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Bluesss

Its not a bad dream dont mind people asking you yo visit mountain of fire ....instead of them to keep quiet and find out the divine meaning of it.
See you had that dream what re the changes positive you newly discover about your self and life cos its a positive meaning.

queenice7:
help? am hurt and troubled from breakup, I just sent him a break up message of which he hasn't replied, probably he hasn't seen. but am really hurting inside, I feel cheated and used, I feel like dying. this is not the first time sth like this av happened to me, I mean heart break. I was actually the one that initiated the break up, coz I couldn't take it any more

Let me ask you why do u like this your boyfriend i think because he is a doctor ?

Mr man a lady that cant say she is sorry when she is in a relationship if you marry her na oyo be your name oò.You too let me be honest that back to sender you said is indirectly back to her mum ........and pls you mfm member no be every thing be cast and bind you people should try and know this

I take the first one

Asquare84:
A doctor once ask me this question how can accident increase the tendency

Yes accident can increase it tendency due to the shock when the accident occur

Let me ask you have you been involve in any accident or dubious business that involve police case ?

Hmmm such is life

Loveisascam:
My experience dating a 28 years old stupid boy - Age and place of employment does not necessarily mean maturity.

I and my bf have been friends online before we finally decided to meet. After meeting, we mutually decided to start dating.

Unknown to me my bf had shared me with two of his friends to tempt me. Friend 1 chatted me up but I didn't give him any attention so he stopped all conversations with me. Friend two chatted me up too but somehow he was able to get my attention. I however clearly told him I had a boyfriend and was not interested in any romantic relationship with him. He told me he didn't have any issues with it but that we could still be friends.

I am a very sincere and open person and so I told my bf about my friendship with Friend two. I usually share screenshots of my conversations with Friend two with my bf. I did not hide any thing from him because I had no intentions to cheat. I was very transparent.

Little did I know that my bf on the other hand was also busy sharing everything that has transpired between us including very sensitive information like our sexual styles, the state of my vagina and even my financial status with his friend.

My bf told friend two to stop the game and leave me alone. Friend two refused. According to him, he realised I was not the slut my boyfriend painted me to be and thought I will be a great catch for a girlfriend.

To discourage him, my bf started slandering me to him.He even went to the extent of telling his friend that
the last time I visited, he didn't enjoy the sex because my vagina was wide and that I had probably slept with some people before meeting him.

I had told friend two that the next time I visit my bf, I will endeavour to make arrangement so we can see too since him and bf stay in the same location. However on visiting my bf, I changed my mind and rather told him to visit my base if he really wants us to meet. He agreed to come around. I told my bf about my plan to meet friend two but didn't tell him that friend two had agreed to come to my base.

Friend two told my bf of his plan to come and visit me in my base and that finally he is going to have his way with me. My bf tried to discourage him from coming but he refused.

My bf was then forced to confess what he had done but told me not to let his friend know he has told me.

I kept chatting and receiving calls from friend two without revealing to him that I knew what he was up to.

After 3 days, I decided to let friend two know that my bf told me about their game. He was shocked and started opening up all my bf told him about me.

He told me my bf never really loved me and that he was with me because he didn't have to spend. I didn't ask him for money and even when I come to visit, I don't ask for tp.

Friend two also told me that my bf said I will be useful in his plans to relocate to Canada as he will convince me he wants us to marry, and that I should support him relocate first and then later when he is stable he will come back to Nigeria so we can wed and then he can bring me over. Meanwhile his actual plan is to relocate to Canada and marry a white girl for citizenship. I would never have suspected this could be my bf plans because he works in an averagely good place where he earns averagely well.

Friend two then advised me never to reveal my financial status to any man and to be selfish when I love. He said he still genuinely wants to date me and that he is sorry.

I am not stupid though. Friend 2 and my bf are idiots. I cannot date any one of them. I have blocked both of them.

This experience has shattered me though. I will never ever trust any man again even the man I marry. I used to believe in the idea of shared finances in marriage but not anymore. No managing with any man.

Men are scum. Love is a scam. The so called bf is a nairalander and I know he makes sensible comments here to deceive innocent girls who don't actually know he is a fool and a scammer.

Men re not scum ....You only got yourself involve with immature little boys ....Pls stop saying men re scum .....i stand with the lovely and goodhearted men out there .....Take care and get over it pls

Brunosamel:
i have bath with cold water but i don't have alabukun powder here in my room

Pls go and get one

You seem confused the only reason you re trying to let go of him its because 5 different pastor, prophet or what soever told you he is not your husband.
Assuming it was the opposite what could you have done think deeply

Bath with very cold water and try to get alabukun powder drink it you will be relief

Its easy she better follow her heart unless she find herself cheating after getting married with a man she has no feelings for.
Have seen this happening alot to so many women

Advice your boyfriend to get his own apartment ....Not all friends are truly friend .....some are silent killers .....will not be suprised in time to come if they seperate you and your b.f .....best of luck

Don’t shout at your
wife when you are
talking. It really
hurts her.
Proverbs 15:1

Do not speak evil
of her to anyone.
Your wife will become
who you call her.
Gen. 2:19

Do not share her love
or affection with another
woman.
It is called Adultery.
Matt. 5:28

Never compare your
wife to another woman.
If the other woman was
good for you, God would
have given her to you.
2 Cor. 10:12

Be gentle and
accommodating. She
has sacrificed so much
to be with you.
It hurts her deeply
when you are hash
and irritating.
Be tender.
Eph. 4:2

Hide nothing from her.
You are now one and
she’s your helpmate.
Let there be no secret
you are keeping
from her.
Gen. 2:25

Do not make negative
comment about her
body. She risked her
life and beauty to carry
your babies. She is a
living soul not just
flesh and blood.
Proverbs 18:22

Do not let her body
determine her worth.
Cherish and appreciate
her even till old age.
Eph. 5:29

Never shout at her
in the public and in
private. If you have
an issue to sort with
her, do it in the privacy
of your room.
Matt. 1:19

Thank and appreciate
her for taking good
care of you, the kids
and the house. It is
a great sacrifice she
is making.
1 Thesso. 5:18

All women cannot
cook the same way;
appreciate your
wife’s food.
It is not easy to cook
three meals a day,
365 days a year
for several years.
Pro. 31:14

Never place your
siblings before her.
She is your wife.
She is one with you.
She must come
before your family.
Gen. 2:24

Invest seriously in
her spiritual growth.
Buy books, tapes and
any material that will
edify her & strengthen
her walk with God.
That’s the best thing
you can do for her.
Eph. 5:26

Spend time with her
to do Bible study
and pray.
James 5:16

Make time to play
with her and enjoy
her company.
Remember when you
are dead, she’s gonna
be by your grave but
your friends may be
too busy to attend
your funeral.
Ecc. 9:9

Never use money
to manipulate or
control her. All your
money belongs to
her. She is a joint heir
with you of the
grace of God.
1 Pet. 3:7

Do not expose her
weakness. You will be
exposing yourself too.
Be a shield around her.
Eph. 5:30

Honour her parents
and be kind to her
siblings.
SOS. 8:2

Never cease to tell
her how much you
love her all the days
of her life. Women
are never tired of
hearing that.
Eph. 5:25

Grow to be like Jesus.
That’s the only way
you can be a good
and godly husband.
Rom. 8:29

Hmmm stop self servicing yourself .......To avoid bad lucks period

Hmmm you better go and ask for her forgiveness

How can client reach you no phone number or contact

Mr man u not a good cook truly .....Rules 1 of a good cook as long as you re good in cooking anyother food below your taste standard is not it.....I dont see a reason why complain i cook more than my wife and am teaching her how to very well..So teach her or cook for her let her stand and watch you doing it for a start

Hmmmm

R.mardid 2- 1 Liverpool

I am so proud of you. You are so courageous and fearless. God bless you forevrr!


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Samiking:
Please let's advice a sister below she needs it.
" please i need your
advice I am a lady of 25 years please help me
on this Issues no InsuIts please .i have a
problem. My Breast is too small very very small
what can i do or take to make it come out? how
do i handle this doctors in the house please tell
me what to do. Because of this people take me
as a small girl i can't be happy because of this .
Please advice".

You better appreciate what you have and give thanks to GOD, when it time to run a race that is when you will know that ladies with big breast are praying to be like you

This is one of the problem the world is facing religion

This is great

Dstv south Africa people killing Nigerian since time of Zuma the statue lol

Jodha:
Report her to the appropriate authorities... Never yhu take laws into yhur ends...

Nothing is an excuse ..for touching a women..

The bible said we're weaker vessels and thus should be treated as such...

Lwkm you are weaker vessels I hear until she use knife stab n kill the man like the one of last year.....you go come dey read...Eeyah poor man RIP bro

pleasureosondu:
Mehn, tstv fall my hand joor.

No blame dem...I expected tstv by now to tell Nigerians what happened to them that their system was hacked by hackers immediately after their launching

Opekebaiby:
Jan 27

Jan 27 too

kunleajaye:
Hello peeps. It's with a heavy heart that I have to say that my marriage is on it's last legs(or so I think). Sometimes last year I made a post asking for advice and things actually got a bit better afterwards (https://www.nairaland.com/3415462/dont-feel-attracted-wife-anymore), but alas, it didn't last.

My wife returned to her cold self and it just went downhill from there. We started arguing again over the tiniest of reasons. Some of the reasons for our petty arguements was the issue of her engrossing herself in school activities that sometimes took her attention from home duties. I told her a couple of times that i wasn't against her doing things like what she did and wasn't in the way of her achieving her desires and goals, but she shouldn't forget she's a mother and wife and one of her primary duties is her family. Sometimes she'd spend so much time in one fruitless meeting or the other, and when she gets home, she'll be too tired to do anything. It got to a point I had to do alot of cooking for the house so that the kids won't be hungry. It's not that she didn't do her duties. It's just the inconvenience of it all and the way her outside activities affected us that really got to me.

Another thing that got on my nerves was her attitude to her degree. Agreed, with all the things she did, she still maintained a very good GPA and was one of the best students in her department. Her lecturers would at times request she take their classes for them while they attended to other pressing issues. It was a good thing and i felt proud, but in her mind the main thing she wanted to do was business. Buying and selling like she did when we first got here and before she started school. She wanted to set up a store where she'd import and sell african prints. There were days during the summer when I'd plan on doing Uber to supplement the little I brought in as a paycheck, only for her to tell me she'd registered for one event or another to display her wares. I'll just have to stay back at home with the kids till she returned later in the night. It really did get me upset and I once asked her what the point of the degree she had studied for if all she wanted to do was sit in a store and sell stuff? We had this argument several times on end.

What eventually broke the camel's back was something she said that I'll never forgive her for. One evening, after putting the kids to bed, she approached me and said she wanted to apply for a loan. I asked her what she needed the loan for. She said for her shop. How much does she need? Ten thousand dollars. How does she expect to apply for ten thousand dollars when we have no way of paying back? Besides, where does she expect me to get the collateral from? She said someone would stand in for her. I told her I don't support the idea and she should be patient. At least after her graduation, she would be able to work full time and earn a better pay which she could then channel to doing whatever she wanted. She said no. She doesn't want to work, but sell her stuff. We started bickering back and forth about this cos I was already fed up of the whole issue, and at some point she screamed, saying I do not support her as a husband, and maybe she would have been better off marrying Awwal. [/color]


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Awwal was another guy who fancied her when we met during our youth service in camp; she had once told me that back then she loved him as much as she loved me, and if she had to choose, she would have picked him instead of me. I asked her why she then chose me, and she said her late mother had advised her "don't make a future husband into an ordinary boyfriend, and don't make an ordinary boyfriend into a husband." In other words, don't confuse lust for love.
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[color=#000099]She realized what she said and immediately began to apologize. I don't know how I kept my cool, and I walked away quietly. It only got worse after then. We no longer talked liked we once did apart from the necessary exchanges. I let her do whatever pleased her. Our arguements continued and sometimes we wont speak for days. I started keeping late nights, staying more in the lab after school or sometimes driving to a bar to drown my sorrows. I tried getting a marriage counselor, but the damage had already been done. Our sex life became virtually non-existent. We just remained together because of the kids.

A man has needs, and if he wasn't getting them at home, he'd start looking outside. I'm not proud to say this, but during some of my late nights out, I'd visit a discrete gentleman's club. It was on one of these outings I met one of the girls who danced there. She was a young college kid in her junior year. Over the next week or so she gave me a listening ear and I poured my heart out to her. She invited me over to her place one evening (she shared a three bedroom house with two other girls), one thing led to another and she was giving me a full n@ked massage with her body. We didn't have penetrative sex, but she gave me the sexual release my wife had denied me for such a long time. I offered to pay for her services afterwards, but she told me not to, as it was just her way of showing she cared. We ended up making similar arrangements a few more times, and each time we took it a bit further. The furthest we went was the time we had a 69 on her bed, and she came all over my face while I splooged her mouth. I always had to wipe myself off properly and take a shower once I got home to rid of all the oil and smell of pheromones on my person.

I guess my wife suspected something was going on cos she asked me one day if i had been seeing anyone. I asked her why she asked, and she shrugged, murmuring something to the fact that it was unusual of me not to have disturbed her for sex in such a very long time. I told her since she had decided to control when and the frequency we had sex, I had accepted my plight. I told her if she wanted sex, she knew where to find me. That night, I woke up to her snuggling up to me. It was the first time in a long while she would come to me. Try as much as I could, I just couldn't achieve an erection. My time with the stripper girl had taken away the sexual affection I had for my wife. She noticed this and started crying, saying i don't love her anymore. I simply told her it was just the stress. The following day, she was back to her normal self.

Last month, she finally graduated. I was happy that at least she would get a place to work and earn some money. But what she told me a few days later came as a shocker. She told me she wanted to go back to Nigeria. Her plan was to fulfill her dream of setting up a clothings line and since i don't want to support her, she'd rather go on without my support. I asked her if she was joking, but i could see she was dead serious. I asked who would take care of the kids if she leaves, and she said she intends going with them. infact, she had already told her sister to start looking for a nice school for them at home. I just couldn't believe it. Why make that kinda decision without consulting me first? She just told me her mind was made up. I tried changing her mind, but she remained adamant. Unknown to me, she had already booked their flight back home a long time ago. I had to call my parents to talk some sense into her, but afterwards they just told me to let her come home, that she may just need the change of environment for a while. I called and asked her sister why she didn't tell me about the plan knowing how close we were, but she simply said it was her sister's decision.

They left two days after Christmas. To date I'm yet to receive a call from her. I've sent her several emails but she hasn't responded to even one. She told my mum she hasn't had the chance to get a line yet, but I know that's a lie. It doesn't take you more than a week to get a phone and a line in Nigeria. Sadly, I may have to accept the conclusion that my marriage is over.

My brother i feel your pain but you made some error but am not in the position to judge you.
Mark my words your marriage with your wife is not yet over i can see the revival in your marriage and life transformation. Smile bro and Thank me later

She is lying to you...Pls free her that girl no love you

Baawaa:
This is not tithe but sacrifice his herbalist asked him to perform

That's true this is no tithe but sacrifice...the blind in the first ..the one without hand..the mad man...the one with one leg....the cripple on the wheel chair...the complete body one na sacrificial stuff..you guy better know