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motun2017:
i dnt get attached too much tho. gone are those days i can give my all. nw i just flow with the tide. you call me i call you. you text i text. u ignore i ignore. u leave i forget about u. aint gat no time

JustAPhase:
Girls naa, but when a man cries...hmmm. it covers the woman's past and present cries.
Women are emotional and natural weepers.
That's there identity.
Fear a woman who do not cry.
Run away from that relationship if the woman doesn't cry.
Started from the origin.

tosyne2much:
I remember when my ex messed me up. For weeks, food no gree go for my mouth. I come lean due to lack of appetite.

Sometimes, I go lock door begin shed tears. If mumsy wan enter my room, na to grab handkerchief wipe my tear before I open door

Chaiiiii.. Those days are gone sha

rebirthforgoody:
Yeah but I can't do that now..,guys don't deserve my tears .

Rorachy:
Girls cry more o, my friend can cry for Africa, any lil quarrel, she is already crying, I will be the one consoling her.

Then when I had issues with my relationship, she was expecting me to cry but I was holding it together, I will be like" me cry, say person die? soldier go, soldier come, barrack still dey and she will be like "Babe you dey try o"

I'm not emotional sha and I cried a lot when I was little though.

DavidTheGeek:
Dude wtf?

It's your birthday and you are the one calling to take her out?

Who does that?

She has ripped off your balls. Fried them and tossed them into the trash can cuz they weren't big enough.

No! She didn't rip them off!

You handed it over to her on your kneels.



DON'T CALL, DON'T VISIT.

Use the break to grow a new set of iron balls.

Sacrifice some of your time and read this thread from beginning.

There are wisdom buired in the pages of this thread.

DON'T CONTACT HER EVER AGAIN... UNTIL SHE CONTACTS YOU!

Go out and meet new girls.

This time, you had better not hand over your balls.

knax:
Hey guys,I have a Lil problem or maybe the world has a Lil problem.first off,I'm a geek I admit,and I wear glasses,I'm myopic (my glasses are designed,like Clark kent's own,original ray ban designers).I'm a medical student,300level.I like to think that I'm intelligent (my results so far has been awesome,glory to God).I am an introvert,very well exposed though but I prefer to observe than to talk.however when I'm in my small social circle,I'm the funniest craziest person u'd ever know (I've done some pretty crazy stuffs,jumped on a horse without a saddle and rode it,I'm did fall off sha,took d microphone from the mc in front of everyone at an occasion just to say "there is no meat in my rice ooo",it was a dare sha.Pecked a cadaver in anatomy dissection,lolz,and even used my scalpel to measure d length of his flaccid penis,and so many other crazy things,).I play football in my spare time (defensive midfielder,solid one,we came third in my uni's vc cup competition).I'm an ardent video gamer..certified..ps2,3,pes,God of war.
I also watch movies alot,like I said I'm not the social type so I spend a lot of time alone or with my best friend turned brother..I like to think I'm a good writer,my article has been published in vanguard once..I play drums as well.my taste in music is kinda different I love "the lumineers","fun","coldplay",the radical face,sleeping at last,brandi callie,Rachel yamagata,Christina perri,Ben Howard,Joe Brooks,Don Williams,Lady antebellum.the songs in my phone are not so popular but they make a lot of sense and in another universe,perhaps a better one,they would be a lot more popular.
Now to my point of writing this...I am awesome.i like to think I am,but all these things I mentioned above,you would never know all those things by looking at me . I'm that guy who stays at the back corner of the class looking at everybody and assimilating what they are doing . I've always said that if I'm to be granted one power then I want to be invisible. I like quietness and simplicity.but nigerian girls,well most nigerian girls always go for the shouty guy,you know,the guy on vintage shirt and jeans and big boots with dreads and who is always showing off.
I'm not that guy,I've always been a simple dresser,I wear my jeans ,polo and pams. I adore being free in what I wear,sometimes I might put on boots,but nothing too flashy.i don't like people noticing me at all,however on formal occasions I dress well and I have a good fashion sense..
My ex did complain about my dressing before she broke up with me,she was like she has to deal with me being casual all the time around her friends(i banged one of em after we broke up though)..you see,she was the social media type,she had so many followers on IG..Facebook,guys were literally begging her.but I'm not,I'm not on any social media except WhatsApp and this nairaland and she couldn't understand that.she wanted me to flaunt our relationship and dress to kill every time but that wasn't me..I don't need to show off,I love myself the way I am.i did not show her the kind of family I was from,I didn't want her to be there just for the money,but on her birthdays, I spent enough money on her.when people see her walking with me,they ask "besides the fact that he is fine,how did he manage to get this girl".you see people judge from d way I dress,and they believe that she was way above me,but in reality I was leagues above her..I loved her because I simply did.i gave her my Samsung galaxy 5 that time,in exchange for her infinix hot 2.but nobody knew that,they saw her with the phone and thought she is rich..he is broke.
Suffice it sure that she broke up with me around September last year and gave an excuse that we can't get married,she sees me in her dreams bla bla bla,and she left me for a dude like that,she told me bout him sha,he works in an insurance company, i saw his instagram page,he dresses well.but it turns out that he works for my uncle (mum's younger brother) insurance company.i found out his pay grade and well it's okay sha,although I am way better,if she wanted to leave me,she should have left me for someone way way way better not someone like him,although nd ways she wanted to keep me around as side bf,you know to always have sex with,but I refused.
Back to the topic,now I dunno what I have with this new girl I'm seeing,but it might be over soon.my question is why don't nigerian girls see good things??,why do they always go for the flashy things that re not real.i don't like flashy girls (I had a lapse of judgement with my ex).most times,the quiet ones are actually the best and they are real.if I decide to start dressing like all this guys I see with chains and all,I'd start getting girls like flies,but I wanna be true to myself and be who I am,but all I keep getting is just heartbreaking and unbelievable responses.lol,my guy wore my puma feinty(I hardly wear it) and borrowed my jeans,wrist watch,wore my cologne to see a girl and she was just tripping all over the place..because he dressed well,not really cause he has something upstairs (not saying he is dumb,he is a good dude).i went to a pool to swim nd met this slayqueens,i ignored em and jumped into d pool and swam for some time,brough out my s7 edge(it's waterproof) and took pics inside d pool,this attracted some of em to me and after some pics together,i struck a convo with one,it took me 3 mins to strike out,she was literally umm..i dunno.she us an english and lit student and i tried talking bout shakepeare and his weird lifestyle with her,but she just didnt even know him,i switched to charlotte bronte (jane eyre),lord of the flies,arms and the man,lion and jewel,she was fucking quiet,couldnt contribute shit.i felt bad and then i decided to talk about tonto and her divorce,mercy aigbe and domestic violence,and she picked up there
Why are people like this??okay her friend wore some kind of silk gown over her swimming bikini and I was like " you look like cleopatra, except that this cleopatra would outsmart octavius himself.she didn't even get the joke.i wanna meet a girl that is interested in intelligence,creativity,medicine,ideas...someone I can connect with intellectually,someone who can stimulate me,unfortunately I haven't..all this girls talk about is toke makinwa,kardashian,bey,tonto bla bla bla..where are the intelligent girls,girls that won't just wrote me out because of my dressing,girls that can see you,the "you " behind all the clothes..I'm not saying that I'm broke o biko kwa,I come from a comfortable home nd I don't lack whatever I need.but I want someone who would like me for my personality and not my background or what I am..
I expect some criticism here and it may look like I'm tryna boast or something but the truth is nobody here knows me..so I can rant here and go back to my normal life of being that cute tall guy u barely notice..
For those wey go shout summarise it..oga,no strength biko..so read it.its fun..i hope

oga HARDDON

osic:
My gf flirted with a guy in my presence and said jokingly "what are you doing here sef" during one of our conversations the same day, so I left her place angry that night, the following day was my birthday, so I called her on the phone to take her out but she didn't answer the phone, after calling and calling, she later did and was acting funny, felt she told her brother to tell me she wasn't around, I didn't call or text her since then, that's 5days ago, my question is should I call or visit her or should I just move on with my life. Thanks

Joeguyski:
More money to your bank accounts

EngrMarve:
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Correct dude, I will get back to you. Let me find our co-engineers

Daboomb:
I think you need to check a (Science) Dictionary to find out the meaning/usage of the phrase "rule of Thumb".
That your definition/meaning of the phrase (as bolded) is what we call "manufactured in my backyard".
Completely incorrect as incorrect could possibly be.
It is either accurate or not.
Which one is not strictly accurate?
if you say 'unscientific', Yes. And that is why l said "found to be accurate, based on experience. over time".
It simply means, if you do that thing (following the rule of thumb), you cant be wrong...as many, many have done the same thing, with good results.

bixton:
Have you seen the template for "restructuring" and what exactly does "restructuring" mean by those who are clamouring for it?

Flaghouse1:
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My brother the politicians, government officials, me and you are really the culprit here, have you observed that when you have a friend and you both are on same pedestal in life he seems to have good rapport with you , the moment he is entrusted with a higher position,political appointment he then locks up,

Once we re in a position instead of us to make a diffrence to better the lives of our people ,we do worse than our predecessors

spyder880:
Bros, I don't think you are correct on this. Buildings are starting up everywhere I turn in the east. Up to 3 multi floor buildings in the street I am building in Enugu. More in Onitsha.

bigrovar:
Thanks brother Johnson. I think you misread the first part of my question. I was actually asking about the building integrity so as to determine its fit for human habitation be it myself, family or a tenant. I did not mean to infer renting it out once the response is to the negative. Thanks for the advise.

Flaghouse1:
You made a valid point , Daboomb also is in line with his comments to some extent ,what I will advise him to do is to take a trip to the locations where this oil is being extracted from ,the level of poverty, degradation and lack of concern by state and federal government will make him weep and if he has the power will automatically approve 100% resource control for the inhabitants of such locale .
Forget the hype about NDDC and the other agencies put in place to bolster development, employment opportunities in these area ,it's all a charade -Conduit for siphoning funds to individual pockets.
Greed is basically our problem in this part of the world,one man wants to own more than 10 houses in choices areas of the country, have fleets of expensive cars, take family for holiday trips more than 5 times a year ,millions of Naira and dollars starched in pits without yielding any interest .

Daboomb:
The TRUTH is that Resource Control is what most people (especially those from the East and ND) selfishly and greedily construe as restructuring! Its never going to happen, at least not in the next ten years.

Some others see retsructuring as Regionalism whereby Each region has and operates its onw Confedral Systemof Govt.
Like Resource Control, it will also put some "members of the family" in jeopardy and as such, they wont just keep quiet.

What l see as Restructuring is:
1) tackling Corruption in a way that ensures that Politicians are not attracted to Politics for the sake of the amount of money they can make from it. Make Public office financially unattractive so that only those who have real love to lead (and are even ready to spend their own money to make things work) are coming forward. Put the structures in place and dont let it be about a "strong man or personality"

2.) Have sero-tolerance for corruption such that like it is done in China, stealing Public funds should attract the death penalty.

3.) Remove "state of orgin" from any form Nigerians are filling. let every Nigerian be a Nigerian despite the fact that we all know where we come from but that should not be a ticket/barrier to any publci offering. Remove Quota system and all sorts of "educationally disadvantaged" excuses from admission toour insitutions. Let any area put forward their best persons and let there be open competition.

4.) Most importantly, let us return to REGIONALISM but in a way that it does not cause chaos.
The Crude Oil is th emain problem because over soem decades now, the whole nation has come to depend on it and take it as the only source of immense wealth. No Region can or must be allowed to pay claim to it FOR NOW.

Fed Govt should set a 20yr period under which ALL the proceeds from Crude oil is shared EQUALLY by all states, while the time is used to develop alternative source of income for all other non-oil producing states.
This is the only way to prevent war breaking out when some Region try secede with the Crude Oil

With time, every region will find its own source of income and stop depending on Crude Oil.
Once you remove the Crude Oil income from the equation, to restructure will be very easy and no one will even want to run Politics at the centre.
5.) purge the Nigerian Police of all these drunk, mentally unhinged criminals in its rank and recruit "medically and psychologically evaluated" Graduates into the Force. Have stiff penalty for bribery in the Police and Judiciary. Set-up sting officers that can catch and summarly dismiss such bribe takers.

6.) First, educate nigerian on hate Speeches and then pass into law, stiff penalty/jail terms for those that spew hate speeches in the name of freedom of speech.
7.) Make Recalling of Politicians very easy, by their constituents. Cut-off all alowances and excessive perks

8.) Deal decisively with all those challenging the authority of our nationhood, be they Odua, IPOB, AREWA or Creek Militants

I will even suggest we operate a quasi-military-presidential system for fixed 3years, to set things right as full democracy, as practiced in Nigeria today, creates too many loopholes for criminality.

The above is my own vision of restructuring.

Daboomb:
Everything does not necessarily have to originate from a Textbook!
there is what we call "good practice" in cosntruction and these are time-tested practises that have yielded good results over time and hence, they become what we call "Rule of thumb".

Using 9" Blocks for External (load-bearing) walls and 6" blocks for internal (non-load bearing) partion walls is one of such.

Timtol:
This is my humble view concerning this sir.
It's already done but for future's sake, it's better to use 9'' blck for external walls y all the internal walls will be 6".
I hope it's helpful.
We use the method in some cases for some certain clients.

IamKashyBaby:
Hahahahah...

Thats me ooo..i know im too hot juz like ur cup of tea eehn

bigrovar:
Thanks alot for the advise bro. That is exactly my plan. Yet even for renting out. I just wanted to know if laying 6 inch blocks on 9 would have any structural effect whatsoever in future.

IamKashyBaby:


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ukwuomachidi34:
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adewaleID:
Times are hard, I aslo notice less construction showcasing.

Jasmine17:
Thanks. Been a while. We went to start work but the community youths chased us off that we must pay the N200,000 as community development levy. This is despite the ban on CDAs and the associated levies by the Oba of Benin and the Governor.

One of the youth told me to go and call the Oba for them and asked if it was the Oba that was looking after the land all this while.

We are trying to settle with them sha. Hopefully before next week runs out.

lobell:
You sef throw small something for data at least.

lobell:
Make she send akant number, even if na 2k? Or fone even if na 'Richard' card?