreneur is something you've yearned for, I'd like to assume that in little ways you have manifested those traits in some ways while still in school. Try and weigh the pros and cons of both paid employment and entrepreneurship and then decide which way to follow

I'll point out something most comments have missed:

Salamudeen is not only disappointed in the fact that he hasn't gained admission, but is also angry at his folks for not allowing him pursue any other option. The same option his father turned down years ago has now been brought up up by that same father. So i guess he's thinking in his mind that only only his dad had allowed him take the IJMB or go to a polytechnic back then, he'll probably be in his second or third year

That being said, Salamudeen i can assure you that you'll look back without regrets at this period. As others have suggested, you may consider the National Open University if your really keen on getting a University degree, or get admitted into the polytechnic and give it your best shot. If at the end of the day you become the best graduating students, you'll become the envy of those same mates that you are comparing yourself too. Just remember that life is not a smooth journey for anyone and nobody's story is the same. Be grateful for life and make best use of every opportunity u have.

fem30: To summarise, I have been involved with 3 married women. i am one of those that never wanted to indulge in adultery because of what is written in Prov 6:30-35.Whenever a married woman came on to me, i always said i knew i was a fornicator but adultery is one sin i dont plan adding to my list.
It is not that i gain any financial reward from these women. It is strictly straffing and leaving. They are not well to do but 2 of the women do drive their own cars which makes them average in the least. One got involved with me cos her husband has refused to touch her for years. The second one just somehow fell in love with me and the third is just an ex that loves the way we do it plus her husband is not in the country.All of them are below 30 so dont think they are old cargoes and they all have 2 kids each although different ages.
The issue now is that each time i try to break up with them, I just find myself going back to them.One of them is even a pastor in one of the popular ministries and she keeps telling me how she is begging God to come to her rescue but she just keeps coming back to me.
Because of these women, I am unable to get involved with single ladies hence the chances of settling down is slimmer. I have tried several times to break them up and just end up in bed with one of them in the week. I feel so bad about it. Any advise?

It seems you have no regrets about being a fornicator, even though you know its very wrong. That's what happens when we keep indulging ourselves in activities we know we shouldn't: we open the door way to many other sins as can be seen in your case (adultery). I can deduce that if a single girl should offer u her body, you'll gladly have your way with her. That's where you should start working on yourself: engaging in extra marital intimacy. Make up your mind never to engage in intimacy outside marriage again. Prayers alone won't work if you don't take any practical steps. As others have mentioned, get rid of their phone numbers/bb pins or any other means of contact. Lastly, confide in someone who's mature both spiritually and mentally. Let that person be your accountability partner whom you can report yourself to whenever you are slipping up. Its all about discipline and self control. Ensure you port your thinking faculties from the middle of your legs back to your head where it truely belongs.

AbPatrick!!!!

cool dude

and once again i vote for:

AbPatrick (the most handsome of all contenders #nohomo)
IjogzK
Xavier
Laylow

Sadly, i fell in the last round and thus can't include myself. Sucks not to have any campaign managers

[b][/b]I hereby cast my vote for:

Jnr Prof
IjogzK
AbPatrick
Xavier
Laylow

#TeamJnrProf# Leggoooooo!

Texas.Cowgirl:
I vote for

Laylow001 (too hot!)
AbPatrick (Too spicy)
Ekwah (Too smart)
CFCFan (Too awesome)
Jnrprof (Too much swag)
Miccodb (Too confident)
Moonraker (Too geeky in a good way)
Mastroesco

Thanks for the votes! gracias muchos.

Please keep em coming

#TeamJnrProf

I vote for:

Jnr Prof!!
Ijogz K
xavier
AbPatrick

thanks hun!

Shollypopz: Jnr Prof: PM me, that's all I gotta say

Abpatrick: Hello. My name is Sholly, can I get to know ya?

Isquar3d3:

LayLow001: If you don't hv pot belly, you are a fyne man

2Buff: Where is your profile pic??

2legit: If he runs, I'll turn to a frog

oddz: Hi Swansea Uni is top 50 uni in the UK and second in Wales....their college of law is top 25 and Maritime law they are the best in the UK i know this as i have friends that studied there. Some are even practicing law in the UK. I know they have an African regional office in Nigeria and you are better off contacting them. hope this link helps http://www.swansea.ac.uk/international/students/your-country/africa/ all the best

Yeah I agree, Swansea University is very good for Law programmes as far as the UK is concerned. I recently heard that Lecturers from the school of Law would be visiting Nigeria soon. Contact their regional office about this and get more info.

Vaginismus is also the first thing that came to my mind on reading your story. Obviously its not a case of inadequate pre-intimacy or lubriction. As you have been advised, you need to see a professional. Your husband should not have an issue with you going to see your gynaecologist for a 'routine checkup'? If he's that adamant about you not seeking help, just go there without telling him and get a professional diagnosis of the issue. At least when its been solved, he'll be the major beneficiary!

Best wishes.

She only said she won't visit your house anymore, and not that she wants to end d relationship right? and the reason for that decision is to stop engaging in pre-marital sex, which she has just being reminded as being a sin. Really, i don't see what the issue is. You make it sound like physical intimacy is the only thing you are deriving from the relationship, and the absence of it means there can't be a relationship anymore. You also didn't mention if you are still just bf/gf pr or already engaged to her. If you haven't engaged her after two years, and all you're worrying abt is her decision to stop being intimate, then i think she really does need to take a walk!

sleekysol: Need ur inputs Nlanders if a gal you have been dating for 2yrs suddenly tells u she can't visit u anymore cuz her pastor told her not to ave sex with anyone again. To crown it all this gal is 27yrs... Graduate and working