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ChangeDchange:
A yard close to mine just killed a goat and they are roasting it right now (Awada onitsha)
they will never allow a referendum cuz they know what the result will look like

See brown roofs. Poverty ehn

USFOCUS:
Choosing a new career —whether you want to do a drastic 180 or just make a minor shift—can seem downright impossible. There are so many options. You don’t know what you’re qualified to do. Frankly, you’ve been so busy worrying about your current job that you haven’t taken half an hour to consider what you’d rather be doing. And when you do start to think about it? Your mind morphs into a cloudy mess of overwhelm.
Believe me: I’ve been there, too. And after I did find what I was looking for, I’ve spent time coaching friends and colleagues who are going through the same thing. While there aren’t any shortcuts when it comes to planning a big career change, I’ve found that breaking the big question down into a few simpler ones can be a productive way to get started.
Sometime this week, take the first step toward planning your dream career by filling in the blanks in the sentences below.
1. If I could choose one friend to trade jobs with, I’d choose ____________, because ____________.
2. I’ve always wondered what it would be like to do ____________. It’s interesting to me because ____________.
3. If I had the right education or skill set, I’d definitely try ____________, because ____________.
4. If I had to go back to school tomorrow, I’d major in ____________, because ____________.
5. My co-workers and friends always say I’m great at ____________, because ____________.
6. The thing I love most about my current job is ____________, because ____________.
7. If my boss would let me, I’d do more of ____________, because ____________.
8. If I had a free Saturday that had to be spent “working” on something, I’d choose ____________, because ____________.
9. When I retire, I want to be known for ____________, because ____________.
Once you’re done, take a look at your answers. You may find clear-cut patterns—for example, that everything on your list has to do with designing beautiful spaces or playing sports. But at the very least, you’ll probably see some common themes. Maybe it’s creativity, or caring for others, or working outside using your hands. And no, those things don’t point to one single career path, but knowing what you value, what you enjoy, and what you want to be known for is a great way to get started honing in on what you want to do next (or, hey, eliminating possibilities).

But it's too late for someone like myself. I want to be a Physics or English language teacher but I have B.Tech in Animal Science.

Good one! I like the revenge. God said "I will turn the Egyptians against the Egyptians." Policemen have been extorting money from because of one raggedy bike I'm riding. And those officers I have placed curses on will soon die like fowls in the hand of armed robbers. Amin. No peace for the wicked.

Neminc:
Na so dem organise marriage seminar for all the youth of marriage age for my church dey advice us to hear from God first before we marry. Question time reach o, na so I collect microphone ask all the facilitators make dem tell us how God take reveal their wife to them before them marry, omo na there Katakata burst o, none of them, not even pastor fit categorically talk say e hear God tell am say na him wife be dis o. I just relax for one corner dey watch church elders and deacons dey chop mouth where dey wan explain how God show dem their spouse, Pastor sef collect microphone come fall my hand patapata, even pastor no fit talk say e hear anything from God be e marry

Satan's pikin. Are you in your house? I wan come beat you. Lol. Hearing from God is not that easy, and only people with special assignment will hear God concerning who to marry. How God unveiled my fiancee is the best instruction I ever received - very complicated and accurate.

PaChukwudi44:
For the first time I will have to agree with MURIC.How on earth in the 21st century in a big city like lagos,People are stopped from exercising their fundamental right to freedom of movement because some traditionalists are performing some ceremony.Its so so shameful

There is a mosque opposite Alaafin's Palace in Oyo. That mosque is along a two-lanes Highway. That is always closed on Friday afternoon for Jumaat service. Point that out to Muric too.

PaChukwudi44:
its a very stupid tradition and should be done away with.Why don't you ask Calabar people to resume killing of twins because it was there before Christianity and islam came

Why was movement restricted during Buhari's visit to Lagos?

Tamarapetty:
Invisible

Invincible means unbeatable. He meant what he wrote.

Lakeside79:
Ask your mum or dad

Your pastor too

uncle's or aunt's

Whatever you do , do not bring this type of personal issue to the public like this

Have some.self respect man !

Why do you find it difficult to swerve? Dem force u to comment on nl?

We are planning to get married. I'm thinking of asking her if there is any medical problem we should disclose to each other.

While we were discussing marriage, she opted for registry despite that she is a staunch church girl. What do you think?

daviefm:
I'm a graduate of physics at Lautech

U dey post on nairaland, wetin ur lecture go teach u?

If u no buy manual, na automatic AR

Or u wan wait wen u do MEE 204 or STA 207,na then u go dey pray for let my ppl go grade, 40E


Or let Mama catch you for project

Those that passed through physics dept has story to tell with some ppl's CGPA no fit flash mtn to airtel

Lol. You know my school very well. Lautech doesn’t reward hard labor and brilliance. Them fit still frustrate person despite his ingenuity.

My advice for op, struggle to have at least second class upper, pass test of English exam like TOEFL before you graduate and keep searching for foreign scholarship online. For scholarships, you will need toefl and international passport.

Also, if you graduate with high CGPA, companies like banks will still be after you. As a scientist, obtain programming skills too.

Don't make my mistakes. Before going to Lautech, I had received calling into pastoral ministry. So, my aim was just to obtain a degree. I graduated with 2:2. After graduation, I felt I don't want to become a pastor, and I started job hunting. Even private schools rejected me. I'm very good in Physics and Maths but schools say my certificate is not related to education. Poor schools are offering me 15k salary - over my dead body! I have this pastoral gift and God is still talking to me about it. I left my initial church because I felt their doctrines and how the church is run looks like a business enterprise. In my new church, to become a pastor, I must go for Masters in Theology, and I don't have money again. I didn't even have parents while in Lautech. Wellwishers paid my fees. Which Wellwisher will i approach for Masters in theology? That's my fate. A very hopeless situation.

obekediamondfuto:
ahhhh, no beer and it's big and bigger everyday?
biggest ló nlò bà yí
Pélé

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Lalas247:
I see. I await op’s reply

She's a church girl and doesn't drink. She's above 30 though.

Fidelismaria:
Till it becomes most biggest

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Mcy56:
....and much more bigger

Lol. I just followed the sequence.

Okay, try and encourage her to gym often. Get her a tummy trimmer for in-house exercise.
Find out if it's inborn, I mean hereditary or maybe its due to a sickness or even fibroid. Render a selfless medical service to her (by making her to visit a gynae) and she'll be ever grateful to you 'cos that might have been a source of worry to her too.
Cheers!

Thanks

My girlfriend has never given birth to a child before but her belly is bigger. After childbirth, I hope it won't be bigger than this?

lawman88:
It's really pathetic. Most schools will suffer you till you die. In kano private schools pay between 18-45000 as start up. In my school, the start up is 35700 and increase of 4000 per year

35k is fair enough. Do you have vacant positions over there? I want to live in the north.

helobabe:
WATCH VIDEO HERE>>> http://www.gistmore.com/lawyer-kills-lawyer-husband-cut-dick-now-hospital-suicide-attempt

Video of what? How he was stabbed? Radarada. Better find job to do.

I have injuries on my leg that only allows wearing of bathroom slippers. Should I go to church like this? Members think I'm intentionally skipping church programs because they see me moving about in town.

blowjohn:
Even the manner he wrote it.... The last part of it...

That twitter handle just quoted the doctor.

stuffs4me:
Since the day he demolished you god Tinubu the cleptomania, you people have hated him.
Have you asked your god Tinubu how he got his 10 trillion nairn?

Kikikikikikiki send him back to bourdilon road for round 2 of his spider man. Awon wereyyy

ojtech8291:
I weep for Nigeria whenever I read some comments on nairaland. Are we not practicing democracy again? If they can do this to a sitting senator, then Nigeria is doomed and nobody is safe. There are several ways to approach this case, rather than sending this outspoken man to his early grave but God forbid, nothing will happen to him. Whosever that’s supporting this barbaric act is not human. Nigeria is actually a failed state. May God have mercy on us!

You're the only one that is doomed. Dino should go and face his charges.

DEBJOCH1:
Just as you want to stand as an obstacle to her marriage, that's how God will stand as an obstacle to anything good that awaits you. Dogs dangling about with pe......x over the street.

It's time I make a scapegoat. Your troubles will start sooner than you think, and you will never get out of them. You will beg for death to take you. Everything of value in your family will disappear in your very eyes. There is no distance in the realm of the spirit, and as long as the earth remains, your ruin will be sadder than that of the house of Eli.

Bishop:
I am restrained to talk on this on social platform but if you really need some pep talk send me a dm

Please reach me on

MissRaine69:
You just drop in and out of emotional entanglements brother that’s not healthy! Why do you persue complex women? Muslim girl has issues in that her parents obviously would have wanted her to marry someone of the same faith or you convert. Now this mother of 4 who comes with her own layers of issues can you see trend here?

You career is important to you, I am going by what you said find someone who will work with you to maintain it rather than complicate matters. You need a holiday from women. To rid you of this inert need of yours to entangle yourself in situations that are of no benefit to you.

Regarding the mother of 4 set her free and this business of saying she will kill herself that’s emotional blackmail and a sign of emotional instability why would you want to be caught up in all that?

I truly need a break, because what I want in women are best understood by me. That "Inert need of yours" cracked me up. What if I tell you I'm someone you know from an alternate moniker? I raised this kind of issue here long ago, and you happened to be the one who asked me to stop dating and see how things will unfold later. I have been a superhuman for too long. I still have some serious puzzles on the table that rule out the mother of 4 and the exceptional Muslim girl.

Thewesterner:
Mr J
I know you are in love
I know she's in love too
But as a man




Just live up to your name (moniker)




My 1%

Omo Yoruba atata! If I want wars, it has always been my terrain. Why did you say "She may leave, but not for this particular man"? I had been a Puritan who dismissed all women in my life because of their warped reasoning. I never thought of it that this will happen to me.

Butoneday2:
U are doomed?

I sent dt back to you.

MissRaine69:
I can’t take your stance seriously. Things got to this stage without you consulting anyone. You managed then so she is now single so what’s the problem? What were your intentions with her from the start? Kindly wife this woman and lay in the bed you made. That said what of the Muslim woman you had eyes for? Or is that another work of fiction?

Lol @ fiction! My career looks like a pastor's job where church people will monitor my actions. I'm a puritan, and as such, I never believed I can think of loving her let alone marrying her. If I take a decision to be with her, my career will be gone. And if I don't want to be with, I don't think I can be bold enough to hurt her. I've known her in those days. We are like gods that don't reason like humans given the frequencies at which we interact. Since this threatens my career, I will have to start all over again to have a career if I must be with her. If I don't go with her, what will haunt me for ever was already born years ago - love (maybe).

don4real18:
What happened to the Muslim girl that you were in love with?

I spent enough thinking it may not work cos her parents are stark moslems. I finally thought of trying my luck. When I got the pharmacy shop, I was told she no longer works there.

Shaev7:
The issue is screwed. Most guys have same challenge like this in our societies, but when such occurs, make effort to let her marriage be, but now her initial marriage is crashed, you think of marrying her legally? Well before that, let her legally dissolved her marriage then you may both follow your heart desires. To overcome temptation it has to be cut off from its roots, you should have killed that emotions from the beginning after ... Well in life, we are meant to act scripts, I think this part of yours. Try to seek more advice before you come to conclusion. But remember, whatever advice you get, you alone still have the final decision. Be sure not to taka the path that will damage both you and the girl.
Take care. I wish you well.

To think of it that I'm a church guy, I never knew I could ever reason with her. I have the gut to shun her, but what I can't do is seeing her in grief. She's dying from within. She was bold enough to dissolve the marriage after I deleted her from my life she thinking that she would run into me someday. She eventually run into me 4 years later.

ndindiatu:
My dear is up to u. Is ur life . I know u love her and she loves u too. I will advice u to marry her .marry her ! yes. Don't spend ur whole life and her life ng unhappy. I am telling u out of experience. I didn't marry my high school sweet heart and till today after so many kids and marriage l am still waiting for him to come to heal me which will never happen.Some people missed that one in life when they where young and can't find replacement till today. I tell u u owe her and she owe u . Is a pity the marriage scattered then what are u waiting for. I know our culture will say this or that but my dear marry her and be happy. Don't do what u will regret. As u see her now she can never be happy with any one. Goggle lost and found lovers by Nancy. But u guys have battles to look forward to to fight. But no matter the battle go and make agreement with her to love her kids. Even if u marry someone else u will still be having affair with her. Who is deceiving who. Abeg go and wed that babe and live happily ever after. A word is enough for a wise. People will curse u but some situations is only u can solve it.

You understand the situation perfectly. To think of it that I'm a church guy, I never knew I could ever reason with her. I have the gut to shun her, but what I can't do is seeing her in grief. She's dying from within. She was bold enough to leave the man after I deleted her from my life thinking that she would run into me someday. She eventually run into me 4 years later.

Earthbound:
Something must be wrong with you. Her four kids made it a home. According to the OP, it was after he interfered in someone else's marriage, it came crumbling down. I'm sure the husband of the lady must have used the earlier part of their marriage to seek forgiveness. And after four kids, the woman must have had some closure. Also considering the OP said he's above 60, it's safe to say the woman involved must be in her 50s. Her marriage must be 20+ years. Please don't quote me again.

Lol. 60 years indeed. Well, sorry for insulting you the last time. We left high school in 2000. A neighbor invited her to his house (according to her), he forcefully made love to her. She didn't report him out of fear. When she became pregnant, her parents said no way for abortion, and they bundled her to the man's house. The man was ever willing to have her. She gradually heals. But she started looking for me in 2014 after 4 kids.

chairman00100:
bros, I don't know if you are a Christian, if you are listen carefully, what GOD has joined together let NO man put asunder, you have failed that one, do not take another man's wife you have disobeyed that one too look my friend you are not David and might not have the grace that david had. GOD hates divorce and whoever marries a divorced person commits adultery with him or her. no matter how you try to turn this your story it can never be to your favour, may GOD help you to make the right decision

Amin